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>>17964996
Read a book nigger

take some adderall and get to work boyo

starting is the hardest part.

pomodoro

Why would you even choose to live with sand people? I wouldn't even want them as neighbors.

Culture shock, it's who they are. I hope you didn't sign a lease i would be getting the fuck out ASAP nigga there are SHIT SMEARS in your shower. you do understand you have literal curry diharrea spray in an environment that you enter to become clean. Your roommates came from a filthy putrid diseased backwater country where they view shitting in a western shower as a luxury, they will never change get out

OP here
I'm stuck living here. I'm an asylum seeker, as are they. They've literally just gotten off the proverbial boat. I came seeking help from fear of death, they came to cash in. Blerg.

>>17964951

See a doctor. There are meds for that

Have you been more stressed than normal lately?

>>17964957
You don't necessarily need meds for that if OP has a type of paranoia hallucinations.
Certain psychotherapists can actually find your triggers and help you rationalize what your fears are producing. I knew a few cases of people who altered their mind and were perfectly normal after that.

If that is OP's case of course.

You got royally screwed. Not much else to say.

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>>17964942

>i cant believe who i called family let this happen like it did and i have a court date for domestic battery

You're a shitty person and your girlfriend is a shitty person and her family is a bunch of shitty people and you all decided to get all the shitty people together and get blackout drunk.

Shitty people + alcohol = shitty things happening.

Better luck next time.

>>17964971
thanks for the advice.

when in company of a bunch of shitty people dont drink.

You're totally overthinking this. The thing that stood out to me the most was that you were upset she didn't want to talk now. She was busy and had to go, don't be a baby about it. As for if she's not being appreciative enough, I'm wondering if she's actually fine and you're just high-strung, because by the sounds of your post you sound like it. Either talk to her about it or reexamine who's really the problem here.

>You're totally overthinking this.
Yeah, I do understand that it's not a big deal at all, that's why I never say do anything when this happens, just thought she could've phrased it better, like said that she just needed to go. I have abolutely no problem with that. I guess that was a silly example overall.
>The thing that stood out to me the most was that you were upset she didn't want to talk now.
No, I was upsed at how she phrased it. But then again, I do agree that this example is silly and it looks like a very, very minor thing and I probably come off as reading way too much into every word here. It's just that things like this happen all the time. Am I just being clingy, is it alright to say you don't want to talk to someone?
>As for if she's not being appreciative enough, I'm wondering if she's actually fine and you're just high-strung, because by the sounds of your post you sound like it. Either talk to her about it or reexamine who's really the problem here.
I'm definitely getting nervous and easy to tick off lately, even with the smallest of things. I'm trying to examine the core of the problem here, before doing or saying anything to her. Might be I'm just really overthinking things. I feel the pressure to buy her things, because she's very frequently saying that she wants this and that and how her dad won't buy her it, so I most of the times do. Am I in the mindset of a pleaser? How should I go about it? Just stop doing this all of a sudden or go gradually or?

Up.

no ideas?

sorry, wasn't aware /adv/ is a slow board

nb

Dress well, smile a lot, have good posture, gesticulate, don't ever look at the ground, step out of your comfort zone.

depends on the judge. and place.

Usually courts ask them why they couldnt pay and if its a good enough reason you can get an extension. When the cops come knocking, go to court, because if you dont then you are going to jail/

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hey guys. todays my birthday. any LEO or cali fags on here?

>driving in fresno county
>get pulled over in my old home town
>went there to get my car insurance
>it had expired by a month and the cop writes me a fixit ticket for it
>check mail weeks later
>court ordered appearance
>outstanding fine of 1200$ plus dollars
>huh? oh shit its from my DUI over a decade ago
>got my DUI when they separated the court and DMV sides of it that year, thought I had the whole thing paid off, guess not
>have no money or job now, just moved to a new town in the mountains
>court date is next week

am I going to jail? are they just gonna ask me for money? what am I looking at here? 3 or 4 days in county?

>>17964822
depends on what the charge is
if its an adult work offender program this is what happens
> get sentenced to 2 months in jail
> sentence deferred to x amount of hours community service
> dont complete service
> they either charge you money to extend your ability to get more hours
or
> serve the original sentence of x amount of time in jail

so yes most likely

>>17964801
You've been dating for a fucking month.
She was probably hoping you'd tell her what she wanted to know to get back with her, but it backfired.

Move on. Crazy, clingy bitch.

>>17964801

Run, run, run. It's the kind of girl who is going to emotionally blackmail you her whole life to get what she wants. Marriage and shit? After a month? Good god.

Just don't deal with her anymore. She wanted you to "prove" you really like her.

>>17964810
I feel sad about it. What was she hoping I'd tell her?

She was asking me to show her the facebook profiles of my exs. I was afraid of doing this because I was afraid she'd message them.

She also asked me who sucked my dick better her or my ex. I just said "you". I must have said it over 100 times but she was never satisfied and kept repeating the question.

>>17964818
i took her virginity. but she was the one that pressured me to have sex with her.

I cared about her a lot but she was asking for too much from me too fast. I also would pay for all our expenses whenever we went out and I don't think I could have kept that up.

How was she expecting me to prove that I really like her? The first time she pulled this break up card I asked her not to break up with me and we didn't end up breaking up. But she kept doing this again and again everytime things didnt go her way. Even a few days ago she broke up with me but then pretended it never happened the next day.

But this time she told me to never text her again. But what if she texts me tomorrow. Should I just ignore her? I'm a really soft person.

>>17964772
Why would we want more? You're the one who's seeking advice.

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>>17964806
As in more information to go on in order to give advice.

>>17964772
You create your own mindscape. My guess is there's something important missing from your life. I found my thing two years ago, but the bad days didn't end there. They never do, but you can have them less often if you choose to find meaning in your words, actions, and pursuits.

>>17964735
Therapy. Loving support. Just be there.

>>17964735
>>17964759
OP this only sound advice

>>17964735
Hey anon, I had a similar situation with my mom last year. She's been with an abusive husband for a long time now, and one day he beat her and the police came and arrested him. He went to jail and got charged with a felony. He's foreign and would have been deported from the country if my mom hadn't decided to drop everything.

It'll be really hard to break them apart, especially if she is financially dependent on him. Try getting some kind of counselor that deals with domestic violence to help her. If you can, make sure she has little to NO contact with your step dad. He could try to sweet talk her back into the relationship again.

That's the best advice I got, hope things work out for you.

>>17964697
Are you a virgin

>>17964704
No.

>>17964697
He probly doesn't give a fuck about you past getting his nuts off dude. He just told you anything you wanted to get you over to his house

Nothing for 4 years

>>17964646
Couldn't I be her friend or mentor and groom her.

>>17964648
Not with those intentions. No way.

>>17964601
If you don't have the confidence to buzz your hair don't buzz your hair. Hell even a good looking one will make you look skinhead as fuck. Just keep it clean and on your head.

>>17964601
More than 4 months.

-A dude who always buzzes his hair.

>>17964601
I've buzzed my hair for most of the last 15 years at varrying lengths. If you want to grow it, you can keep it tidy and even by buzzing with progressively thicker guides on the clippers, every week. You will look very different from a #0 (right to the skin), which makes me look like a thug; to a #3 (3/8") which I wear to my office job.

The regrowth is super quick but there is a problem: past 1/2", your hair will look like ass for 2+ months while you wait to get it to a combable length.

Hope that helps.

What contraption am I looking at?

>>17964588
Bump
For me its similar, once I get a girl I get tired of them too fast and just dump them and begin all over again

>>17964588
you ever think about fucking guys?

Like Shia. Just do it.

>>17964581
It's not about making her happy. It's about both of you being happy. Don't value her over yourself. Be in equilibrium

>>17964581
>>17964589
I'm in somewhat the same position. She asked me to stop doing harddrugs. She tried to cope with it but just can't since she has traumas about it in the past. I really don't feel like I can give it up just yet. Don't get me wrong, I'm not an addict that is doing it every week or month. like once in the half year I will pop a pill or do some shrooms with friends. But she just can't handle it anymore.

She's been the perfect girl, but at this point I'm really thinking about it to break it off