one of my closest friends has just admitted to be being a pedophile. what do I do? Kill him?
>>17496919
alert police.
>>17496919
make him swear he will never touch a child. or have one for that matter
and never let him/her close to your children
NEVER. EVER
>>17496919
More details are needed. Definitely more details. There's counseling and shit for that but if he's not ashamed or willing to seek counseling and has tried ANYTHING with anyone under 18, alert authorites.
Greetings!
I've recently found out that my girlfriend has schizoid personality disorder. Now, that's not major stuff like actual schizophrenia, it's just that she is afraid of intimacy and attachment, and doesn't know how to express emotions. She was always kinda aloof, but now that I know it's a condition, I have to change my approach.
Now. I absolutely love her. She's smart, we have many similar hobbies, she's hot, and she helped me through some of my toughest times. Dumping her is out of question. I will eventually marry her and make her happy. I just want to know how should I behave around a girl that's afraid of intimacy and emotions.
Does anyone have or now a person with SPD? Any advices?
>>17496909
So, is this an official diagnosis, or are you playing armchair psychiatrist?
>>17496909
Change nothing.
I mean you got together with her being yourself. Make being yourself part of her normal and eventually you become a fixture in her mind permanently.
Basically why rush what time can fix.
>>17496909
that sounds strange, because i met a schizophrenic boy who kept messaging me on facebook in a intimate way even when i blew him off and he was upset at a girl not liking him.
Here's the situation /b/:
My girlfriend and I broke up Sunday. It was a fairly strange break up, as we both still want to be friends and are trying to be (we were best friends before we dated). What I think caused the break up was we get to see each other at college, but during the summer we were long distance and lost that spark that brought us together.
My problem is that even though that spark is kinda gone for me, and almost completely for her, we dated for 5 months (8 months if you include the summer where I got to see her 2-3 times) and I think I still love her. I still care for her extremely, and I know she cares for me too, but for her it's "different" and she doesn't see a relationship with romantically anymore. It's tearing her apart because I can tell she wants to feel something for me but doesn't, and it rips me apart because I still feel something for her but can't be with her.
My question is how do I make that energy come back for us, for her especially? Do we backtrack and figure out what brought us together? Do I try sex? Or should I just count my losses and move on? She's an amazing woman and neither of us understand what's going on with her emotions right now.
Oh, and she let me look through her phone and email to prove that she wasn't cheating or seeing someone else (I brought it up randomly so she wouldn't have had time to delete them).
Pic unrelated.
>>17496852
Was going to post on /b/ but after doing so felt that any advice from there would be bad, which is why the first line is the way it is.
>>17496852
Goddammit you fuckers are useless.
>>17496874
>Goddammit you fuckers are useless
>being this impatient
>>>/b/
Tl;dr how to regain a believe that people can be genuinely interested in your personality and interests?
So
>had a friend with common interests
>developed a cringeworthy crush with a cringeworthy shit, we don't talk anymore
>i was angsting constantly at how we always joked and he never wanted to know anything else about me
>"common interests are overrated"
>undergo personality development, try to be a pleasant person to talk to, a good friend
>always keep silent about like 90% of my interests and explore them alone
>get supportive friends, everything is awesome, besides i can't joke anymore
>a crush asks about my interests recently, and in a serious way
>i always just give a short answer and this time a long one was expected
>i fucking realised i was never asked this question in my life and stutter
Oh god, this can't be called a serious problem but
I don't believe that anyone will ever like talking to me, when i don't maintain a normalfag public image.
And i just accepted it and i have no idea how to prove it otherwise.
I could've sucked it up, but it's slowly killing me somehow.
For some reason that "nobody wanted to know me better" thing is a very sensitive spot and even a berserk button at times.
I feel invisible and like a background character, even though i talk with people a lot.
>Okay, it IS some pussy whining, because at least half of people feel this lonely all the time.
>chose to be a pleb
>complains about being a pleb
Stop it.
>>17497185
Stop being a pleb then?
I've been feeling really shitty about myself lately, so I started drinking. I never used drinking before as a reason to clear my mind of bad thoughts. I never really drank much before I do now. It's not like I'm drinking much now, just a few beers a day, but it feels so good. Is this how alcoholism starts, and should I try to stop myself, or is there not much to be worried about?
>>17496833
Alcoholism starts when you are desperate so why don't you tell us what is going on with your life instead ?
Avoiding the problem by drinking isn't going to make it solve itself, believe me.
Don't be pathetic, alcohol is for losers.
Je vais bientôt mourrir Eli.
Poulou.
Hey /adv/, bit of an unorthodox thread, but I think this is the best place for it.
Anyways, everyone on the board is here to give and receive advice, aside from the obvious trolling. I was here a few months back and you guys helped me get some shit under control... But after getting my shit under control everything feels the same, if anything I feel worse because I put forth the effort to feel better. The more I think about it the more I realize that there was absolutely jack shit wrong with me, I just wanted things that seemed to make other people happy rather than decide for myself what makes me happy.
I feel like a lot of us come on here because we think our lives are absolute shit and we need help... but how many of us can truly appreciate what we already have? I'm not trying to make light of peoples problems, but can a lot of us really say that getting what we want will make things better with absolute certainty?
Young Marklar, your Marklars are wise and true
>>17496859
I want to say this is sarcasm.. but I really don't know as I haven't seen that episode of south park. Worth a watch?
>>17496823
please don't mind my grammar
From my perspective it is like the concept of the Shadow from Carl Jung. There are lot of Shadows here, after stripping ourselves of our pride or shame to the point of the two being unrecognizable one from another the Shadows starts to become something else.
I believe that this sub-culture has produced a strange mixture of emotions on people that is where I'm getting at, I feel the same, I feel that my personal dealings are getting better, there are a lot of factors that scream at me to be depressed or to submit myself to addiction or true nihilism. But knowing that every person is struggling to get through life the same and I won't even know it fills me with a paradoxical feeling.
>that getting what we want will make things better with absolute certainty?
I remember a lot of stuff that I wanted and never got, looking back I realized that never getting them was a better outcome. That is because I was dumb, and I'm not saying that I'm great now but I'd like to think that I'm not as dumb as before. I think we need to really KNOW what we want first, some figure it out fast, others never I guess.
So, I met this girl on tinder. Hit it off really well, met up within a few days - had a coffee and some beers.
Turns out we have a lot of common acquaintances, quite a few common interests and she just seemed like a nice person in general. We met up like 2 or 3 more times within the next two weeks, felt like we had a really good time.
Just to point out - I've had one previous long lasting relationship and I've never properly been on a date and done all the song and dance that comes with it.
So me being an autistic dingus, I decide to make a move in the stupidest way possible. We're standing at the bus stop, and shortly before the bus arrives I tell her "I think you're really damn cool and I really like you". She's just standing there, smiling/giggling, and so I just say goodnight and get into my bus.
This was two or so weeks ago. Since then she kept talking to me/messaging me daily, sending me photos/videos online of her daily activities.
What the fuck is going on. Is it the "I'm shit out of luck" zone or what? I don't feel like confronting her, because it feels to me like I'm being too aggressive or some shit, since I've already stated that I like her.
U should have kissed her.
wait where is the problem here?
>>17496793
The giggling was the 100% go-ahead to kiss. Going forward, you can just pick up where you left off. Two weeks is stretching it in terms of maintaining interest, but you should meet together in the very near future and complete that bus-stop routine correctly. She's into you dude
I'm not so concerned about being on the internet (and computer) as to what I do on it, though I suppose I might have an internet dependency.
I often find myself flicking through the "most visited" on my new tab screen - Facebook, then 4chan, then YouTube. I probably spend a while watching stupid videos on YouTube (a lot of the time it'll be the same stuff I've watched before), the cycle repeats. I suppose a lot of this is distracting myself from the feeling that I "should" be doing something "useful."
I am well aware that the internet can be used for "good" things. For example I enjoy watching documentaries. I don't mind spending time doing this, but this is rare and I often get distracted. I also visit a political forum every day though my interaction is minimal.
How do I break the cycle? How do I use the internet for "good" and self-betterment rather than numbing my mind? Is it simply a matter of habit and willpower?
"Willpower" is a noxious idea that never help anybody.
Do behavioral therapy, which means do healthy things away from temptations. Keep at it.
>>17496826
I'm not sure how I could apply this to the internet. Just separate useless sites and useful ones?
Try meditation? Or read those "habits" books.
>looked like bum
>Cut hair and got new glasses for uni
>Wanted to escape robotdom and become a normie
>Thought new look would get girlfriend
>Realize it wasn't my attire/hair, but rather just my facial structure that made me look bad
>Literally nothing has changed
Anybody else cursed with the ugly? Anybody know how to fix it?
Girls are far less likely to choose guys based on their looks.
>Yes, I know this chart is paradoxical, but think about it for a while.
>Anybody else cursed with the ugly?
Me
>Anybody know how to fix it?
Grow a badass beard
Alternatively show face, cover your eyes if you are insecure about being on the internet.
Quit thinking ugliness is the problem.
>can't get girlfriend because of x, y, z.
>doesn't realize that confidence and ambition are more attractive than anything else
You're not "cursed with the ugly," you're just playing life on challenge mode. The rules of the game still didn't change. Girls like strong, confident men who know what the fuck they're about and don't have time for bullshit. Men who will protect them and their children and aren't afraid to put people in their place. I'm not saying go out and be a dick, because that doesn't get girls.
My best advice for you: speak when others are silent, exercise while others are wishing, and stand by every damn word you say. Girls love that shit.
I have like probably 8-10 girls who would date me in a heartbeat if I wasn't taken, and I'm close with all of them. You can do that too bro.
My manager plays a trick on new hires about having a son. He's extremely young and Asian and shows them a picture of a white boy who could be mixed and I believed it for months.
How should I prank him back? I was thinking about telling him I'm pregnant except I regularly drink with co-workers
tell him you have an asian son. oh, wait...
Have sex with him and THEN you tell him you're pregnant
Revenge is a dish best served cold.
>Or you could just not care.
>going to frat party
>Greek house is in the hood
>don't want to get shot by a dindu
What do
>>17496762
>white people
the fact that you need courage to go is hilarious and the fact that you don't have the courage is the cherry on top
2nd amendment or be chill. Idk, if you can't beat em, join em (not as a dindu, the white dude in the hood)
Take a fucking uber or taxi if you're so paranoid
The girl I secretly love gave me a pretty fucking obvious hint that she wanted me to ask her out, like, "we should go out some Sunday to this theater" and since we talked little to nothing before the conversation that lead into this... I thought to myself "well shit this is way too fast, I will lose her if I ask her out immediatly" and answered something on the lines of "I will count on that for some Sunday!"
That situation happened this Monday.
The next day I immediatly googled what we could see that Sunday and proposed it. She liked the idea but a series of events made it impossible for me to ask her out that day.
I waited for Wednesday, Thursday I couldn't see her, and now, tomorrow is Friday and I still haven't asked her out.
Is this lost forever? The problem that I'm having is that I don't want to ask out of nowhere, I want to chit chat a little, and as I said we don't talk that much, so I can't get to the point where I ask her out.
Help me /adv/.
You should ask right now. Expect her to say no, because you need to give girls more lead time for a date, but it is not a rejection of you.
>>17496760
"Hey hows it going. Hows work/school?"
"There's a show on x night. Wanna go?"
Stop overthinking shit in the future. Fucking sage.
>>17496760
>, I will lose her if I ask her out immediatly"
I hope you know that makes zero sense
You could just text her and get to the point. If she likes you, she won't flake or deny. If she wants to but is busy, you can always do it next weekend w/ her
Ideally, small talk w/ her and ask her directly. Or ask her sometime next week if you can't see her now.
>>17496772
>Wanna go?
Basically what anon said stop overthinking. Is she said we should go to [x], she may like you
But you never want to say "Wanna go?"
Say "We should go to [x]. You free?" Simple and certain. You can't ask a girl out in the form of a question. You make a comment about what you should do together and ask her if she's free
You shouldn't even be going to the movies anyways. That's what friends do
Not asking for advice, I'm giving it
This thread is for anyone who's having a hard time in life,
Growing up, moving forward in life or recovering from mistakes
Talk about your struggles here, try not to make it a contest about how hard you had it, but how far you've come and how much more you're going to better yourself
Some background, I've been through some hardship and this is what I've learnt
I just turned 20, I moved out at 17 and went from being a homeless stoner dipshit from a dysfunctional family to getting my life on track and winning a 10,000$ scholarship, paying off a vehicle and getting out of debt in 3 years
>>17496756
I have been working really, really hard over the last two years to try and get somewhere. I've worked unpaid internships, a lot of shitty customer service jobs and I'm a few days away from submitting my masters thesis. I'm really proud of myself for all the work I've put in but I'm starting to get frustrated with job prospects.
How does someone like me get started? How do I get a big-boy job? I've been doing the education thing and working all the shitty jobs, but I can't seem to get that next one that takes me somewhere.
Three biggest things I learnt where:
1: your parents and family never figure out life any more than you will,
When you where young they where scared, stressed and confused. Don't hold this against them.
>love them in spite of their mistakes. Take the good and leave the bad out of your life.
My father failed as miserably as a father could have, but I still awnser his monthly call from jail
He cried the first time I didn't hang up on him because he said he loved me.
People need a reason to change, and if you don't give them a reason when you could you are part of the problem. You have to help others to truly help yourself
2:don't drink or smoke
Don't form habits like this
Ciggarettes, weed, alcahol and any other drug may seem harmless but if you use any chemical like that to cope you are training your mind to reach for something to deal with hard times.
Once and a while is okay, but watch yourself very closely.
I went through alcahol withdrawal once at 18 after drinking about 12 beers a day for 5 months, don't go down that road. It's not worth it.
Try and channel it to something productive
Some things I did when I was feeling discouraged:
>Work on my truck
>Apply to better jobs than the one I had
>Apply for scholarships
>Study
>Exercise
3: work hard, kiss ass, be nice to everybody
You will never win if you try and coast
Work hard, put in more hours than you need and put away 100$/paycheque.
>always put some ammount of money towards your debt, no matter how small, don't ignore it
>don't live outside your means, find cheap hobbies like going on hikes and riding bikes
>Friends are important, but learn to be happy on your own. Going for a walk or bike ride alone is not wrong or anti social, don't base your happiness on other people
Guys help,
I get extremely nervous when I try to "flirt" with women(really jittery, slightly sweaty, heartrate increases alot, etc). One of my biggest fears is fucking up with a woman so badly and she tells all her friends and those friends tell everyone and I become publicly mocked. I worked up the courage after a couple of months to message this person on twitter (on an account I made recently, just for this occasion... I know I'm pathetic),
what do?
>>17496740
imagine she's ugly af, like the worst thing there could possibly be, or that you're talking to a guy, it should take off that spaghetti a bit
You could only hit on women who don't know anybody that you know.
>Five towns over.
>>17496740
Did you message her already?
Do I take cunts couch
This person gave me a couch but now that I annoyed them they are trying to ungive the couch to me. I have it in writing them saying the couch is mine...so its mine , right?
Yeah if you can keep the writing. You can't ungift stuff
Fuck yeah its your couch, dumbass shouldn't have signed any papers before giving you the couch.
Good job OP, for once I'm actually proud of you.
The ungifter after I annoyed them pretty much just said " I want the couch back, I'm bringing 2 people to pick it up on Monday".
All I did to annoy them as well was say that they can't pick up some stuff that left at mine because I was abroad and wasn't comfortable letting them in my house while I'm not there !
They didn't even ask if Monday worked for me! I'm keeping that couch god damn.