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Just tell him to grow up and leave you alone.

Oh, and next time, buy a mattress protector :)

Nah, what he gonna do if you don't pay?

Where do you live?

>>17499694
East Canada

>>17499690
You try to ask in /lgbt?

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>>17499679
Acne isnt as simple as parents made it out to be. if its only in one location its usually caused by a specific problem (for example (thisi s wrong but for example) acne on the nose would be a dairy issue). I had acne on my chin only, and thats a hormonal issue. however i cannot fix that as a dude (whereas women could just take birth control etc).

there are two approaches that worked well for me. the first is how i went from pic related to second pic related.

>tretinoin in the morning
>salicylic acne wash in the shower
>moisturizer after / as needed
>erythromicin at night

tretinoin is prescription but you can order online as well. you rub it on to your skin and it peels it fast, causing your acne to fall right off. thats.

salicylic acne wash is basic acne wash you can get at most any store. i get mine at rite aid.

moisturizer stops your face from drying itself out, which prevents your skin from getting damaged and/or over producing oils which makes more acne.

erythromicin topical gel is an antio biotic used to treat acne, however instead of applying it your stomach, you apply it to your face before bed. it attacks the bacteria right on your face, killing acne before it starts.

I used all 4 together and it wokred pretty well (pic related, but it was annoying. way too much of my day was dedicated to treating my acne, not eating foods, trying to find ways to scratch an itch without touching myface. if i was making out with a girl and she happened to rub her fingers across my face, you can bet your savings that id have acne on the part of my chin she touched. but if you dont have it as bad as i did, then this treatment may be more than enough.

i got so frustrated i went ahead and started taking accutane. i was nervous but within the first month i had no acne. i had to quit one week into the third month (of 5 months) but my acne still hasnt returned and for that im grateful. i can sleep face down, scratch my chin, eat whatever i want. its awesome.

>>17499692
Ehm, I have acne like all over the face, and no, don't expect anything REALLY serious, just normal acne, not too bad, not too good.
But this sounds like a whole proccess, I guess I will check it out if I have the time to. Thanks anyway for the advice, appreciate it!

>>17499697

>i guess i will check it out if i have the time to

never gonna be beautiful, life requires effort, good luck with that though.

Bump , anyone?

Oi

I can't offer full advice but just stopping from using the pc just a few days isn't gonna cut it. Your eyes are probably gonna need a lot more rest than that. Also, this is probably basic information but it's still very important: GET VITAMIN A. Not just supplements but from the natural sources like carrots, squash and spinach

>>17499618
American who studied at McGill here.

To get a work visa you first need to have an advanced degree in a technical field and decades of experience, then you need a job offer from a Canadian company who can show immigration that they conducted a job search but were unable to find a suitable Canadian. Then while the application is pending they have to conduct ANOTHER search and still come up empty. It's not a realistic goal, sorry.

I even hired an immigration lawyer to help me but the very moment I graduated I went from a visitor bringing money into the country to a filthy foreigner trying to steal jobs from good honest Canadians, it didn't matter one bit that I'd been working and paying taxes while in school, they simply slammed the door in my face.

>>17499645
i am considering mcgill is it worth it? even if i don't get a job in canada is it still worth going to even if i'm not from a "1st" world country
also would i still be treated as such even if i speak french i heard quebec like their francophones

>>17499618
You have FAR less of a chance getting a job in Quebec than you do anywhere else in Canada unless you speak perfectly fluent QUEBECOIS french.
I'm not saying this to try and bash Quebec, it is just the reality.

Non-Quebecois Canadians are seen as outsiders, and as a foreigner, you are even more of an outsider.

It is not realistic to get a job here.

Op back, we're both 18 and in college. I'm gonna ask her out after class, we walk together to the parking lot.

>>17499582

if she digs the walk to the parking lot shes probably into you, That or already in the friend area, but she is comforatble enough with you that she well, knows you, so go for it.

as for how to ask her out, just be real. be honest. dont be dramatic. dont play up the awkward.

if you can lead into it cohesively great. like you guys are talking about something fun coming out and you ask to go together. but worst case scenario saying

>i was going to get sushi this weekend, you should join me.

and go from there.

>>17499608
We need more people like u

>>17499557
It's probably going to suck for both of you. It's a learning process tho.

>>17499557
Sex is overrated.

>>17499572
But. How can we make it better?

>>17499540

its not sustainable in macrosocial interaction. which is why its not a part of macrosocial interaction and is instead just something pretentious young people do when they have the time to remember.

there was a popular trend where people say things like 'oh im a psychic vampire, i zap peoples energy to stay alive, but im so good at it you wouldn't notice by watching me'.

which translates to
>i want to be special without even having to put on an act.

this is no different. you clearly know it, so why make a thread as if its a serious discussion?

>>17499755
im guessing he is probably taking the piss or wants a discussion on how silly the whole thing is. how many people actually advocate the whole potential gendger and i identify bull shit? im starting my second of uni next years and im gonna be on the look out for people like this.

>this is no different. you clearly know it, so why make a thread as if its a serious discussion?

Could just be some sort of bias but I'm starting to run into discussion about it more often in the wild, coming from sources I wouldn't expect, well beyond the scope of the typical "dumb college kid" or tumblr aficionados. At least from my anecdotal perspective, the concept is starting to gain acceptance by those around me, beyond my understanding.

I'm mostly concerned about suddenly "becoming" a bigot due to a sort of social redshift of values.

Open relationship.

>>17500657
>how do I commit to a long term relationship and practice self control?
>become a cuckold of course

ask me how I know you're a woman

I had a similar situation. You have to end up being somewhat complacent. It's not like you DON'T love her, right? If you do have care for her and put in as much effort as you possibly can, there's nothing wrong with feeling how you do. As long as you can realize that even though you do have different preferences, your girlfriend is the one for you regardless of those preferences. Do you feel like you're missing out on other people when you're with her, and do you feel bad because of it?

>>17499500
That would be a question better directed towards a lawyer, dude.

>>17499500
Lol that nigga going to juvie

>>17499518
Any lawyerfags on here?

>>17499495
Do you think beating her up will make me feel better? I could put her in hospital. Sure I would probably go to prison (buy maybe a good lawyer could help?) but it might be worth it.

I could spend heaps of money on family lawyers but ultimately I think the odds are stacked against me there. So it could be a big spend with no pay off. But if I beat her within a inch of her life maybe there's a pay off there and maybe a good lawyer could see me not be convicted. I mean, I could wear a disguise.

this is one of the reasons why im gonna stay a virgin all my life, knowing about many experiences of people and im like
f u c k t h a t s h i t

>$6,000/yr, aka $500/month, for supporting your child
>"armed robbery"
Dude $500 a month probably doesn't even cover daycare for your daughter, much less food, clothing, and medical insurance/care. If it bothers you that much, go back to court and get joint custody. That's going to be a bunch of lawyer fees and court costs up front, anywhere from $5-10K probably depending on how much your ex wants to fight it, but you wouldn't have to pay child support anymore. You would, however, actually have to take care of your kid 50% of the time. Alternating weeks is one of the more popular arrangements, so you'd have to give up two weekends a month and wouldn't be able to work late or go out two weeks a month without hiring a babysitter.

>often think of killing or seriously injuring your child's mother
.....okay. Do you love your daughter? I assume that she loves you, and her mother also. I've lost a parent (not murder, just surgical complications) and it was devastating. Just think how awful it would be for your daughter to lose both her parents, her mother by being horrifically murdered by her dad, and then her dad to prison for life. That would be 100% soul crushing and would probably mess her up permanently, especially if there aren't any relatives that can take over her care and she has to go into foster care. Just....don't do it.

>>17499423

why do you assume they will find you guilty? if you think this is true, just run. go to another country and do that for the rest of your life. its about as much struggle as life after your prison sentence.

but i dont think you will be guilty if you didnt do anything.

he cant say, describe your penis? dont you have an alibi? anything?

>>17499435
Because they will always make good innocent people look like monsters when it involves kids. If i run i look guilty and I am not guilty.

I would love to think that just because im innocent that I will be innocent but its a very serrious allegation.

I have no idea if he can describe it thats one issue. The allegation was oral and touching to each other. I have no alibi because the mother was the one who brought me to the house years ago and had me spend the night and stuff.

>>17499423
tough shit mate. You should do wathever you can to get yourself the best lawyer possible, even if it costs a lot, a life with no money is still better than a life in jail. But if you didn't do anything i can't see how they can proove you're guilty, in my country you have to proove someone to be guilty to send him in jail (do you live in an islamic country or something?) And if it fails, then kill yourself, you don't wanna know what they do to pedos in jail. Also, buy a new suit. It's important to look well in front of a court.

yo, if you approach a group of girls and just start hitting on them, that's fucking cool.
doesn't even matter if you strike out as long as you do it with grace. just say ok and go hit on someone else.
10/10 I'd be your wingman

>>17499415
>bad idea to go to a club/bar alone
Seeing as you are a man, the statistics are in your odds in regards to rape, assault and the like.
Now that this is out of the way, yes and no.

No:
If you do end up meeting someone there, as long as you aren't a total asshole and/or creepy, they won't mind. Just tell them you're looking to unwind or something.
That said, you might want until they "separate", like when someone is out getting drinks. That way you can speak to them without the rest of the group interfering. Then if it goes well, she ought to introduce you to the group herself.

Yes:
If you don't meet anyone interesting, you'll be bored out of your mind.
If you don't know how to dance, I suggest picking up the basics before going there.
>a bit above average looking: this doesn't really matter unless you're fucking ugly, trust me. Girls at clubs have all sort of dudes trying to hit on them so there are good odds someone better looking than you tried before and (maybe) got rejected. It's more a question of attitude and less of appearance.

>Is it weird
Don't worry, again you won't be the only one doing that though I can only suggest you bring friends, if just for the company.

>>17499465
Thanks man, this is reassuring. Although so much that I'm not sure if you're just mocking me lol
>>17499475
>like when someone is out getting drinks
sounds good but again it seems like it is so easy to come off as creepy here.

>If you don't know how to dance, I suggest picking up the basics before going there
Definitely gonna do this. I've missed good chances because of being so unsure about dancing.

>It's more a question of attitude and less of appearance.
Yeah, luckily.
Not sure how to go about exposing myself to this matter though. I kinda did before but got rejected a couple of times and it felt so horrible that I felt like never trying again.
Like with most people, my main problem is fear of being rejected.

>can only suggest you bring friends
Yeah it's not fun going alone but I kinda wanna get used to it so I don't have to depend on the group

Thanks for the detailed reply m9.

>>17499388
Hate to break it to you man but if you didn't but you're still a virgin

>>17499389
Whatever man, I can try next time.

it could be lots of things.
anxiety, ED, deathgrip, etc.

also, congrats

>>17499307

because a 'worse life' is often better than 95% of lives.

>HURR DURR SO NO ONES ALLOWED TO BE SAD CUZ OF SOME STARVING KIDS IN AFRICA OR SUM DUMB SHIT

no. you're allowed to be sad. but you are not allowed to act like your life is inherently unhappy.

we accept this because there is still a bunch of fun and great stuff to do.

ur still in ur edgy teenage phase. some people never stop being teenagers in that sense. hopefully you get out of it.

I feel exactly the same way OP but I really can't think of what to do about it. Maybe blow up cars or damage property (I wouldn't ever kill someone) but even then that wouldn't really change the unfairness of life. It will always be somehow unfair.
I don't know how other people deal with it, I mostly assume that most people don't really have problems.
I have some Christian influences on my life because of my friends so a part of me thinks that maybe it will all make sense after we die but I can't be sure.

>>17499317
You are kind of missing OP's point I think.