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Girlfriend has Anorexia 2016-07-31 09:25:35 Post No.17412469
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I've recently discovered that my Girlfriend has Anorexia.
She says she doesn't want help at the moment, which I'm trying to respect. But, it drives me nuts that she's trying to lose more weight when she's already healthy.
I don't think it would be wise to force her to get professional help, because she doesn't want it, I'm just worried and it's quite depressing that I'm unable to help.
What do I do? Is there anything I can do to help her through this?
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She really needs professional help. It's not something ahea just going to stop doing one day, and she will get fucking sick.
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>>17412695
This.
It's her denial that's kicking in and saying "I don't need help."
She needs help before she loses more weight and gets sick but then says "No, I want it."
Just because you acknowledge your sickness doesn't mean that you're right to resist treatment, and I'm sure that she's rationalizing it or has been since day one.
I don't know how to help you anon, but you need to act on that fast. Help her, even if that means that you sleep.
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>>17412976
Self correction: ...before she loses more weight, gets sick and then still says, "No, I don't want/need treatment."
[I have no idea how I typed "sleep" instead of "break up"]
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I'm so depressed that I'm starting to feel sick.
I stumbled upon the people I knew in high school while on Facebook and it stirred up many bad feelings.
All of them seem to be doing far better than me. They are the same age but have kids and wives and husbands. A lot of them have graduated from university. They seem to have bright futures.
Then I look at myself and I still live with my mom at 23. I work a shitty job paying 12.50/h. I am just barely getting am associates degree with only 46 credits. I have never had a meaningful relationship. I'm also obese.
I look at all of the hot girls and guys that I went to high school with leading great textbook lives.
It just makes me feel like it's too late for me and I should just give up.
How do I stop feeling like this?
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>married and kids
>at 23
They don't seem to have made great decisions in their lives. Don't forget that people only really put the good things up on Facebook too, they're not going to post about the fact that they've had to take on a third job to be able to afford mortgage repayments, or the fact that their SO cheated on them with a colleague while on a business trip. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors. Some of them are probably living great lives, sure, but I promise you there are things going on that you don't see.
>Then I look at myself and I still live with my mom at 23. I work a shitty job paying 12.50/h. I am just barely getting am associates degree with only 46 credits. I have never had a meaningful relationship. I'm also obese.
Well, look at it this way. You've got a job, and you're getting an education. There's plenty of time to get into a relationship, and you can always lose weight. The way I see it, you're better than most people here.
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>I look at all of the hot girls and guys that I went to high school with leading great textbook lives.
>leading great textbook lives
>textbook lives
Is that really what you want OP? To keep up with the Jones just because everyone else does it? Nigga you're already on 4chan, you're never going to lead a normal life, but that isn't so bad. Normies are boring as shit.
Do what you want, not what everyone else is doing, not because you want to impress someone or prove someone wrong, do what you want because you want to.
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>>17412434
Can you work out? Any motivation for that?
It's never too late to start your life, if you are like this until you are 35 and then fix everything before 40, you are still gonna enjoy it, regardless of how old you are. My 65 year old Aunt is currently walking 10 km each day to get fit.
Always remember to take it slowly, getting out of depression is never an instant 100% fixing, take small steps and don't overdo it. If you lose motivation, just try to start again after 1-2 months.
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For some reason I can't talk with my girlfriend about "deep" stuff, like literature or psychology or even trivial things like what we thought of some movie. I almost always feel incredibly embarassed to sound like I'm trying too hard to be deep and smart, and think she feels the same way. Our romantic conversations hardly ever go beyond "I love you", even though I want to tell her how much she means to me with far wider terms.
This doesn't happen with other people, only with those whom I truly love and really trust. What the fuck is wrong with me, and how do I fix it?
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>>17412403
Start with the trivial things like movie critique, and build up from there. Eventually you'll get used to it
Stay away from politics in my opinion though. Pretty sure that was what caused the eventual demise between the ex and I... And that was just me being centre-right, and her centre-left
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>>17412408
Will give it a shot, thanks.
I think this strays from me being a pretentious little prick when I was a teenager. The so-called relationships I had back then were choke-full of cheap "intellectual" conversations, until I grew up and got sick of it (and myself). I don't want people close to me to think of me as that kind of douchebag ever again.
I swear, if I could somehow go back in time I'd kick my 15-year-old self's ass so hard.
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>>17412420
>"thanks for answer!"
>"let me talk about myself for 4 hours for no fucking reason"
If you wanted us to listen to your life story you could've just said so in the OP, OP
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Help me out /adv/
So a couple of months ago I slid into a girls DMs and we went on like 4 dates.
I'm 18 and she's 17.
>first "date" was literally 40 minutes
>Mom was supposed to just drop her off but literally stayed the entire time
>was taking her home in 4th date at like 9 PM on a Friday night
>her mom pissed off when she came to pick her up
>not allowed to be with her out at nights
>hang out with other girl tryna get at
>dat chemistry tho
>"realize" that I didnt have chemistry with other girl
>2 months later
>those instagram selfies tho
>remember how I never got to kiss her and how we shared a good amount of similiarties
>hit her up again
>now is pic related
Wat do?
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OP HERE BTW LEFT OUT
>hit her up three weeks ago
>was supposed to hang out last Sunday
>couldnt because of family thing
>said she doesnt wanna get hurt again
>was hurt when I told her I wasnt interested
>we're supposed to hang out tomorrow
>just ended up messaging tonight
>was talking about life
>led to this
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Uh, move on? She can see through your bullshit.
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>>17412344
You sound like an utter faggot. Girl seems pretty smart for 17, good on her, hope she tells you to fuck off.
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2016-07-31 07:20:07 Post No.17412285
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off.
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So I've hung out with this chick from tinder 3 times (third time today) and each time we've only hung out a few hours
Anyway idk if I'm just oblivious to her hints or if they're super subtle but idk if I should make the first move or even if she wants me to. She texted me asking to hang out and leaves for school in like 2 weeks.
Should I just say fuck it and make a move next time?
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>>17412312
Yes. Next question.
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>>17412332
Does this song layout everything a guy needs to know to get with a girl?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gJLIiF15wjQ
How the fuck does anyone live in nyc or Miami in their 20s holy shit fuck
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You can't live in Miami unless you're Cuban and NYC is a shithole so move somewhere else.
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>>17412304
Ok Chicago Atlanta or la
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idk about miami but for NYC you either have rich parents, 2 jobs, or are one of those assholes who knew exactly what they wanted to do when they went to college, graduated on time and are now gainfully employed with a good career
like my brother, damn him
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this is such a stupid question but, can a woman be lacking in female hormones, Idk im just really ugly and well have considered sugery, and just the other day I was looking at men using hormones to change thier appearance and man they look more like a woman than me...
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>>17412280
Post pics
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Learn the art of makeup and nice hair.
Any chick can look fuckable.
The problem with most "ugly" women is they dont use make up and just use the "natural" look.
Fuck that try out different styles of make up. Youll be bound to find something that suits you.
Plus youre probably over reacting.
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>>17412288
This
Is it possible to love someone you have no chemistry or things in common? I've been with my current girlfriend for 6 months and I love her to death and she loves me to death back. We both certainly show it. The thing is that I don't have any chemistry with her. I never had that spark when we first met. I've felt that spark before with another girl but it didn't work out between us and she chose someone else over me. That girl was the first girl I've ever felt that I loved and and had a connection with.
With my GF, I don't have chemistry but I love her to death. We're always there for each, we bend over backwards for each other and we have such sweet moments. When we first met she wasn't what I wanted or my type at all but when I started dating her, I noticed how amazing her honesty, loyalty and how much of a caring person she is. I looked past all of her faults and things I didn't like and appreciate those important traits because the way I see it, you can have a spark and chemistry with someone but that someone might be a liar who doesn't give a shit. Does this make any sense or am I trying to rationalize shit?
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Dude, take this with a grain of salt. You sound like this is a young love. You gotta learn what love is man. Eventually you two will wear on each other, youre relationship will be ruled by insecurities and you can be holding each other down while trying to maintain this relationship, instead of being positives in each others lives.
Please dont get defensive or upset, just consider how things will play out over time, and try to take a step back and really look at things.
Relationships like these are how a lot of us learn tough "love lessons"
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You have confused love with pathological obsession, there is literally no reason to be with someone who you have nothing in common with. The fact you made it formal by "dating" initiated a whole bunch of social and psychological triggers which tricked you into "loving" her. I'm personally very conscious with love as its the most unreasonable and potentially harmful of emotions.
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>>17412318
yeah, this guy said it better
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Title says it all. Any tips?
Pic unrelated
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well this is certainly a thread
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>>17412254
Quite.
I really do want to leave here, though. Got any tips?
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Shameless self bump
I know I didn't put it in the OP, but what I'm asking for is methods of STAYING out. I know I can just leave, but I always come back
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I think my GF is cheating on me, what should i do? 2016-07-31 06:45:33 Post No.17412217
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I think my GF is cheating on me, what should i do?
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I think my girlfirends cheating on me. i google (the internet knows a lot okay?! XD) and shes showing almost all the signs from wikihows, askmen, etc. please help anons
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>>17412217
fucking kill yourself
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>>17412217
What signs?
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shes been distant, within the past month she gained a lot more clothing but only waers it when shes goin out with her friends or going to work. shes over protective of her phone, and she was showing me a video earlier today on it and she got a text from a guy flirting backa reply. this has been going on for a while now
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I'm going to Sweden soon, are they racist ? 2016-07-31 06:35:02 Post No.17412189
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I'm going to Sweden soon, are they racist ?
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>I'm Hispanic/Asian
>is it hard to make friends at a bar, being brown looking and all?
>I will be in ekero
>is it easy to spot me as a target for robbery ?
>is it really rape capital ??
>where can an American go for help ?
>how bad is the racism ??
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>>17412189
Sweden's pretty progressive. You'll be fine.
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>>17412189
>>is it hard to make friends at a bar, being brown looking and all?
White girls will throw themselves at you. They're disease ridden though so put a hat on.
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>>17412204
Is the refugee crisis still. A thing ?
Am grill , are the boys the same?
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What's the fucking point. I have a bloody mental illness. Literally my life can be nothing but shit for the rest of my time on this wretched planet.
I try to find hope to fight the suicidal thoughts but what is there? Just 60 odd more years of suffering through hell, if I'm lucky.
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>>17412158
If there's nothing you can do, why did you post here for advice?
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>>17412158
your sadness is my power-aid
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Bummed about turning 21 2016-07-31 06:08:21 Post No.17412130
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I turn 21 in September. Last night I went to a friends 21st. It was alright, but i felt really alone. Then the speeches came and my friends parents were gushing. And my friend's best friend started gushing. I had to take a valium just to calm my shit.
I realised that when my birthday comes up, there probably won't be speeches. I don't have much of a relationship with my mom because she married a fuckwit, and my dad is a stoner dickhead.
Out of all my friends (like 15) ive only got 2 that I genuinely care about. And I've only known them for a short time (2-3 years) so the stories aren't that exciting.
I've also tried to book a venue but had no luck because I either can't afford it, or they have curfews of like 11pm.
Its so difficult to be around happy people when I'm not. Or to be around friends that have had multiple relatinships in the span I've known them, while the most intimate thing I've done is had coffee once.
I don't know what to do with my life. Do I just forgo a celebration and just keep going about my day. What do I do?
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>>17412130
Go out and drink with you friends like a normal person. You really don't need anything elaborate.
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>>17412132
Yeah I could, but that still means theres no speeches or anything particularly celebration-y about it. It would just end up as another night out.
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>>17412140
Bring a cake.
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What kind of music do you have when you have a party or inviting someone you hope to date/have sex with?
I've been using Beach House and artists like Alina Baraz. The kind of slow and sultry dream pop music.
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Sade channel on Pandora lol
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>>17412119
Washed Out man, that's some sex music
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>>17412119
>What kind of music do you have when you have a party or inviting someone you hope to date/have sex with?
Are you looking for party music or fuck music?
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Wanna study hacking...which course shoukd i take plz anybody from world?????
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http://www.hackthissite.org/pages/index/index.php
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Sorry bro i told about which course should i take....not that f**king website
I wanna study course plz
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I mean like should i take engineering or programming or what and why