I'm about a month into a relationship, and my girlfriend is starting to withdraw from me. When she's rational, she says she loves me and when we are alone, it's traditionally okay, but in groups she gets very anxious about the relationship, and when we are apart she starts getting anxious too. She got out of a very bad five year relationship like a year ago and I got out of a bad four year one like 8 months ago. I've been really patient and been giving her her space, but we went away on two weekend vacations together with mutual friends because we have so many mutual friends. It's been difficult to talk about it, but when we do talk about it I make her feel better, but we just haven't been able to talk this weekend on this vacation much. When we do talk, we get interrupted. She's worried the relationship is moving too fast and is worried that maybe she jumped into a relationship too quickly. I keep telling her everything will be okay, and we just have to let things play out a bit. But how should I approach this? I've just been giving her her space.
Tell her that you're okay with taking it slow. You're a month in, this kind of thing is natural.
>>17458947
I said that, but she still feels anxiety, is thinking about breaking up.
>>17458942
sounds to me like the relationships not wokring. you guys jumped in and had fun but now the bubbles are fading and shes unsure of the actual validity of the relationship.
let her go if she wants. if you have to convince someone to stay with you one month in it only gets worse.
>>17458954
I'm worried that she's just letting her fear overwhelm her. She's said that when she's rational, she loves me and gets that, but she just gets really concerned.
any other thoughts