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How do you stand up for yourself when a stranger calls you a faggot in public?

I was walking out of a crowd and someone got in between me and this couple. I waited for the guy to get out of the way and awkwardly almost bumped into the girl. Her boyfriend said, "Look at this faggot," and they both just laughed. He looked like he was 6'4+ and I'm 5'6. I just walked away without showing any emotion (kind of stoicly), but I feel like I should have said something. I just don't know what to do in that situation and I feel like I'd just bitch out because it's so awkward to deal with. There was a crowd of people around (not that anyone really gave a shit), so I didn't feel like confronting him. I think a real man should be able to confront someone verbally though, so I want to know how I can do that in the future.

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Is it understandable to be angry at my girlfriend for signing up to volunteer at a shelter with her friends on a day that we've put aside to hang out. This is a weekly thing that we do. Every Wednesday we spend time together, but she's decided to volunteer instead.

She didn't tell me until I found out myself.

I haven't said anything, and I'm conflicted on whether or not my anger is justified.

What are your opinions?

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Regardless of how stupid this sounds I feel that I am placed with a legitimate impasse. Although I am blessed with loving parents, nobody really sat me down to give me the whats what about being a "man". My mother was always unavailable do to work and my dad is too much of a comedian to be of use regarding positive lessons. I find myself NEVER getting along with other men. I hate action movies, I feel no impulse to go to strip clubs and throw money at women with issues. I hate gawking at women and nudging my friends about her assets and whatnot. I don't play well with others who consider every waking moment with other men a pissing contest. I literally fit into nowhere on this spectrum. I can't even pretend to fit in...as a matter of fact it infuriates me when men act like this. I consider myself calm and collected in all of the aforementioned instances. How do I play the part?
A little about myself. I am calm and collected in most instances although I do possess quite a fierce personality as well as temperament at times. This being said, I am really a loving individual and enjoy treating people with respect and love (unless they rub me the wrong way). Not to sound white knightish but I really do not like to objectify women and much rather not talk about "omg bro she has such an ass" etc etc. This being said...how can I fit into this? It seems most peers are all like this? Am I in the wrong? I literally can easily see myself just saying fuck it and going lone wolf and having no male friends (except a select few who I am at decent hello/goodbye terms with ) and being completely ok.

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My best friend is a guy. We friends for like 6 years already. We talked and shared everything you name it. We shared about sex life, dating life, we bickering each other, fighting each other but always make up soon enough. He's the one I trusted to the point that I told him everything. I jokingly tell him if we're both single by the time we're 30 then let's get married. He said he doesn't want to be my fucking back up plan but didn't say No though and we both laughed off.
Even when I moved away to another state we still spend time to talk and Skype.
Recently we got into a fight where he texted me to Skype him when I get home after college and I forgot. I went straight to bed and didn't even tell him, he waited me for a couple hours, it was his midnight at that time. I texted him to say sorry the next day he read it but didn't answer my text.
Today he sent me a picture, where a guy confessed his feelings to his female best friend and seeking to be advised. It's not him clearly because it's uploaded on a forum and the story doesn't fit our story.

But what does it means?
Were he trying to tell me anything?

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Just started dating a 20yo girl whose parents track her every move via phone GPS. Didnt really consider the implications until tonight, first on our possible relationship but 2nd on her development into becoming an independent functional adult. She's super shy generally and i think her parents may be at least partially responsible. Idk her well enough yet to encourage her to blow up her relationship with parents but wtf do? What advice should i give her beyond the obvious that she needs to have a serious talk with them about trust, respect, adulthood, natural development of independence and the harm they are doing? Also what advice would you give me in attempting to date a sweet girl who happens to be very shy?

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Sup /adv/.

I just spent a weekend away from my girlfriend with college friends. We basically did nothing, got drunk, watched Thunderbolt Fantasy, went to arcades and weebed out. It was great. But it also reminded me, as much of a useless piece of shit I was single, it was also pretty calm and content for me. While I wasn't always happy single, it reminded me that I've been turning pretty "normie" with her, for what it's worth. I just don't have the time to do all my old anime/vidya/whatever hobbies and I'm starting to feel kind of uncomfortable in general without all that time to do stuff.

What do? I love my gf dearly and MAYBE aside from my old roommate, she's probably my best friend; I really enjoy the stuff I do with her, but I do it so often I'm starting to feel exhausted. She understands I'm introverted as all fuck (she's the opposite) and says it's fine to need time by myself, but I know she's upset if there's time I want to spend by myself since we don't get a ton of time together with our work schedules.

I don't know how other nerds tackle this, it's exhausting sometimes. I don't think I want to leave her, but I've been trying to figure out balances to make and all I seem to have figured out is just how introverted I am...

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I'm a white adult female living in the USA (Minnesota). I have a job as a beautician and when I was younger I didn't really care about people's race, but now when a white person walks in I feel relief because I feel like they will be pleasant to talk to and easy to work on.

When a hispanic woman walks in who doesn't speak english too well it makes me mad and I think they're kind of gross, and when a black person comes in I feel like I'm going to get criticized on every little thing and they might get hostile.

I especially hate when hispanic women come in with their like entire family. There's always like at least one screaming baby and two kids who run all over the damn place.

Anyways I feel like I'm getting more and more racist and I don't like it. I'm pretty liberal and so are all my friends, so whenever I have these reactions I feel like an asshole and something's wrong with me. Is it normal? How can I reverse this?

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I've noticed that a lot of people, for whatever reason, don't seem to be bothered by rude behaviour.

Like, shit talking others. You would think this would turn people off, but nope, it doesn't. Some of the most popular people that I know of regularly shit talk everyone that they dislike, and they still remain popular. Nobody points out that this is inappropriate or tell them to drop it. The people who do seem uncomfortable with it don't say anything but continue hanging out with these guys anyway and keep inviting them to parties, etc.

Is the secret to popularity to be an asshole? All the people that I know of who are polite and mature adults aren't popular at all, yet the guys in their 30s who act like immature teenagers and hurl insults in public are the most popular.

Can anyone help me understand this?

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I went on my first date ever today (I'm 19), I wasn't even really looking forward to it and planned it to be like 45 minutes but she was actually really fucking cool and we hung out for two and a half hours. At the end when we departed she said she'd be up to talk and go out again.

Do I text her saying I enjoyed it and tell her we can do it again when we're both in town again? What do you normally do after one date?

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How can I get off of drugs, stop hating my life and being depressed 90% of the time and just be a normal, happy person /adv/?

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What is this? Please help

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Alright, so I'm not muscular or athletic , but I'm not a fat fuck either. I do have a beer belly. Anyway, I'm a very funny person. Everyone I know tells me this (including women). I'm also educated and I consider myself to be a nerd. No I don't look or dress like a nerd. I often dress business casual if I'm going out but if I'm going to school or just chilling I'm in regular street cloths. In fact most people think I'm very ghetto because I'm from the hood and have "hood attire" when I'm just chilling . However, when people talk to me they no longer think I'm like that. I'm also not a little bitch either (like I said I grew up in the hood so I had to put up with a lot of shit to get some respect). Anyway, I hope this helps you help me. Any advice on what I should do to stop getting rejected?

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I have some work for my college classes due tomorrow. How can I keep myself up and motivated to finish it tonight? Motivation isn't really the problem, it's trying to stay up.

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Now its filled with normalfags who get trigged by basically everything

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My friends mom took my friends phone and saw a video of me smoking a joint. She screenshotted it and told me to enjoy my weed alone. If she tells my school am I fucked?