My boyfriend cant sneak over because of security cameras that are closely monitored, and I can't go over to his house to have sex. Renting a hotel is completely out of the question. How can I manage to have sex without anyone finding out
Break into a park and shag in the bushes
Can you drive?
>>17672365
can you do it outdoors? Or can you just as a friend for a favour?
How do you develop a sense of self-esteem when you are stupid, undriven, vaguely unlikeable and completely incapable of offering anything of value to a romantic partner?
First stop being so hard on yourself
>>17672335
>stupid, undriven, vaguely unlikeable and completely incapable of offering anything of value to a romantic partner
Hard to have a sense of self worth when you feel that way about yourself. You've got to reimagine yourself, and see what is good about yourself, while taking small and achievable steps to improve what are definite deficiencies.
>>17672339
I'm not being hard on myself.
If I was I would have killed myself by now.
online
no sex or nudity
>>17672294
>no sex or nudity
Jesus Christ...
Are you white at least?
>>17672294
Stream on twitch with your cleavage hanging out...
tree are menos that play only for nn live, feets and evento for watching you eat, but for no sex related stuff, try Amazon, is have been the source of money of 4channers since a decade
OK I'm dating two girls, one is my Chinese classmate and one is a Filipino girl who is coming to my city in about a week or two, I'm pretty sure they are both into me.
However, making them both my girlfriend could cause problems if they both find out about each other.
Who should I ask to be my girlfriend, the Flip girl or Chinese girl, or fuck it and have two girlfriends....
inb4 yellow fever
Also the Filipino only likes white guys she told me and she told me she is a virgin.
Cannot answer this as I don't know your taste but Chinks are very good at pleasing their partner, also nicer
>>17672269
>one is my Chinese classmate and one is a Filipino girl
kek
Hi, /adv/. I've been doing a lot of soul searching lately, and I've realized to myself that I really do have dreams and ambitions. One of those dreams is to live in New England. Somewhere like New Hampshire or Maine is what I was thinking.
About me: I'm 25 and have lived in Minnesota my whole life, and I only have one year of college education under my belt. My job experience is mostly labor type positions, with my latest job as a DSP (Direct Support Professional). I don't know anyone outside of my own state and Wisconsin, so I wouldn't exactly have any support or a couch to sleep on until my feet are on the ground.
Well, what do I do to make this possible sooner than later? I don't feel like I'm meant to live in the Midwest my whole life, and I want a change, and to experience more from life. Any ideas and advice is appreciated.
Thank you.
>>17672251
Hey I'm in MN and I'm 25 too. I've been all over the US, though. Is there anything in particular you want to know about?
>>17672251
Shameful self-bump.
>>17672309
I really want to experience something different, not necessarily a new life, but something new in a new place. I'm drawn to New England for the rich history of the place, and it just flat out looks like a good place to live.
I'm just worried that I'd have no actual way to support myself out there, and I'd just be poor, miserable, and lonely.
I have so much to do, not like it is anything that NEEDS to get done, but if I want to advance in my life I have many things I want to study and learn. I find myself constantly with a shit load of tabs open but I continue procrastinating and just browsing 4chan/Youtube and not getting into the stuff I wanted. How can I solve this?
>>17672231
Train to become a 7th degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do.
>>17672231
Become a writer: https://www.literotica.com/
Self control
I have a question I ask myself for a while:
Traduire
La routine que l'on vit tous les jours.
The routine that we live every day.
get up, work, eat, shower ...
It really is that life? or can be otherwise?
I feel that this is not my life.
I understand nothing.
Sorry my engish is not very well but i'm french and i'm used google translation.
But i didn't use in this comment.
Is it better ?... I rhink....
This is philosophical reflection !!!!
>>17672265
Look this story up: "The Myth of Sisyphus". Have fun!
Should you watch porn if you don't have a girlfriend?
It's what I do because I don't have a girlfriend.
I'm still obese and came to the conclusion years ago that I'd stop even trying with women until I took care of that problem, and because of that-- I fap a few times a week. So until I'm fit enough to date non-slob women, I'm fappin'.
>tfw lost 170 lbs
>will need to quit fapping soon and get gf
>>17672262
Way to go man.
You don't need to quit fapping when you have a gf, though. It's actually pretty nice to fap in a relationship when you're getting laid regularly, totally different experience. Feels good man.
>>17672221
YOU FOOL! Don't emerge into those lewd pictures, that will restict your ability to pefect the high art of masturbation.
Let's say there are two options,
1. Treat a girl like you are serious about her from the start, permitting her to become infatuated.
2. Carefully pace a girl saying that we both should keep an open mind because deep love comes from effort not infatuation. Treat her decently but encourage her to enjoy her emotions without them running away.
I have found that number 1 works quite well, except that I became bored after a maximum of6 months because I wasn't really in love.
I haven't tried 2, do you think it will work? I wonder if women can actually accept a man who takes time to get 100â„… onboard. It seems to me their insecurity would be flaring up if I tell them my feelings are not 100â„… but will build gradually. However, maybe there are emotionally mature women who can accept this? Just a hypothesis at this point but I'll test it out. I think 2 is better because it means we can form a bond that is realistic, accepting each other as human beings and not living a fantasy.
>>17672175
Talking too much always ruins stuff. It's fine for relationships to fail, but if you are overtly scientific about it, it will only hurt your chances in the long run.
>>17672189
Yeah, these sorts of conversations can put people in an analytical frame of mind which sort of defeats the romance. Especially it seems to be bad for women. But communication, paradoxically is the critical thing about relationships. How much can really be achieved by communication though?
>>17672196
Communication is not aseptic. What you say not only gives information, it also, as you said, affects the state of mind and emotions of your listener.
Now ask yourself: What's so important about saying you might get bored? What does it add to your relationship?
Most people assume there is a possibility that the relationship won't work anyways.
Sexually I'm a bit bored of my boyfriend. I love him. Don't get me wrong but there's a lot of things I wanna try in bed with him, that I don't know how to bring up to him. He seems pretty vanilla. The weirdest thing we've done is anal. And that was just once. How do I know if he feels the same way I do about this stuff? Do I just upfront ask him, or do guys not like that?
This is not a hard problem to solve. Just communicate to him.
>>17672112
I just fear scaring him when I bring up the things I wanna do.
>>17672105
>Do I just upfront ask him
do this. most people have wierd fetishes but they dont bring it up because they are afraid of their partner freaking out. Look up the most searched for porn for example.
So I recently got hired at Target for a seasonal position thanks to my friend. Target is about 2 miles away from me. Just yesterday I got an email that Ralph's (grocery store/kroger) would like to interview me. Its not seasonal and its about 2 blocks away from my home. My parents wants me to work there as its not a seasonal job. Now my question is what should I say to Target and my friend? Target pratically loved me during the interviews (had 2) and I like the community there. And I just thanked my friend multiple times for telling me about the job/telling the managers about me.
>Question: What should I tell Target and my friend if I did get the job at Ralph's?
Just be honest. Say you got another job offer for a long term position, and that you like where you currently work and that if they offered you long term employment it would be a win win. Say you don't want to leave, but financially it makes sense to go wherever the job is most steady.
>>17672099
Great advice! Thanks anon
you could tell Ralph's during the interview you already got a job, but that something could change your mind, >:) like sucky benis
I currently live in a pretty poor household with just me and my mum, (I'm 19 and in education), Im expected to get a job because my mum was too much of a stupid fuck to make anything of her life and my dad walked out on her.
Due to lack of inmcome I have been unable to learn how to drive and have recently just got a job at a petrol staion, I lost my last job due to my family fucking about with travel arrangements, yet if I dont have a job im treated like a waste of space.
I do try /adv/, but what the hell can I do?
I'm about to lose my current job again because my mothers job is fucking shit and I have no way to get to training.
How do I get out of this fucking rut?
Doesn't UK have good public transport? Get a bus pass so you don't have to rely on others to drive you around.
>>17672094
The petrol station is on a motorway, its really good pay so i tried my haredest to get it under the assumption that my mother would supply travel until i learnt how to drive.
You should be a lot more grateful for your situation.
You should be less hard on your Mother as you're being rather unsympathetic to her life/being.
>I'm about to lose my current job again because my mothers job is fucking shit and I have no way to get to training.
You're about to lose your job, because your mother's job is shit, and you have no way to get training?
Stop blaming your Mother for everything, work as much as you can and study as hard as you can to make life better for both of you. If you don't have a way to get training then work it out yourself.
I don't know why you don't show any hatred/ill-feeling towards your Dad. Your Mother isn't the best human being but I don't think it's fair to lay it all on her.
You get out of this rut by keep trying and trying, no easy answer buddy.
Hey, guys. 5 years GF cheated on me. Here's the thing, we're of different countries, met while she was here on Erasmus, fell in love and kept the relationship going even after she left for her country and we were separated for months at a time, during these 5 years, but always being together for the whole Summers, either in her country or mine, going to weddings, funeral, hanging out with eachother's, families, etc. Always monogamous, always in love and planning the future and talking about marriage, kids, the whole works. So, a few months ago she made the decision to come to my country, live, work and learn my language so we could finaly get the future going. She got a job, we got to see a lot more of eachother, going so far as to spend weeks together every other week, and on the reg. seeing eachother at least 4 times a month,when before we would months apart. My parents love her, my mom is always commenting on her sweetness, she does amazingly by me and that I should really not hurt her because she is sensitive. (ok, this establishes her as, as far as I'm concerned, different than other girls). So 3 days ago she told me she cheated me over 1 month ago, while on a job travel. She told me it happened like so:
pt1
>>17672073
The trip was to unite groups from different branches of the organization, so they had a lot of forest walks, over 4 days and, on the last one, they had a party where they drank and she said she was going to pee and the only place were in the rooms, so she went and the guy in her group said he was also going (she told she understood it as peeing). Now this is the funny part after peeing he didnt leave, but lay on her bed and so the ended up talking and kissing for a while, after which she says he took her clothes off, stuck his dick inside her 3 times and came on her stomach and left. next day, she took her flight and I picked her up at the airport.
2 days ago I sent her mother a text basically saying "You know I love your daughter and was going to marry her, but you remember that trip? She cheated on me. Thank you for everything". Her mum didn't reply.
tl;dr Basically, gf of 5 years who said I was her biggest love and was the best person I'd ever met was gonna cheated on me with a literal random.
>>17672073
Ok she told you it happened why? She want out to be single in your country but doesn't have the support system in place yet outside your family, she want you to decide, she sorry, she want this guy? What? But before you answer she has betrayed you so all those wonderful things you said that make her so very different and marriage material are no longer true in your relationship. That woman and relationship does not exist anymore. What you have is a woman that will fuck someone else while in a monogamous 5 year relationship.
>>17672073
Okay so what do you need advice about? It sounds like you have it figured out already, did you just want to vent?
Nothing works. I can't sleep more than three hours a night, if at all, and it's going on two months now. OTC sleep aids don't work. Prescription sleep aids don't work. Meditation doesn't work. Binaural beats mixed with meditation doesn't work. Drinking doesn't work. Xanax doesn't work. Xanax mixed with sleep aids doesn't work. Holistic/herbal remedies don't do anything. Cutting out all caffeine for days only succeeded in adding manic depression. I don't have the money required for therapy, if that's an actual solution. I don't know what to do. Any advice?
It's so hard to think. Has anyone killed themselves due to insomnia? Is that a thing? I tried looking it up to see if it's a thing and, shockingly, it doesn't seem that popular. That doesn't make sense.
>>17672063
I notice that neither intense exercise nor ASMR are on that list. Exercise, in particular, might be worth a try.
Oh, and you could try varying the timing of your meals. I had trouble sleeping, then started eating dinner much earlier, and it helped considerably.
And then there's cutting down on internet use, especially before bed. Glowing rectangles do not make it easy to sleep, especially if they're the only light source in the room.
(I don't think any of these will be a magic bullet, but they're better than giving up.)
>>17672063
What helped me was a combination of ambien, exercise, healthier diet and just better sleeping hygiene habits: going to sleep always at the same time, waking up always at the same time, no naps, eating 2-3 hours before sleep, eating light for dinner, no computer or cellphone in bed, reading, etc.
Consider that when I started taking ambien I would go to bed at 10 PM, fall asleep at 11 PM and wake up at 3 AM regularly.
>>17672081
>I notice that neither intense exercise nor ASMR are on that list. Exercise, in particular, might be worth a try.
I haven't tried ASMR. I guess that's worth a shot. And yeah I've tried exercise, though I'm not sure what you consider intense. It's mostly cardio. Usually the problem is that when I actually fall asleep, I don't stay asleep longer than a couple hours- no matter how little accumulative sleep I've had.
>And then there's cutting down on internet use, especially before bed. Glowing rectangles do not make it easy to sleep, especially if they're the only light source in the room.
I've read quite a few articles that tend to include this. I use the computer a lot throughout the day, so I'm sure it's not really helping the issue, but I'm not sure how long I need to stay off it leading up to going to bed. I've also moved my computer out of my bedroom a while ago, along with pretty much everything else except my bed, in an attempt to remove any "vibe" other than "sleep" from the room.
>>17672086
Did Ambien ever make you hallucinate? I'm asking because that keeps happening to me when I've tried it.
>Sit with group of girls because I was invited by my friend to (I'm the only guy)
>They're just about finished when I arrive so they leave
>Girl is there that always talks to me and looks at me, didn't even see her
>They all leave so I'm basically the only one left
>That girl I described looks at me with a smile and says "fuck you" and leaves
What the hell does this even mean? She acts like this all the time but she always talks to me, looks at me when she laughs (in a large group) and looks at me. She doesn't really invite me to hangout though, but I think she's really busy all the time because nursing major.
>>17672058
Did she say "Fuck You" or did you assume she meant "Fuck You"?
>>17672166
No she literally said "fuck you", she kind of does that stuff a lot, obviously she doesn't have a mean intent. She also play hits me a lot and it doesn't really make sense to me.
>>17672058
get her number, call her, set up a date and ask her what she meant.
But chances are by that time you will think of asking her what she meant you will be making out.
She wants you bruh stop making excuses and go for her. be the man