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>>17456643
Don't front. Just think if that grand got turned into 100k.

Then you'd feel like a retard for not gambling.

>>17456643
Are there any support groups for gamblers, where you live? You should definitely go to one.

>>17456643
130 with rent paid? Shiiiiiiet, nigga. All you gotta do is stay in the 10 dolla a day budget.

Which is plenty for gas, food, and a snack.

Probably squeeze in a lotto ticket or two, and who knows then you might have another hundo dollars to spend until the second.

>>17456639
I have watched meth completely fuck up my brother's life and as far as I know, he wasn't even that far down the addiction hole before it caught up to him and he went to jail.

When he comes home after using, he is violent as fuck. He lives with my grandparents, and he came home late. My grandma thought he was drunk, and told him he can't be doing this. He literally beat up my grandma. To the floor. And my grandma is a nice grandma. Not one of those sour old people.

I just know that any time my brother comes home bugged out and talking weird. We can't even confront him in that moment or else he will hurt someone. He's assaulted two people already while being high on meth. And they were both family members.

For your and your child's safety, he needs help and a reevaluation of what he's doing real quick.

>>17456639
He has the option of sober living, getting to see his kid, your support, not hanging out with those friends and ultimately rehab.... or he has the option to do drugs with his buddies, not be around his kid, go to court for rights, pay child support, and will probably end up in jail or the hospital.
It's up to him, your responsibility is your child. If this is a new habit and he's never messed with meth in the past then nip it in the bud NOW and warn him that his life will radically change for the worst if he doesn't take option one.
There's plenty of gray area in life but in this matter... it has to be pretty black and white.
I'm sorry you have to go through this, and I'm sorry your boyfriend- something must have happened in his life to turn to such a foul drug for companionship... people don't do hard drugs for fun.

Tell him his choices are rehab or you walking out the door. If he still rejects rehab, remind him that you will most definitely get sole custody of the kids because A. you're the mom, and B. No judge will give kids to a druggie.
Because let me tell ya, you're putting your children in danger by keeping him around at the very fucking least. Run girl. Run fast. Try to get him the help he needs if you really care about him, but if he chooses the drugs over you, you need out.

>>17456602
one bump?

You need to be straght with her and tell her you don't feel that way about her and remind her that you are in a relationship which you're happy with. But keep in mind it sounds like you are her main source of comfort since her breakup so be gentle or she could feel rejected all over again. In the meantime, you could mention that the stuff she's posting on you fb is making you a bit uncomfortable and see how she reacts.

>>17456647
I do this when we talk on the phone or sometimes through messages she will tell me she is in love with me.

She'll say things like, "Wow, I'm being friendzoned again." or "Fine then ignore my feelings."

And it makes me so uncomfortable that I don't know what else to say.

Then she will stop for like a week or so, then start saying stuff like that again.

bitchez b cray

>>17456586

By just talking and then insulting, and not buying them drinks, you're doing the exact opposite thing of every other guy they meet- the majority of whom are likely trying to get into their pants.

They meet countless guys who buy them a drink and try to chat them up. They have expectations. They have a prepackaged response for that.

Guy who comes up teasing/insulting them is a curveball. He's doing something different and they're not going to give the same prepackaged response.

Also, I think you're creeping these women the fuck out, but don't understand that women respond to aggression/abuse differently from guys.

They're far more likely to be nice/patronizing in attempt to deflect a guy they think is crazy or might snap on them. They're smiling and being nice, but in their mind they're thinking "Jesus Christ this guy is nuts. There's no telling what he'll say or do if I just walk off so I best remain calm and talk his crazy ass down until I have no other options to escape or he gets tried of small talk that won't go anywhere and walks away."

So unless they're really into abuse, none of these women are more likely to hook up with you than any other. Even if they're talking to you a bit longer than normal because you're making it more awkward/frightening for them to leave.

>>17456594

Dude. Yeah. Here is one of my more sober exchange when I was not inebriated and not as bold;
>Her: "Blah blah blah"
>Me: "You look like a crazy girl."
>Her: "What? No!"
>Me: "I like crazy girls."
>Her: "Oh. Well I guess I am a little bit crazy..."
>Me: "Right." *walks away*
>Her: (a few minutes later, sits down beside me) "You know, you never told me your name"

Dude. What. The. Monkey. Fuck.

>>17456578
Have you tried to make a move, ask her out, or whatever?
If she rejected you, then stop. Ignore her and move on.
If you didn't do anything, then you're a moron.

>>17456578

You got played.

You can't fix it, only deal with it.

>>17456584
I did, the response from her is that I'm like a brother to her and she doesn't see anything happening between us. Yet at a party the other night she wanted to fuck me, but a couple guys had to keep reminding her that I'm in a relationship so she couldn't. I don't understand why now that I'm single she suddenly thinks of me as a brother instead of a possible romantic partner.

>>17456576
M's second intial senpai?

>>17456581
D.

>>17456576
Dear op,

You cant regulate who people write to, fuck off

-T

i got a summer job in a nursing home as a kitchen assistant
i am a second year radiography student

You need a referral, there's literally no other way to get a job. I've put in literally hundreds of apps and have only gotten jobs through referrals, same for everyone I know. Not even McDonalds will hire you without one.

>>17456562
It may help to dress nice and stalk managers at companys you want to work at. Go talk to them when they exit the building. You will get alot of no's. But eventually you will get a yes.
Believe me, it works. You need face to face interaction to get a job

Laugh and then dish it back.

If that doesn't work, left hook to the liver.

>>17456557

Do you feel like shit in general? If you already feel you're stupid or inept, it's easy for you to interpret an offhand comments in a way that supports your preexisting world view.

On the flipside, do you have a tendency to believe that other people are way more awesome than you or have so much more awesome lives than you? Stop it. They go through plenty of bullshit too. They do plenty of stupid or embarrassing things. Bad luck befalls them as much as anyone else. They difference is that they likely haven't dwelt on it as much as you, don't mention it to others as much as you do, or are better at hiding it than you. That and you know your own life and its ups and downs much more intimately than you will EVER know anyone else's.

Furthermore, if it's a seriously crippling issue, I would suggest therapy. Lots of it is covered by insurance, so you're not likely to be charged shitloads of money and most jobs are associated with some kind of free counseling/therapy service anyway.

>>17456557
I'm the same why. I feel like shit on the inside but on the outside I express anger like I never have before. I never get angry and I don't know why I'm started showing it. Like this one time I ordered 2 pizzas for my friends and one of them was complaining about how I got 2 cheese and not like a 1 cheese 1 pepperoni. I felt bad and got really angry with him. My friends usually joke around like this but I don't know. It was like he was trying to prove that I was an idiot.

With disgust because of how unhygenic it is, with insult because of the cheapness of regifting something that should not be regifted, with anger/jealousy because you're holding on to sexual possessions of your ex and trying to then give them to her. You bought your ex-wife one. Have the decency to /buy/ a new girl one if/when you get to the stage where you feel it's appropriate.

Donate it to Goodwill.

Sell it on Craigslist

Happy birthday, Anon, how old are you?

>>17456535
Happy birthday, m8. Mine's on Wednesday. I'll be 32. What country are you from?

>>17456537
Thirty-six... CALIBER!
>>17456550
ON THE EDGE

Go for it senpai. Send him a message telling him how he inspired you and attach a resume if you have one. If he's a nice guy he will point you in the right direction even if they're not looking to hire and you might end up in the industry anyway. If you don't bother then it will 100% not happen obviously.

>>17456506
I really don't think it's good to attach a resume or anything

The best work I've done is at a title company and im a highschool dropout with a GED and I'm not going to college

I can guarantee to you he probably gets messages constantly about it.

The only reason I even consider it is because I met him in person and talked to him. I don't wanna ask him whst i should do that could get me into the company, I'm honestly scared to talk to him at all because if I fuck it up its ogre.

I realize I'll probably never be happy unless I work at that company. If I make a bad impression or some shit it's over.

Shit guys

Where did it all go so wrong

Even if I follow his advice, it would probably involve schooling, and there's still no guarantees

I don't mind working hard to get to that point, but I'm scared. Do I live my life wishing I was where I want to be, or do i try and fail and live out my life knowing I will never be where I want to be

Is it better to dream of unrealistic things or have them be crushed and face it daily?

>>17456481
Try to record a video of yourself.
I look like shit in pictures because I get nervous and I never know where to look or what to do. So my face looks stupid and my eyes look empty. I'm the girl equivalent of a deer caught in the headlights.
In video I look okay.

>>17456488
Thanks. I tried to record a video to test this once actually and I think I looked okay from certain distances and angles, and pretty ugly from others.

>>17456481
Since it isn't the mirror image thing fucking with you, know that different cameras have different lenses that affect your features differently. The camera you're using might be distorting your features a bit. Also, some cameras, for example those on iPhones, blow out the image so only your features are prominent and all other weird shadows in your face are lost, making you seems more attractive.

So camera lenses matter, and "lighting" matters.

Another thing that might be throwing you is the fact that most people that take lots of pictures know their best angles when taking photographs - meaning they practice. You probably don't, hence you look like utter shit to yourself while everyone looks decent, lol. Don't fall for that crap.

Lastly, most people manipulate photos in one way or another. As previously mentioned, iPhones basically do this automatically, and anything uploaded to social media usually goes through filters.

Don't fret.

>After 2 sessions I got what I wanted

what's that?

therapy is a lot of work, its emotionally taxing to be honest about your problems

however your rush to quit might be because you're not personally getting on with your therapist, therapists arnt infallible angels you have to either jump onboard with the first one you meet or not at all, you can shop around for one you feel you click with and understands you, rather than waste your time with someone you dont feel cares

>>17456418
Therapy for me worked as a control.
I was doing the work on myself by myself, she kept track of my progress, we discussed eventual bumps I found on the road.
It has been truly helpful for me. After the first couple of months I started going rarely (once every couple of weeks, than once a month).

it takes a long time..

rush it or it won't work. give it your all.

>>17456400
I don't think so.
If you don't feel attracted to someone, you can't do much about it.
As long as you respect them as people, it's okay to me.

I think it's normal to be attracted to mostly just your own race

since most people grow up around mostly just their own race

>>17456405
>>17456406
I guess this is true. I treat everyone with respect (unless they prove themselves unworthy somehow), but I always find myself checking out and dating brown women more than anyone else. I guess you just can't help what turns you on.

s-stop taking my jobs....

>>17456385
>ChemE
>being a lab monkey
You're a failure if this happens.

But anons here says that is hard to get ChemE jobs in USA nowadays, so who knows.

same question as OP except microbiology