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>>17399744
There's nothing wrong with you, my friend.
$500 bucks, please.

Could be an STD, infection of some sort or you could've just passed a kidney stone.

Probably chlamydia.
Get it checked asap.

Therapy is your most reliable way to actually get over your anxiety. It will take time depending on the severity, but it will actually make it go for good.

If it's truly unbearable, see a psychiatrist and let him tell you if you need an anxiolitic or not.

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>>17399740
*Everything I'm about to say is in my own opinion/experience so keep that in mind*

I never had anxiety but lately (1-2 years-25y/o) it has been really bad. I feel it in my chest most of the time, and I know it's anxiety (not something with my heart) because exercise makes it go away.

For me, antidepressants (sertaline/zoloft) don't make it better, they make me not so depressed but more anxious IMO.

If you drink alcohol, stop. Being hungover is extremely anxiety provoking, even if it takes the edge off depression. Saying that, I am drinking right now.

For me, the anxiety is in my head, and to fight it i have to overcome what is in my head. Exercise (love to bike) helps, as well I have 2 dogs and I walk them about an hour a day. I need to work on keeping my mind more occupied so I don't have so much time to be alone with my thoughts. I have also been reading a lot which seems to work.

OP, you need to find the root of your anxiety and try to fight it from there, different strokes for different folks. >>17399918 is something you should try. Although for me psychs (I've seen 3) don't do anything for me and as I said the doctors pills don't do much for me. Ultimately it's going to be you that has to overcome your anxiety, but other people may help you with it.

Keep in mind, it could be worse, you could be literally trapped between two rocks until you die.

There are certain types of anxiety that you have due to physical processes I'm ignorant of, but if you feel like that's the case you should seek a psychiatrist.

On the other hand, there's the type of anxiety you feel as a conditioned response to certain experiences you had. For example, I've embarrassed myself in front of my entire classroom during school so many times that even now, years later, I still struggle with public speaking and being in front of a crowd because of the tension I feel. Even those cringe-inducing videos about someone doing something stupid in public are like gore to me, I just can't watch it.

If that is your case, then you should seek the root causes and try to remedy them. There's two ways: first, prepare yourself for the event (not a particular, actual event, the idea of the event in the abstract, like "talking to girls") by cutting away all the possible weaknesses that can get to you there in the moment. Second, expose yourself to a similar situation, but with less intensity and less risk, again and again until you have forced your mind to adapt to it. The problem with that is that it will be mostly self-therapy, even if you seek professional help, and your mind works in weird fucking ways that can make it difficult to identify the causes behind your anxiety.

For example, I once went to speech therapy because I was finding it really difficult to talk to people, and I was thinking that there might be something physically wrong with me, because I always spoke very fast and in very low volume, and the shit I said never made sense. People weren't fucking understanding me. The therapist told me that the problem was a lack of confidence, which I thought was bullshit, but then he gave me a list of things to do that really helped. Seemingly unrelated things, like getting to know the city and the names of streets, reading the news, watching sports and some popular TV shows, etc.

>>17399737

Did she cheat or not? I don't understand this.

yeah she basically admitted sleeping with this guy who she was not so proud of and apparentelly they went home together and she slept with him because she wanted to experiment

>>17399751

Time for confrontation. You broke her trust by going into her phone. But she utterly broke your relationship, by fucking some dude.

>>17399729
get a job

no buts

do it

>inb4 you rather stay like you are and continue shitposting about how depressed you are on /adv/ instead of actually doing something because its easier to self loathe

>>17399765
school is about to start ( i'm 18 pls no bully ) so that's something, but i'd have episodes where i wouldn't do shit and nearly fail my classes

also i live in the boonies with no car and every place is almost an hour away
i've also tried to find places to volunteer though but no one was willing to give me a ride

i get money through art commissions sometimes so it's not a completely pathetic situation

>>17399788
there, you have find something to do

center yourself more on your art commissions and your school, for the sake of it. Sometimes when we are in a dark place all we have to do is blindy charge forward until we reach light, don't kill yourself with nihilism thoughs, its clear that you have a lot of your life ahead of you and eventually you'll find your motivations, but it is absolutely stupid to worry yourself over it, specially at your age, rather just set yourself short term achievements that you know you can accomplish

getting good grades is your motivation now, doing the art commissions is your motivation now, being able to run a marathon is your motivation now, going to the beach i your motivation, etc. Asking yourself why why why why why will fucking kill you outright and you don't need a reason when you are so young and full of energy

short term small achivements, never ever look at any hypothetical big picture because that will only discourage you

Depending on where you live, a Volvo can be hard to get serviced. Also, is sounds like "vulva," and all your friends will tease you.

Go with the Ford.

>>17399771
>"vulva," and all your friends will tease you.
>implying I have friends
>implying I'd care if they made fun of a volvo.

yeah I'm kind of worried that service prices would be ridiculous for the volvo

Both those vehicles are not the best in terms of reliability. If possible try finding a Toyota.

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>>17399687
Travel as far as you can/afford there and back before school starts.

>>17399687
Read the reading on the syllabes for your classes.

>>17399656
The party better and they were aware of that but they kept complaining saying that I am being inconsiderate. They were bad mouthing me all night and they were not even drinking, they were just mad that I was not baby sitting their kids and that really made me annoyed.

I just ignored them and tried to keep the party going at the same pace but I am not sure what to do now that it is all over.

They brought it up to me today and said that I am a miserable person and extremely rude. I am very confused because this is the only night that I did not put their children first before everything else and that is because it was my wedding shower.

I feel like my relationship with their kids is ruined now and I feel really bad.

>>17399656
They are dicks. wew.

>>17399669
What should I do Anon? The kids are going to see me as a bad person now because their parents did not get what they wanted and will mess how they see things. I feel really shit. When I was growing up I wish I knew someone who had the same medical condition as me so I did not feel as isolated but now I feel like I can no longer be that person for her.

>>17399645
offer to do a 3some. the guy will love it, and she will too, since she is clearly gay for you

>>17399645
>Am I reading too much into it?

yes. She was being nice and you are acting like she wants to fuck you.

im gonna need a pic of you with the bikini and pic of her wet spot in order to give a meaningful answer

>>17399640
Make piece with it being expensive. In exchange for everything being close and less money on gas.

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>>17399640

depends on the city. we talked about this yesterday but you refused to tell us how much you generally make in tips.

i bring home 1500 dollars a month.
I have a two bedroom apartment in hollywood that costs 1520 a month. i pay 760 for my bedroom, and sublet the second room for the same.

this leaves me with 740.

expenses are as follows in pic related. this only leaves me with 90 bucks at the end of each month unfortunately. except for 4 months a year i get an extra weeks of pay, and i do get bonuses here and there.

sometimes my utilities are higher (probably this summer cuz i got an AC in my room) but they tend to balance out with months like december where i dont spend shit.

i can also reign in my 'fun' budget to thirty bucks a week instead of 50 if i need to save and my food buget is actually an extra 50 to account for things like soap and stuff.

>>17399640
Brandon when are you going to get banned?

I think I make the list for normie.

>23
>Live with best friend, introvert so don't see other friends, but they still know I'll hang out occasionally
>Girlfriend for the last few years, but we have our issues
>Got a good paying job that's fairly low stress. I don't worry about bills, and everything I own is paid for.


I think no matter where you're at in life, grass is always going to be greener somewhere else at some point.

I'm constantly depressed, and wanting to kill myself. But, it's an empty threat. I'd never do it. I don't get enough alone time, I'm constantly involved. I get off work, and if she's not attempting to guilt trip me into hanging out with her, she's having some sort of crisis that needs my help.

I know, you're thinking "at least you have a fucking GF" but really it's not all that. I think about breaking up all the time. You end up sacrificing so much of you're own personal NEET time as you might be more familiar with, and after awhile, it truly tears you apart.

All I want to do.. Is go home, order a pizza, drink soda, and play video games.. And, the majority of the time, despite having everything a normal guy could ever want, I don't get to do the one thing I'd like to do, based on the responsibilities being a fucking normie comes with.

I don't know how to go about it. I'm between wanting to break up, wanting to kill myself, and wanting to turn my phone off and say fuck everything so that I can get a fucking chance at being able to relax.

I'm miserable, my frog posting friend. And, I'm currently sitting at work posting on 4chan making over 12 bucks an hour, and I'm still absolutely miserable.

I have dreams, I have aspirations, and they're all completely out of reach, due to reality and obligations.

>>17399635

the world isnt divided between normies and frogposters. the best personality tests have at least sixteen options and they arent anywhere near perfect.

you see happiness because you look at people who are smiling. i step on the bus and all i see are people sitting alone on their phone or in their book or just staring blankly, seemingly miserable.

but once they get where they are going they probably arent bored.

my fitness instructor said that i seem like a way too serious guy who takes everything too seriously. my friends see me as a borderline clown. you see what people are presenting in that moment.

most people have an issue where they dont understand beyond the moment. with friends they may think 'wow i am so loved life is great'. then home alone they are like 'wow im lonely THAT MUST MEAN IM SECRETLY MISERABLE EVEN WHEN IM WITH FRIENDS'.

people think whatevery they feel in that moment is permanent. its interesting.

friends a gf and money dont really make people happy. thats why marriages are so shit. its actually having meaningful relationships iwth those people, and more importantly yourself, that define your happiness.

ive been single for four years an im extremely happy. ive had no friends and no gf and no money and been happy.

on the flip side ive had all those things and been miserable.

happiness starts from wtihin and works its way out.

>can normalfags be miserable
Yes.
My life is awesom, but because of screw brain wiring I am chronically depressed and I have an anxiety disorder.
I have little to be depressed or anxious about, I have very few regrets, and my life is almost exactly what I want.
And yet I am depressed and anxious most of the day.
I pretend to be happy, and I try to find moments of real happiness throughout the day; even if it's admiring a pretty bird or finding a good parking spot. But bad feelings are always in the background.
I hide my emotions, and that is very isolating. Because of that I do often feel lonely, despite being happily married, having a great relationship with my parents and siblings, and having real long lasting friendships.

I have to constantly remind myself that it's my brain chemistry screwing with me. But that does actually bring me a measure of comfort.

>>17399625
Maybe you're narcoleptic, maybe you have a sleep disorder. Easiest quick fix solutions would be stimulants. Caffeine being the obvious legal option. You can get ritalin or even amphetamines on prescription.

>>17399625
sleep more at night

>>17399625
whenever the urge to nap comes. Stand up and do a chore. Dishes, vaccuum, whatever just something on your feet that requires you to move around.

the fuck are you going on about?


the point of quitting things like video games and internet is that you can push the time and energy spent on those things towards something else you want to try and do. to simply quit without a plan is to say 'im going to go on a diet' and then not eating anything ever.

you need to know what you want to do with your time.

>>17399628
>you need to know what you want to do with your time.


Well no shit nigger

I was going to code and do math and read /biz/ stuff and I started that shit
Then I stopped and played video games and/or internet addiction.

I eventually decided to replace the addiction with Movies at least ...and actually that is a great idea right now but I cant even bring myself to watch a movie.... fuck I wanna get laid.

>>17399639

what are you even here for then?

yes that is definitely a brain tumor
i am a certified 4chan doctor and can tell easily based on what you told us.

>>17399605

go to a doctor.

That's normal, it's nothing to worry about.

>>17399574
>>I´ve been working out and doing other healty activities (with people) for a month

That should have fixed you

Get a gf or something.

>>17399574

please define 'introvert' 'extrovert' for me, becuase everyone on /adv/ seems to just use it to describe whatever the fuck they want. the actual definition refers to how people recharge best. we are all closer to the middle than anyone admits, but introverts recharge with alone time and extroverts recharge with social time.

it is normal to be degrees of both. i am introverted in the sense that i need alone time to recharge, but i still need to socialize quite a bit. i just find that exhausting. but like a massage what was first relaxing eventually becomes the pressure, and i need to go socialize.

as for 'cant sleep' id appreciate more information on this as well. are you suggesting that oyu literally dont sleep at all? for how long? describe your habits plans patterns and attempts at sleep.

Do you smoke weed?