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hey /adv/ i met a amazing girl she like the same things than me, study you know hv a plan in her life like me and and she is pretty, man she is so pretty, but we had a problem we don't live in the same cities but its like one hour away from me by car, but that fucking ex just dump her whitout any explanation and they lived in diferents cities too and now she is scary to start a new thing whit a guy in other cite too, what should i do? insist and try to covince her that i'm not him and things will be differents now? o let it go and move on?

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How do I ask people I don't know very well / at all to hang out? I have one friend and I want to expand that, but how do I reduce the chances of rejection when reaching out?

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So I matched with a fairly cute girl on Tinder the other day. Her bio reads as follows:

>"Author, puppy mom, lover of the outdoors, musician, and confused about how to make this sound clever!
>What you should know about me: I recently bought my first pair of overalls (I've been dreaming about them for a while now) and now I actively need to convince myself not to wear them every day.
>Let's hike or play music or do something in the realm of adventure"

So I sent her the following message:

>"Okay, so I'm no stranger to outlandish clothing, but you're going to have to explain the appeal of overalls to me!"

I initially thought that was a fine message. I was commenting on the quirky aspect of her bio, we might go on to talk about our tastes in weird clothes before moving on to another subject. However, it's been a little over two days and she hasn't responded yet (She's been on since then, her location has changed). After frantically reading and rereading the message, I feel like it comes across as being a "neg." Did I mess up, anons? This girl actually seems pretty neat and I think we'd click fairly well. Would it be appropriate to message her again in a few days? If so, what should my message look like, roughly speaking?

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I'm so sad. I've never been this low before. Can't cook, clean, eat, go outside, talk to people. I feel like this depression will kill me but I don't want to die. It isn't even about money. If I die then people I love will get hurt and they will have no chance at love or happiness but a lifetime of scars and emotional turmoil. There's no one to turn to for help. I just need to stay alive and functioning but it feels impossible. Is there anything I can watch or listen to for motivation or a quick perk? I don't know what I'm even looking for.

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If you have nothing to lose, what's the motivation to achieve anything? If there is none, then what the hell do I do for the rest of my life?

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Just need to vent somewhere
I signed up for 3 summer classes and I've failed all of them, save for one that i have 3 days to write 16 pages for, probably won't do it. I have no willpower when it comes to school. My family is throwing their money and I'm squandering it and when push comes to shove I just don't care, even though I know I should. This isn't a new trend, I failed every class I took one semester in sophomore year and since then I've been between failing and barely passing classes, it's all resulted in me having to take one extra year as well as a few summers and winters. The major is chemical engineering and I guess its tolerable, but I think learning fuckall in some classes has resulted in me not being well equipped enough to take on my upcoming and current classes, and perhaps not equipped to handle a job. I'm too far along the track now so I'm trapped in it regardless. Whenever people suggest proactive things I can do I don't follow through because, I don't care. Ultimately I know it comes down to me and I'm probably too stubborn and lazy, and if I don't change something soon my life is going to suffer greatly, but again, I see all this impending doom ahead of me and I want to avoid it and yet I don't care.
It's like I'm trying to steer my car away from a cliff but the wheel won't turn.
Thanks to anyone who got this far

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I'm moving out of state. Should I move to a city that is on the cheaper side, or the nicer side? I'm poor, live alone, and will be attending state college.

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4chins. I am scared to be white. White Supremacy is running rampant here in America around and now I feel a shift coming where people will stop looking at me and assume I'm an innocent little white boy and
instead assume I am in some way connected to a race centered around the hatred of others.

Do I think I'm special, or entitled to an immunity from peoples assumptions? Of course not, its very clear to me that damned near everyone else other than native white people has had to deal with this at some point in their life, that does not change the fact that I've made it 30 years without having to personally fight this fight and I am feeling entirely unprepared.

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Hey guys hypochondriac here. Should I be worried about this mole on my inner thigh? I saw the doctor about it about 6 months ago he just told me to keep an eye on it!..Is it cancerous now or just dysplastic nevus?

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So /adv/ I currently have $100k for a house. Is it smarter to put a $100k down deposit on a house and then pay over top the monthly payments or is it smarter to not put any money down and then make a $100k payment the first day?
On the one hand the deposit will make my payments lower so I can pay more over top for principle every month. The downside is that I will have the 95/5 split for regular payments.
For the other hand, if I put a $100k payment I will be further along on principle payments so it should be around 50 to 60/50 to 40. The downside is that my monthly payments will be higher meaning if I fall on hard times I will have to tone down my lifestyle.
Its a VA loan so you are not required to have a downpayment. I also have a 745 credit score.

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I have been at my current office job for just over 3 years.

My salary started around 20k and is now at 31k, however I believe I could relatively easily move to a larger city and go to work for a larger firm for 45k-60k to start.

I have been thinking about this for the months leading up to my 3-year work anniversary, and am now within 3 weeks of pulling the trigger.

I am definitely telling my boss, however the question is how to tell him. I'm not sure if I should just shoot a casual email to my boss, talk to him at a morning meeting between the two of us, ask for a sit-down meeting (which will probably be granted immediately impromptu) or some other way.

Any thoughts will be appreciated.

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My girlfriend of 5 years likes flirting and talking dirty to girls through Messenger. Am I wrong for thinking less of her for this?

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Hey guys, not sure if this is the right board but I'm going to ask anyways.

I have a boyfriend named and we've been together for 2 years. He's always treated me great and gives me the upmost respect. We've done just so much together but as of late he's been putting 4chan as a higher priority than our relationship. I mean he still focuses on me a little and makes me breakfast but I just wish he would stop shitposting on 4chan so much and give me a bit more attention. How should I deal with this?

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There's a good chance I'll experience my first kiss tomorrow. Couple questions:

1. When should I close my eyes?
2. When should I open them again?

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I found out today there is a chance I might be taking care of my mother for the rest of her life. Meanwhile, I've got my own health issues which aren't debilitating considering what I can still do, but it affects my mental/physical/emotional state enough where I wonder why I'm still here. Plus, while I have one degree under my belt, it's in a field I should have had sense enough when I started to realize that it wouldn't have the sort of monetary safety that I know I need right now. So considering neither of us are employed, and I'm only a diaper away from being employed, and that money is pretty tight/nonexistent between the two of us, I'm lost. I want to go back to school, I want to move out of the house and leave this place, even more so considering I had to come home because of money and this current health thing I've got going on, so now that I'm back, I feel like I'm her lifeline.

She's more mentally resilient than I am, but I can see some cracks in the armor, and I'm scared to see what the future holds, even though I have to charge full force at it to make any hope for myself. I see myself as being really behind in life and I perceive myself to be at the bottom of an insurmountable mountain, and I'm scared.