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Religious husband and abortion 2016-07-30 01:35:54 Post No.17408316
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Religious husband and abortion
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>be dating now-husband
>I got pregnant
>we dread about the abortion, even though I knew that this is what we have to do
>I couldn't afford Planned Parenthood, they wouldn't give me the help even though I wasn't working and I didn't have health insurance
>I turn to "friends" but they couldn't help me
>I can't imagine going to my mom for help, she never knew about it because even though she isn't religious, she's superstitious
>I can't go to my husband's family for help, they're extremely religious Catholics
>I stressed for a while, then decided that I was desperate enough to get the meds from the deep web
>I had the abortion successfully
>I had a intrauterine infection from it
>cured, all is good
>this fucked me up mentally for a while, I always wished that my womb would be scarred forever and the scar would prevent me from ever having children. Justice for a 2-month old fetus, you know?
>husband never expressed much emotions about it until today
>he went to his family's church today for reasons I don't know
>he confessed to the priest
>the priest wouldn't even lis to it, just told my husband that he to go do something else
>the priest has abandoned my husband
>husband calls me sobbing, telling me he's going to hell for what we did
>what we did was the worst thing possible
>I tried to tell him that there's greater evil out there and he's far from this worst person on earth
>husband was inconsolable
>I look at the bibles that we were given during our relationship on the bookshelf
>feel this seething anger and sadness at the same time
I've always been an atheist my whole life, even when I grew up around my mom trying many different religions. I never feared god, I only feared people and their intentions. How do I help my husband to feel better?
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YOU WILL BURN, YOU DEVIL WORSHIPING HERETIC
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Unless you make him give up his god, I do not believe you can.
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HE WILL KNOW NO GOD, ONLY THE FIRES OF HELL
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What is the best way to numb the pain of perpetual loneliness? I'm a KHV and will likely remain one. Drugs are not an option.
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Masturbate
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>>17408288
Drugs. Go travelling. Go to /r9k/ and stop shitting up this board with virgins whinging.
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>>17408292
>Go to /r9k/ and stop shitting up this board with virgins whinging.
Piss off you faggot. If you want to give normal people advice then go to a website full of normal people.
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How do you know if theres chemistry between you and your crush, and how do you know if it's just just a crush or if it's more serious? I seriously never know.
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>>17408278
nothing is ever 'more serious' until both parties take the time to invest something in it.
at its core a 'crush' is just the little flutters of happiness you get at seeing someone attractive and perhaps has a nice personality (so far). if there was some science to knowing how this would pan out, everyone woudl already be aware and we'd live in perfect monogamous relationships. but the fact that two people who seem perfect can seemingly split up over something as simple as a bad day tells us that its all just fucking random.
if you like someone, pursue them. get to know them. and if you still like them, keep going. keep going til that feeling fades. no reason not to unless they are an overall hindrance to your life.
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>>17408329
also if you want to know if there is 'chemistry' between you and your 'crush' (stop using that word btw, you're an adult now (supposedly)) simply stop treating them like a 'crush'. in gradeschool you wouldnt tell your crush your feelings cuz cartoons told you not to. it was supposed to be a secret for unknown unwritten reasons.
reality is different. if you are interested in someone, ask them on a date. if they are not interested, they will say no. if they are interested, they will say yes.
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Protip: chemistry isn't something that "is", it's something you create.
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Could I hire a lawyer? 2016-07-30 01:13:39 Post No.17408259
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>Up north for a week
>BF stayed behind
>Gives friend ride home not knowing he is shitfaced, knew he had a few though
>Kid is 17
>Didn't give BF a warning to pull over, throws up out window but since he is drunk a lot got inside as well
>BF pissed because he knows I hate vomit and can't stand it, knows I'll be pissed when I find out
>Kicks kid out and makes him walk the rest of the way home
>Next day I find out and tell kid to pay for it to be reupholstered because it's gross and stained
>BF tried to clean up as much as possible but it's in cracks of window and has stained seats and what not
>Kid refuses
I've tried contacting his mom but she is a pos crackhead so she doesn't answer her phone really and probably doesn't give a shit
Idk what to do but I'm not trying to have nasty stains in our car that I just got.
Is there anything I can do? Hire a lawyer? Any other advice?
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Lawyer will cost more than getting the seats fixed. You can take it to small claims (or your equivalent), they will likely find in your favour, but also find that the kid has no money. You will then get $2 a week for the next 25 years. Just get a pro to clean it, theylll get it all out.
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That's what I've settled for doing at this point. I even told the kid to at least pay for it to be cleaned which is only $75. He said okay at first but changed his mind and it's frustrating because I don't have the spare cash to pay for it myself right now. Thanks for the advice
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>>17408259
did your bf buy him any beers? 17 is way below legal age to drink
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Im an uncircumcised virgin and I was going to hire a prostitute tomorrow to lose my virginity.
Today I bought a condom to practice putting it on.
Wtf are you supposed to do with your foreskin?
I tried peeling it back and then putting the condom on but the foreskin wants to retract and the condom starts to fall off. Also masturbating fucking hurt without the foreskin.
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Just put the condom on while the foreskin is in it's "normal" position
Am I missing something here?
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If you're American, you might get turned down for having an uncut dick. Prostitute or not. :/
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Your only way to solve this most terrible fate is to castrate yourself, and replace it with a dildo.
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so i ghosted this guy about a month and a half ago. we met abroad and i was getting pissed at him because he can be childish, and unthoughtful at times.
i dont think we'll see each other for some time, but we definitely had a special time together. instant connection for sure. not seeing someone in real life and only being able to talk through computers and laptops sucks. people can really seem so different and it sucks.
anyways, he keeps trying to contact me and i dont know whether i should stand firm in my ghost, or try to say something? im starting to feel bad now. i just dont see the point in continuing, and yeah it was childish of me to ghost him, but i really didnt think he'd still be reaching out...
what do you guys think?
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>>17408239
It was shitty of you to ghost him, but he is being loony and not getting the hint, so I would say ghosting him is retroactively justified. However, at this point it won't hurt to be clear about what is going on. Send him what you just said:
i dont think we'll see each other for some time, but we definitely had a special time together. instant connection for sure. not seeing someone in real life and only being able to talk through computers and laptops sucks. people can really seem so different and it sucks.
Then add, I like you but don't see this as a valuable use of our time. Best of luck in the future.
Done deal.
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ghosting is weak, leaving someone wondering what they did wrong is such an asshole move (speaking as someone who has and has been ghosted).
Speak to the guy and tell him your thoughts, it is the right thing to do. At least it gives you both some closure.
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yeah i know, it was for sure shitty on my part. ive never done it before, and really thought for sure he wouldnt give a shit really cause he was kinda thoughtless and ignored my texts for longs periods of time. as well as telling me whenever he got laid.
like he is definitely a fuckboy, but i dont think malintended. i think thats why im torn.
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Where can I find girls that are into BDSM?
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internet
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>>17408135
which site?
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OkCupid
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so my boyfriend refrains from being forthright and avoids the truth, even for the smallest thing like me asking what he's downloading he'll reply with "stuff" and i'll say "what stuff" and he'll reply something like "why do you want to know so bad?" my dickhead radar is going off and the double standardssss because he totally expects me to be forthright about everything (I'm totally okay with this since I'm pretty easy going) but it just irks me that he can't tell me something like that?? He thinks I'll judge him but fuck I pirate games to why would I judge him over that, what the hell can I do?
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Leave him alone? I mean, he clearly wants space and if you dont wanna give it then leave.
TL;DR: SORT IT OR ABORT IT
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>>17408114
literally just if he replies with something like "stuff" bite my tongue? I'm happy enough to give him space if he'll say he wants it
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>>17408118
He doesnt have time for you, wants space and just generally doesnt want to be there. It seems harsh, but I am doing you a favour: kick him out.
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How do I get rid of ants, but also make sure their final moments are hell?
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Ants inside or outside?
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>>17408098
Venus fly trap
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>>17408125
Both, actually, but I just want to make an example of the ones inside.
>>17408128
Noted, but I need something on a larger scale.
I just dont really know what to do. General advice would be nice.
My father died and it's caused me to have to move in with my mother. She cherishes her other kids and absolutely hates me without straight out saying it. Im not as successful, and the only kid from a failed marriage.
Im so depressed i can hardly function.
Im trying to move to a more affordable state so i can be successful there, but i dont even know how to move to another state without a job in place. I dont want to ask my family because they speak to me with such disdain.
I have 6k saved up and presently job hunting.. But i dont even know if thats enough.
Anyone have advice? I feel like im drowning. I just miss my dad so much, he is the only family member to even hug me and tell me he loves me, and hes gone forever.
Please help,
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You feel unappreciated and that's understandable. But being there for your mother has also given you an excuse to stop living your life.
Confront your mother. Tell her that you only moved back home to help her and support her, but that you have needs and goals too and you feel like you're being stifled.
Ask your family and friends to give you leads on a job, where it is doesn't really matter much.
If you and your mother reach an understanding, then continue to live with her, save up some money, and decide what you want to do with your life.
If you have to move out then do it. You're not getting anywhere where you are under these conditions. You feel like you have no options but you do; you simply don't want to make any hard decisions, ask for help, and confront your mother. Anon, it's time to be a grownup.
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>>17408089
Youre right. I cant really go denyin that.
But what advice so you have for er constant nagging and critiscm...?
How can i not take it so personally?
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>>17408141
As adults we learn, or should, that we can't change other people. We can only change how we deal with them, and we learn to take the bad with the good in others.
If your mother is intolerable then confront her. If you can't work it out then at least she knows how you feel. Maybe she'll change herself. At least she should respect you for your forthrightness.
If she's too negative then remove yourself from that environment, or ignore it if you can. It's obviously getting to you.
How to get the feeling of uselessness out of mind?
I'm going in my senior year of high school, and I feel like I have nothing going for me. I seemingly have a lot going for me (prolific reader, polyglot, artistic) but I see so many people creating things and starting organizations and it makes me feel awful. I want to major in math, but I can't stop thinking about how many of those kids are going to have invented something great or something equally as head-turning.
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1. You must be 18 to use this website
2. You are too young to be feeling this way.
Enjoy life while you can. Once you join the wage-slave market, it becomes increasingly more difficult.
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>>17408055
You need to stop comparing yourself to others, and stop setting unattainable goals. You're getting yourself down just because you think you aren't and cannot be "the best".
You're obviously in your late teens. You still have a lot of growing up to do. Don't give up now, just do your best, keep your options for uni and career open and wide until you know what you want to do, and start living day to day.
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>>17408062
Today was my 18th. Yaay.
>>17408064
It's tough though. I considered so many things, from law (too saturated) to even botany, but it seems math is the only thing that I can really enjoy for so long
I know I cannot be the best, but I want to push myself further. How can I not feel inferior to my peers? I don;t have a lot of friends (surely you've came to that conclusion) but I feel as if I need to impress everyone, even family
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why do people who don't have kids choose monogamy 2016-07-29 23:45:03 Post No.17408046
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why do people who don't have kids choose monogamy
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People who don't want to have kids nor settle down, are you interested in monogamy? I personally don't feel any jealousy and don't really get why sleeping or kissing should be the thing you can't do with others but going out or having hobbies is. I don't even mean one night stands or fucking as many as possible but more that if you really like someone why won't you try? This has nothing to do with the other person and your relationship to them. Of course, I understand when kids are involved you might fall in love with that person and it damages them but when person's purpose isn't to settle down or have kids anyway, why are they still monogamous?
I am not particularly interested in sex but would never have a relationship where I promise to be monogamous. Or even stay with that person as sexual partners (friends of course). Because how should I even know what feelings I have tomorrow or who I meet. I have never wanted to live with someone, have a family and kids and don't really get why people want that. I thought it was some soviet custom because you couldn't get out of the country and there were limits on what you could achieve, private business was banned and you couldn't just go to study in the best universtities of the world, live in every country couple of years, travel, become the best in something, write politically incorrect (not /pol/ sense) books, and so on. Therefore people married and had mediocre lives. But nowadays I don't get that. Relationship and marriage is like full time job and it can easily be replaced by friends because friendships can be much closer nowadays, there is no "more than friends" because it depends on a person what they define as "more".
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Your viewpoint essentially won't allow you to understand, but in short? People choose to be monogamous because each values and trusts the other in a mutual and loving relationship.
The level of intimacy and trust I have with my girlfriend and future wife (we discussed marriage multiple times) is far and away the most meaningful thing I have experienced in any kind of relationship - mere friendship does not compare in the slightest.
It is like the difference between a greasy, shitty burger from McDonald's and an amazing fresh burger you made with your own two hands, with all your favourite ingredients. You can try to compare the differences, but chances are you aren't going to be able express exactly how much more your own burger means to you to some guy who is addicted to shitty burgers.
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>>17408046
Some people choose monogamy, some people don't. In my experience, one is not more inherently better or worse. Terrible relationships come in all kinds of configurations and so do great ones.
The fact that neither side of the issue understand the others only illustrates why its important for people to make their own choices.
Your inability to understand is irrelevant. Do what you want and don't concern yourself with why others do or don't agree with it.
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>>17408067
Secondly, why do people want an average life with kids and share not only their apartment but room with other person? Why won't they achieve something instead? Millions have fucked and had kids, it is nothing original. What is the incentive to do exactly the same things that millions have done before? Asking seriously
I know this girl who was interested in me and kept wanting to met with me, always giving me compliments and shit, but she out of the blue told me that she was bisexual and had a girlfriend. All cool, but the thing is, The gf is going abroad for a year, how can I get the girl who was interested in me to try dick again ?
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Have your fun but don't expect a lasting or committed relationship from this. She's going to flake and mess you around.
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Guy in his early 40s here. Came across a woman in her mid 30s on an online dating site who seems pretty pleasant. However, when I asked her how many ex's she had, she said she never even had a single date. She said the reason was because she was an introvert who had been depressed and sad for a long time. Is she lying and is this a red flag?
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>>17408038
Why would she lie about this? Go meet her, won't take long to find out the truth. If you are really 40 and need someone on 4chan to tell you this, you should reevaluate dating/your life in general.
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>>17408260
Oops forgot to address the red flag. Of course it is, unless you hate being social, doing anything with other people etc. If you aren't a crazy introvert, it's probably.not going to work.
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So, sometimes when I´m fucking my dick goes half soft, or even completely soft, and I don´t why. Or I can go like 30, 40 minutes fucking without cumming, and then when the girl I´m with has an orgasm I quit. I wouldn´t say fucking without cumming is a bad experience, but I feel that the girls I´m with find it odd.
Right now I´m seeing someone, and the only time we had sex so far we were both pretty drunk, so I explained my lack of bonerism as being a side effect of the alcohol I ingested. To prevent it from happening again, I dropped fapping (though I still see a lot of porn), and the next time I´m with her I´ll ditch the condom. I also got myself a bit of weed, because I always get really horny when I´m high.
I´m I the only one whose dick sometimes gets shy? Do you have any tips? This problem has been bothering me for some years now
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Temperature dependent..
Hot temps will make it floppy. Your body judges the temp of the testes.
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Duude, you're overstimulating yourself with porn. I've been in there before, you have to realise you have a problem. I wouldn't reccomend you being in a relationship when you have That problem, your girl May feel awkward and bad because "you don't like her"... Check this videos, nobody can't help you except yourself.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=TKDFsLi2oBk