loneliness at university

Unless there's something intrinsically wrong with the way you socialize (which is unlikely), I'm pretty sure your problem is that you don't follow through. You make acquaintances, but you leave them at that. You never chat someone up and ask them to get coffee, or drinks, or just shoot the shit. Yes, it's awkward and you might be rejected, but unless you try you'll never turn an acquaintance into a friend.

>>18693324
I'm in a similar spot but I commute to a large university and I don't want to drink, smoke, or party.

>>18693342
I don't commute i live in my uni city
>>18693340
Well that's what i did with some roommates yet it feels weird. I have the same group of friends for my entire life, sometimes people join but i never managed to find my other own group of friends that i know exclusively

even ITT i'm lonely. Nobody feels the same?

>>18693495
Ill be your friend anon. I'm going to uni in a few days. I dont know where you're from but in my country we have integration activities to know other people.

It's scary because I too am afraid of not finding friends to talk to.

>>18693506
you just have to be lucky and find a group in your freshers/introduction. My group was mostly girls so i could not form any great friendships

>>18693509
Well I'm probably going to join the group of my course or the political party I support (but that one is outside uni). It sucks because all my friends are going North and I'm the only one going to the capital, meaning I'll have no friends to meet but for some guys who are on the same interest group as I am on social media. But those are outside college, so I pray I find new people to talk to. On the plus side the course splits the students in high school size classes so we'll be close knitted.

>>18693517
the size of classes plays a big factor. I always had huge classes so that made it hard

>>18693524
Yeah and the course I applied to only has 45 openings and we are split in three classes. None of that large auditorium classes of dozens of people.

>>18693324
The only 2 groups of friends I had at university were a few people on my course and people I knew from my sports club (fencing).

Trick is to hang out with people more often than just when you see them regularly, like invite them out to do some shit, get a drink on a friday night and chill, that sort of thing.

Talk about interests you share, stuff that's going on, things you want to do, if they're not assholes then it'll escalate and you start making connections.

Obviously you won't click with everyone, but that's how you go from acquaintances to actual friends.

>>18693551
that's a good input