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>>17402532
Thanks but what about outside the internet?

>>17402529


Pretty girls with low self esteem usually have daddy issues or are really poor. Not necessarily where to find them, but look for signs and pounce. A tell-tale sign is if she's got a pixie cut, is really into feminism, or drinks a like a sailor.

If depends how you want to talk about it. Its noce to bring it up on casual conversation how much you like it but outside of that, most people may be too busy. That said if you know these people well on a friendly basis, a casual greeting and short blip how you started a new job and loving it may not hurt.

When you tell someone what you do, they automatically categorize it in terms of if you make more or less than you do. That's further subdivided into whether or not you deserve it.

Also people don't want to hear that you're happy with your job when they are fucking ready to commit sodoku over theirs. Be happy, but keep it to yourself. Unless of course you're an attention whore, and considering you started a thread on a Korean recipe exchange board, you may be.

>>17402523
same here. 31 years old, now starting the last year of muh bachelor's degree. work 25 hours a week.
what country r u from?

As an adult, you have right now psychopathic tendencies.

>>17402470
i'm not a psycho. even if i had an urge i would never act upon it. that doesnt answer my question tho.

>12 I´s in same post
nice blog narcistic retard. you dont care about anyone and nobody cares about you.

>how do I deal with this?
Believe or not in something it's optional.
For some people, believe in something it's good, bring warm to heart, help to face fears and death and make them usually good people.
For others ones, not believe in anything make them clear of mind to take their own path in life.
In both cases, the end it's the same. The small diference is how you choose to deal with the end.
>And does that make me a bad person?
Not at all. Unless you was a jerk with your grandpa.

I recently went through this. Just mourn him as you feel you should. Belief in an afterlife is absolutely not needed to be able to mourn and respect his memory.

>>17402446
>I can't bring myself to believe in a deity or an afterlife - how do I deal with this?
Some people need that comfort, some don't. Even if your grandpa was super religious, I wouldn't feel guilty about it.

You either believe, or you don't. Personally, I think pretending to believe is worst than not believing. It's more honest, at least.

Man, shut the fuck up.

You must be at least 18 years old to post here.

Reyes, this is pretty much why they shut down Blackwatch and took down Overwatch with it. Now get off your Japanese porn forum and get back to flanking point B.

HIIT + Keto diet + intermittent fasting. You can't lose fat from any specific part of your body. You lose it all equally (from your face, hands, etc.). Chances are, though, you have cellulite which is just the absence of muscle fibre and the only way to get rid of that is to squat/deadlift etc.

>>17402383

It's dieting, bro. Even if you excercise like there's no tomorrow, without a dieting you don't her decent results.

>>17402407

This. Local spot reduction is a myth. Losing weight is 80% food, 20% exercise. Start eating healthily (veggies/fruit/fish/nuts/chicken) and cut out all the sweets/cookies/potato chips. Count calories. The difference between staying the same weight and noticably dropping weight is 500 kcal (rougly 1/4 of your day intake), which is the equivalent of a fairly-sized chocolate-covered doughnut.

>>17402380
"BA, My University, December 2016 (One class left to take)"

>nice to everybody

Considering your behaviour I have doubts. Its the biggest red flag if anyone describes themselves as nice.

Advice would be to break up with your gf and grow up. Trying to force a girl to send nudes and getting angry and while in a relationship speaks volumes over who you really are. I feel for your family.

None of this matters. Just don't do too many stupid things and you'll be fine, asshole.

Wait, you have a girlfriend, too?
I'm surprised you don't feel the need to confess this to her. Bonkers lead to fucked up impulses so it's not exactly strange, but you have to try to control yourself and ask yourself if this is really the person you want to be.

*shrug* do it if you want, but if you've got no chemistry, you've got no chemistry.

Either way, it's not like it's the end of the world if you make an ass out of yourself or have another awkward date

No.

>>17402328
are you crazy. that is not friend material so the answer is NO

>>17402328

No. She will end up making life much more complicated and create more stress for yourself. Be polite, but don't be around her if you can help it.

>>17402321
Your selfish reasons are all totally valid reasons for volunteering. Don't think you are not "pure" enough.

You might think out your choices this way. You can work with a "big schemes" organization (Red Cross, Oxfam, Save The Children, various disease fighters, etc) that does life-saving work on a big scale, but never really see the results. Or you can go local and small-scale (food kitchen, help-the-homeless, animal shelter, etc) knowing that what you're doing is a drop in the bucket, but seeing the immediate results to the few people you help.

Contact an organization. Admit openly that you're "shopping" for a cause to work with and ask if they can use you for a week or two, to start.

>>17402336
I'm looking at a small organization that helps immigrants and refugees with clothing, food, education, legal work and I'm liking the idea.

It seems pretty much every institution is religious-based. I'm pretty sure they don't give a fuck about my personal beliefs but am I expected to uphold a facade or try to evangelize or something?

*shrug* I'm similar to him.

I've heard similar complaints leveled at me from both my family and my girlfriend.

In my case it's not a past trauma, I'm just not used to opening up to people and don't really like doing it. I do it on occasion, but 95% of the time I internally process it and figure it out on my own. It's just more comfortable for me and it's how i've learned to operate.

I say this as someone who was depressed for almost a decade--dipping to suicidal levels at the lowest--and eventually dug his way out of it without external aids.

Is that shit healthy? No. But it's what I'm used to, what I know, and what I prefer.

That being said, that doesn't at all mean I don't trust my girlfriend, nor that I don't try to confide in her.

I do--more than anyone else--and I try for her sake, but i'd still rather handle shit on my own 95% of the time.

Honestly, sometimes it's frustrating hearing her say I'm not trying, because I AM trying, and her saying i'm not just kind of makes me feel like... my efforts are unacknowledged, unnoticed, and unappreciated.

And honestly, she's the type who OVER worries about things and is OVER sensitive, and so occasionally she'll bug me about it when I'm not at all bothered by anything ( I have a naturally contemplative face), and it kind of irks me because it feels like she's trying to make drama where drama doesn't exist, and it makes me worried that she won't be able to handle it in the moments when I DO confide in her, and it makes me want to handle the shit on my own even more.

But personally, I'm cognizant of all that, so I force myself to confide, even when I don't feel like it, and also I call her out on her shit when she's being pestering for no reason (and feel like the latter lets me do the former). I've opened up more and more as more times gone by.


So my advice to you:

Nagging is the absolute worst thing you can do.
It will only make him LESS likely to confide in you.

Be there, be patient. It's a slow process.

>>17402311
Tell him he can talk about the things that bother him whenever he wants to, but only remind him of that once in a while. Otherwise it will feel like you're putting pressure on him. Just make him feel comfortable and wait.

>>17402311
You just need to let him know that "you're there for him" if he trust you, sooner or late he will talk

>>17402286
>woman doing for a man
lol might as well just say fuck your masculinity

>>17402286
The big thing is, I like her, and I know if I tell her that I forgot to call It's just going to make me look really bad.

Everything you can say will make you look unappreciative and ungrateful. Maybe this will teach you to pay more attention in the future.

>This is for an interview at supermarket

Why do these shitty jobs always have such shitty interviews?

>>17402287
Couldnt tell ya but I need a good example answer to it

>>17402280
Once when i was queing for a carwash in an abnormally long queue on an abnormally hot day, the people who ran the carwash walked along the queue and offered a complimentary bottle of water (or cup of coffee for those with AC).

A technician who did some work for me had been dealing with a troublesome installation, and he gave me his private number in case it started acting up outside work hours. I phoned him, and he insisted to assist me via phone to resolve the issue once and for all, despite being on holiday.

>>17402267
I don't see how it's a problem.

>>17402267
She's nearly an adult. The age diffeence isn't really this big, you should be able to hang out normally.

That's disgusting. Of course her parents will worry. Stick to friends at most 1 year apart... Not to mention if anybody were to see you two in public. I would be uncomfortable