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Get a job.

>>17401867
Where do you live ?
What skills do you have ?
How old are you ?

You must be retarded, OP. If there was a way to do it, realistically, then everyone would be doing it.

tell her how her actions affected you negatively, be honest. Stand your ground. If it keeps happening again after that, leave her for good.

Well the way you described it's sounds like you came as an asshole, but if we assume you were nice about it and explained that friendship isn't possible because of feelings then she is being dumb. Not everyone can be friends with exs.

Nah, you did the right thing. It's tempting to stick around after a relationship's over because you still want the other person in your life or something but it ends up just fucking shit up and someone eventually should feel free to cut it off if need be

Pretty classic shit, it happens. It sucks, but it's hard to maintain friendship a lot of the time after a relationship ends

>>17401856
If you didn't set up any exclusivity at the beginning of the sexual relationship anf now you feel jealous and hurt, you only have yourself to blame. Talking to him about it may yield results, but more than likely he will end the sex and maybe get pissed. Brining it up now signals that you want to control and guilt trip the guy into a relationship that he probably doesn't want. If you feel bad you need to brake it off yourself. Explaining why is fine, but don't leave the decision in his court. He's not the one with the issue.

>>17401910
Wtf?

Nah OP. Fuck this guy's retarded rambling.

If you can't go on with him being inexclusive tell him you've gotten feelings for him and you want to make things serious. If he doesn't want to be exclusive with you, break it off calmly and give yourself the time and space to get over him. If he feels the same way about you? Happy days.

>>17401910
Maybe I represented the friendship wrong, I guess. We hang out pretty much every other day, and I spend the night a lot. I don't really ask, but I'm pretty sure he doesn't spend as much time with anyone as me, I don't even know if he spends the night with anyone else. It's not really a friendship based on sex either, just a lot of intimacy. I think our feelings of closeness are shared, and we share a lot of personal struggles and feelings and lean on each other and shit. I also think being gay, and maybe for other community reasons, it's pretty much standard for everyone to sleep with everyone and not know what to do as far as that goes, and even in relationships this doesn't seem to be something people break out of much.

So I guess the thing is, I'm not trying to guilt trip him, but we do have this close relationship and talk about our feelings and stuff as described above. So I feel like to be honest I have to discuss this stuff, but I also try to make it clear that I'm just trying to say how I feel, not influence him. I dunno, I really don't want to guilt trip him, but I'm not sure how not to while still being honest.

I think I have guilt tripped him a bit though maybe, or at least he says he wants to value how I'm feeling and maybe he feels conflicted now about having sex with other people a bit.

Honestly I don't even know if I want a relationship though right now, so if I'm guilt tripping him, for what?

I dunno man, not sure what advice I'm even looking for but it's confusing

I think you're probably good man. it's just the guilt that's fucking with you now, don't do it again

There's a balding drug you can put inn your beard area

Be born with good genetics

Testosterone

why do you want to join?

>>17401776
Con: you'll have to take shit from a bunch of 18 year olds ordering you around.

>>17401776
This is mostly second hand information from one of my best friends in the military. If you want to slut it up, basic has no shortage of willing, and forceful men and a few women.

Chauvinism abounds, some innocent stupidity and some truly hateful. This can come from somone of any rank.

Also you get to be around shit heads who have nothing going for them. Some drop out, some mature some stay shitheads. Some of these shitheads are in charge and will make you miserable, and not the on purpose miserable you probably know about. An pissing in the wind kind of miserable because some inept moron has been put in charge. This is most only a problem for lower ranks.

Unless you're already active you will have to do outside training if you want to pass fitness exams.

Learn to enjoy drinking, it helps a lot.

Cock gobbling pussy faggot. Man the fuck up.

But have a bump anyway.

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Don't kill yourself. I have been living with bipolar 1 for 10 years now and have been where you are right now. It sucks. You have to tell people how you are feeling, people in your life. Be honest with them. Also there is a lot of maintenance work you must do to keep yourself in the right mind set. It's not easy but it worth it. I am here for you anon, talk to me

just hang yourself, no background checks on rope

Bump for interest. Also, how much should I expect to pay?

Where I live (Australia) I went to my GP and told him i needed to speak to someone about my mental health and he referred me to a therapist.

>>17401816
I can't remember how much I paid, but it was government subsidized so i think it ended up being around $30-40 per session (weekly)

Why not just get a new one? House phones are dirt cheap.

>>17401752
It's the middle of the night and I'm poor. Plus, I want to avoid trouble with my dad, if I can. I'm willing to buy a new one, but this is just embarrassing.

>>17401744
bump for more advice, please?

I feel you, I'm supposed to be asleep and it is 4-something here. have to get up at 8. at least I am in bed, that's a start.

generally caffeine is out of your system in 4-8 hrs, I think the average is 6. I suppose if you never ever drink caffeine and you had a coffee today, it could mess with you. I have occasionally noticed that if I drink a lot more caffeine than usual, I will tend to stay up a few hours later even if the caffeine is (supposed to be) long since out of my system. I don't know why this is, I suppose it disrupts your sleep/wake cycle somehow by making you alert at a time when you're normally not. throws off your internal clock. but I am not a doc, that is just my guess.

if you normally drink coffee around midday, then idk. maybe something is stressing you out? sometimes if I can't sleep I'll put on some ambient music or a podcast, or maybe tv shows that have a lot of talking and not much action. cop shows and mysteries seem to work the best, the case distracts my mind and whatever else I have on the brain kinda fades away.

hopefully I have either helped you or bored you into somnolence. sweet dreams OP.

>>17401722
>Is over 15 hours of awake time normal
Jesus christ, I guess I'm certainly not living a routine schedule then. I go most days anywhere from 20 to last week being awake for 52 hours straight.

You're fine. Calm down, and if you really need it, find some relaxing ambient noise from your phone or something.

>>17402017
Nah I've pretty given up on sleep, browsing and posting on /adv/ in bed.

>>17401708
they were going to ask you to join in, you blew it OP you blew it

>>17401719
Unlikely - I've joked about it before and they both got weird

...but they didn't say no, hmmm

Your roommate probably gets off to the idea of other people hearing him fucking or something. You're not really in the wrong for being uncomfortable with that.

You're not even asking for advice.

Oh, and what about institutionalizing her? How much is that gonna cost me? Is it even viable if she's dying? All this is overwhelming, has anyone been in a similar situation?

>>17401691
>>17401718
If a person dies, their debt is taken out of their estate before it can be assessed and given out in a will.
Better make sure she has more stuff than debt.
Does she have/can you see the will?
Did you know you you can will your debt to your kids?

Oh, and I suppose you shouldn't let her kill herself.

>>17402366
>You can will your debt to your kids?
And if I disclaim this "gift", along with all other beneficiaries? Just dies along with her and the state takes everything?

Maybe. No one will really care as long as you're not violent.

Is this a serious thread? I don't know if you're talking internal voice or audio hallucinations, but if it's the latter you should probably talk to someone because that isn't normal.

can you go into a bit more detail about what you mean?