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Talk to other girls. Don't put your eggs all in this one basket. If she liked you, she'd have taken the invitation. It doesn't matter where you guys go, as long as you two enjoy each others presence

>>17672925
This. I've wasted a lot of time pursuing one girl at a time, when in all likely hood they will reject you. Ask lots of girls out. Anytime a girl who is reasonably cute smiles at you ask her out, until you finally have a gf.

not sure / have to think about it / an answer that isnt yes = no.

Move along, and maybe just maybe, one of the girls who said theyd think about it will come around and take you up on your offer but dont count on it.

Go for walks, visit the library and read some books, take up drawing or writing. Writing especially just jot down your thoughts and stuff reflect on your days sober so far. Find free stuff to do where you live and do those things.

JUST CHILL ..LISTEN TO SOME RAP AND SMOKE CRACK

OR JUST SUCK IT UP AND DONT B SO B

If it makes you feel any better about your own shortcomings, cut her off and improve both of your lives. Having no child has got to be better than having a child like you.

>>17672886

Muh spilt milk!

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>inb4 what about your dad where is he in all of this
He ran off when I was like 6 or something and my mom went full retard and allowed him to come back when I was like 11 and he has been a dead beat NEET ever since

He never taught me shit about shit, never taught me how to be masculine or how to get girls or anything, all he has ever done is make tiny little token amounts of money via selling random shit he fixes up like parts and stuff


Ironically I actually have a pretty alright relationship with him in modern times, it could even be called pleasant, we get along alright and we share the same views on a lot of stuff, plus he never bitches about anything I say or do and I think he probably has a lot of regret over what happened in the past


My mom is just sort of a cunt though honestly

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shameless self bump

is this a reasonable response to 'i love you?'

>saying I love you after banging once
>"le sex"

underage

>>17672890
actually not. actually relatively well experienced.

>>17672839
what do you want to do?

Hang out, do stuff together. Watch movies, play games, go to events, share music, talk, help each other out with stuff, etc.

Basically, be friends.

You're asking the wrong question. It doesn't matter what other people do.
The correct questions are: what do YOU like to do? What does your GF like to do? Is there any overlap? Could you do these things together?

>>17672833
bumping. also dubs

I think you are trans, were always trans and now you are using these concepts to justify and ease this revelation to yourself.

>>17672833
>>17672837

>Bumping after one minute.

How about you give someone a chance to even try deciphering your rambling nonsense before you start squealing for replies?

Unpaid work at home is the worst. I'm a teacher, and I fucking hate doing work at home. I will stay at work until 8 pm grading papers if it means I don't have to bring it back with me.

Having a work/life balance is a totally reasonable expectation, but for someone reason it seems that people who want it get labeled lazy millenials. Fuck that noise.

That being said, though, I don't know what the job market is like in your field and your area. If the choice is between unpaid overtime and no job, well, that isn't much of a choice at all, is it.

Is it possible that as you settle into your job, you'll be able to do it more quickly, thus reducing the overtime? Cause the job sounds ok otherwise.

Whatever happens, good luck anon.

First, you should see if you get paid OT for going over 40 hours per week. You should also talk with your boss, HR, and co-workers about trying to streamline work, or make sure the workload isn't such that you have to take it home with you.

Doing *some* work at home is OK. But not huge amounts. Not unless perks,pay or something makes up for it. If possible negotiate for something to make you keep the position.

And as for storing gear in your car? If I were your company, I'd try to avoid having employees transport stuff in their vehicles. Seems like a loss and liability issue waiting to happen.

You're not a baby, you don't have to tell your parents.

But also you can't quit your job if you don't already have another job to go to tomorrow. So keep working this job untill you find another job. And quit your job when you can go to your other job tomorrow .

>>17672687
>I'm really confused. I just turned 20 and I still haven't managed to get laid.

I'm not confused. You are an asshole. Also, you lie.

>I know sex isn't a right, but I can't help but feel like with the amount of energy I put in I should have some result.

You "know" you are not owed sex, yet you are surprised because you "did everything right" and you still didn't "get any"

Grow up asshole.

>>17672694

Thanks for the advice you pathetic faggot. What do you hope to gain by making an ass of yourself when all I wanted was some advice? WTF?

Also, "I lie"? wtf am I lying about?

I went to one party my first year at uni and just lost my virginity at 19 about a week after my second year started. I just texted a girl I fancied on my floor over the summer "Why haven't we fucked yet?" and she replied "We'll see when we get back :P" then I went over her apartment, made out and ate out but couldn't get it up. I came back after two days of not masturbating and sealed the deal. We've fucked about 40 times now and we're basically together and exclusive now. She said she had a crush on me last year and couldn't tell I lied about not being a virgin so it's going all right.

>>17672584

make friends.

and / or

invest in enjoying life without friends.

you should be doing both regularly anyways

Wanna be my friend?
Age?
London?

>>17672588
I live in the US, but sure, I'll be your internet buddy.

My skype account name is holypickle, and here's my steam account link
http://steamcommunity.com/id/holypicklez/

>Why do other people get to be happy
There's one problem. Everyone should be able to be happy, here's a bump

>>17672543
Sounds like you need therapy

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>>17672543

>the other part of me knows I'll never enjoy anything

false, you dont want to enjoy anything.

you know those girls from tumblr who insist that they are the most opressed individuals in the entire world? and you sit there wondering 'how can someone be so dumb as to think that for no fucking reason?'.

well you are the male version of that. you are the depressed 4channer who thinks that your pain is intrinsic. you are a tragic hero in your own story who has to deal wiht the burden of life.

you can't let yourself be happy because depression, you don't know who you are anymore. you have nothing to define you. you have nothing that makes you special. without it you're just another normie. but when you are depressed you can pretend like you are more depressed than any one else. like you're the one guy in the world the universe chose to take a dump on.

this probably stems from a positive experience believe it or not. as a kid, something bad happened. you were sad, you were bullied, something bad happened.

then someone comforted you. likely a girl, or your mother. someone treated you like you were special simply for experiencing a hardship. and now you chase that high. you feel it even when its not there now, validation for being sad.

once you break down that wall of wanting to be sad, and realize that you can be someone special beyond the sadness, thats when you can start to find happiness. its scary, because its new. but you'll actually get to be happy so its very worth it.

start by going out and doing something you want to do, something you'd enjoy. if your answer to this is 'I DONT LIKE ANYTHING' then you still have some growing to do, and some ego to elt go of.

>>17672503

That's not up to you. The other person will develop romantic and/or sexual feelings towards you.

>>17672513
Then what can I do?

>>17672523

Nothing, really. You can't predict what people will like about you.

Don't be a jerk and good luck, I guess.

I don't see why the other person was so upset, the response came off as somewhat sassy and I can kinda understand being like "what's that attitude for?", but they're acting like you said "not doing anything with you"

Sounds you always have to walk on eggshells when talking to this person.

>>17672467
I think she thinks I'm a loser now. I can't tell to what degree she's joking because she hit me where I'm self-conscious and it's clouding my judgement.

Does your friends group not know what's going on? Maybe tell them before that guy tries to turn them against you, if you're going through with it.

>>17672429
So far it's under wraps but I accidentally told them that the person offering the money was cheating on her with a heroin addict so I fucked up pretty hard. Right now I'm more concerned with what would actually happen to him through legal action and if it's worth telling. He's in a decent film school and he could get expelled which while it makes a good threat is way more intense than I want it to be

>>17672438
Jesus man. Not sure what advice I can give, here's a bump

Go to the hospital right fucking now

>>17672383
>indoor raccoon
So your friend keeps it as a pet?

If it's inside all the time (so, not in a position to contract rabies from another animal), has had rabies shots at some point, and hasn't been acting strange lately, you're probably safe. Rabies doesn't just happen spontaneously, an animal needs to get it from something. If you're really worried, get the shots, because it's not something that you should take chances with, but your chances of not having it are pretty good since a pet bit you.

>>17672393
Even then, animal saliva is pretty nasty and he should get a tetanus shot.

>>17672377
How are you trying to kill yourself? If it's pills they could be causing dehydration which then causes a hangover

Yes crying and in general being in a bad mental state will leave you drained and feeling shitty+hangover the next day. I hope you can seek help this is not good for you

>>17672377
pms?