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>>18622719
>I would literally do anything for her
Except get a better job, work hard to rise the ranks and excel at a career, get enough education to make yourself valuable, and dress and eat nicely. Fuck yourself. You could have gotten her if you really wanted to, but your too lazy. Her bf probably had the above factors, so he actually did everything for her

>>18622740
Damn you're right. I did nothing in these years. I must admit that I was pretty depressed at this time. But this shouldnt be an excuse for my current state. You know what? Fuck it, I will go to the mall tomorrow and ask for job, and I will give no shit about other people. I always looked down on me, because some idiots bullied me and I feared that I will see them again one time, I'm young and I wont care about them anymore.

I dont want to waste my time, thinking about unnecessary things anymore. Thats not healthy for me and I dont want to live with insecurity again...

Thank you anon.

Do you guys still have some tips left how I can change myself in a positive way?

Much appreciated.

>>18622718
Dinners at a fine restaurant is too much of a drag.

Movies are a waste of time when you could experience real life.

Outdoor activities are cool and keep you fit.

Not abnormal.

However, he prob wants to get you alone with him for some potential sexy time and get really intimate that he may or may not be fantasizing about. Not necessarily enact them though

>>18622844
This is what I was thinking about. I don't know if he's trying to get some alonetime with me or is this abnormal. I watched some TV that girls get killed or raped while going away with dudes in to the wild so I kind of scared. Plus I am not ready to intimate with him just yet since I always have to bond with the one I date beforehand.
How should I tell him about it?

>>18622897
Just because he's fantasizing about maybe boning while going hiking doesn't mean that he wouldn't enjoy spending the time hiking with you without sex

Just tell friends where you'll be and when you hope to return

>>18622575
They don't worry about it and post threads on /adv/. Literally just do something social like societies or whatever, and you'll find a girl that likes you if you're "decent looking".

Just go to a bar and wait 'till you see some girl sitting by herself.
Then, start whispering pokémon names into her ear, in the order they appear in the pokédex; this works 100%.
By the time you're at Mamoswine, she'll be melting in your arms; no further interaction needed.
Fuck social skills/looks/money, it's all for losers that don't know how to utilize their pokémon knowledge.

>>18622606
This. Or recite the Poké-rap.

>>18622394
No

>>18622394
No, not immoral. Immoral is dating a student. Once you have no power over them it becomes Ok.

People will look at you funny if the age gap is excessive.

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>>18622394
Look at new france president. And pic related.

No.

>>18621386
Ask your boss for more things to do.

>>18621386
Meditate

>>18621386
Can you listen to podcasts? I would download a couple of hours and had a notebook I would take notes in with me. Switch up your screen every once in a while, continue listening to podcasts.

>now here i am about to start school which will be a 4 year journey
>totally confused and uncomfortable about where im at in life
>lonely af
>every shower and every sleep of every fucking day includes crying
>ive made the biggest mistake of my life
>but id never had to do anything like this before
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I was naive and didnt know how to navigate that type of topic and went about it all the wrong way. Now hes already left. We text now and then but hes told me how he thinks its too soon to talk to eachother often, although he likes hearing from me, he said. Im literally JUST starting school which means i will be locked in for the next 4 years. I never thought he wouldnt be alongside me for this part of life. Im willing to be long distance. I dont give a fuck about other guys, i can handle phone calls and video dates and visits to eachother a couple times a year. I can do whatever it takes. But i think he has forced himself to move on from me. When i never wanted this like this. I regret ever doing this. Please please help. Ive had friends share stories of those who were in long term relationships and had separated for years and reunited. Am i foolish for daydreaming of this outcome?

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The most important thing to do to win an ex back is to improve yourself. This means focus on school and get in better shape. Don't think of this as permanent, just a temporary break up. Secondly don't tell him you're improving, let it be a surprise and wait a few months before you show off your accomplishments and new body. Tell him how you aced your classes and loss 30 pounds.

I know this is hard, my fiance left me a month ago and I was a mess. She made the world for me and I know that every moment is agonizingly slow, but it gets better. You have to focus on yourself. focus on why the problems happened and learn from them and most importantly don't beg. Cut contact for this semester and then out of the blue send him an email about something crazy happened. Like, how lightning struck near your car, hell make something up if you have too. I know it's hard, it was so hard when she left me, but you have to rebuild yourself for the person you love to make it work.

Move on, OP

You're said you're each others first, so this is especially hard for you to realise, but he will not be the only person that makes you feel this way. You made the right decision, when you realised the relationship is heading for a crash.
>literally if he had said half of this beforehand i wouldve never had "the talk" with him
but he didn't. Only your "threat" of a break-up made him panic and apologize.
Don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy.
I know you're sad and it's tough, but you'll get through it. Starting school is perfect for your situation, you get to make new friends. Try to do fun things and grow as a person. Not for him, but for yourself. You'll be better off in the end.

how do I girl

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>>18635331
Stop pretending to be something that you're not. You can only be what you are. That said, you can IMPROVE upon what you are. If you have long greasy hair, you can cut it and take showers more frequently. You cannot, however, change who you are fundamentally.

If you don't know any potential girlfriends irl, try online dating with match.com or eharmony. You might hook up on tindr, but it won't be anything substantial or long-term.

What's your endgame?

Get a mirror. Be honest.
Unless you are willing to post a pic of yourself I don't know what anyone can do for you. Maybe if you tell more of a background story. One thing I'll say is that those couple of tens or whatever that were interested, might just not be shallow. Or they might have been under the impression that you were a catch for some other reason, usually money or earning potential, or just good breeding.

>>18634096
google "hot man/woman" and see if many of them look like you

>>18634096
>Also I never had luck approaching a stranger

That almost never works, so don't put too much stock on it.

>but lately I only seem to be getting attention from unattractive people.

Maybe you are being too harsh on the people that like you or you just became an uglier/shittier person and only those more desperate even try.

She cheated on you which is terrible be glad that at least you don't have to experience your gf going turbo slut.
Basically you got hit by a bullet which made you fall to the ground but als inadvertedly caused you to dodge a bigger bullet
You could probably fuck her if you really want to but I would recommend staying far away from her.

>>18633927
Stop talking to her and she is still the same girl she was when she was with you, you just had an incorrect idea of who she was then and now have faced the truth.

>>18633934
She didn't cheat on me, she left me for another guy (although she might have been bouncing on his dick already prior to our breakup, so idk), but yeah you're right. Now that that's all said and done I'm relieved for dodging that big ass bullet
>>18633938
What harm does talking to her does? As I said I'm pretty much over her now.

Working is great. As a student, even if you're only spending 3-4 hours a day in class, there's always something you *could* be doing in your own time. When you work, any time outside of work is actually your own; you can go home and switch off

>>18633769
Indeed. As a student you always have to worry about things like homework and exams. With a job, once you're home, you're home. The time is all yours.

>>18633790
>>18633769
>Have a full time job
>get up well before you'd like to
>Spend an hour in traffic or a crowded train
>spend 9 hours with people you don't like doing something you could care less for
>more transit
>eat a crappy meal and sit in front of the TV because you don't have the energy to cook or do anything else
>or maybe you have some commitment you don't really want to do that night that will leave you even tireder for the next day
>household chores, wash and groom yourself etc
>Go to bed before 10 so you can get up in time for the same thing tomorrow

But don't take it from me

Probably the same shit guys mean by that, which means literally anything depending on the person and their attachment style and personality

>>18633717
wamen bullshit/10

>>18633717
>I'm stupid and make poor decisions then blame others

/thread

I know someone who really enjoyed doing it and made money off it. So it works I guess.

But mostly it's just pretty gross, have some standards. I don't really understand why people want to whore themselves out. Is your ass really what you want people to like you for?

>>18633669
>>18633640
>Erm yes Mrs Smith I see in your application under work experience you put for the years between 2013-2017 cramming two liter coke bottle up your cunt streaming it over the internet to be watched by a 50 year old British man called 'Mr Floppy'. We here at Toys'R'Us feel that you're qualifications and previous business ventures would negate any positive achievements you'd bring to the company.

Remember kids the internet NEVER EVER forgets

You didn't mention if you're a guy or a girl.

If he's not going to listen, then your best course of action is to stay out of it until he needs you when the relationship falls apart.

>>18633599
This. The quickest way to alienate a friend is to talk shit about their SO unprompted. He's an adult, he doesn't need you looking out for him like he's a child

>>18633595
Agree with the other anons. He needs to crash and burn and he won't listen. Go ahead and try because you agreed when his parents asked and when he blocks you out stay out of it, at least you tried. When it does end you can be there for him but do not help him financially. Again, do not help him financially. Sooner the money drys up the sooner the hustle is over.

no
you should un know this information as soon as possible
does she know you know?

whatever you do, youll be blamed

>>18633589
Fuck, that's how I thought. I've stumbled upon hard evidence 2 months ago and I can't keep going back to this thought. I woul've already un-known that but it undermined my faith into my gf since she's the immediate offspring of her mother, and knowing that the mother able to do that out of a whim is a red flag to me. She doesn't know I know thankfully. Deep down I knew telling it to anyone would be a mistake, but how does it work that I'll be the one who'll be blamed though?

>>18633584
Do it anon so it can not be traced back to u and gf will come running to ur arms more as family falls apart.....

>>18633112
Don't try to become a normie; you'll neve be able to compete with Stacy. You'll be invisible to all the Chads. Stick with the Chinese cartoons. You'll have plenty of beta orbiters who think your hot and will spill their spaghetti trying to compliment you.

>>18633121
Disgusting. No. I'm trying to better myself and liking anime and things like that was a middle school phase for me.

Post a pic