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What was the worst relationship you've ever been in, /adv/?
Mine was when I was 21. Total bait-and-switch, after a few months I began to see that she was passive-aggressive and emotionally abusive to the nth degree, and I wasn't about to take that. Ironically I was stupid enough to get back with her two years later and it was more of the same thing.
Worst part about it was that she was a friend of a friend, so it totally upset my social circle at the time. I think I made just about every mistake you can think of.
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Here's my story:
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Fuck you OP. Thanks for the reminder
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>>17403654
Hello me.
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They've all been pretty underwhelming, i'm only 22. Never had a "real" relationship where you actually have assets and responsibilities together.
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One of my gf's coworkers invited her to an anime con this weekend. Gf invited me, really wants me to go, but I'm on the fence:
Pros:
>It'll be a sort of getaway, I haven't traveled for leisure for a year or so now.
>spending time with the gf doing something she really likes
Cons:
>Have very tight budget. Still have to pay one months rent and a deposit in a week (~1500), con is $130, and I have $1200
>Not a weeb: Coworker and gf are very much weeaboos and openly so. I watch quite a lot myself, but am not at all open about it. I don't know how I feel about being at a con.
>no cosplay, only one without. I feel really awkward being the odd one out, especially with being invited only as a bf
>not a really big con, only small indie panels and stuff
I know theres more cons, but maybe someone can change my perspective?
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>>17403612
>more cons than pros
Sorry
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If I were in your position and I loved my gf I would go, it would make her really happy
I made a mistake of being in a similar situation and not going, I should have went because I was her boyfriend and I should have done it to make her happy
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>>17403612
Just go, even if you don't end up enjoying the con it'll be good to get out for a while. You don't have to exclusively do con things, explore whatever city you're in, go to a nice restaurant.
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Made thread awhile ago
Still haven't gone outside and crooked the street despite living across from the center for 5 years. I'm just too scared
How do I do it
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So recently, I've had to retake a class. Thankfully I've made it through the semester well enough that I'm not completely hopeless. So coming up soon is the Final. I cant take a chance making less than a B. The Review for the final (which is the exact same as the final itself only -50 random questions) closed out before I could get to it. Now I still have notes I copied from the last review and final I took, and I only missed two out of 100, but here's the problem: I have no guarantee that this will be the exact same test as the time before, given that my instructor is one of the most unpredictable fuckers I have ever known.
What do I do, /adv/? What would you do?
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Study until I memorized the information then take the final.
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>going to take a final
>missed out a review section
>have notes to study for said final
What is your actual question ?
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>>17403681
What would you do in my situation, in which I may or may not have reliable study material.
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How does one have charisma? What even is charisma?
I've been told countless times over the years that I'm really charismatic. In a good mood I believe them.
That said, I want to be more charismatic. How do I develop charisma?
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Read more, talk to people, act like you're interested in them.
After a time you will start seeing patterns: what makes them tick, what makes them laugh, when they use interest etc.
Charisma is all about making person feel special and only way you can do it is by knowing all those things. That's why sociopath are usually charismatic as fuck.
They want something from you, so they start looking for your weak spots.
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>>17403595
There is a book called "The Charisma Myth." It has good, practical advice that probably works well if you put it into practice.
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I can not work a normal job.
My disabilities are not visibe until I am around people even just working with one person sets it off.
I have crohns, an audiotaury disability, a memory disability and a sevre anxiety disorder and a lot of allergies. I was taking medication for some of my health issues but then I became allergic to it so there is not much I can do. I have specialists I see and have been getting medical help for a long time.
I have a diploma in graphic design and photography I did both online and got honnors.
Last fall I decided to try working again, I got a job at Costco working in the print department but it took such a large toll on my health that I had to be hospitalized a couple times I had to quit in December and my health did not recover until May. Once my health recovered I started mowing my dad lawn and my neighbours lawn weekly I would only make 30 dollars a week so I took that money after a couple weeks of saving up and strated a dog walking company. I did all my branding myself and it looked very nice I got signs done and a permit. People in my area liked my business plan, wording and idea so much that they copied it and we're ripping down my signs and putting up theirs where mine were thus happened a lot to the point where I had no money to do any more marketing because my signs were getting ripped down within an hour.
I continued to mow the lawns just to make a little money but I had no real accomplishments I felt. So I figured if I could not work that I spend my spare time heloping others so that I at least felt like I was giving something to society.
I have tried online jobs but they were all scams.
I have tried everything at this point but I can find seem to find an answer. My last and only answer that I have come to is to just end my life so that I am not feeling like a burden on society. I want to feel more independent I can not live like this. I feel like half a person.
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To add I am taking very good care of myself, I eat healthy, work out, drink only water, go outside a loy and meditate. But it still does not change the fact I can not be independent. I am optimistic bit it does not changer the fact of what my body can not handle.
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>get free money for being disabled. Surely your country has some social assistance for people like you
>lose yourself in books, movies, tv shows, video games and chinese cartoons
>live in your made-up reality
It's not ideal, but it's better than killing yourself. It's even pleasant most of the time.
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>>17403567
I was a NEET before I went to college and a agoraphobic. I do not want to go back there I rather die.
Hey advice I was watching a tv show and was laughing at a joke when all the sudden my vision went blurry and my torso started shaking uncontrollably, followed by my limbs. Lasted around ten seconds and left me feeling pretty disoriented, then a couple minutes later I started shaking again this time for only a couple of seconds then it stopped.
I think it was probably a seizure but all the literature in reading says laughter isn't a seizure trigger. Still I should probably get it checked out right? I've had minor shaking incidents in the past but this is the first one I'm pretty sure was a siezure.
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>>17403554
Yeah you should, seizure disorder is easily treated but can be dangerous if left unchecked, so you should have a doctor figure out what's going on.
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Like the subject says, ive got a small issue
We werr doing preorders for the latest magic set, so I requested an order for myself, stating that i havent paid for it yet. I planned it out so i pay after i got paid (we got paid the same day the set came in)
Over the weekend i was working at my side job so i didn't have time to get my paycheck and what not.
Monday, I come into work and see that mu preorder wasn't held and was sold. This made me angry and shit since i work here and they didn't bother to hold mine.
2 days later i finally gwt my boxes but dont have any of the preorder bonus since they were sold.
Im planning on talking to my boss and try to see if they can get me the bonus stuff.
How do I do this without sounding pissed off? Every preorder there's always something that happens that makes me feel like shit (non employees getting better deals as I get told no to $5 off)
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Here's the problem: you're a self-entitled idiot.
You're upset because you're insisting what other people SHOULD do for you as though you have some right to them behaving in the way you want simply because you want it.
You didn't pay for the shit you ordered and you didn't follow through like you were supposed to, so why are you surprised?
If non-employees get better deals from your employer than you do and it makes you unhappy, then stop spending your money there.
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>>17403572
You see heres the thing
Even though I didnt pay for it yet, they've always held it for me.
My bosses never had a problem with me paying after it we get the stuff in. If there was a problem with they wouldve told me
how do i tell my partner i can't make their birthday without hurting them?
if that makes sense i really dont want to upset them or for them to get mad at me what should i say? or to say something the along the lines of
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>I can't go.
>"why?"
>dunno, OP didn't told why he/she can't go ffs
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>>17403503
i cant go bcs i cant get a ride in to where it is
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Tips on getting out of my comfort zone (in drawing)
I'm really trying to improve on art and the hardest thing for me so far is getting out of my comfort zone. If there's any tips you can give me that can help me I'd really appreciate it!
Also I'd like to note that I'm not afraid to step out of my comfort zone (I know a lot of difficulty stepping out of your art comfort zone is because people are afraid) I'm actually very eager to get better at drawing and do whatever is necessary, its just really really hard and it feels like I've hit a wall and I can't find a way to climb over it
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Have you done nude life drawing classes anon?
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>>17403489
try making sprite sheets for a vidya programmer hobbyist
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>>17403947
no but i do use a website that provides photos taken for life drawings
however i do know the significance of drawing an actual real life person in a class.
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Need some good jokes or suggestions for a mixed crowd mostly Christian
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>I guess the true test of faith will be coming up these next football Sundays, am I right?
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So a Muslim walks into a gay bar and says "Shots for everyone!".
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>>17403496
fucking kek
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i cum too fast when i masturbate or get aroused is edging really legit? or is just bs?
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Kinda, I did edging with "kegals" while masturbating but it maybe uppef me from 30 seconds to 2 minutes. Push down on your pelvic floor with your kegal muscles, like when you try to push out a pee really hard. It might give you some more time.
I compalined to a doc and he gave me prozac. Then I was so insensitive that I couldn't get it up. So they gave me viagra. Talk about those bad feels, but now I can pump like a machine.
TL;DR. Edging helps a little but if you got PE talk to a doc. Real science always wins over bro science
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Help me out /adv/, I need some impartial advice.
tl;dr: Don't want a roommate, but put in a situation where I can't say no.
I am a lower-year PhD student, and have a friend who is an upper-year PhD. I use the term friend loosely--we've worked together a few semesters, and have gone out for drinks a few times, but it's not like we talk on a regular basis. I don't even know her number. She is, however, well-enough of an acquaintence to know that a) I have a spare bedroom at my apartment, and that b) I have considered renting it out in the past.
I say considered, because the last time I tried renting it did not go well. I suffer from severe depression and anxiety, as well as your typical run-of-the-mill introversion, and having someone else in my private space was just not a good mental state for me to be in. However because I'm also broke and an idiot, I continually think "it can't be that bad" and that "having extra money would weigh out the bad parts of having a roommate" (I am at the moment living pay-cheque to pay-cheque).
Back to the girl in question. She asked if still had a spare room and if I would consider rooming with her, to which I said yes I still have the room but I wouldn't be back in town until late August, and that we could talk about it in person then. She took this as a definitive yes and made plans on when to move in and etc.
Now normally I wouldn't have a problem telling her no, but she needs the room because she broke up with her common-law, who she says has been abusive, and needs to get out of the place asap. I will post a screen of one of the messages she sent.
Do I just suck it up? We haven't even started rooming and I'm already not sleeping because of the anxiety. I want to help her out, but I don't think I can take having a roommate. But I put myself in this situation to begin with.
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Pic related is the convo that sparked my concern.
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I realize the privacy of living alone is a wonderful thing, but like you said you're a introverted person, and you could find a good use for the money.
I'd honestly go for it, take the cash, and use it as a chance to just talk with someone, look at it as a place where you can learn how to be near someone. I realize that his would be harder than it ever sounds on text, it's not a switch, but to be fair, you did say yes.
She's upper level so she won't be there forever, and really you're helping someone out. She could help you with connection in college potentially, but really you don't have much to lose, and you've got quite a bit to gain. Take the leap and let her have the spare room and use this as a chance to learn more about yourself. If you can't handle it, then go visit a therapist, and talk about it, colleges normally have ones that are free, and you'll have more income to pay if you must.
If you can't sleep try taking melatoin, you can get it at your local pharmacy near the vitamans, and tell yourself over and over, that you are helping someone, you're making the world a bit better, and that she can't hurt you, she's not going to judge you, she won't insult you, she will probably be grateful for the opportunity. You will have to face this some day, so why not do it now when you have a good bit of upside for yourself?
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When you talk about it in person, mention an extremely high rent price, and then mention she also has to go halfsies on the bills, and you need first months rent upfront.
And if she can't do that, too bad so sad, and if she can do that.. Well, you just made some bank, and that should tide you over until you figure out how to make her leave, or start sleeping with her.
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Nipple Piercing
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So, /adv/, what's your opinion on pierced nipples? Pros/cons?
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I like the bars, but not the rings. The main issue is that, like any piercing, they can get caught on shit and heal poorly, or get ripped out entirely. And since clothing touches your chest all the time, the risk for nipple piercings is increased.
My previous boyfriend got his nipple ring caught on a stripper pole (don't ask) and that nipple hasn't been the same since. It now gets infected regularly, and is hypersensitive.
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>>17403469
Trashy as fuck, only the sluttiest whores have them.
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>>17403469
WARNING RED FLAG
DO NOT APPROACH.
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What to do for the rest of my life
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What should I do for the rest of my life? My only interests are computers, graphic design and film. People tell me to do computer science but I have mediocre grades (c+/b) and have no experience in programming ( I also hate math). As for graphic design, I love Photoshopping and computer art but it doesn't seem like there are too many jobs out there. What can I do? What else can I major in? i don't have a lot of talents...
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If the graphics are your thing, you could always get a Design major. You might probably not get a job for a long time, but then again you'll have better experience. Also, there's actually lots of non-official work for digital artists, like art commissions and such. So I don't see anything bad in at least trying to pursue your dream.
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>>17403463
Then move somewhere else, also, it doesn't matter what YOU like, what matters is what jobs are needed to be done.
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I had this same problem and I settled on biology. It's the easiest of the hard majors. You can easily get into lab tech, medical, or research. There's a hospital in every town in the US for you to work at. With the bioinformatics boom that happened about 6 years ago you can go thru bio then get masters in comp sci, make big bucks there or move out of bio totally into comp sci thru that training. The math, science, etc in bio is hard enough that it's challenging, but not like engineering-tier where you HAVE to be a god at math. You beat out all non-STEM plebs, office jobs get general education majors a dime a dozen. Your stem degree makes you look smart compared to them and companies notice. I came out of high school with no clue what to do and mediocre grades. Best decision of my life majoring in bio.