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>>18628933
Because 20 is too old too learn or accomplish anything, so you might as well just kill yourself

>>18628939
I know I have plenty of time but I simply have no idea what to do and I don't want to cause my parents unnecessary suffering.

Haha sissy! I bet you haven't even PHUGGED in college!
[spoiler]I haven't ;_;[/spoiler]

Two stubborn ass people in a relationship makes for a roller coaster ride. If you guys don't have the ability to communicate and compromise I don't see how you could live together. You shouldn't have in the first place lol

On the one hand, yeah, name calling is childish and you clearly lost your temper and did it out of anger so, I think regret is appropriate and maybe apologizing. That kind of reaction is just not constructive.

On the other hand based on how your gf is handling this she very well may be a bitch. She is trying to punish you over this incident where it sounds like you were both a bit at fault and the most appropriate thing would be a mutual apology because you both said hurtful things and work it out and make up, etc.

But it seems like that's really not gonna happen because you're both being stubborn and there is no "bigger person" in this scenario.

Neither of you are in the right because you both fucked up. Both of you need to admit that to compromise and move forward, but it looks like you're both stubborn as fuck and overly proud. Sorry OP.

cause you're not a girl.

>>18628648

Life is not a video game. You can't mash the button against a random person on the street and then become awesome at talking.

Want to make friends? Join activities with people and enjoy yourself. It's easier to talk when you are having fun and have things in common with the other person.

>>18628695
How do you know?

>>18628643
She does not want you.
Deal with it.
Cut off contact with her in every way you can that does not impede your progress in other areas of your life.
That means telling her to stop messaging you with photos every 20 minutes because even though you like her "you do not like her like that".

>>18628656
This is a huge problem for me. I tried cutting contact completely twice.

It was extremely painful. I felt more pain than being rejected by her now. And she kept chasing me back. She really likes me but "not like that".

If I get things stale between us it'll also damage the group we're leading and I love this group, it's my biggest passion currently and it does wonders for me emotionally.

she just messaged me right now and we're talking about kittens holy shit help

Stop telling yourself things like "She is the love of my life". I bet you're barely out of your teens.

This is what you do:

1) Accept that it's gonna hurt, and be at peace with it. Accepting pain doesn't mean it stops hurting, it means you stop telling yourself that you shouldn't be in pain. it's gonna hurt, suck it up, get on with your life, and it'll fade eventually.

2) Stop making up fantasies in your head about "love of my life", and building this into more than it needs to be. You liked a girl, and she doesn't like you. That's the ultimate fact of this. You can meet other girls, and you'll most likely fall in love again. Your perspective is the most important thing in this.

3) Cease contact. Don't make a big deal of it. If she asks you just say "You know how I feel about you, I need space, can't say how long it's gonna be". Stop leading the group at uni, or at the very least, remove her from your life as much as possible.

>>18628605
Music festivals are just filled with horny people in general. What do you normally look like? Race doesn't matter to me as much as attitude and personality like if your a business woman or professor compared to a hood rat or something. I like the aesthetics of people like Lady Leshurr.

>>18628615
Lol dont try to get a girlfriend on 4chan buddy, she's out of your league

>>18628605
You probably looked like a rocker. That separated you from the stereotypical black hip hop chick who is into drug dillers and thuuugs. So they felt like you were a darker version of them

Why are you not able to go to college?
To me #1 sounds pretty reasonable to me actually. Just make sure to actually get a job. It's also a nice opportunity to pick up a hobby and develop some - more or less useful - skills.

>>18628555
I can't afford it.

>>18628570
Take loans goy. You want your educashun dontcha? :^)

She wants the D.

Nah, but in all seriousness, I think she may be interested in you. Ask her out on a date or something lel

(cont) Girls usually play little flirty games when they're interested. Flirt back or just ask her out lel

>>18628428
>What am I supposed to be reading inbetween here?
Kinda hard to judge since you didn't post the whole conversation she's referring to

>>18628323
Why did he lose the other 2 homes ?

>>18628344

Depression and medication causing him to not care about anything on the first, and he straight up lost that one completely.

The second because he's unemployed and refuses to look for work, that one we ended up doing a short sale on and he lost about $20k

>>18628357
This didn't happen or this is bait. No one would be stupid enough to consider this.

>>18628225
>implying there is anything to like about you besides the size of your paycheck

>>18628225
Be a retard fuckboy and have sex with her friends
Or, on a more advanced level, set up your life on a way that implies you could easily become a retard fuckboy and bang hotter chicks if she doesn't treat you well

>>18628225
It's about luck mostly. You won't find these girls on tinder.

Really think out what your principles are. Cognisize it and say it aloud. Obviously you don't like it when you beta bitch out when people talk down at you so make it a principle that real men don't show weakness or something like that.

Right now your emotional response is tied to giving you negative feedback when you get in hostile conversations. You need to rewire it so you get a bigger negative feedback when you act like a little faggy cuck whenever someone yells at you or whatever.

Really give yourself shit about it whenever your emotional knee jerk reaction doesn't align with your principles. Trample all over yourself, distress your psyche.

Eventually the part of your brain that avoids negative emotions will recalibrate to avoid breaking your principles instead of making your fear aggressive conversation.

Thick skin doesn't exist. You just need to be more desensitized. Stick around 4chan a bit more and make some posts about topics you know nothing about so people can call you out on being retarded.

Also, kys.

>>18628159
For me it worked when i started to try step back and try not to say anything, just keeping my mouth shut when i get angry over something.
It worked wonders when after a while i got this realy nice self-control.

I also stoped getting anoyed by stupid insignificant stuff, while realy keeping my head cool on bigger problems.

Also when i argue with someone i cant tell you how much you can piss someone off when you are not giving a flying fuck about what they say,especialy when you wait while they scream their head off and you still respond in calm voice what you think.
Derails them hard.

Also when i see something im anoyed, i just move along.Aint nobody has time fo dat.

Im not perfect but i think i achieved a little bit of that thick skin in that mind-selfcontrol i tryed out myself. Its all in your head and your thoughts realy.

Hope it helps.

>>18628096
>Do you know any suggestions to raise willpower and determination?
Yes.

>>18628098
dotn be meen please

What do you specifically need willpower and determination for?

Forgot to ask: What are your minimalist life suggestions? Does anyone here live a minimalist life?

Boo hoo I don't practice and actively try to improve and wrote it off as not having aptitude or innate skill. Grow up.

>>18628064

Go to a shrink. You clearly have some demons to work through. Also, this post is not asking for advice, it's just ranting.

>>18628022
You fucked it up. Sorry to say but there's really nothing else to it. Move on, find someone else to chat about your boring life with.

>>18628022

What's done is done mate. Beyond apologizing there's not much else you can do. They have the right to refuse giving you another chance.

Why don't you try some meet ups that are not online?

My friend. What you need is to get rid of your internet, tv, and video games. Join physical activities with other people and read books that interest you. Hopefully this helps you. At least try to cut down the time you spent on internet, watching tv, or video games.

>>18627981
Dated a stripper at a high end club and she quit on her own when we got serious but nearly 2 years in she went back. I bailed. We didn't argue or anything about it but she confessed she missed the attention more than the money and wanted to keep stripping as long as she was young and still looked great.

Feel for you OP but this is a no win situation for you and don't fall for the money excuse. If she was single or just dating or had a kid and needed to keep the kid fed money is a great incentive but after leaving and making it and getting comfortable in a relationship and wanting to return to the life, there is more to it.

>>18627994
Why was her stripping enough for you to leave her?

>>18628766
It was the life style as much as anything and that includes regular customers she will cultivate, some of them she will become close with and that includes them actually believing there is a courtship happening. This courtship is encouraged as part of a hustle.

Very few of the girls and women can keep the hustler mindset separate from their everyday life. Any woman can take off their clothes but those that do well, and my gf did very well, they hustle guys for those tips and frequent gifts.

The other thing is the line blurs between stripping, simulated sex and sex for money. I recall when we first started dating she discussed with me if I thought giving a guy head for a tip was prostitution since she was already nude in front of him and riding him and simulating sex. She was serious and didn't think it was and neither did many of the other girls. She also told me it didn't start like that and she was scared and embarrassed but gradually more things were permitted. I recall a time I went inside the club before she quit to pick her up. I had no problem with what she was doing and wasn't jealous but she was on stage, the place had very few people in there but two young guys sitting near the stage talking more to themselves than looking at her. She squatted down right in front of them and they still didn't look at her pussy less than a foot away and she grabbed both their heads and turned them to stare at her open crotch. I wasn't upset because it wasn't even sexual and it wouldn't have mattered who the guys were they just weren't paying her any attention. Another time it was Superbowl week and the place was packed to overflowing every night and she made a fortune and the parking lot too full so she asked me to pick her up. I waited as she finished a dance for a guy and asked if I could wait since another guy wanted 3 dances but first she needed to go clean off her ass since the last guy had cum on her.

I think it's because it's running water, not stagnant that you can drink from it. Also it's been thoroughly cleaned to the point it's probably cleaner than some river water. I mean, just pour some in the glass. It's crystal clear. Of course, if you let it sit you'll see the iron start to settle.

>>18627877
If you are paranoid, simply pay a specialist to analyze your water from your own tap.

It isnt even that expensive. That said, in most 1st world countries tap water is ok (except usa with fluoride). And even then, the source of water is different from town to town. So either write your location or have a little faith in your goverment. I mean, citizens cant pay taxes or go to vote when they are dead / ill.

>>18627882
And as long as the water is fresh, it should be good to go no matter how old pipes are. (Unless the pipes are made from lead, that will slowly kill you in a very gruesome way). So when taking sip, let the water run for a few seconds so the still water will end up in your drain, not your glass. Also what is chlorine? It dezinfects your water from most of microbes.

>>18627877
Depends on where the water comes from. Where I live we have the best water but all other places I go tap tastes like shit. If you drink tap in china ull even get sick for a week.