Girls like me too much to date me?
I always hear time and time again from girls that they want a guy that is like they're best friend. Because of this whenever I meet someone I went to ask out I befriend them first but then inevitably am considered a non option because I'm too nice or too good of a friend. I try approaching people solely romantically and have the opposite problem.
Which one do they actually want?
This is them lying because they aren't attracted to you. The only solution is to improve yourself and become attractive. Has a surprising amount to do with personality. I'm willing to bet you don't dominate the conversation.
>>17964578
No actually I'm almost always being told that I'm a great conversationalist and funny which makes the end even more confusing. Probably hard to believe someone on 4chan is charismatic but it's a compliment I get often.
>>17964585
Nah man me too. Okay let's do a checklist:
>good clothes
>good body
>good hygeine
>good looking face
>okay money
>good social standing (not everyone hates you)
Give me a comment for each.
I have these bumps on my sack and shaft under my skin and they feel like little beads
Squeeze them out
>>17964547
If they're not hurting you just leave them there.
>>17964547
cocks and balls come in all sorts of shapes. See a doctor to make sure it's nothing serious.
I want to get off of my anti depressants. 300Mg of venlafaxine. I work full time. I want to die all the time no energy etc. Been on these things for many years. Sort of want to reset and baseline.
Advice?
>>17964520
Cool pic.
Talk to your psychiatrist, or get a new one. Becoming non-compliant with important medication is usually a bad idea. It's obviously not working for you though, so you need to change it. People change anon, and so do your medication needs.
>>17964535
Is stopping with Drs in the loop still non compliance
Antidepressants are a mixed bag. Try to eat wholesome food and exercise... But do talk to your shrink.
My personal experience with ssris was trading depression for constant, extreme anxiety. And welbutrin felt like what I imagine being strung out on crack would be like.
I would highly highly recommend reading up on some general neuroscience and doing your own research. I've figured out a lifestyle that mitigates my depression. But you may need still need an antidepressant.
I had a thing with this guy and months later hes suddenly made me a second priority
How do i stop feeling like i want his attention? Im sick of being clingy
You stop wanting his attention by distracting yourself with other things. What's more important than that is making sure you don't act clingy.
>>17964587
People pick up on vibes. Trying to not act clingy won't accomplish much.
Try to do some fucking self reflection. Why are you clingy?
>>17964587
Also have to say I'm literally triggered by how retarded this comment is. Suppressing feelings makes them stronger.
I have not cut in about a year now. Right now I am feeling so much guilt and grief that I feel the need to punish myself, to stab or draw blood.
What are some alternatives to self harm that will not leave scars or damage more nerves?
>>17964497
Break things other than yourself. Try to break useless and cheap items. Catharsis is preferable to self harm. Go chop wood, hit a punching bag, beat something with a baseball bat.
Exercise you bitch
Lifting weights helps you so much
It hurts you right while making you less likely to hurt you
Unless you're some emo faggot who likes looking like an emo faggot
>>17964497
Raise your self-esteem or seek a psychiatrist
I used to really hate myself and inflict self-harm, especially when I lose to video games since I am a sore loser and had a really bad temper. I get depressed easily from every criticisms until I drifted away from video games and got a new hobby. You should go out more OP, I think you just need to expose yourself more to the society.
Is it normal to not know what you're feeling most of the time?
Whenever somebody asks "how are you?" Never in my life have I been able to know what to say. I've been to several types of counselling over a twenty year period, because this has caused problems before, and I still can't figure what I'm feeling at any given time.
It's been like this since I was a kid; as far as I can accurately recall. When it comes to identifying emotions in me, I always draw a blank, and I'm left with absolutely no idea of what it is. Whatever emotions I do feel, I honestly cannot tell them apart. And the only times I can identify emotions is in other people.
And here is the part that, no matter how simply, direct, and clear I try to explain it, everyone always has the same trouble comprehending it. That when I say I don't know what I'm feeling, if anything, that I pretty much never know most of the time -- I mean it as exactly that. I mean it in the purest, unadulterated sense. I really, truly, do not know I'm feeling, and almost never can. But that just invites arguments.
Just say "Good" if someone asks how you are. That's almost always what they're expecting anyway.
When someone asks "how are you?" they don't actually give a shit, it's just a greeting
>>17964436
>Just say "Good" if someone asks how you are.
I could never bring myself to lie like that. Or give them an answer that's not exactly the fact of the matter. Puts me in a lot of physical pain for some reason.
>That's almost always what they're expecting anyway.
That seems insincere on both party's parts.
My German Sheppard has a bigger dick than me. It's beginning to ruin my self confidence.
My wife even jokes about it and says that my German Sheppard is the man of the house.
I'm afraid to even go in the same room as my dog out of fear of being made fun of by my wife, or seeing my dogs dick and getting upset about my size.
What do I do? I don't want to put him down, but I don't know what else to do to save my relationship.
fix him
>>17964416
Are you for real?
It's not the size that matters, it's how you use it.
Just ask my chihuahua.
Should I tell a guy that I like him, even though I can say with near full confidence that he doesn't share the same feelings?
>>17964404
Go for it. I did it once, it was hurt but also satisfied. I no longer live with "what if" anymore
>>17964404
>You tell him
He has an opportunity to confirm your suspicions that he doesn't like you. Or, you could luck out and he responds positively, and you get a chance to date.
>You don't tell him
You have a 0% chance of ever going on a date with him.
So idk OP, it's your call.
>>17964404
Do you want to live your whole life with him never knowing?
Is he a friend?
I need help!!! I am a regular weed smoker but something strange occurs, I have noted that this happens more with indica strains. When i smoke i have a strange habit, i bit my lip a lot, it is abnormal because i will bruise and tear the outer and inner layers of my lip. I feel pleasure while doing this, kinda like a tick, ive swollen my bottom lips badly and have scars because i dip so deep with my teeth, im currently stoned while typing this post and am chewing away i cant stop but it hurts so good, my lips looks red and purple and i taste blood on my tongue, i know its bad because people stare at scabs and torn/swollen lips. Is this normal? anyone else? here is the closest thing i could find, my lips after a long night of smoking and lip bittiing/muttilation
Stop weed
WEED NEVER HERT NO BODY
IT WUZ A GOOD DRUG
>>17964392
Wash your hands and mouth before and after smoking. Your skin is probably being irritated by smoke, heat, resin, and dryness. Wear lip balm.
What do I do?
A couple months ago, I began investing in gold. Eventually I buried it in the woods. About a month later I came back to an empty hole in the ground. I went to a couple nearby houses and asked around until eventually I ran into some Midget named Gerald who claims to have found it.
I asked for it back nicely and he refused, saying that it was his. He then threatened to call the police if I didn't leave his property and threatened to shoot me if I came back.
What do I do? I spent too much money on this to have it taken away by a goddamn half man.
Threaten to steal his Lucky Charms.
>>17964354
I'm fucking dying
>>17964354
>>17964377
This isn't funny. I've spent thousands of dollars on this and have saved up for years.
I need advice on what to do about a troublesome neighbor.
I've recently moved in, and a lady who lived a block down let's her poodle shit in my yard. Just yesterday I stepped on it and smeared it all over my brand new fucking bison rug.
She also never puts it on a leash. Just the other day, my German Sheppard attacked it in self defense after her dog ran up and attacked him.
I told her to put a leash on him and she then accused me of being racist.
I then contacted the homeowners association, when she then accused me of calling HER DOG a nigger. The homeowners association of course did nothing.
THEN, she proceeded to report my untrimmed bushes to the homeowners association (I literally just moved in and haven't had time to trim them). This resulted in a fine.
What do I do? I'm considering throwing my own shit at her window or poisoning her dog.
Why shouldn't I do this and what can I do instead?
>>17964306
>Just yesterday I stepped on it and smeared it all over my brand new fucking bison rug
That's really your own fault.
And it sounds like the homeowner's association really isn't on your side either.
>>17964306
Burn a cross in her yard and throw burning shit at her windows.
>>17964306
>She also never puts it on a leash.
Call animal control the next time you see her out walking her dog without a leash. Try to get her fined for that.
Use video surveillance to record her letting her dog shit in your yard. Record yourself confronting her and telling her not to let her dog on your property anymore. Keep recording any future instances of her letting her dog shit in your yard and any other confrontations you ever have with her. This really isn't the kind of shit that you should burden the police or court system with but if all else fails then that's the route you'll have to take I'm afraid.
Why have women stopped caring about the institution of marriage?
>>17964288
What makes you say that?
Women love getting married, that's why they divorce so much.
>>17964299
Promotion of promiscuity, music videos of girls shaking their asses exposed to them at a young age, depiction of failing marriages and how it's "impossible" to be monogamous on (((mainstream media.
What the fuck do I major in?
I hate math, I'm absolutely awful at it. I failed the lowest level math class last quarter, algebra and functions. I want my career to have absolutely nothing to do with math, but I don't have any idea what I want to do. I enjoy history, philosophy/debate, film, graphic design, cars, games, architecture, and geography. Does anyone have any suggestions based on these interests? My mom says I should become a lawyer but I don't like the idea of being in school for 8 years.
I just feel so directionless and I'm afraid if I don't find what I want to do with my life I'll end up dropping out. I want to end up making good money but what matters most is that I enjoy my job. What do I do?
>>17964285
> I want to end up making good money but what matters most is that I enjoy my job.
You sound like you need a dose of reality, so here it goes.
You're young and you're probably looking at the world like it is your oyster - it is, but with your current mentality you will never be able to make it your bitch. You have to keep in mind that we often have to do things that we don't want to do, and the main reason we do these things is to survive.
What I'll do is meet you half way: You want a job that doesn't use math, but makes good money, in that case the major you are seeking is accounting. A simple google search will explain why accounting is known as a 'foolproof major' for those who are indecisive about their future.
Bear in mind that if you do well in school, you can always enter a graduates program and earn your masters in a completely unrelated field - that is if it takes you 4 years of accounting to figure out what you really want to do with your life.
PS some final insight, those people who "enjoy their job" are the ones who were fortunate enough to discover early in their lives what their "true callings" were. They mastered their craft from a young age and are now doing what they love. Since I assume you are not one of these people, buckle down and study, it'll pay off.
You say you like geography, what about that? It can lead to a pretty lucrative career if you go into GIS or something more like geology
If you're really not sure what sort of career you want to end up in, then something like history, perhaps with a double major in philosophy would be something to consider too? People here will say that humanities make shit degrees, but in the end, your degree is what you make it. A history degree can be very flexible and versatile, and you'd learn skills that are easily transferable between different jobs. If you do well and have a well-rounded time at college with things like research on the side or participating in clubs and sports (which you should be doing no matter what you study), there's no reason you wouldn't be unemployable
>>17964307
I was under the impression accounting involves alot of math?
I'm 21 and I got married, graduated from an Ivy League school and got hired for the job I thought I would love as an actuarial consultant with a decent salary.
What the hell do I do now?
>17964271
How long have you been working there?
All jobs are lousy, maybe you should just keep working until you get a little more comfortable and hopefully you start to like it for what it is as opposed to what you thought it would be.
>>17964287
he's not serious.
also, women don't write like that. prove me wrong.
>>17964271
Buy a house, have 2 or 3 kids, save for retirement and your kids college, buy a new car every 3-5 years, maybe upgrade to a bigger house at some point, keep working, watch your kids graduate from college, support them through their late 20's as they struggle to find decent jobs in their chosen fields, have 1 move back in with you in their early 30's after their marriage fails, keep working, retirement age is 74 now, you're not there yet.......
why do asian girls not talk to white girls but try so hard to be them? theyre not a minority or anything so i dont understand why they dont hang out with or talk to white girls. and they know white people eat asian food too but dont invite them. how would people react if we said white people are a family and we dont invite others or talk with them.
Asiansa are superior to white girls though
Asian's are racist. The only time they merge is when they date a white person and even then, they expect things from them that they would never expect from their own race.
I've dated a lot of asian girls and they are all pretty shallow and money greedy. Even the ones who appear ok are really not. It pretty much eliminated by yellow fever and now I can't date them even though I attract a lot of asians.
The only Asian girls I've known who don't associate with other girls are international students