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>>17408473
You're a plan B OP. You're someone whom your 'ladyfriend' can latch onto, you're her knight in shining armor. You should stop pursing her because it isn't healthy. From the looks of it she isn't interested in you. There are plenty of other fish in the sea mate, so go out and have some fun.

>>17408527
Maybe, thing is she doesn't actively seek for me or asks for help or anything. If I don't chat with her, she would literally not start a chat with me. I just don't get it, there were many times at work where she would stop in place when she saw me and would give like a I really like you face but then she tells me something different.

>>17408473
So I'm in a parallel situation where there's this girl who talks to me all the time. We share a lot in common, she's kinda cute and has a strong side to her, and of course people in our general circles gossip that we have a thing for each other.

So the first thing is, this girl has a boyfriend. Or I'm pretty sure she does. I'm not one to pry.

I believe this is important because the response on my end is - I respect that, and while I'm interested, I'm putting it as "Well,if it were the case, I would definitely be happy with it. I wouldn't mind at all."

That's relevant because there's a pretty distinct wall between "I would like it" and "I am going to pursue it"
While I may keep her in my mind, I have to remember I'm my own being and I should be able to take care of my own needs.

I'm telling you this because that may be what your female friend is thinking, Anon. You and her each have your own lives. Make sure you live yours. She's out traveling in Europe. Are you just going to spend that time sitting here and thinking of her? It's not that you aren't allowed to think of her at all, but just try putting that on the back burner and do what you like to do. Find some more friends and more chicks.

Bump. Someone please help me

Bump. Someone please help me.....

>>17408455
This is really weird, you have to admit. How old are you? Where do you live? Do you have any kind of relationship with this girl? You didn't say.

Sounds really shaky at the beginning and it threw your rhythm off for the rest of it. Slow it down a bit, it'll help the rhythm and help create tension.

Also feels unnatural, as if you're just mimicking someone instead of being the character. Experiment with being a bit more serious, you don't need to be frantic in order to create tension in a dramatic scene.

hand motions are decent, with the exception of drinking motion--slow that one down

>>17408626
Thank you for the feedback!!

Here's my retake with your criticism in mind:
http://youtu.be/j5IoGqZn914

Better?

>>17408688
You sometimes stammer, as if you lacked confidence. Be careful to avoid your voice dropping at the end of sentence. It sometimes feel too fast, but maybe i'm just tired today. The "I become drunk with beauty" line sounds horribly fake to me.
When you say "I was set free" You seem to back down a little at the end. Maybe that's what you wanted, but i would go with more confident "Free!". Your facial expressions are pretty good though.

dubs can help

>>17408433
kek, cheered me up a bit.

>>17408429
None of those mental problems actually exist. Bipolar, autism, anti social personality. It's just a modern day attempt at justifying the actions and lifestyles of the working class, and to get you to take medicine because the worlds medical associations are funded by pharmaceutical companies.

There is nothing wrong with you, there is nothing wrong with your father, or your upbringing. The current social narrative suggests this is a somewhat dysfunctional upbringing, but honestly people have had it much worse. You just like many in your generation have been conditioned to believe there is something always wrong with you, and you must fix it by buying things and consume more.

Start nowhere, because you're just like millions of other people out there. Get a job, exercise and the rest will come naturally as you grow in a social environment that slowly matures and you'll meet people with the same interests and before you know it you will make friends with likeminded people

Slow strip tease.

There are about 1,000,000 guides so it isn't hard to find one but the staples are simple.

Sexy clothes, in layers, get removed very slowly while you gyrate around a bit. End with yourself completely naked and then linger that way with some dirty poses.

Dildo yourself.

Fingers are hot but a toy is hotter. Spend some time running it over yourself, play with it against your breasts and nipples, and slowly, eagerly, plow it into yourself. See if you can make yourself cum with it and do so about as vocally as you can without fake it.

Communicate

Give him a live show, taking requests, but make a point of letting him know where your limits are. If you can, part of the way through the show, offer up something you said you wouldn't that he will likely be turned on by. Don't be afraid to be wild. Piss is easy to clean up, deep throating flexible toys is easy, and giving up a bit of dignity can be hotter than you think.

>>17408496
oh and post a video for us. Just crop out your head and you will make a million neckbeards happy.

>>17408397
Maybe a beard if you have a young looking face

as far as physical appearance goes this is it, just know that one size does not fit all. you may aspire to be a hot alpha muscle man but your body type, and more importantly face, may mean yuor best potential is maxing out something like 'cutness' or waht have you.

i think you worry too much if you make a list. whenever you do something regarding your appearance just think 'what would look best?' and go from there. you dont need a check list.

/fit/ first, nothing will make a difference until you're fit (especially if you're average looking)

head over to /fa/, start with the sticky and follow the guide

after the those, visit /skin/, /hair/ and lurk the WAYWT threads to add to the guidelines in the sticky.

>>17408381
Just ask faggot. Varying ages. I'm 31, I've seen some old, some younger. You will get genuine help, as well as copping shit. Depending on how retarded the question is, and how autistic you are, will depend on the ratio of good advice to the amount of shit flinging.

To even ask this you seem relatively autistic, so be prepared for a reasonable amount of abuse.

>>17408381
Welcome to verbal abuse, you actual retard

>>17408381
>criticism
Yes, you are a fag.
>trolls
Yes, watch out for tripfags and namefags, specially the one called Anonymous.

>>17408370
Soak finger in warm water for several minutes and then use tweezers to remove.

>>17408370
The body expels it by itself, if the wait is too painful do what >>17408408 said

Put teeth on splinter
get a grip
stop being a faggot
pull

That's it.

>>17408364

rehab isnt just for drugs and alcohol

>BUT I DONT WANNA

then ask a friend to supervise you and also join an anonymous program

>BUT I DONT WANNA

good luck!

have you tried patches?

>>17408364
Know that feel bro smoking one now. Last pack though

>famous last words

>>17408360

therapy.

Yep, it is weird and only the losers do it. What you could do instead is a far-away shot or an edgy photo of yourself that obscures your face.

>>17408353

just do a photo of you from behind looking over a building or on top of a hill, or just looking at a sunset in general.

>>17408353
I look horrible in phone selfies as well, so I used my webcam. Just took like 30 pictures of myself in my room and chose the best one. Look grumpy af but better than no picture imo.

>>17408361
Have to agree with this faggot. I personally don't care but normies would.

Delete the message and move on. It will be a permanent, tangible change and will help you to forget.

>>17408374

I understand but a part of me just hopes things will be different. I have never ever ever ever met a woman like her ever. I actually tried dating other women and they were all shit compared to the girl that sent this message. SHIT!

>>17408385
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>>17408374
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>>17408344

i feel like im not made for relationships, not long term at least i love a good fling but ive been single for four years now and i frankly dont mind. whenever i think about going long term with one of my flings it makes me sad that i wont be able to have more flings.

as for college, it depends what you want to do for career

1) do the math on paper. figure out how much youll make (underestimate) and figure out how much you'll be spending (overestimate). decide.
2) don't worry about it. you will.

>>17408339
how did you get a control of your procrastination? bc im, for the most part, litteraly going through what you're going through minus drugs.

>>17408339
You categorically don't smoke pot, don't drink, and don't use drugs anymore, period.

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>>17408349
meditating helps. setting a schedule for the day, with some 'appointments' for the most important things, and a list of priorities for the rest. use this sheet in it's entirety. a partial list wont work.

it really took me developing a thing to say to myself like a phrase/belief that really kicks me out of the desire to put things off. like i just hold on to this feeling that things are NOT going to be okay if i dont do what i need to do, and i envision what it will feel like in 2, 3, 4 hours after i've put off this task yet again. and i remind myself that it's not going to go away, and that to delay it is to increase my suffering. you have to really ruminate on that idea. seriously sit down today, and take an hour a full hour to yourself. immediately after reading this. and just write it over and over, variations of what i just said. absorb that idea into every neuron of your body and embrace it as fact. once you've done that, procrastinating will seem horrid and you'll be afraid to do it because you've very really accepted what the consequences are.

>>17408335
this is not a relationship. ever occur to you she has a bf

>>17408347
No she definitely doesn't. We got to know each other well and she just has an issue with intimacy. She's never had a B.F and i usually can pick up on that shit this one seems to be quite honest. I know its not a relationship but it can be, the question is should I try?

Hoooooo boy. I was in your position too, OP. I fell hard for a girl who has trouble letting her guard down. Let me tell you this: leave it alone. Sure she wants to get back with you, but at this point the damage is done. You can't fully trust her anymore, and it's not like she really proved that she was trustworthy. You shouldn't have to worry about whether or not she'll stick around.