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Sorry there's no coming back from that.

>>17965318
Did you mean to try and get a 4y/os nudes or did you say it as a joke

>>17965326
I didnt mean nudes I just meant more pictures

>>17965289
Not weird at all. I think that's great anon. /adv/ hates people who wait though so be warned.

>>17965289
>both intend to abstain from anything sexual until marriage

very

>>17965289
not really weird, but stupid because:
relationships at this age don't last anyway
the chance that both, or at least one of you starts to wonder what they'll miss out if they only sleep with one person is really high
and if you (and trust me, you will) break up you'll be a 20something virgin -> no experience which will repel most girls
and, after you break up you'll be one of those virgin guys being insecure about your next girlfriend having slept with whatever number of guys (even if it's just one) like you see in 20 threads here each day.

remind yourself that it's an outside influence. you're better than letting it take over

>>17965292

I think it's the idea of 'redpilling.' That any thought outside of the hive mind is control from elsewhere, that only this line of thinking is the correct, awakened red pill. It feels kind pathetic to even have to spell it out like that, but this is the first time I've had to question myself.

nigga are fucking autistic? how can you let memes influence you like that? take a break from the internet, honestly.

>>17965244
I was trying to talk to her all the time. She didn't want to. It was first time when we were really quarelling, after I asked her to be honest with me about this guy. She shouted out a few things she has never mentioned before. After this, she deleted all of our shared photos and stuff like that. I left for 3 days and went home to give her time to think about it. She said that she's not happy, she has no motivation and don''t want me to have any hopes. Has she ever loved me? You just can't stop loving someone just bcuz of 2 medium quality months. I don't want to give up on her, I really love her. She says she can't say "I love you", but "I don't love you" neither. "I'd say that, but something is blocking me."
Her dad left her when she was 9, she had some problems with overcoming a relationship in a highschool. She's cutting herself regularly. She says it's like smoking. You are trying to quit, but you always come back. I don't know what to do. She says she won't be trying to get into a relationship now anyway, but everything says that it's just about this guy. She's excusing herself by saying "she gave me attention when I needed it and didn't get it from you". I've seen his photo on her phone and she started excusing herself immidiately, "he likes me, its for contact photo". It looks just like a progression of affection from both ways. Still, shes repeating that shes not getting into a relationship after us, its just her colleague that gives her attention.
Should I give up on her? Or give her like a month to be all with herself? It all makes no sense to me. I'm still telling her that I love her, but she just doesn't reply anymore. It's getting to her, my feelings. She just says she can't believe in romantic things I say anymore. She's afraid that it will be better now and it will fuck up after a month anyway.

What should I do?

>>17965244
There was probably a slowly developing romance. That's what your gut feeling is telling you right now.
Get the fuck out asap and ghost her

>>17965286
Why isn' she honest then? I told her that it would be much easier, I would deal with her leaving for another man, not with something I don't understand. She has even agreed with me on this.

>>17965228

Literally just time, you'll get over it. It should also go without saying to remove them from your life/social media so you're not reminded of them constantly, will help time heal you quicker.

>>17965228
Well have you told her how you feel, or are you just making assumptions?

>>17965243
Making assumptions due to how are conversations are lead, she rarely talks to me first, most of the time we talk about menial shit and over messages she will send generic one worded replies.

forgot to mention im 24

If that's all of your plan, it wouldn't.

Obviously you'll have to do all the house chores yourself and mantain a schedule to it or you'll end up looking and smelling like a hobo within a month.

You'll also add another passive outcome - rent. Unless you move to your own place this money will essentially disappear each month - as if thrown out of window.

I've got a group of people I enjoy hanging out with, but I can't get myself to message them because most of the time they're busy. We have different schedules at university and people have other groups they hang out with. On one hand I feel like messaging them whenever I'm free to see if they are should show that I value the friendship unlike what I did first semester which ended with me alone.

On the other I feel like I'm being annoying because of the every other day messages

Don't message them every other day. Don't message them regularly. That is annoying as shit.

If you roughly know their schedule find a break that lines up with yours and ask them to hang out then. If they say no ask when will work. Pretty simple

The problem is, while I spent the first semester being a loser and not really joining any groups they were socialising and making groups of friends. Now I have none and I'm trying to make some but it's quite difficult when everyone else is already in so many groups

Never because men and women are just different. Even if they government tried to force absolute gender parity, that wouldn't eliminate our biology.

>>17965127
absolutely not
no amount of empty platitudes about gender difference is going to change how women feel due to millions of years of evolution

>>17965364
>Millions of years of evolution

This guy....
The world is only 2017 years old.

OP that is literally one of the most vanilla things you could do.

>>17965102
^ What this guy said. It's not as kinky as you think, OP.

>>17965092

It would be weird if you didn't incorporate her breasts outside of just squeezing them with your hands. The nipple are a major erogenous zone for women. I think when it comes to sex as long as it feels good there isn't really a way to weird the other person out. It's when you do strange shit that just doesn't feel good that the person might care, but also only if you do it for extended periods of time, so gauging for a reaction is your best bet to find what works.

It's how you work up to most things during sex, having to ask permission or making prior arrangements just takes a lot of the fun and excitement out of it.

>>17965078
How old are you?

>>17965084
27

>>17965094
thats pretty fucked, but 27 is much too young to feel like "leftovers"

>>17965074

Don't overdo it, reassure her in the moment when she is feeling insecure but drop it otherwise. It's actually good she is feeling this way, it shows she is worried about losing you, putting you in the position of power. It sounds stupid but a mistake I've made in the past with insecure chicks is being programmed to reassure them so much that eventually it means nothing to them and they don't even care anymore.

Do things to her know like she's important to you. Make her feel important by relying on her for emotional support and then let her know that you really need her for that reason. Just bs it, it's for her own good.

Also where do you flirt with girls online?

>>17965074

She will find out about you flirting and then the shit will really hit the fan. Prepare yourself for her to use that to justify her insecurities and probably leave you. She probably already suspects to a point, which may be why her confidence is so low.

Stop flirting with other women on the internet. It's ridiculously disrespectful to your girlfriend. How would you feel if she was doing the same with men?

>>17965063

lots of knee grows & homos in atlanta

lots of spics in LA

>>17965063
If your poor you can live in LA. Look into living in skid row. Part of downtown LA. It's a walking distance to so many nice restaurants.

Los Angeles is big, you will need a car. But until then you can buy a bus pass. Despite what everyone says, the buses are very practical. Buy a map and learn the area. It will help you tremendously to have a general knowledge of the area. Buy the EZ transit pass. It costs $110 and is worth every single penny. There are many bus companies operating in the area, this is the only pass that works for all of them. You will be able to board any bus, any time, and go anywhere with unlimited rides. Including the metro trains. The only exception is the Silver line Express busses. But that is no problem because you will never ride the silver line, you can just take the regular city buses amd get to the same place. Just takes a little longer.

You will want to live in the north west. Open a map and draw a triangle. Start at Venice beach. Draw a line to Santa Monica. Then draw a line to La Brea Street/Sunset Blvd in the east part of West Hollywood. You should live in this triangle with NO EXCEPTION. You may be tempeted by lower rents elsewhere, but this is a very judgemental city. It's all about where you are, who you are, how you look, and yeah what zip code you live in. People will not be friends with you if you live in the ghetto.

When you arrive, you should stay in a cheap hostel or long term hotel. I suggest the Little Tokyo Hotel, which is located Downtown in the Lottle Tokyo district. It costs $300 per week cash and it is amazing. It's run by Japanese people, has a full size kitchen. Great location Downtown, convenient to many buses. There are Japanese groceriy stores across the street that sell cheap, healthy meals which are very yummy for 4 to 6 dollars. If you shop after like9pm you can buy them at a discount and save them for the next day.

Welfare is great in LA. Make your first stop to the social services office. If you don't have a disability, you get three months of welfare. If you do have something (like ADHD or Autism or depression) then you...

Clearly you know the answer right? Prostitution

>>17965053
I want a real yob

Bite the bullet that is reality my friend. We all know how you feel, we had to face the fact that we're not all going to be millionaires once.

kill yourself, I know you know how

>>17965073
god damn it, he beat me to it

>>17965073
I thought about it but i can't
Im the legal guardian of my 7years old brother i can't leave him not after all hes been through

>>17965008

Excuse me sir, but this maiden is accompanied by a gentleman this eve.
Good day
>Take her hand and lead her away like a baws

>>17965008

Trust her to handle it appropriately.

There's nothing you or her can do to control what other guys do. Guys hit on my girlfriend all the time and she politely shuts them down. She is kind of shy so I don't expect her to be disgusted and aggressive about it because its the natural human response to be flattered by someone being interested in you. I shut down girls who hit on me too but I'd be lying if I said it wasn't a bit of an ego boost. Its not any kind of betrayal for liking it when someone calls you attractive.

Let her handle it. If the situation ever becomes dangerous don't hesitate to step in but if you trust her and you love her then just let her be. If you don't trust her, find a new girlfriend.

Don't react unless you have to. Some girls are into super overbearing guys but they're usually a little unstable. The sane girls might kind of like it at first but having a boyfriend breathing down your neck and flying off at the handle every time some guy looks at you gets old quick.

>>17965017

op this

it is her job to deal with other guys paying attention to her, not yours

if you can't handle your qt gf gettings lots of male attention then date a cow

if you get upset when guys try to ask her out then you can't handle it

you just have to trust her, she will be seeing 100s of guys every day, the 1s at work are the worst