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Deleting social media after break up 2016-10-17 01:17:25 Post No.17676917
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Deleting social media after break up
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GF of 2 years broke up with me yesterday.
I do not want constant reminders of her on Facebook or any social media site but I know I will succumb to the urge if I keep these active.
Should i delete my social media accounts? Anyone have any experience of this?
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Why not delete HER from your social media. Deleting your stuff suggests she her breaking up with you had that big an effect on your life and sends the wrong message. Just delete her or you will conflate the lack of interaction with others with her not being in your life and it will make ot harder to move on.
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I have.
First consider the chances that she might come crawling back to you (btw, is this something you want, or are you willing to let go of her completely? This is important)
The reason I ask, is because it might become an embarrassment for the both of you if you did delete her, and then a few weeks later, all your friends might see that "anon became friends with anonette. Again". There are probably ways to hide this, but anyway, it's easier to just hide her content from your news feed, and muster the power to stay away from typing her name into the search bar - it gets easier with time, as with all aspects of the post-breakup hell you might expect in the following weeks. Sorry senpai
If you were 'in a relationship' on fb, HIDE your relationship status, so you won't have to have the fucking 'ended their relationship' banner lighting up everyone's screen. In fact, from now on, and til the day you die, you shouldn't bother showing your relationship status on fb.
Do you have a lot of actual friends in common? When I went through months of pining for my ex, I did delete her, but I wasn't strong enough to avoid asking friends we had in common about her, fishing for news. It turned messy - I got more than 100 friends in common with her.
You seem like you might not have gone through all the stages yet. What exactly do you mean by 'succumb to the urge'? To do what?
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>>17676956
Succumb to stalking her profile every day.
I think deleting social media is the best.
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Am I wasting my time /ADV/? >Liked this girl for about 3 years
>Senior Year, so now or never
>Ask her to homecoming
>She actually said yes
>Never been this happy in my entire life
>Next day
>Eating lunch, reveling with my friends that I actually asked a girl out and she said yes
>Her friend approaches our table
>"Hey Anon, can I talk to you for a sec?"
>She tells me that the girl doesn't want to go with me and she wants to go with her "best friend"
>fuckingkillme.png
>Entire week before homecoming I'm depressed
>End up going with a girl who has no interest in me
>Really cool though. Says I can go slow dance with girl I asked originally (as I planned to)
>Slow dance song comes on... See her dancing with another guy
>SEETHINGRAGE.GIF
>I tell my "date" about it.
>She calms me down and slow dances with me out of pity
>After homecoming, angry but I still like her.
>And she's still single
It's been about 3 weeks, and I still want to try and ask her out. But be straight with me, is there no reason to keep trying? Thanks.
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Don't waste your time. I wouldn't
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>But be straight with me, is there no reason to keep trying?
I'm going to be straight with you. High school doesn't matter. None of it matters. Everything that happens in high school means absolutely nothing. You will forget about everything and everyone literally a year after you graduate.
By the time you turn 24 every time you think about high school you'll shudder at just how terrible it was.
Ask her out. Don't ask her out. Doesn't matter.
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Don't you have to be 18 to post here? Fuck off anyway, I'd an hero if I was as pathetic as you
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Advice on ending oneself 2016-10-17 01:09:40 Post No.17676905
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Hello, /adv/, I am new here and as the subject of my thread as well as picture shows, I am considering sudoku for myself, nevertheless I, well, could take some, well, advice. What's more painless? Painful yet quick? I could also talk about the reasons that brought me to this desire and feeling, but I guess that's... Moot. Heh.
Thanks beforehand.
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Just do it you pussy.
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>>17676905
Just go with whatever plan you have an idea of, or would you rather continue to live?
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>>17676905
donate ur brain
Got a earring and piercing needle from amazon. I was wanting to change and went for it i guess. I wasn't feeling confident at the moment too. Now i do and not really keen as that time to do this but gonna do it.
So i wanna put two hoop rings at one side of my ear. I want them to be at left side but really from other people's view. Should i pierce my left ear or right?
My left earlobe is kind of thicker and there's a little lump so i thought it may not be a good idea to poke many holes there
Also do i take advil before piercing?
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why aren't you getting a professional to do this
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4chan is 18+
if youre an actual adult, go have someone hygenic do it for you
otherwise advil will only help for soreness after the fact not the piercing initially. LOTS OF ICE on your ear just before so it goes numb and dont forget to sanitize the needle with a flame or alcohol.
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>>17676874
Thought i can do this desu
>>17676877
Yeah my friends were laughing at me for doing this alone
Is lighter flame enough?
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How do I get over a friend ghosting me? 2016-10-17 00:47:22 Post No.17676868
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How do I get over a friend ghosting me?
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/adv/, how do I move on from a good friend ghosting me?
So some backstory: I had known this friend for over a year. We lived far away from each other so we were never able to hang out regularly, but we would text nearly everyday and visit each other occasionally.
My friend came to visit me one weekend in July, and we traveled to a nearby town together. She was happy when she first saw me, but I noticed that as the weekend went on she became more and more cold. She seemed better when we parted ways, but when I tried to text afterwards she never responded. I texted her asking what was wrong, but she still didn't respond. When I finally told her she might as well just block me if she won't respond to my texts, that's what she did. I haven't heard from her since.
This has left me very depressed for numerous reasons:
1. I have literally no clue what I did wrong (or if it even has to do with me). I honestly can't think of a single thing I did or said that weekend which might have angered her. If I knew what I did wrong then maybe I could at least learn a lesson, but the not knowing is driving me insane cause all I can do is speculate.
2. For someone I considered a good friend to suddenly abandon me has only worsened my trust issues.
3. I feel incredibly angry over how she could hurt me like this and not even give me a reason why. It makes me want to physically hurt her and I don't like having these thoughts.
So does anyone who has experienced something similar give me some advice?
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sorry bud thats a pretty rough way of ghosting someone. really all you can do is move on
get it in your head that you're never going to speak to her again unless she comes back to you, which could very well happen, just be patient but with no expectations
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>>17676894
How exactly does one "move on" though? I honestly don't know how to stop thinking about this.
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>>17676898
you just keep going, meet new people and focus on whatever you do. you know that saying the best revenge is living well
you'll get over it after enough time has passed. you might not actually forget about it but you wont think about it as much or as often
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I'm looking for a bit of advice 4chan. Over the last 24 hours my girlfriend and I have had a massive fight. An end of relationship fight.
Prior to this we've had a rough couple of weeks. Things haven't been going well for us outside of the relationship and inside it. Work has been stressful and family and suchlike.
Just before this fight she had a friend from abroad visiting and ignored me throughout. I got to meet the friend for a few hours one afternoon and it felt like they we're both against me. I upset her friend by not respecting that she's not "binary".
She then wouldn't make any effort to talk to me and I didn't receive any messages for days. She then went with her friend to a party in another country and didn't invite me until it was too late. She then didn't send me any messages at all for days when she was there
I confronted her about this while she was at a party and told her how I felt like I had been discarded. I phoned her and talked about it and she hung up on me twice when I begged her not to.She has then been raging at me how I've made her choose between me and her friends. That I'm a jerk. That I've been a jerk to everyone and that I'm an asshole. She's also refused to talk or even try to sort things out
Tonight she ranted at me in hundreds of messages and told me that I couldn't reply or she was going to leave me Or that she's going to cut all communication. She also said that I have to make changes and improve enough before January or she's going to leave and that If I make a single mistake at a convention we're going to in March she's going to leave me then as well
She's coming round tonight and has threatened that If I don't listen she's going to leave immediately. I don't feel like I have an opportunity to make things right
What do I do? I love her and I don't want to lose her. How do I go about fixing things I have fucked up and I have been a jerk and she's incredibly angry at me about it
How do i approach her and get her to talk?
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Back off for about a week, then apologize for being a jerk. Cut all communication for a day or two. Give her what she wants. After that, just text her simple "hi, I'm thinking about you" messages.
Above all else, listen, and I mean FUCKING LISTEN to what she's saying because she obviously feels like there's a fatal flaw somewhere.
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There are women out there who won't give you that kind of bullshit - if I were in your shoes, I'd stop trying to placate the gal you're with and set your sights on finding a woman who doesn't do shit like that.
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Should I let her come round tonight or should I just tell her to go home instead? Should I communicate that I need time to myself or just stop talking?
I got drunk with a friend, and fingered her while we were both drunk, and the next morning was absolutely pissed at me. I feel awful. What do I do /adv/?
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>>17676820
Fuck her right in the pussy
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Did you force your fingers into her?
If not then stop being a pussy and letting her put the blame solely on you, typical female regret response is to shift blame onto anyone or anything else you were both drunk and you both let it happen.
If you did then lol you done fucked up, be nice to her and hope she doesnt file a sexual assault charge on you bruh
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Well its not like you raped her or anything. Did she enjoy it while it was happening?
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Hi guys, I have a girl problem and I need some help in approaching this.
Basically I was in friendzone for about 6 months when things finally went wrong. She did love me and always gave me fake hope that there might be something some day, you know the story. We talked about it a lot. Like every now and then, and she'd always tell me that I'm the most amazing person she'd ever meet, that I made her calmer, that I knew her like noone has ever known her, but that she just doesn't feel 'that' way towards me and that she has no idea what she'll feel in a month or a year. She also said that it repulses her that she knows that I like her in a romantic way.
But anyways things went wrong (won't go into detail, but she was pretty mad for stupid reasons) so she decided to cut contact with me. I was like you're wrong, we work pretty good together, etc, but to no avail, so I started no contact phase, started enjoying myself and enjoying life, even got down with another girl for a night.
And now, after some time has passed, I have a strong feeling she'll want to get back in contact. So the dillemma is how to respond. I have 2 options:
>say yeah fine we can be friends and act as if she doesn't interest me romantically
>or say that I currently have no feelings towards her and that I don't want to develop them if I know I'll end up in a friendzone again, basically telling her all or nothing
So what should I do? What would be smarter? End goal obviously being making her my gf
Squatting slav cat not related
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self bump so it doesn't die til morning
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Out of the two, go for the first one. Better yet, don't talk about defining the relationship, and don't talk about feelings. If you know how to enjoy yourself, continue doing that. Be fun, pleasant, all that jazz, and when you've established proper, daily contact, THEN you start building attraction with her. Don't tell her your planning to, or planning not to, or whatever. Don't ever mention friendzoning, just do what you need to do in order to avoid it.
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What if she brings it up? It is very likely she will cause we talked completely honestly about our feelings all the time.
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How do I strike up conversation with people?
Not just like, "how 2 approach and speakles to a woman?", although that's definitely a part of it.
I mean just in general. I have literally no friends unless I already knew them from another friend. I don't feel uncomfortable with approaching new people or anything, it's just I never do because I have nothing to say.
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You just go up to someone and ask them a question.
People like to talk about themselves, just ask a question and you'll open them up.
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not this anon but i want to add that if people dont open up to you they are buttfrustrated assholes. You may feel like it's you that can't hold a conversation but it's very often them, a lot of people are just jerks who don't want to hold a conversation and they can get fucked. Remember that you are the better person for at least being open to a conversation.
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>>17676763
Person this post is replying to: Yes, I absolutely wholeheartedly agree.
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Girlfriend has left me like 10 times now lol 2016-10-16 23:47:41 Post No.17676740
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Girlfriend has left me like 10 times now lol
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Okay so bit of backstory;
>I'm her first serious relationship (as in, her past relationships only lasted like 2 weeks, we been together for 5 months)
>I'm actually her first kiss, and first everything else
>Got along really well always hugging holding hands all that jazz
>she maybe bi-polar, some daddy issues? (doesn't see her dad)
So anyway, I swear it's like the 10th time now. But I find that once in a while, she would just get in this mood. Act like everything falling apart. Talk to me in a way as if to create an argument and break up with me. But we'd always get back together a few days later because it was just silly. (She's 16, I'm 19 so maybe her hormones etc I dunno).
So anyway the last time it did happen, I just felt so exhausted by it all. I spoke to her face to face, and completely opened up to her. I told her how important she is to me, she's the only girl in the world, but whenever she wants to be alone, or have time, it's okay just don't end it with me. We were both crying a little.
Fast forward a month, she does it again. Her sister told me she's on her period and boom, all of a sudden I don't give her 'enough space' and she completely shoots down my attempts to try fix things and says shes moving on.
Why does she keep doing this? Is it a defense thing and she wants to know if I'm for real? She's so scared to trust herself fully with me (she said something like that recently). Is it just silly hormones on top of she can't handle her period because honestly the way she's been talking recently, doesn't sound like her at all.
I basically just told her once again, how important she is to me, and how I've stuck with her through the good and bad, how most other guys would be the ones to 'moving on' by now, told her of she doesn't wanna try anymore then I guess we're over, but I still love her so don't leave me waiting too long.
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>>17676740
Everything after the 2nd time is your fault. All of this is your fault. I didn't even read your post because I know with 100% certainty that everything going on in your life right now is entirely your fault.
If you want to stop breaking up, stop getting back together you fucking idiot.
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>>17676740
>She's 16, I'm 19
Found your problem.
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>>17676752
i agree. shes not mature
My boyfriend is a racist Jew.
Specifically against black people the most. We live in Chicago and have been dating for almost a year.
I'm very liberal and he's conservative. He's a non-religious secular jew who was born and raised mostly in Israel but he does not match the liberal jew stereotype other than that.
Everyday all I hear is " nigger this nigger that" "that Chick is a mudshark", it's very annoying and offensive and I find it so ironic and stupid since he is from a persecuted group himself. I've never met a new this racist before..
Is there anything I can do to convince him of his stupidity or at least to get him to stop saying nigger so much?
Pic related,it's him.
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I can't wait for /pol/ to see this
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he is from an apartheid state, what the fuck did you expect
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>>17676695
Well In that case I would understand/expect a hatred for Muslims but not black people..
He doesn't like them either, but it's on a whole different level with blacks, he even dated a Muslim chick.
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Why do we keep coming here?
It's very evident this is a hostile and violent social space, but somehow I can't stop coming here. I've done many things with my life but I'm always constantly bashed by waves of loneliness and sadness, and no matter how much I crave help, I can't help feeling miserable constantly. I'm a walking dead, I'm shut inside myself. I've a job, I've friends, I go to college, I date girls, I have sex, I eat, I sleep, I do everything a normal person does to keep functioning, but I'm always unsatisfied and desperately sad, and thus, I keep coming here. Why do you keep returning? Why is it that we crave for the violence and hate that stirs in these boards? Is it because of the anonymity? Is it because it feels more real than the usual facade we play outside? Is it because we've been coming here for such a long time it's become habit? Or is it that deep down we are all sad, angry little men looking to vent?
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>Why do we keep coming here?
>It's very evident this is a hostile and violent social space
Because that is exactly what you need.... Or this is exactly what you must let go of.... Either way, you need something... You are not a walking dead, you are so full of character and flaws you come to 4chan just like I come to 4chan as Universe Pie to sort you out. We all need all kinds of sorting out.... Always... faggot
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I find it oddly cosy.
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In real life you need to be polite and caring.
Here you don't need to be, it's refreshing.
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I'm 23, just graduated, have a great high paying job, nice apartment in a nice town. I'm a smart guy, decent looking (I hope) though not "manly" so to speak.
My LDR girlfriend of 4 years left me and I'm feeling suicidal and constantly depressed. I feel like my future has been ripped from me, because she was my future. She was my entire life because I had no other friends and have always been a loner/loser. I wasn't "anon" I was "her boyfriend" in my mind and now I am nothing. I have no identity anymore, just misery
I feel pathetic, how do I turn my life around, how do I find a qt3.14 girlfriend who actually appreciates and loves me the same way I love her? I don't know what to do.
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>>17676614
Forever alone :(
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>>17676614
Just saw a great quote that describes me well fml:
http://thoughtcatalog.com/johanna-mort/2015/10/read-this-if-you-feel-like-youre-going-to-be-single-forever/
>You feel as if Life has moved on without you and as more and more time passes you have less and less of an idea of where you’re even supposed to start.
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>>17676614
What do I do
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Hi /adv/
how can I stop viewing women as inferior? I dont even want that, and I also have some good female friends, but I just cannot really have double standards.
I mean I know women are supposed to be more emotional and all that, but I instinctively hold them to the same standards as i do with my guy friends, which means when they show their feminine traits I look down upon them.
Also I cant fucking stand them playing dumb to look cute, I know some men like that, but it just makes me want to slap them.
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They are inferior. You'd be lying to yourself if you thought otherwise.
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Do you even sex women?
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>>17676806
Come on
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My sex drive is becoming unbearable. 2016-10-16 22:48:30 Post No.17676597
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My sex drive is becoming unbearable.
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I'm 18 and a Virgin. I intend to stay a Virgin until I've met a the right girl.
But its hard. I am horny 3-4x a day and need to masturbate otherwise my head is fogged up and I can not focus.
Porn doesn't really get me off. I'm craving to lose my virginity. I feel like I HAVE to.
But I don't want to just yet.
How can I control my sex drive? Its so frustrating.
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It would help if you jerked it only a few times a week. Too much masturbation just makes you hornier. That and go find a way to expend your energy.
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>>17676599
How can I go about masturbating less often?
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>>17676605
Self control?