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Drop out

>>17667800
Yay, I'm too much fo a fucking fuck up to get a proper education and achieve the dream I've had since I was 12

Go see a counselor, it'll help.

>>17667779
You're in the right, do apologize though for the disturbance

>>17667779

would do the same if I were you. This guy ruined it not you.

The other guy ruined it, you're in the clear

Dump that bitch of a gf before she cheats on you
Don't join the military
Start lifting weights
Become an x-ray tech sooner

>>17667777
I would go back to 2010-2011 in my hs times and say to myself:
"Tell to Ana Vitória that you love her, and live more intensively, pursuing good grades aren't everything, you don't have to always obey your parents, stay with her, don't move out of the city/state and leave her, you are just leaving yourself".

But I would say that in portuguse, because my english wasn't that good in those days.

>>17667806
You are probably me in an alternate universe.

It's natural to feel aggressive and angry after being cheated on. That being said, don't act on these feelings because it will only make a bad situation worse. You can go and fuck the guy up who fucked your significant other but that won't solve anything. Just know that he's a piece of shit and the girl you loved is a piece of shit too.

Cut them out of your life completely, no contact, no nothing, it's time to move on and heal and the only way to do that is to separate yourself from her completely.

Look for counselors in your area that are well versed with infidelity and the fallout that happens from it. You need someone neutral to talk to who won't judge you for your feelings when you're in an elevated emotional state. I know it seems weak to talk to a counselor but trust me, it will help.

Good luck anon.

>>17667769
Follow these steps and have no regrets:
1. No contact with said hoe, block her on everything, see her in public? say "hi" and ignore her

2. Pursue other girls and never look back.

3. If was a serious relationship, go out with your close friends, let them know what happened and the mood your in, if they're decent friends they'll know how to cheer you up, or just get black out drunk with you.

Thats it. The best revenge is living well.

"Anger is brief insanity" - Dont act on it.

Kill her.

>>17667768
>>>/3/

>>17667768
Blender for mofelling Unity for coding

Sculptris is a free, simple version of Zbrush. It's a good way to get started with stuff if you really have no idea what you're doing. If you enjoy that, then start learning the coding required for programs like Zbrush proper and Blender.

>>17667752
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=source+of+the+killer+clown

Was reported that pedophiles attempted to lure children into forest areas, as news stories claimed these children as witnesses.

Copycats are a known phenomena. This case is no different, though people are doing it for the shock factor rather than lure children.

No doubt our species current fascination with inbibing teerror en mass, coupled with the ease, harmlessness, and anoninmity of clown costumes is fostering this event.

>>17667752
it's been viral marketing for horror movies. It's inceased because the new IT horror movie by stephen king is coming out in 2017(there have been other clown based horror movies).

All the other incidents that aren't related to those things have to do with youtube scare videos and other random people just wanting to be edgy or are crazy so they put on a clown suit and scare people.

>>17667725

by realizing there is nothign to be scared of. maybe in highschool you had some bad experiences but a rejection is simply a mismatch. its you saying 'hey, am i your type?' and if they say no its no big deal. they arent judging you as a man, and they arent going on to the secret hot girl facebook page and saying 'OMG ANON ASKED ME OUT, AS PUNISHMENT, WE MUST ALL REJECT HIM FOR SOME REASON XD'

you ask someone out and they say no, your life is literally the same as it was an hour ago. there is a moment of awkwardness. thats it. its like getting a shot but less painful.

so just make your life naturally more enjoyable so that if you get rejected, worst case scenario you just keep on keeping on.

much of life is really the same way. we make big deals out of what is really nothing. we keep living, we keep eating, we have a roof over our heads. nothing else REALLY matters, its all just personal fears becuase we build things up.

you're lucky enough to live in a world where if you follow the basic motions, you can provide for yourself. you can even build up the rest of your life to be to your comfy liking. so whats it matter if you have to talk to a stranger or figure out how socializing work? it doesn't. do it to see what happens, learn and realize that whatever went wrong wont be remembered by anyone but you tomorrow.

good luck

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>>17667728
Damn, thanks for taking the time to write all this. It's true that I make a big deal out of everything when at the end of the day, no one eveb cares. I've reconnected with an old highschool acquaintance from facebook. We've chatted a bit and I think I'm gonna ask if she wants to meet. She's my only option for now so I was too scared to screw things up. Doesn't matter if it ends up failing, we were never close to begin with.

>>17667736

thats the spirit. just copy paste this shit and whenever you're in doubt just read it. then do something you actually want to do.

>>17667657

sounds to me like you don't have any choice so does it really matter?

i think the big issue here though is that you assume its an all or nothign sort of deal. people who all join as freshman do not have nearly the same experience. some who go in later experience just as much if not more. some don't. it really boils down to you and what you do.

if you're worried about being stuck in your room with no friends, then it probably would have happened even if you went in as a freshman.

yes everyone else is more established with each other but htat doesn't mean they ice you out.

>>17667657

but you're basically asking if its not possible to get laid if you come in as a junior? think about how stupid the question is. that all girls will just ignore you because they iddn't meet you two years ago.

>>17667684
I didn't mean just getting laid
I meant establishing a social life and having a new group of freinds and the whole thing getting laid was just part of that

>>17667655
maybe what ever you talked about gave him a cue on whats going on in your life

>>17667664
I usually lie about my life to people, so that I don't have to deal with the "oh, so you don't have a job etc." stuff. I don't think it's that.

>>17667678

he can probably tell through your weak facade. he is a good person for at least caring.

>>17667601
BTW I'm also socially awkward and have no car (but theres good public transportation). Take that into consideration

>>17667601
The park, a sporting event, concert

>>17667615

>im also socially awkward, take that int o consideration

no. stop letting your own opinion of yourself stop you from changing your opinion of yourself. if you restrict your lifestyle because you are 'socially awkward' you will always be 'socially awkward'.

>>17667570
First of all, to be a firefighter in my province is one of the biggest scam there ever is. We have minimum 3 years of formation (more than anyone in North America or even the world), there is no guarantee you'll ever find work (for big cities, there's like 8000 candidates for 50 places) and it's not recognized anywhere in the world. I knew all of it before I applied but I was desperate and I had to find purpose in life.

Second, I thought the job would make me fit into a mold. I had no friends, not that in shape, horrible with women, bad life habits and incredibly lazy. I thought that the firefighting school would have changed me. It barely has. The only thing I got more now is a few "friends" that we are more or less in touch. Once a loser, always a loser. If you have no redeeming qualities, nobody will ever look at you.

One of the main reasons that also motivated me into firefighting is that I like to make people smile by my actions. So I vonlunteered so much that I got an award at the end of the year among 300 other students for the most community involved student.

>>17667600
But it got me thinking: what did I really gain after all these countless hours of volunteering? Absolutely nothing. I did enjoy helping a few times but I have discovered that I am a selfish piece of shit and I don't really care about people. I was a loner all my life, I can't just change who I am. All this time I gave for the community I could have gone to the gym, help my parents, make money, go out with my little brother or some friends.

The part-time firefighting is not as cool as I thought. The pay is miserable (not even enough to pay the rent) and I have discovered just how much I love to sleep. I can't stand being woken up by some false alarm at 2am and I have to wake up at 6 for school. All the guys are chads, got their life on track while I pale in comparison.

Another reason that motivated me is that they all seamed to easily pull women. Like every firefighter student I knew were swarmed with pussy. I thought that by having this cool job it would make me more interesting but in fact, it's quite the contrary

>>17667621
I thought it would motivate me into getting in better shape. Although I am one of the most endurant, I am below average strenght wise and keep in mind if I want to enter a big city, I gotta go against thousands of stronger guys.

My study habits are still shit even after I wasted 5 years of my life at school doing nothing at all. You would think it would be a life lesson but I haven't learned anything at all.

I feel like I could go to the university and learn something more useful and more $$$ instead of wasting 2 more years of my life. But it's hard to make this choice because now peer pressure is immense (from friends, family, firefighter captains that helped from the beginning).

I am just so confused. I thought I figured out life by the age of 22 but I was so wrong.

Help me out

>>17667559
>Should I just give up and become gay?

Kek, there is a HUGE chunk of 4chan doing just that. They take it in turns to dress up as women.

>>17667559
>Is it a learned skill?
This.

OP I'm not the most outgoing guy out there. In fact I'm more of a shut-in, and on top of that I'm too shy to hit on girls. If I do I get attached and I fuck everything up.

I'm currently having therapy, and my psychologist has told me how most of my shyness and all of my fears have been mostly learned thanks to my parents. Conservative dad, unsociable mom, issues at school, among others. She told me I'd recover in 5 months and see results in 2, so maybe you should seek for therapy as well.

>>17667559
>the same guys were outgoing and capable of making tons of girl friends

Just act like these people. About 80% of advice posts could be solved if they just acted like these people. Girls don't want to go out with you if you talk about your wookie costume or your lego collection, but they do want to go out with you if you lift weights and have a decent job. This isn't remotely unfair, it's just the way people work.

Does it matter? 99.9% percent of the population can't get into either.

>>17667512
Both.

You can make some pretty retarded mistakes in your life and you won't get to experience any repercussions. Academia is a joke anyways.

>>17667512
It depends what you want to study.

>>17667481
Why do you feel envious?

Idk, I never feel envy when I see a chick with a better rack than mine. I just think "I wish my boobs were like that" and move on.

>>17667481
>>17667481
>How do I deal with boob envy?

You don't. Life is a shitty RPG where your character is made for you and you get randomised stats.

Decent people will buckle up, accept that and try to make use of the shitty or good character they got.

Others go in complete denial mode and scream "NO, MY CHARACTER SHOULD'VE BEEN THE OTHER GENDER - NOT FAIR" complain because there aren't enough animal-based races to play as.

Basically; Stop giving a shit, we all got screwed because this shit is pay to play yet we don't even get a choice.

Whoever you talk to, just say you don't want this going to that girl. Keep it online via facebook never text.

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Make sure your phone has a password (obviously), change notifications so it doesn't display what a text says, and when you use your phone, face her so she can't see your phone. What a fucking weird bitch

Learn to encipher your messages, tell the person receiving them the code to decipher them in person or both of you learn to decipher without being given a code. To someone who doesnt know the code it will likely look like complete nonsense and i doubt they are that dedicated to gossip to learn how to break your code. If you want a good source on how to do so, let me know.