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So I met this girl on Facebook and I really like her, she has a really similar music taste to mine, is funny and overall really pretty. We were talking and things were going really well, but all of a sudden she stopped replying and overall not coming online. After 3 days of nothing she wrote and since then she hasnt said anything and I haven't seen her online. Thing is that she followed me on Spotify and I followed back and almost all the time she is using it. I really dont know what to do and I really like her....

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Why does it seem like people have this incredible capacity to be really shitty to one another? When I think of people in general, I imagine a being that's basically evil, but covering it up with a venir for the sake of getting ahead. Is this wrong?

If I'm not wrong, and people are generally evil, then my next question is "why"? Why do people have to be such cunts all the time? It just seems like EVERYONE has something shitty to say about someone else and is judgemental and hateful, and they're often nice to their face and talk nasty shit behind their back.

I really hate this about people. I wish they'd chill out and talk about baseball or something, but nah. Idk what's the deal with that? Is everyone a narcissist or something?

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This is a question for advice as well as a rant.

i'm a 20 something old guy, i have friends from my old town and stuff. I study at a university in a city. I'm in my third year and i feel so damn lonely. I have no group to go out with. just acquaintances that know me and i know them. Conversations will never go beyond how are you doing anon, how was your weekend, what did you get for x subject.

In the vacation i was dating this girl for a month and now that i just got dumped at the start of uni i feel double the loneliness. It seems that most people found friendships during their freshers week but my group sucked and fell apart.

Believe me i tried finding 'friends'
> joined a study association
> was 1 year active
> work in a place with lot's of people from the same study field
> going to try to join a other commision from my study association soon

Yet all these things and i feel like that i have NOT found any new friendships. Just shallow contacts

I guess my main problems are:
No uni people to go out with
Lost excitement in my life by losing a girl.


My question any other people feel/felt the same way? What did you do to solve it

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I will try to make it short. I was bullied pretty badly from my parents, relatives and everyone else. A period of 10 years of complete shit with zero self esteem. I was at the bottom of the bottom. Even in college i felt lost, despised and alone.

Then one day i dropped my research, left school, faked my death on social media and re-enrolled somewhere far away. Started fresh there.

Now, this school should have 16000 students, i only see 40 on a given day. I know 90% of the 40 people I see on campus. I know most of the professors because apparently i have taken classes with them in two years already.

There are not many people I see on campus who i did not have a class with (paid actors?). This is where it gets me. All the students are really nice, calm, understanding and supportive. Instead of shitting on me they give me smiles.

This girl who I thought was really cute but I would never on a given day ask out; her facebook profile states she likes "World of warcraft" and "FFXIV" and she states it proudly. It's like I am living in a dream world.

Where ever I go, people bring up two things. That they are doing research, that I should do research, and that they have a relative dying from cancer (Basically I am being groomed to go back into my research).

Is it possible I am right? or am I so used to abuse that any act of kindness just makes me paranoid? what is going on??

On top of this two ladies moved in right next to my apartment and they started hanging out with my mother, low and behold they made a human out of my witch of a mother. Why are people all of a sudden helping me? I am looking for serious answers, please this is not a joke.

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What exactly is this and how to get rid of it ? (sorry for shitty pic quality)
I am sure that it's not an acne and it has light brown color. It does not itch, it's slightly irritating to touch. I have a few (>15) more on my shoulders.

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Update. She never answered after that ;_;

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Hey /adv/, I really need your help as I'm very desperate by now and this is something greatly negatively influencing my life and mental health.
I have a very bad case of male-hairline-syndrome (pic related). I'm trying my best to hide it in my normal everyday life, but even then it's clearly visible. Do any of you guys ever experience this? How do you go about hiding it? Tips would be greatly appreciated.

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Can you guys give me some meals I can have throughout the day to lose weight with a TDEE of 1800? I'm fairly poor, so I can't really buy fresh vegetables and such.

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My GF keeps wanting to see what my ex looks like.

When we first started dating, I told her that she was an upgrade to make her feel good. While I do believe that overall (ex was insane), my ex was a lot skinnier and had a better body. My gf gets super insecure about her weight, so I'm afraid this will cause trouble.

I've been stalling her for two years, but eventually she is gonna want to see her Facebook or something.

What can I do?

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>new coworker 3 months ago
>she says no personal questions when she first comes in
>be me, a guy, doesn't like small talk and introverted, so very happy that she said this.

fast forward 2-3 months, she's the nosiest fucking bitch ever. I turn in absence form in advance, have 5 pto days so use some sick days whenever I don't feel well. She asks me 10 million questions about my sickness.

>"what do you think you did that made you sick?"
>"what did the doctor say to you?"
>"Do you think it could be a different illness?"

constant stream of personal fucking questions when I come back from a PTO. I'm not even breaking any fucking rules. I'm literally just using my sick days and turning them in advance to my upper management, which are all getting approved. What the fuck do i do with people like this? She's like 10 years older than me too so I can't be rude at all. Please help.

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>be me
>Meet girl
>she keeps bugging me
>i stop talking about normal subjects and start talking about math I'm studying to get her to leave me alone
>she gets super turned on
>find out her dad was a math professor
>she keeps coming over and sucking my dick and trying to get me into a relationship with her

What do

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I have been in a relationship for the past 6 months with a wonderful girl. I love her so much and I care about her more than anything.

The issue between us is that she had an ex boyfriend for 3 years and after break-up, they decided to stay as friends. This part didn't bother me that much, they were in contact via call, messages etc, she was always honest with me about this.

Last night, she told me that his ex boyfriend moved to a new apartment and asked her to come over to catch up and talk a little bit. She told me that she wants to go there. I said to her this would make uncomfortable and unhappy but I will not stop her if that is what she wants.

She says I am overreacting over this and it is completely normal to keep in contact and meet each other in a while etc.

Am I being crazy over this? Is this really normal? Please advice.

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i was talking to this guy for a long time and fell hopelessly in love with him even though he only left me small bread crumbs of affection or attention. i thought our personalities were perfect for each other, we had the same interests and sense of humor. but he always started putting me down out of no where and hitting on other girls in front of me and telling me who he thought was attractive.
this caused me to begin talking to one of his friends, who gave me a lot of attention and affection (i've been going through a lot of difficult wild things). well, basically, his friend asked me out and chad begins to show interest again so i put the his friend on hold kind of, don't really confirm whether i am dating him or not.
fast forward about a week of me still giving chad one last chance, i'm feeling suicidal and chad basically tells me i'm ugly and to do it. i try.
so i block chad on everything, his number, all that, and decide to confirm relationship with his friend.
his friend is so sweet and treats me exactly how i wish chad would have but...he isn't chad. i';ve been pretty good about not breaking my no contact rule/looking at his facebook and what not but i'm still fucking sad as fuck and i don't feel anywhere near what i felt for chad what i do for his friend.
should i break up with friend and give chad another chance? or just break up with friend and fix myself? or keep dating friend who is actually a really nice guy and might eventually have potential?

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I was hurt by somebody and 8 months later I'm still hurt.

They've completely turned me off sex and relations. I feel sickened by the thought.

I just want to go through the rest of my life without feeling like I need somebody, especially them.

Its almost been a year and I feel worse than I did originally.

I don't know what to do.

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I had his class my senior year, it was his first year teaching, and we are 7 years apart in age. I'm graduated now and in College, he's in his second year of teaching. We were friends during the school year (I'd have lunch with him), and I did tell my parents about him (things they had in common or miscellaneous things about him when it came up). I didn't expect to date him after I graduated, but we stayed in touch, I admitted I liked him, and it evolved from there.

I'd like to stay with him. He's a lot I want in a guy and we get along perfectly. What can I do to encourage my parents to accept him? I could always keep it from them until I move out, but I'd rather be honest. I feel like they'd really love him if it weren't for how we knew eachother.