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I have always been weird. Bullied in school. Never had many friends. My single mother has psychosis. She used to yell and scream and beat me for minor things. Fast forward to april this year. I move into this one bedroom apartment because my roommate kicked me out of his house. He says he wants more space for his family but they all think im an asshole even though they are my closest friends. Ive been working the overnight shift at mcdonalds for years and years. Im making a whole dollar above minimum wage. My work is full of over-privileged children who stand around doing nothing for the most part or playing on their phones which means i have to pick up the slack. I hate my bosses. My bosses hate me. It wasnt long before i started noticing mice and cockroaches in my apartment. Since living here i got scabies which whenever treated always seems to come back. Even with me cleaning everything with bleach to the point of me having to go for a walk while the place airs out. I have found 2 bed bugs which means theyre everywhere. My mom who lives a 3 hour drive away is having a breakdown and screaming at me over the phone that she is going to kill people. I had to call the police but they cant seem to find her and i dont know her address. Today she tried messaging me. She doesnt believe im me that im some kind of imposter. I said some things to her that I deeply regret. Things that hurt her. I made her cry. Its all i can think of. Shes never held a job for long because people are always conspiring against her. One of my earliest memories is when her and i lived at my uncles house briefly and my aint beat my mom right in front of me. I had to have been 3 or less. All my life is tragedy after tragedy. Why am i such an asshole?why do i sabotage every relationship i have?

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I just want to love and be loved. Is that too much to ask?

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/adv/, how to feel more confident about my appearance and learn to love myself? Everyone seems to think my sister's much more beautiful than me, even though without makeup we look pretty much the same. My sister has a new boyfriend/fuckbuddy now too and when we all hang out, he keeps insulting my appearance as a joke, saying things like "you're old and worn-out" and "you don't look nice like women should". He makes it clear that he's joking, but still stings. He has liked my pics in twitter though, so I dunno. Anyways it makes me feel like shit when my sister tells me that women can use their appearance to their advantage and I've just never been able to. Not that I'd want to, either (I'm too prideful and don't want to be even a little bit objectified) but it still stings that everyone thinks I'm "the ugly one".

I know this a completely stupid worry blown way out of proportion. I fear it's affecting my relationship even when I keep asking my boyfriend why my sister is more beautiful than me. I really don't want to be this shallow idiot that I am. I need someone to slap some sense into me.

Pic unrelated, it's not me.

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I'm in a Spanish class at a community college. Some students and I started a study group. We wanted a few more members so we invited a kid in the class. I should have known to revoke my invitation when I saw his anime backpack and MAGA stickers.

Day 1 he used the word nigger in front of our black classmate (and study group friend), called her friend a cunt to her face, dabbed, constantly said "kill yourself", said retarded memes, spouted nonsense, and was generally annoying and shitty. I'm no stranger to this kind of behavior on the internet but this kid seems to think it's appropriate to say in front of strangers and people he barely knows. None of us like him, and after day 1 we want him gone.

What should be done? He seems a bit unstable and loud. Today he told us that he never had friends growing up and said some other edgy shit. The others got really uncomfortable. As the least normie (and the guy who started the group) I've taken it upon myself to get him out of the group.

How could I do this safely and politely?

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What do you do when the only thing you want in life is impossible?

My entire life, I've wanted to be a 90s game designer. I want more than anything on this Earth to be a "game god" from the technology boom in the 80s and 90s.

It's now impossible to have an impact on the game industry and the world the way those people did. The birth of computers, the internet, CDs, etc. You can't do that again. You can't make first-class games with a couple of your friends, you need giant teams to make AAA games.

What do I do? I've since pursued a career in games but even after all these years, it hasn't really taken off. I wanted to be iconic and legendary at this, and as a kid we we're all told we can be anything we want. I want to be a 90s game designer more than I want to breathe.

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What the fuck ??? My friend is in a toxic relationship when he doesn't pay her any attention and doesn't spend time with her and when She wanted to meet with him to talk about this He didn't come and the bitch Just said It's not his fault and she still loves her. We talked about that but she doesn't see that she is being used. How do i make her realize that he isn't the guy for her and she isn't Happy but she is just afraid to be alone??

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So I work at a summer camp.

A few weeks ago a coworker used my master key to rob the store. Obviously I reported him.

He was the boss's nephew, and so he was 'terminated' rather than fired, which means he is allowed to visit and re-apply next year.

This coworker had told me about how he used to physically assault homeless people in college, and how he had once shot another staffer with a BB gun in anger.

Anyways, he is visiting for a week, and I noticed a .17 caliber air rifle in his tent.

Do I tell management about his rifle? Do I threaten to quit if they don't confiscate it?

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This is really important to me so please give me 3 or 4 minutes of your time to gimme an advice or two
>Be me.
>17, graduating June 2018.
>Living in Morocco
>2 aunts and an uncle living in North Carolina ( Citizens ).
>Took the SAT instead of the TOEFL so I can apply for some juicy scholarships...
>Get hit by the fact that the area where my family lives only has a community college and a state university. - Both don't offer scholarships to international students...
>Realize I'll have to suck my middle-class parents for my education ( moroccan middle class my mates ... moroccan middle-class ... $20k/year )
>Make a fucking Excel file to see how much attending a community college to get an associate's before transferring to a 4-year college to get my bachelor's since it's gonna be cheaper...


Kk Now that you know all that, I can type...
So, my two first years in CC will cost $18k ( Out of state tuition is 4.5k per semester, 2 years = 4 semesters ).
Then the 2 last years at the 4-year college will cost $40k...( 10k per semester..)
My family will cover the living expenses.
So the idea is to pay the community college tuition by part time working at a restaurant or smthn...(sadly, illegally since international students are only allowed to hella cheap on campus work), and by the help of my parents, but right after my associate's take a student loan ( 40k ).
Do you think it is a good idea to do so? I will major in Business administration / Management.

+ Do you think I can pay off my debt with that major?

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So I've been addicted to caffeine four times in my life. The last three times, I was able to beat it using Rutaecarpine in supplemental form to re-sensitize myself, while using Rhodiola and 5-HTP with green tea to convert my craving. This time around, I've tried that approach twice and it's not working.

I'm at a point where I need at least 500mg of caffeine per day just to keep myself going. I can usually buy 2 rockstars (the ones with 240mg caffeine per can) for $3, so I'll pound both of them before I even start my work day where I have one or two more. It takes a full gram for me to get the caffeine buzz now, and I know if I keep this shit up I'm going to be dead before 30.

Can you anons recommend a reasonable method to break this addiction? Is it ridiculous to try using nicotine gum to convert the urge? Am I fucked?

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I've been so hurt by someone I cared too much for.

I never knew I'd be subject to such pain, and now that I am, I don't know how to continue my life with it.

I gave myself the better half of the year to heal, but it didn't make the slightest difference.

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Do these large monster drinks actually work? Thank you.

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Should I go to my school's health center and get this checked out? It's basically these brown splotches/freckle looking spots that are under my skin. My feet are not DIRTY, this is under my skin. What I think might have caused it is the bowling shoes I wore a few days ago. Me and another buddy showed up in flip flops, said "fuck it", and wore the shoes. I definitely hope that isn't the case, but it might be. I'm also at uni so there's just nasty fucking diseases just about everywhere (yes, i wear sandles in the shower and I wash my feet) that I can catch. It is not painful, and it doesn't look too bad for now. I'm keeping on eye on it and deciding if I need to make an appointment.

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Has anyone relocated cities to a new job?

Should I airbnb the first week of employment and the week off before so I can look at properties / house shares?

Or just go ahead and sign some contract from another city without ever seeing it? (Seems shittier but more certainty)

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>no friends in uni
>already tried a bunch of different clubs last year
>try talking to people and making friends but it never works
How do you do it?

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>School from 7 to 3
>Work from 4 to 9
>Have girlfriend

How do I manage all three? I have no problem with work and school, but I seriously struggle to find time for a proper relationship. I love this girl dearly, she means everything to me. But when I get home from work at 9, I have to finish schoolwork for an hour or two then by that time I'm dead tired.

I don't know what to do about this. She lives in a neighboring town so I can't just walk to her place. I need the job for money of my own and just to take a cab / bus to see her on weekends or when we have time.
I'm in love with her. But it's beginning to feel like it's all too impossible to juggle.