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TLDR: what should I do?

I have been, for 6 months, in a relationship with a depressed girl. She's 21, I'm 23. She loves me but with her I cried more than in my entire life. even more than when my mother died.

In the first 3 months I had feelings for her. They decreased when, just to make the relationship work, I went to a shrink and took pills for bipolars for 2 months even though I'm sane (MMPI proves it).

1 month ago, an episode traumatized me to the point of not being able to love her as before. In 1 of her depressive bouts, which have been going on for at least 3 months, I stayed awake till 8 am just to make sure she wouldn't hurt herself. I saw her write her goodbye letter and trying to escape from her house while I was trying to sleep. She told me it's my fault if she will commit suicide and she even asked me to kill her and treat her as an object.

Now she wants to make the relationship work and she says I don't do enough for her, as this summer I was away travelling for 3 weeks while she was at home. In the meanwhile, I kissed another girl while drunk after a shit day. By shit day I mean that my brother told me I'm a coward, a shit man and a son of a bitch and my father told me I'm a coward and that I should be ashamed of myself. To add insult to injury, my girlfriend right after told me that we don't have a future together because I'm too unique.

She cried begging me to become the man that she fell in love with, whereas at the beginning of our love story she insisted on changing me. I care for her and I try to make it work but, at the same time, I'll be going on 4 dates soon. I never thought I would cheat on a woman (it's my 1st relationship), and in the first 3 months I didn't talk to any other woman, but I feel it decreases a lot the stress that this situation is causing.

Furthermore, she insists every day that we should marry, have children and stay in Italy (our country) when I have always wished to live abroad and my main passion is travelling.
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>>17499455
She's an emotional vampire, get away before you turn in to a pile of shit.
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Call the freaking cops on her ASAP if she ever as much as hints at committing suicide again. Do not tell her or threaten her with it.

Also dump her.
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I had a very similar relationship like yours.

It's a long, beautiful story which turned into oblivion after she just cut contacts and I will never know why and probably never gonna see her again.

I'm not the best looking or talking guy so this is pretty much the only experience I have with a real relationship so I can't really give you much more tips other than already mentioned here >>17499524

Hope you will find someone. Best wishes

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Has anyone here graduated with a degree in CS?
How was your experience of the field during College?

I just started a 3 year program at my College and during my hardware and software components class the teacher said that more than half the class drops out during the first year.
I don't know much about coding and software/hardware parts of a computer but i'm willing to study hard to learn them all and hopefully pass the program.
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I haven't graduated in CS, but I'm slowly learning it myself, course by course and I have some friends who studied CS in college.

What I can tell you is that if you don't like the field you'll most likely drop out. If you just fell for the CS meme and went for it just because it's well paid then you're not going to have a good time and most likely you'll drop in the first year. If you are passionate about it, or if it simply seems interesting to you then you won't have as hard a time. It will still require a lot of study and effort but you'll find some amount of pleasure in it and you most likely won't drop out. It doesn't matter that you don't know shit about it yet, that's what college is for, to teach you.
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>>17499491
Did you go in with little knowledge about the subject?
How was your time there?
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>>17499451

where is CS a 3 year program?

In terms of difficulty of program:

Electrical or Chemical Engineering > Other Engineering > CS > Physical Sciences > Everything else

In most colleges, Calc I or Physics I are "weeder courses" - to weed out the weaklings. Any degree program that doesn't have both is a bullshit degree that literal mouthbreathers can handle. That's where you'll find the highest concentration of SJWs and imbeciles.

Even if you finish a CS degree, you won't necessarily get hired doing programming work at a top tier company. I've been interviewing and hiring programmers for 15 years - and I can only extend an offer to a fraction of the people I meet (I'm at a top company), even though all of them have degrees and have been vetted a bit before I talk to them.

That said, you can have a great career and great life at a non-top-tier company. But to work anywhere, you do have to be able to do the job.

I've met plenty of people with CS degrees that literally could not write the code for problems you are absolutely required to know forwards and backwards as part of a CS degree program - think binary search algorithm.

A good CS program can take you from "knows nothing, but intelligent and motivated" to "can get hired at a top company". I know several people that had that experience (although it was years ago...)

Having some knowledge going into the degree program will help you, but it is not required. Just expect to spend as much time as you can learning as much as you can from the people with more experience than you. But note that these kids who come into college with programming experience are often egotistical super nerds; listen to what they tell you, but double check it yourself later.

t. finished CS+Math double major 16 years ago. Been in the industry my entire career.

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I'm starting to think I'll never be happy.

When I was fat, I worked out and ate right and I got skinny and I wasn't happy.
When I was kissless handholdless virgin, I got a gf and while I was happy often I still had moments of depression that hit me.
I used to think if I worked with computers I'd be happy since I love them, but I don't have the patience to teach old people shit and I don't know enough about computers to go above and beyond my shitty, super basic IT job, if you could even call it that.
I used to think if I could only be in a band and play music I'd be happy because I love music. I'm in a band now and we have shows almost every weekend and I hate it because I put so much pressure on myself and my alone time is gone. I work and then practice and then on weekends go to shows and work Sundays.


What the fuck is wrong with me? Why can't I ever be happy? What am I doing wrong? I hate myself, I hate my fucking life, nothing will ever make me happy. I'm starting to think that I could win the lottery, live in a nice house in Beverly Hills with a fleet of sports cars like Mayweather, marry a 10/10 hot girl who fufills all of my needs and sexual fantasies and be making music all the time and I'd probably just buy a gold plated gun to blow my brains out.

What the fuck do I do? How can I change myself before it's too late? please help me
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>>17499438

>nothing will ever make me happy

you've given up after trying so little. granted, more than the average 4chan user id wager, but still very little.

the first thing i can say with certainty is that happiness is not all encompassing. you will not be in a permanently fixed state of happiness. life has ups and downs. so does your day.

whats important is not to fixate on things. life is equal parts getting rid of the bad and focusing on the good.

I built my life to be pretty easy going. i kept hunting til i found the right job with the right people and the reasonable pay, so im never stressed about work. to work less than five days a week feels a bit boring. my hobbies interest me nad i work towards big goals with them. i enjoy my friendships by focusing on just a few people and getting to know them.

so there isnt a lot of bad in my life other than the little parts that come and go. but the point is that they go. someone random might have slighted me in some way yesterday. but it doesnt have to ruin the day, the week, or my life. they're gone. if they're gone, whats it matter?

beyond that im not sure what to tell you. i want to say you are choosing to be sad, but im not you and i cant speak for you and to assume everyone can be like me may be ignorant. maybe some brains really are just wired idfferently. and maybe some are the same as mine but are of course being edgy.

ultimately im the kind of guy who sees a sunset and thinks that it makes the day happy. nothing particularly good can happen and ill think its the best day ever.

you have all these amazing things going on but still cant end the day just thinking 'today was nice'.

i dont know why. i dont think anyone here does.
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>>17499438
What workouts did you do? also, what did you eat?
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>>17499571
i don't remember, this was after i graduated high school, but every day i would just do 3 reps of 10 for arms and chest one day, the next i would do stomach and back, and then the last day i would do legs. i only went about 3 or four times a week but i was consistent as fuck with it.

i cut out soda and only drank water or protein shakes, a fuck ton of chicken and brown rice, or salmon and brown rice, eggs, and a lot of fruits and veggies for snacks. and chipotle. anything low in fat and high in protein.

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Hey /adv/,

So tomorrow I go back to college and see someone who I kinda fucked over. I feel really bad about it but this person has blocked me and probably doesn't want to see me. I was in a relationship with this person and I'm just nervous of going back (especially because our mutual friends aren't very happy with me.)

I'm also scared because this person has a history of self harm and if anything ever happened to them I would feel it was my fault.

Been contemplating either sucking it all up and actually going back to whatever possible horro awaits me, But the train tracks are close by and been considering that too.

I'd really appreciate any help or insight.
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>>17499418

what did you do? you cant be vague and expect us to give good advice.

also by train tracks do you mean leave town or an hero?
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>>17499428
Well it's very hard to not be vague because the person might be here.

Yes, I am thinking of killing myself
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>>17499418
well i see two possible options: take a drink to give you courage and go full fag mode and apologize (better if done in front of your mutual friends)
Option two: have balls and do nothing about it, self harming pussies don't desserve your attention.

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gf got her clit pierced today. how will this effect our sex life? thanks.
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it won't unless you have a fetish/dislike for clit piercings.
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>>17499343
ive heard it stimulates the clit but it could be bs. i was expecting it to look shitty but it actually looks pretty nice.
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>>17499339
I;m pretty sure she can't have sex for an amount of time, she probably knows if she can or can't, just go easy for a month while the skin heals, don't pull on it or anything stupid, it is a decoration.

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hey /adv/, I want a drug dealer. My friend that does soft drugs casually mentioned the name of his dealer, and it turns out that I went to the same school than his dealer, his dealer is some upper-middle class kid 2 years younger than me.

The thing is, my friend is not really a "friend" and he'd never openly give me number of his dealer. My friend knows that I know his dealer, the dealer doesn't know who I am.

Should I just write him in FB asking him for his number, and then if he gives me his number just ask him for shit?

I'm paranoid about my identity and I'd rather write him with a fake account, I desperately want some acid and maybe some weed for creative reasons; or should I not write him? What if he asks me about how I got his contact?
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>>17499309
pls redpond
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>>17499309
>>17499354
no broker of illicit commodities that is worth his salt will ever consider doing business with you. i base this assessment on the general sperginess of your post, and your claim that you are "desperate" for hallucinogens and/or cannabis.

get it together, anon.
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>>17499309
Hey.. Uhh I know you do illegal stuff so I messaged you on your personal account cause I'm desperate..

You sound worthless and I would never sell you drugs

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>Got a coffee date for Sunday
>She says she played volleyball all through high school and a little bit into college
>I'm 5'9''
>All the volleyball girls I've ever met were tall as fuck

I'm actually scared of showing up and she is either my height, or much taller. She literally has not sent me a picture of her that shows either her entire body, or from the waist down.

I can tell she is not fat at all, because I've seen her wrists and other shit. But I have a sneaking suspicion she is like 6'5'' or something.

Do I still go? And if I do show up, and she is a lot taller than me, what do I do?
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>>17499280
>But I have a sneaking suspicion she is like 6'5'' or something.

No you fucking give me her number.

Tall girls are the property of tall (at least 6'6") men.

GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM THEM REEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
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>>17499280
OP she's probably like 5'8 which isn't super tall and if you haven't realized height isn't an extremely important thing in relationships unless someone is looking for something specific which then they aren't worth your time
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>>17499290
>unless someone is looking for something specific which then they aren't worth your time

Which is like 90% of girls I've spoken to, but okay.

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How do YOU flirt?
It seems like there's some big conspiracy where absolutely no one shares flirting tips or basically how they flirt. Or they just give some useless "advice" like "depends on the person" or "be yourself" or "learn for yourself".
Since this is the advice board, how do YOU flirt? And please state your gender if it makes a difference.
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you just like do thing and when you do thing you feel all like stuff then you translate feel into thing.
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>>17499247
This.
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>>17499220
Probably because normal people don't pay attention to how they're interacting with other humans.

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Self amputation or burning self? Which releases the most unhappiness?
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wanking releases a good deal of unhappiness for me

what is self amputation?
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>>17499262
Cutting off parts of you body.
>>17499209
None, they are only distractions, after a bit you'll come back to be miserable, except now you are marked forever.
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>>17499276
>except now you are marked forever.
yeah I'll have to remember that


I feel very sick

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>buy first vape
>a lot like pic related
>Use it on car ride home
>Produces very little vapor, figure we just got it with a low battery
>Take it home, charge it for solid half hour
>Works perfect like 2 times, after that goes back to working like normal

Did I just buy one that's broken out of the box? Is it just a shit quality one so it just performs like that? I didn't spend a fuck tonne of money on it.
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>>17499190
If you want to blow massive clouds you need something bigger with more power.

>Take it home, charge it for solid half hour

Most stick style batteries take a while to charge.
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>>17499190
Maybe you should return it and spend your money on something less retarded.
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Working fine now, me thinks it just needed a few uses to really get going

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Halo fuck Bois and ladies how do u get some pussay in da club I am 17 going to cool club just wanna rekt some pussy help me to eat dat ass
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עם חזייה או בלי חזייה ימניאק
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אני אוכל שרמוטות לצהריים.
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Fuck u fucking Arab die from aids

So I have issues with my family and stuff

I've been taking drugs and going on messaging everyone I know on my facebook, even at one point a sister of a girl who I should never talk to.

I spammed the sister with alot of stuff and asked her to block me a few times because it's embarrassing.

I took two MDMA pills and I really just lost the plot, creepy midnight messages. I doubt police but the social consequence of that will probably haunt me.


I organized to meet with a councilor that deals with specifically children of veterans.

I'm really not sure, is there anything else I can do to correct my mental health?
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anons?


This is my brothers alphabay order list recently.

I took some stuff from him and I just got fuck up coloured in food dye listening to trance music until my girlfriend got home
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anyone?

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The last couple of days, when I try to come here on my phone, it redirects me to some ad sites and says I have a virus and need to download their stuff, very sketchy, so I leave. My phone accesses other sites just fine, and my computer accesses 4chan fine. This just started recently. What's happening to me?
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>>17499143
Check what you've recently downloaded to your phone, don't go to porn sites, try using an app specifically designed for browsing 4chan. On android I like Clover, you'll have to get it through fdroid though, its not in the play store anymore. On google play Mimi is pretty good, overchan sucks.
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>>17499143
Chances are you're going to 4chan.com which is a virus-filled site designed to catch people who misaddress here.
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>>17499186
I thought so at first, but it's definitely .org. Thanks though.

>>17499171
I'll look into Mimi. Is it drastically different from using the browser? Also does this mean my phone has a virus?

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A girl who I used to work with and I hung out at the beginning of this month, after talking about it for quite some time. I thought it went well, she seemed to have a good time (I know I had an awesome day with her), and we went our separate ways. We've been texting back and forth since then and I feel like she's avoiding hanging out again. I asked did she was interested and she said she was, but when I asked when she'd be available she didn't respond for about a week. Then I messaged her about watching a movie together (she's into vampire movies and I am a little bitch so I need someone to watch 30 Days of Night with me) and she once again said if sounded super fun. I let her know I was available after Sunday and that if any particular times worked for her she should let me know and I'd be able to meet up, and she said nothing.

Now, I think we had a good time. Like, a really good time. I haven't felt that good in a long time. I think she had a good time cause she laughed at jokes and kept talking about how she's glad we finally met up outside of work. So why would she avoid hanging out? I mean, I get she's realistically probably busy but I just miss her and seeing as my gf and I just broke up (ex said she wants to date girls so can't complain too much I guess) I'm wondering if I'm way overanalyzing. I guess I just wanna hear your thoughts.
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>>17499113
>I get she's realistically probably busy
You probably have more free time than her, thats the problem. Make your head busy in something else than hook up
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>>17499113
Don't suggest times then.

Let her choose times good for her then hang out. If it's been close to a month then sheeeeeit. Move on? Cuz even friendzoners at least hang once a month.
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shes too nice and worried about hurting you to tell you to fuck off.
or shes with somone whi she has more fun with.

she's not interested. if she was she would be working with you. the fact you keep bringing up hanging out and she goes dark after 100%suggests she doesnt wanna hang out.

stop heing desperate and fuckk off to a new chick.

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yo, i got sacked from my part-time job in April for taking drugs on a staff night-out.

but i've now graduated from uni and am ready to start applying for graduate jobs. are my previous employers going to tell potential employers that i was sacked if they phone up and ask about me? what is my best tactic here? am i absolutely fucked?
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Don't list it as experience, don't even include the job.
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>>17499083
To be safe, just don't mention the part time job unless it was in a very relevant area and proves very relevant experience.
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>>17499100

i dont think i could get away with that? im in the uk and you have give to your new employer the form P45 that was given to you by the previous employer when you left

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