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So due my appearance I always stand out in public. I'm actually a very handsome guy if i so may so myself, so most of the time it's ok.

But it gives me actually a lot of anxiety. Many times when I was going out for a drunk, some random drunk dude tells me he sees me a lot bicycing or in a bus.
I always seems to be watched and noticed a lot in public, and it makes me very anxious.

What kind of mentality do I need to battle this? I actually have a hard time leaving the house for this, because I feel people don't leave me alone cause I seem to give them so much emotional energy when they see me.
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>>17400303

humble bragging aside, what oyu say isn't uncommon. even many ugly people give off this sort of vibe.

some people, for whatever reason, are 'interesting'.

I once met a person who wouldnt stop looking at me funny, and finally he asked 'weren't you sora from kingdom hearts for halloween a couple years ago?'. and he was correct. three years ago. he had recognized me out of a crowd of hundreds of costumes.

its weird, but it happens. perhaps to a more insane degree to you. but all you ahve to remember is
>nothing matters

if they liek you, great. if they dont, who cares? does it matter if they recognize you? it gives a dash of paranoia wondering if you'll do something embarassing, but EVERYONE does embarassing shit. so ultimately, what does it matter if someone chooses to think about it or even call you out on it? smack a bitch and move ojn
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>>17400370
yeah you're right, i personally do care to much if people like me. hmm this gives me another problem, but ill figure it out. thx bro

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I'm having a lot of social difficulties and could really do with some suggestions!

It all boils down to this; people seem to like me and I generally get on well with everyone, but I'm not the guy people approach for conversation, to invite out etc, or they seem to prefer speaking to others. Thing is, I can't see what I'm doing wrong. I take a genuine interest in people, ask them about themselves, share a bit about myself (and I live an active life, so I wouldn't say I'm boring), and yet my social life is pretty quiet in comparison to everyone else's.

This even extends to the internet. I talk to people one-to-one, but when I read their conversations with other people they're seemingly more enthusiastic/enjoying themselves more. The only thing I can pinpoint there is that I have this very formal way of writing online, so some may see it as being too serious, idk.


Help?
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>>17400280
Are you me? I used to mind this shit so much before, but now not so much. But I still wonder what you and me are "missing"
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You ARE boring. And I don't mean that your life is boring, I mean the way you talk, look and act is boring, mundane. Nothing you do makes people interested in you, nothing sets you apart from everyone else, everything they're used to already. You're that guy with whom I hold a somewhat pleasant conversation, then forget everything about you 10 minutes after we part. I'm not an expert, so I don't know what you should do, but I'm pretty sure that's the issue. There are ways to change that and there's plenty of books out there that can help you. I suggest The art Of seduction and 48 laws of power, both by Robert Greene. They're not exactly on this topic, but they touch it a little.
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Your problem is simple.

You care too much about what others will think say or do if you were the real you.

If you are the real you when you speak to people rhwn youre just a boring person. Anything though... including your personality can be improved.

It all depends on how serious you are on changing. Read some books... practice on checkout attendants.

I was socially awkward as fuck until i got a job where i had to interact with customers... i felt like a fool the first 6 months not knowing what to say but eventually you pick up on the way society socializes.

Best way to be social is to put yourself into it. I used to be very introverted and not speak to many people. now it takes me less time to feel comfortable around someone and act silly or crack a joke.

Goodluck

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I find both interesting. Mathematics because of the money I can easily make from it. English because I love simply sitting down and reading for hours every day.
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You need to consider what you want in the end. The decision's also not as black and white as I guarantee almost every other poster in this thread will make it seem.
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>>17400282
I mostly want something fun to do. English is easier because it's just reading and I love reading.
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>>17400274
Heed these words- if you like math, you can make a pretty buck but try not to major in math, major in its applications, like engineering or the math side of economics. If you do major in math, concentrate on a specific lucrative route like statistics. If not, if you do just cruise along and stick with the thereotical side of it, you are absolutely guaranteed to become a teacher, which does not pay well if money is your concern

As for English, you can still get a good job in it- build up your portfolio ASAP and you can become a copywriter or technical writer, both of which pay decently. I say "ASAP" because the vast majority of English majors will still be vainly trying to be novelists, if you start early, you'll have a full decade of experience before they try to break into the field in their 30s

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Hey /adv/,

how does one react to signals from a girl? Recently I've met up with this cute girl from tinder, she shown me around the city, we had a great chat - she was really assertive, but the in places that were empty, she quieted down. I assume that was a signal, but I was too beta to do anything.... so what would be the best reaction to that?
Thanks, and sorry for being a faggot
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OP here,
it was around a lake, she just completely stopped and just looked at the lake for a few minutes.
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You hit her in the head with your pocket brick, knock her out and then rape the shit out of her. What else?

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Is jerking off and not cumming bad? Also what happens to the cum that goes down the cum tube in my balls when it doesn't get shot out?

I do this a lot, and it seems like it produces a very mild pain but sometimes I jerk it till it's rock hard and have to answer the phone or something.

Is this bad for my health and am I wasting cum or will it go back down and be saved for later?
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Retrograde_ejaculation

boom
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I read the wiki btw.

Do you cum without ejaculating, or do you just stop jerking before climax?

If 1. Talk to doctor. If 2. No thoughts. Don't think.

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How do I learn to hang out with me people?

My parents never let me have friends when I was younger so now that I am at college I literally have no idea how to hang out or really have constructive conversations. I more or less spent all of my time not at school at home on web forums so I'm totally lost
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>>17400229
spoiler you might become alcoholic
when i arrive at a party i drink to feel less inhibited
quickly become tipsy and make weird joke
drink again because shamed of self
repeat till death
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>>17400229
Hello Anon, your problem is in your question. You blame your parents for you being an introvert. But you are at college now and it's all up to you.

Firstly, give up the web forums. It makes you think that you're being social, but you aren't. Stop. Now. Web forums are a cesspool. 4chan is an unflushed toilet, good for laughs but nothing else.

You're on campus. Join some clubs. Hang out where other students do. When there, don't be on your phone, rather have a good book in front of you with the cover visible. Some one who knows the book may well approach you, that's an easy way to advertise.

The lurkers here on /adv/ who complain that that they have no life in real life aren't trying, they are too scared. Being online is easier and more comfortable, but it's not fulfilling.
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>>17400346
Do you laugh at unflushed toilets?

srs good advice however. Listen to him OP. My tip would be to start with a church community if you don't feel too weird about religion. Those people are usually very welcoming

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Did anal with the lady switched to pussy notice an odd smell emanating from her vag, could it be some sort of contamination? If so how do we fix it
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>>17400222
your lady has bacterial vaginosis. never go from ass to pussy without washing thoroughly or changing condoms.

she needs to see a doc and get treated. usually they use metronidazole. can be in a pill or a cream. should clear up after a day or 3.
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>>17400237
Riip can I buy that stuff otc?
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Jesus op. Never mix holes unless you're going from pussy to ass or she's used a freaking enema. Nasty.

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Im talking to this girl i met, who I gotta say is the prettiest girl in the world to me rn. We hit it off and hung out a few times. The 2nd time we hung out she said she was with someone and she was going to break it off because shes been going through a cycle with them and shes grown tired of it, so she was really depressed (you can tell more times than others. And this was a real turn on for me just because of her straight forward honesty) after she said that she looked at me, gave me some eyes and said "but i think ill get over it just fine". I avoided the subject and told her to go the park where we hung out for the rest of the day, drinking smoking talking just enjoying each others company. ive tried asking her on dates 3 times and all 3 times were cancelled. The most recent i asked her to go to the movies with me and she agreed but the day of i think she turned her phone off as my texts got no responses and my phone calls went straight to voicemail. I didnt hear anything back until 2 days later when I texted "hey". Honestly i didnt wanna know what happened that day and why she didnt respond so i just carried on a conversation. Now for the past couple weeks we havent talked nearly as much and its a hit or miss whether or not she responds to my texts/snaps. I havent asked to hang out or anything on account of my confidence being shot getting stood up 3 times. The last time we hung out and after our last phone call she said she had a great time and to stay in contact. Now she leaves my snapchats unopened but has no problem posting on her story. And she hasnt responded to my last text which was a video of a dog i said reminded me of hers. Sowhat you guys think. Should i keep trying? or do you think shes talking to someone else? I dont mind cutting her off we have no mutual friends so we would never see each other again, but i really liked what shes flaunted, feel me?
P.S. i bought her a hand vaccu she really wanted, like cmon thats gotta show im invested haha
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Next time post in greentext, your post is a hassle to read.

>Should i keep trying?
No. It's obvious that she's not interested. Move on, find someone else, there's plenty of pretty girls out there.
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>>17400221
I think you failed to act the 2nd time when she was hinting. You had your window of opportunity bud.

In my experience however, people who are depressed, and people who claim to depressed while they're not, are both really tough to be in a relationship with. And they both usually say impulsive and emotional things which they then regret.

I'm a uni student with really long summer holidays. I have no hobbies and no real interests so I just sit around staring at a screen all day.
What should I really be doing with my holiday?
The only thing I seem to enjoy doing outside is going on walks, so should I do anything besides that?
And what should I read in my spare time?
I don't know if normal people are sitting around wasting my time like me or doing cooler things like learning new skills.
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>>17400209
Decide on what you want to major in, then try to get an internship or volunteering position in that field now. You want to show that you know what you want, and better still, that you know specifically about what you're passionate in (I.e. Not just liking econs and oh I want that econs major then, but what specific aspect of it you'll want to pursue). If you can't, at least try to learn the basics online, or get any job for some beer money later on. A lot of people spend this free time volunteering, which you can from the goodness of your heart, but don't do it for any college application, the number of entitled "of course I'll be successful in my application, I built houses in CAMBODIA!" sort of brats I've seen, are just eye-rolling.

If you are worried about applications, brush up your English skills, I've seen good funny essays about, just, everyday life. Or hang around France and hope to get injured by a terrorist attack or something, then you'll have something sensationalist to write about. Just don't write about traveling or volunteering, it's too common and easily gets holier-than-thou

Also getting fit is always a good idea

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A relative broke out a $200+ bottle of wine this weekend and well, it was really underwhelming.

It tasted like any other wine.

What's the point of this stuff? Why do people like wine so much? Is there something I'm missing?
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>>17400204
It has a special sour taste that doesn't overwhelm the taste of good food. I only drank wine with good food in the beginning so I guess it started to have some very positive associations for me. Now the price doesn't really matter, just go with what you like. There are many wine experts with a couple of favorites is in the midrange or lower.

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Can a guy be a slut?
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It depends on your definition of a slut. It's a socially-defined concept, so the word 'slut' doesn't have an objective definition.
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Yes.
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>>17400181
Yes.

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Is there a way to join a discord server without automatically being put in a channel? If so, how? Even better, is there a way to see that discord without my username appearing on the side?
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Get help about stalking people instead.
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Can someone help me?

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HELP

my boyfriend (we're gay) wants me to top him, but i am like a complete bottom and have trouble staying hard with a condom on as well so im not sure ill even be able to maintain an erection let alone please him

i have 2 days before we meet up, is there anything I can do/take to improve my performance and psyche myself up for the task?
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Use a cock ring or some Viagra if you can get your hands on some. Then you can at least stop worrying about whether or not you can keep it up.
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>>17400161

how does viagra work?

does it give me a boner literally all the time? like, even after i ejaculate? i feel like that would be kinda suspicious

will he know that ive taken it? i dont want him to feel insecure or anything...

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I'm moving into an apartment and my roommates are gun owners. I'm legally not allowed to live in a house with guns. What should I do?
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>>17400140
let your new roomies know the situation and start looking for a new place asap. hopefully they'll be understanding about it.

how come you can't live in a place with guns? did you shoot somebody?
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You don't move in.

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How do you help somebody become self-aware? Is it possible or can a person live their life completely unaware of their actions? What would be involved if you can help them? I don't know who else to ask and it's becoming such a problem for the household especially given the circumstances. I'll give more info on what I mean if this thread gets some replies.
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Come on guys any help??
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>>17400138
>>17400410

Yes, I believe someone can exist without being truly self aware. Part of that is realizing that you yourself may not be "truly" self aware.

And generally, I'd say the only way to help someone in this regard is to do whatever they do to others, to them. Explanation or reasoning usually only results in them feeling the need to go on the defense.

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