Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 3647. page

>>17667416
>1. Give her my number, accompanied by the words "text me" in Spanish, but I don't want her to think I speak Spanish
>2. Ask for her number (possibly in Spanish, I work with a bunch of Latinos so they could help me learn that phrase)

I think approaching her in Spanish is going to make her think you do regardless, so this plan is not exactly foolproof.

Good luck, but not many people hook up while they're on the clock.

Bump for help

>gorgeous
>doesn't speak spanish
>only know her from job

3 things that are against you. Face it bub, she is out of your league. The fact that you think memorizing a spanish phrase just to ask her out is your way of making this work is ridiculous.

>>17667391
just put in your two weeks like an adult.

Have another job lined up and wait to resign after your paycheck...then quit.

>>17667391
Write a resignation letter (google how to do this), then hand it to your supervisor at an appropriate time.

I haven't spoken much to him since then, and i called it all off because I really don't know who to listen to here. A couple of his close friends at work have told me that they didn't know he had a girlfriend at all (one of them had told me that this "girlfriend" had been crazy for him, and has been sabotoging anything with any girl he meets. So much that it's driving him to quit that job all together to get away from her.)
Other things that she had told me was that he tells her that I'm crazy, and I'm always trying with him.
Despite all that she's told me, Vaquero still tells me that she isn't his girlfriend. He tells me that she isn't what she seems.

This happened a week ago, but i'm still disappointed with how it all ended. I already got upset with him, but I ended up telling him that we should just keep things professional at work, even though I'm still disappointed, and just strictly be friends.

I still miss talking to him and I was excited to start going out with him though, and I did enjoy what we had, but I don't know who to believe, or what I should do.

>>17667375

You move on. This is the heavens giving you a sign to not date coworkers. I know I know you don't want to hear that but in all honesty nothing good comes of it.

Keep things professional with the guy and find another man in the mean time.

>>17667382

It gets difficult sometimes because we both have said we're going to move on from the issue, but still, he offers to make me something from the kitchen every shift I see him (he's a pantry chef at work, I'm a server) and still asks if I'm okay.
I don't really like him to make me anything, because I don't want anything from him.

Stop being a pussy and ask out your asian friend. You are 29 pushing on 30, you aren't some young fag learning the ropes of dating and seuxality, you should have been experienced by now.

Sack up and make a move your fag.

>>17667370
I gotcha, I'm a pussy, but I also understand the line between the friend zone, and an actual relationship built on love and tolerance.

In my mind I'm certain when she goes around, acting like cat(because she does it in front of everyone, she's nimble) just for fun and not as an advance or anything like. There is a good chance that she thinks of me as just a friend. I don't want to tarnish my friendship with her because of a botched head rush into the relationship zone. In addition, this botched relationship attempt could damage the way others see me. I looked opinions online, and the girls I have listened to in the Asian community despise asian fetish, because it objectifies their culture. Plus love should know no race, but my penis hardens at the thought of Asian women. And yet, I don't even want to penetrate, because I'm terrified of possible consequences. I am the kind of guy who has to be goaded at least 10 times into having sex. Funny enough.

I look at my kinks, it as possible infatuation. Infatuation is not real love of the person, but rather the idea of the person. It's like how really nationalistic people compare with actual patriots who look at their country through an objective lens.

Personality should trump any physical attraction, and I should be in that mindset.

So I need additional help, with either purging or reconciling in a healthy non-destructive manner.

File: MRsdkndsnvk.jpg (42KB, 620x372px) Image search: [Google]

42KB, 620x372px

>>17667400

So your dick want to bang chubby asian women but you are too much of a coward to go for it when the chance occurs?

Dude looks stop jacking off so much, get some fresh air from your temple of doom and make a fucking move. You are interested in her and would like to date her I assume? Then do it. Don't think of it as a fetish but as a man who is interested in a woman. Thats it dude. The relationship won't botch because she will either date you or friendzone you. You have nothing to lose OR you can continue being fag, twiddling your thumb waiting for a girl to fall in your lap.

Time isn't on your side anymore, get serious.

File: Hajime+no+Ippo+Takamura+can+have+my+_6d6598c039e003fd89394baffbefd9db.png (270KB, 774x578px) Image search: [Google]

270KB, 774x578px

You aren't straight you fag. Straight your back, creek your neck straight and then take the pic.

>>17667344
you can't "improve" poor development.

File: 1352018889385.jpg (71KB, 300x297px) Image search: [Google]

71KB, 300x297px

Why the ever loving fuck.....would you...quit without getting your paycheck first?

>>17667328
I did not. I gave my 2 weeks notice, and I was fired on the spot

>>17667332

You give your two week notice after you get paid you dipshit not before.

You talk to her and be fully honest. Ask her if you are satisfying her in bed and ask what she likes to get her going. Be brutally honest with her as well and tell her she isn't doing that much in bed.

Then after the discussion, tell her that you will be willing to do BDSM because you love her but only you. Be upfront and bold dude, don't be unsure of yourself.

>>17667316
if op's gf were a normal female that'd be a great idea

but she's a sub

tie her up one day without asking and fuck her like youre trying to hurt her. then as shes getting close, grab her face and say 'look bitch, youre not fucking anyone but me' or something like that. assert your dominance.

>>17667322
>>17667316

We had a talk. I do satisfy her and I'm sure because she cums like mad and then nearly passes out when she does.

I made it really clear I didn't want to do anything with this group and she got really upset and said she didn't want to choose between me or going to it. Which I couldn't really believe

She's never actually done bondage which is why it's so fucking confusing because she doesn't even know if she likes it. It seems like she's more interested in meeting and doing things with a girl.

This may not make you feel better but recently I kind of changed my life entirely and it involved leaving my previous friends behind. I didn't warn them or anything like that because, well honestly if you say it out loud friends are going to fight it, understandably. So I just did it, no warning, as you put it. The best thing to do, I'd say, is it find new friends, focus on your own life, and build it as if they aren't around. When someone does that to you they do not care for you the way you might think, and they may not be willing to say it. Live life your life, and try to be happy, if they come back they come back. But don't depend on it.

>>17667366
but why not delete them? and also, the friend is question made plans to do stuff together. so im confused

File: IMG_2106.gif (649KB, 960x576px) Image search: [Google]

649KB, 960x576px

Damn, I was (and I guess still am) in your position recently. My two best friends did the same. What they did to you and to me is called "ghosting". Idk why you or I got ghosted. What I do know is that it fucking hurts

I REALLY want to...but im in a long term relationship so oh well~~

Grass is always greener

>>17667148
The sex itself isn't the best part.

Its the intimacy you share with someone spec... ah who am I kidding.

SEX IS BEST. Kill for it if you have too.

>>17667148
pursued it. def. worth. but the more pressure you put on yourself the more stressed out you become. don't overthink it. sex is sex. it is not a material object.

>>17667114
*slutty

>>17667114
>Is it worth worrying about STDs if you wear a condom every time you have one night stands?

Uhh... What the hell are they teaching you kids in school nowadays...

Condoms are not 100% effective.
They are 98% effective with PERFECT use.
This does NOT round up.

You can STILL get STD's
You can STILL get pregnant.

In fact there is 1 out of 50 chance those can happen, each and every time you have sex.

And that number is even HIGHER if you're not using it perfectly--which some studies point to figures as high as 40%+ people don't. In fact so many people misuse condoms that the real world average efficacy is closer to 15%

That means instead of 1 out of 50, for most people that statistic is closer to 1 out of 7.

But you know what's 100% effective?
Not sticking your dick in places you're not prepared to be responsible of the consequences for.

>>17667114
condoms are only effective at preventing things that are transmitted via fluids. this mean you can still get the herp, hpv, etc. and they are not 100% effective in any circumstance

bump?

wear more clothes to keep warm.

does the rest of where you live have heat? If so I'd imagine the sun heat is negligible and it's better to keep the heat from your house inside. why don't you get a space heater?

>>17667065
>no ty is too rude
I actually prefer this. Do it nicely and where other people can't hear if possible, but at least the guy knows where he stands.

When the girl makes up some excuse like "I'd love to but I have to do this thing with my family." It helps the guy's feelings right then, but it also means he'll probably keep asking you and eventually you'll have to reject him anyway.

>>17667086
I told him sorry no thank you, and hes like" dont get me wrong though. So when will you have free time? "

Be honest. You don't like him like that but think he's cool as fuck and still wanna be pals

>>17667055
no

>>17667055
>Fear of submarines really surfacing now
Just came here to give you my keks. 8/10

Sorry can't offer any advice tho.

Talk to your Career counsolor

Been togeather 6 years, never have any problems or big fights

>>17666987
why did he break up? Is this a pattern with the two of you? You break up with him and he breaks up with you then you get back together for a day or week and do it all over again?

This is completely unlike us. Only other time we had broken up was for 2 months during high school. Stupid fight. We have always been very close and open. Then all of a sudden he said he wasn't attracted to me anymore and he had to think if he wanted to stay with me. Then I went crazy 3 days ago and still haven't talked. The only difference in behavior was more time at a friends house than usual.

>>17666975
I don't think you'd have much to lose

>>17667023
My wisdom?

>>17666975
No dw