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>tfw friend starts talking about how "we're" going to be such good father's

What's the diference?

>>17407363
Emptiness is a lot more tangible with drugs and alcohol

>>17407325
So explain that shit to her, not us. Your problem is a breakdown in communication. If you can't speak to her in person because she shuts down or interrupts you or whatever, then send her an email. Write her a note. Something in text so she can't interrupt your thoughts.

Express how you feel about your relationship. What hurts you, how she hurts you, how you don't like to be around when she treats you badly, etc. Then say how you want to fix things, but it's up to her to work with you.

That's it. All there is to it.

>>17407325
You're mad at your mom because she has a history of being bad towards you. This is normal, my mom was the same but I get over it sometimes. Your mom sounds worse than mine though. Do you know any good qualities in her?

>>17407351
>Competitive and focused (this hurt all her old relationships with friends apparently)

>Religious

>Has some skill in a couple areas (mostly because of first trait)

She's like a feminist Peggy Hill irl

>>17407332
I want to do this but it's hard. Her sister (my aunt) did the email thing a decade ago and Mom didn't even fully apologize and discounted everything she said.

She'll do the same and reflect everything if I email my OP statements. I think I'll just introduce them slowly, one at a time, in conversation.

not a lawyer so can't help but want someone to
bump

>>17407324
nope.

Insuring your property is your responsibility.

Doesn't sound like it. It isn't mandatory to have security cameras.

>>17407322
>My friend that works for Apple is too busy jerking it to bob Ross paints Mohammed

haha so fuenny op ur the jest master

>How do I undo it?
Maybe you should've thought about this before buying apple products.

Sure it is.

Go out with friends (assuming u have them), go to a party or something and look around for girls and talk to a few.

I would say that decide if she about fits to your expectations of one, or think she might, and getting their number, fb or snapchat.

I have a girlfriend from highschool for a bit more than a year. She isnt the most gorgeous one, but when i saw her when i started school, she did fit some of my physical exp. But when i met her, i was amazed because i never thought such a girl could even exist.

The point is, i did not fall for her looks, but i kept thinking about all of her good (inner) sides and like after a month or so, i had found her really really attractive.

So get her contact and hit her up, talk, and go out, if u think she is the one for you, you should know what to do.

Cheers mate!

>>17407319
>I'm 27 and I'd like to find a girlfriend, eventually get married, and have a few kids.
It's a facade, don't do it.

OP people are getting married at 40+ and still having kids. That's more on the late end but still okay. You got time but don't waste it.

>>17407315
You do realize that the point of going to school is to be qualified to do the career you want, right? Quitting with 1 year to go to try and get a job in your career is counter-intuitive. You can't get your career until you finish school.

Unless your career is unrelated to what your degree is, in which case you fucked up, and you need to change your major to what career you want.

>>17407323
Sorry should have clarified. I'll be doing my practicum along with classes in the other city also. Essentially my uni has 2campuses abroad (which I belong to) and 2 in the US. I'll be attending the campus in New Jersey while living in manhattan. I'm still looking for internships tho

>>17407329
Great, then you have nothing to worry about. As long as you are working toward the degree and getting the experience along the way to help you become more employable when you graduate.

So what's the problem?

>>17407312
YouTube channels for some late night shows have ads on all of their videos. The only one I know of for certain is Team Coco.

Usually only popular videos or channels have ads. You won't see an ad on that 10 second clip of a kid falling. You'll see them on music videos, vlogs and viral videos

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>>17407302
Cut off your fingers.
>>Brilliant idea.

Weird, the same thing is happening to me right now as well.
Anyway this is what I do to heal it.
I use a pumice scrub that I bought, hold my hands under running water and scrub in circular motions.
Then I dry of my hands slightly, and do the same once more.

After that I use a really fat moisturizer and massage it into my palms and fingertips.

It has cleared up in two days now.

>>17407302
this happens to me sometimes, what I do is let them soak in warm water for a long time. It usually works for me.

>>17407290

Feel good that you dodged it. I had an insta, snap, twitter and FB with lots of friends and followers. It was a very hollow high each time and the moment I realized how disingenuous it all was I deleted all of my accounts. The moment I stopped while snapping a picture and thought "are you taking this for you or for 'them'?" was the breaking point.

People and friends acted really shocked like I committed suicide or something. The only thing I kept was an alt FB so I could still chat with family back in my country.

Screw social media. I like when news or events can break out from it but the rest of the time it is very narcissistic and silly. I now cover my face or turn when people are only updating a social media status with me in the shot.

Get a better set of friends. I make a few actually good posts and photos and get lots of likes.

>>17407290
>compliments and empty remarks.

I have social media, ITs a pretty great feeling to get a ton of likes, but like you said, its hollow.

Theres some good, like for networking with people that could help your career, but overindulgence is a waste if time.

>>17407283
Go back to tumblr

>People who look at others sexually automatically dehumanize them, it's annoying
Yes, because when people look at others sexually they want to fuck animals or inanimate objects. You're being bothered by natural human behavior. You are an idiot.

If you're not interested don't acknowledge them.

>>17407300
I'm not an idiot.

Turn off adblock

do you have adblock on? that might do it. adblock tends to block a lot of stuff with "adv" in it

Something like that happened to me for the longest time too. Only board on 4chan I couldn't visit.

Then one day it just randomly started working.

>>17407255
bump

It takes practice. Just make a habit of playing a pickup game with friends every so often and you'll be better.

Fuck anyone that thinks you look weird, if you're having fun, do it.

I will die alone, upside down, on the floor of the pub toilet.

>>17407251
Get married, buy a house, eventually buy some jet skis, eventually buy a lake place we can go to in the summer.

No kids. Neither my girlfriend nor myself want them. So all of our goals are very achievable given our income and where we want to settle. Both of us are happy in our jobs, too, so the "ratrace" of work isn't really a ratrace at all for us. We're doing what we love and getting paid for it.

When it comes to setting your own goals and dreams, make a list. Not a timetable. Timetables are stressful and will make you feel as though you failed if you didn't meet the deadline. Just make a list of everything you want. Then make a list of the ways you can achieve that.

retire and live in comfort

>>17407241
There’s the problem with reading the books that everyone else has read: it makes you more like everyone else.
Here my suggestions:
>Cyropaedia
>The Moral Sayings of Publius Syrus: A Roman Slave by Publius Syrus
>Meditations (from Gregory Hays only, the others are bad)
>The Lives of the Most Excellent Painters, Sculptors, and Architects by Giorgio Vasari
>The Man Without a Country by Edward E. Hale
>Civil War Stories by Ambrose Bierce
>Forty Years a Gambler on the Mississippi by George Devol
>Hunger by Knut Hamsun
>Letters from a Self-Made Merchant to His Son by George Horace Lorimer
>My Life and Battles by Jack Johnson
>Company K by William March
>Babbitt by Sinclair Lewis
>Asylum: An Alcoholic Takes the Cureby William Seabrook
>Ask the Dust by John Fante
>Why Don’t We Learn from History and Strategy by BH Liddell Hart
>The Crack Up by F. Scott Fitzgerald
>On the Rock: Twenty Five Years in Alcatraz by Alvin Karpis
>Death Be Not Proud by John Gunther
>The Harder They Fall by Budd Schulberg
>Losing the War by Lee Sandlin
>The Measure of My Days by Florida Scott Maxwell
>The Tiger: A True Story of Vengeance and Survival by John Vaillant

Have fun.

>>17407241
consider the lobster

"The Bhagavad Gita" translated by Ranchor Prime.

Bump. I would like some thoughts.

>>17407221
Break up with her so she can have a relationship with someone who actually appreciates her.

>>17407221
So she's coming over to your country, soonish? I'd say wait until she comes over. Maybe the spark will relive when she meets your family, your culture, ...
Where are you from by the way? Might be an influence to her reaction.