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I posted that thread yesterday about being heartbroken and not knowing whether to try to get back with the guy that was gone.
Against my better judgement possibly, I talked to him, and was receptive, we talked about why he thought it was okay to just up and leave, and we're going to be hanging out again. I don't know if this is even helpful, /adv/, but I guess you can't just always give up on someone, even if they gave up on you. I don't know, is what I'm doing, trying to revive a relationship a bad idea?
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>>17498550
unless he tells you why he did it, it's pointless and you'll spend 99% of your time worrying he's going to walk out again.
Exes are exes for a reason I'm my opinion. You should always be stepping forward instead of back - and this is true of every aspect of your life
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He pretty much said he thought I was going to leave him, and to not take rejection, he would just reject me before, so I guess lessen the pain. That's definitely understandable, I think, right? I don't know, am I just struck with blind love? I would follow this man anywhere.
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You're full of shit, OP. Don't get you get tired of making up stories?
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Did I get ripped off by my friend? 2016-08-26 10:21:56 Post No.17498543
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Did I get ripped off by my friend?
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A friend of mine (R) told me a family friend of his (FF) needed help with some DNS forwarding shit, and he said FF would give me £40 for the work (but he had obviously pulled this number out of his arse, so I didn't consider it set in stone). I did it, and I think I made an offhand remark about how it took 5 minutes and £50 is quite a lot.
I was to be paid by FF through R in cash. R paid me £20 and I remember feeling weird about it at the time, because although I'd said it was an easy job and I knew the £40 wasn't necessarily agreed with FF, we hadn't discussed the figure any further since the £40 figure was brought up. However, it was just some friendly informal job I didn't make an issue of it.
Now I've been asked to do another job for FF, however this time they contacted me directly. They said they would pay £40 "like last time", which made me slightly suspicious. I brought that up with R, who pretty much just said that he thought I said they could pay me less because it was an easy job - something I'm not entirely sure I said (this was a while ago).
So basically the question is this - should I ask FF how much money they gave R last time? I know R is shit with money and not 100% trustworthy - he's not very clever but he is subtly (or so he thinks) manipulative, I'm not really sure how to describe it.
Asking FF would put the situation to bed but it would also mean revealing to R's family friend that I don't really trust R, and I don't know the family friend at all so it seems a but autistic to drag them into this. I don't give a shit about the £20, I just want to know if my friend has tried to fuck me over.
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*£40 is quite a lot
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Just tell them both that you'll do the job the day you see the £40.
If FF is saying he'll pay you £40 (and he's mentioning the number, not just 'same as last time'), then either he's scamming you, or R scammed both of you to keep £20. That's not acceptable, but easily solved by not doing a thing before you're paid.
If you do anything else, you end up mixing yourself in this mess, which will take more time than it's worth, and for sure more than £20's worth.
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yeah, FF said this: "last time was £40, is that still ok?". I know R can be a bit weird with money (he smokes way too much weed) but even then I think this would be a very surprising thing for him to do.
As I said, I don't really give a fuck about the money but I don't want him to potentially get away with having ripped me off, so would you say it's worth bringing it up with FF and having them state that they definitely gave R £40 to pass on to me? I'm gonna do the job anyway because even if I'm getting a tenner I'm still being overpaid for this shit. I find it unlikely that if FF had intentionally ripped me off they would then remind me how much I was supposed to get last time.
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>find guy i knew in college working in same company as me
>thought he was "too cool/popular" for me so we barely spoke and i kinda forgot about him
>we talk and it turns out he's really nice
>even waits for me to go home together
>mfw he even trips over his words and talks nervously and we're both pretty awkward
here's the thing though
>i come in for my first week
>guy was working there before i was and was working on same task for past 2 weeks
>he kept failing at a task for a picky client
>i make a couple of suggestions and our director notices
>director ends up giving guy's task to me because guy keeps failing to satisfy client
>my first try and client loves it; director also notices my work and keeps complimenting me
>guy seemed nervous around me since and asks for my opinions more
does he like me? or is he just nervous because he thinks my skills are better than his?
he's a good looking guy and always had pretty girls around him. plus he did pretty well in school, so he wasn't exactly a lazy dummy either. i've never seen him be nervous, and the few times i've seen/interacted with him, he seemed pretty confident and just "cool."
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Are you planning on fucking him or something?
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Surely he is hurt that you "stole" the project from him.
But people usually like their co-workers, so id say youare in the clear.
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How do I male them go away?
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Just went yesterday to the doc, and he diagnosed me with what it was bugging me for a week.
I have a floater in my right eye that really worsen my job performance. I've lost attention and I'm not able to concentrate for a long period of time.
He just prescribed me some vitamins, do this fucker really will go away with some vitamins or it's all placebo?
Pic related I only see something like the bigger one on the photo
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>will it go away with vitamins
lol nope
>or it's all placebo?
yes
theres nothing they can do for floaters. I have a few but its a string of circle cell shaped discs that dart back and forth at a slower rate when i glance back and forth.
annoying but shit all they can do.
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>>17498523
Your brain will eventually be able to ignore them and you will stop seeing them most of the time unless you actually try to.
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So I'm just condemned for my entire life to be unproductive due to those things?
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Does anyone here think about suicide much?
I'll be honest with all of you, i'v grown more worthless with each passing day, i deal with my Gender Dysphoria every day, and it's been 5 or 6 years since i started thinking there is something wrong with me, but now, i know i just need help, but sadly it's hard for me to speak out about my feelings to people in real life, because i have an issue with people seeing my face when i tell them about my Gender Dysphoria, i told my Dad, and that was really hard for me, i don't think he approved but he was more like... oh well..lol
But now i live alone, and i won't leave my apartment for anything else other then work..
I don't really have any friend's who understand me in real life so i come on sites like this to Vent to others.
Things have been bad for me lately, i won't even eat a complete meal, i can't bring my self to eat food because i am facing this crippling Anxiety and Gender Dysphoria, i know, i know... i sound all Emo, but deep down this is not how i really am, i'v been just bottling up my feelings, and now things are really bad for me. Been considering suicide for a while now, but i know i shouldn't go down that road.. but i find my self thinking along those lines a lot.
Any advice for me?
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How long have you had this gender dysphoria or w/e?
Is it fairly recent or havr you been feelin this way dince you were like 4 or something?
I feel like all the positive reinforcement and support for people coming out as a man wanting to be a woman or vise versca is kinda'v like a double-egded sword.
On one hand its great for those individuals actually having diffuculty coming out, but on the other a bunch of lonley, sexually vulbnerable people with no real sense of self(identity,spiritually,emotionally, mentally, and all the rest) are more prone to join the "coming out bandwagon" without really understanding what it means.
This and all the support and positive reinforcement is what i believe is what making people belive that they're gender fluid binary nonsense when in actuallity they're not.
So which is it for you OP?
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Also shuttung yourself away from the world and real people are just making things worse for yourself.
You need to get out side, even if its going to the park or just walking around for a bit window-shopping or somethig. I guesd it all depends on your neighborhood or where you're at but shutting yourself away from the world with just your thoughts isn't healthy for anyone.
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I know it sounds like a meme like "just bee urself lol" but its actually not. And if you are feeling suicidal dont call the suicide hotline, i know it sounds counter productive or w/e but they'll just tell you ti call the police, then the police pmt or something will make you out to be the bad guy even if you've done nothing wrong. They'll take you to an ER and then take you to your local psyche ward for 4 days and 3 nights trying to get you hooked on meds you may or may not need and give you a "vaccine" you suddenly didnt take this year.
I used to be friends with this girl last year but now she doesnt even want to say a word to me. In fact, she was my only friend. She is the only peer who ever gave a shit about me and liked my autistic behavior. We used to play vidyas nearly every weekend and she actualy made my life enjoyable. But then my parents started to talk about divorce and I leaned on her for emotional support. Instead of being a friend she used it as an opportunity to stop talking to me. I tried messaging her but she only responds with one word. I bought her even a present for her birthday and she could barely say thank you. Help me out
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Leave man, it sucks but it happens. People come and go, just fix up yourself emotionally and physically. Trust me, people don't come back until they know you have something to offer. It sucks but its the way that it is.
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Ya you are right... But this was the only actual friend that would actually like to spend time with me and the fact that that friend was a qt3.14 blew my bind.
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Yeah, I hear you. I had a similar thing happen to me. Been childhood friends for the longest time but once things got heavy. She left, I had to deal with the problems on my own. Once I fixed them and I started to make new friends and got a job and started taking care of myself she slowly tried getting back into my life. Ofcourse I didn't want her back at all, but we all choose what we want.
Long text short, if you want her back just get better. Save yourself dome dignity and take care of yourself.
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>meeting my long distance bf and his parents for the first time in November
>they are paying for half of all my travel expenses to fly tot he USA as well as paying for me to go on a 4-day wine tasting tour with them in Napa
>wtf do mega wealthy white rich people like??
>how do I impress them???
>inb4 "Just be yourself"
>of course ill be myself I just need that extra bit of sparkle
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>sparkle
You've already lost.
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>>17498423
If he can't find a gf in his own country, and his family is willing to pay for someone to meet him, he's probably a mega weirdo. They are more worried about him, than you are of them. That being said, just be yourself. If you've made enough enough of a connection, you'll hit it off.
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How long have you known each other? How old are you two? Where are you from?
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I have the day off work tomorrow. Do I go to the parks and find people to play Pokemon with, or go to the local anime con for Friday only?
Missing out on things gives me panic attacks. Whatever choice I make, I'll be missing out on the other.
I really want to meet friendly new people. Plz help.
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>con is only for a limited time.
>spaghetti spilling GO is literally every moment of every day.
Gee....
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>>17498427
Well, playing PoGo is free. And there's a better con at the end of September.
The con this weekend is honestly probably going to be crappy. I just want to meet nice people there.
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>>17498435
If money is a factor, go for what's free. If not, you will probably meet people at this con that you can better connect with at the next.
Think about this. I don't play Pokémon GO,but i know dozens of normies who play. People who know NOTHING about the game, except that it's popular, and that's enough to pick it up. Anime is a much more particular crowd. You'll automatically have something in common.
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What's the point of life? 2016-08-26 08:01:34 Post No.17498363
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What's the point of life?
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I'm not asking this because of depression or anything, but it all just feels so empty and non-satisfactory.
Most of us live to enjoy life. We work our asses of and get money so that we can spend it on that activity we love, and enjoy ourselves.
But the concepts of "having fun" and "being happy" are nowhere near something that could give meaning to one's life. For instance, yesterday I went to an amazing concert. I spent a lot of money on it, and I'd been waiting for it for months. It was pretty amazing, and I had a great time; but now it's all past. When I woke up this morning, it was another day, and except for a cool memory I wouldn't have had last week, life is just the same. I have experienced happiness, and have enjoyed life, but that was the past and now life is meaningless again.
What should I do to make my life more meaningful?
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>What should I do to make my life more meaningful?
Hmm. That's a hard one as it differs from person to person.
For a lot of people they keep themselves so busy with work and raising kids they don't give themselves time to properly consider this question.
I'll answer to what gives my life meaning, but it may not apply to you.
These are the things I do to make my life more meaningful.
I spend time doing things that stimulate my mind I set goals that are usually small but achievable and then I feel satisfaction when they're done.
I try to maintain a calm and easygoing outlook on life and minimise stress - this doesn't directly provide meaning but it does make it possible to see things more clearly.
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>>17498363
Lol u should read, dumbfuk
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>>17498363
The meaning of life is to reproduce and spread / better our genetic code. That's it. Scientificly at least...
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Best suicide method? Guns arent available where i live.
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you wont do it, faggot
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>Work hard
>Learn a skill
>Earn a modest living
>Find a caring partner
>Settle down, maybe have a few kids/pets
>Eventually retire
>Leave a respectable legacy
>Pick up a hobby like model trains or history or watercraft
>Eventually die of natural causes, leaving behind a respectable legacy that will be remembered by your friends, family, and admirers
It's the best method of killing yourself, since no one actually realizes you're killing yourself.
It allows you to do cool shit while also not being a burden or a worry to anyone, all while killing yourself.
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>>17498337
This should answer your question, OP.
http://porn-et.com/live-eel-in-the-ass-Japanese-girl-523.html
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My roomate has had a history of going out on weekends and binge drinking. Normally this wasn't a problem for me as I didn't live with him at the time, and we'd usually go to apartment parties where they run out of alcohol fairly quickly. Tonight/this morning he went out to a baseball game, had 4 beers, then went to the bar, had a vegas bomb, and 2 tall boys. He ended up getting kicked out, and when I got back to our apartment, the bathroom was locked, and puke was all over the floor after he unlocked the bathroom. Now idk what to do, this was over an hour ago, he's still on the floor, and I have to wake up early, but can't because I have to deal with him. Idk what to do.
TL;DR roomate binge drank again, puked on bathroom floor, idk what to do
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If there's a way to get into the locked bathroom, do so.
Check that he's alive and breathing, move him to the shower and wash the spew off him - as much as possible.
This isn't out of charity. If you don't do it, he will most likely spread spew everywhere on his way to bed. Or wherever else he crashes.
Once his spew situation is under control, check the bathroom. If its manageable, leave it for him to clean. If its a complete disaster you'll need to clear enough of it so you can get in and shower/ clean teeth prior to work tomorrow.
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Thanks anon, he eventually unlocked the door, but It's pretty gross and I showered earlier but still went out and sweated, so I need to shower again. He's alive and spitting in the toilet. I just don't get why he does this repeatedly, drinks until he gets cut off/thrown out. Do you think I should try and get him help? He's otherwise clean and organized, but this is just too much imo
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If he does this often, I would start to look for a new place to move and don't invite him over until he gets his shit together. (Diplomatic choice)
Or kick him out if you want to dissolve the friendship.
As for alcohol abuse, the experienced professionals advise that there is no way to control their drinking - even if you ban alcohol from the house you can't babysit him 24/7 so he will always find a way to get booze into his system in large quantities.
The only way to help people who are abusing alcohol is to not help them. If they are fucking their life up, you have to let them. Don't cover for them or make excuses for them. That only makes things worse.
Having said all that, a lot of people drink irresponsible quantities of alcohol when they are young (18-22-ish)
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Is it true that when a girl actually tells you a problem she's been facing/drama your automatically in the friend zone
A girl I know was telling me about how her best friend showed her pic of a spider and she has aracnophobia so unfreinded on all social media and then told me how mad she was at her and stuff and then said she was she gonna add her back and forgive her and stuff
Did fuck I fuck myself over by being nice?
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Nah it wasnt a dude so youre still good. But you might have better luckpursuing other girls - it will show this friend of yours that you are out there for more than friendship
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>>17498301
>Is it true that when a girl actually tells you a problem she's been facing/drama your automatically in the friend zone
No. Someone's willingness to be vulnerable and confide in you and your inability to tell them you have feelings for them are unrelated.
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>>17498301
Maybe. It's always wise to make a move as soon as possible.
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Any tips on how to memorize big amounts of data for Uni?
I study through distant learning (engineering management) and get 400-500 page scripts per course. I don't have much problems with engineering courses, but management part is fucked up. It's plain memorize everything, or you will have a bad day. I have to invest a shit ton of time to be ready for each exam.
I experimented with repeated reading (5-6 times), underlining key phrases, taking notes, summarizing and mind maps.
All did work but the amount of time it took was just crazy.
I need to get more efficient, i still have a lot of exams to go. Any good tips, what else could i try?
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>read out loud
>record it
>listen all the time
Do this. It will eventually get stuck in your head and you can do other shit in the meantime
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>>17498286
gotta build a mind palace yo
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Try to formulate your summary as a set of questions and answers. Then you can reviewing the material by taking them as a test. Review your weak questions.
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Where to find women I like? 2016-08-26 07:07:55 Post No.17498270
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Where to find women I like?
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Hey /adv/ so I'm trying to find women I really want to start a relationship with. And before you say anything I'm solidly attractive, at least 7/8 out of 10, and I have no problem getting girls as is. Even though I'm nerdy I can easily FIND dates and in this quest have gotten laid at least once or twice a month, but I'm really not happy with how it's going.
Like I said I have no problem getting girls or the sake of getting girls; my problem is I'm not finding any girls that I really like. I've done the playing around and I don't really care for casual sex at this point. I'm trying to look for girls that I will want to stay with forever or at least have a serious long term relationship. I'm a 20 year old guy doing community college for now and transferring only 3 hours away when I do transfer in the Quad Cites in Iowa/Illinois, so a population of ~474,937 people. The type of girl I'm looking for is a short, shy, nerdy girl who enjoys geeky stuff like me. I'm not here to advertise myself, my problem is I can't seem to find girls like that. I live in the country by a small town of 7000 where everyone else lives in the middle of nowhere and hardly ever come into town, so I can't really find people in that town. I can't find any good shy nerdier girls at my school and they aren't the type who use tinder so I'm at a loss here of where to find girls I really want to have a quality relationship with.
Does anyone have any advice for where to find and talk with shy nerdy girls? Any on here who can say where they like to go out to and does anyone have any insight on where to actually find people like that? I see those couples all the time and I can't figure out where those kinds of girls can be met at. And with that can any shyer girls give some insight on how you feel comfortable and like guys to hit on you and introduce you? I feel those kinds of girls don't feel comfortable having people just walk up to them and flirt. Where can I find them and how can I talk to them?
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The mall
Class
The streets
OkCupid
Coffeeshops
Bookstores
Church
Anime club at Augustana.
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>>17498276
Add conventions to that list and it seems good.
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>>17498270
you'll have waaaay more luck after you transfer. the absolute best way to meet shy, nerdy girls is through their friends. even then, it's rarely instant attraction. an intramural sport or shared interest club are other options.
basically, look for things that put you in proximity with the type of girl you're interested in. it may take your preferred type a while to "warm up" to you, which is much easier when you have a legit reason to be around her (like a sport or club or mutual friend).
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Hello everyone; I and my girlfriend will be visiting NY for the first time now. The day we come to the Newark Liberty International Airport at 14:25 is also Beyoncé concert at MetLife Stadium, which starts at 19:30. Our apartment is located in Manhattan, near Washington Square Park. Our initial plan would be to go from Airport to the concert and when it ends finally back to Manhattan. The problem is we are not planning to spend small fortune for taxis. What is would be the best approach to the situation? Is it even safe to buy tickets? Also my concerns is; where should we put our luggage while we are at the concert? And as said above this would be our first time in NY so keep that in mind.
If you have any experience with situations like this please respond, your help will be highly appreciated and I want to try my best to make this happen for her.
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I went to school by Washington Square Park, you can guess which shitty school it is. Traveling by subway is the fastest way to get around in the city, traffic is fucking awful in the city. Also you really don't want to be hauling your luggage around, so I suggest putting yourself down at the apartment first. Also, what do you mean safe to buy tickets??? Anyways, I've lived in this shithole of a city for a little over a decade and a half, ask away...
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About the tickets; I was told they will let you in the Stadium until one time and if you are late you will not be able to go inside. I was thinking we need like 1 hour on the airport , than 40 min to the apartment and than we can go to the concert. The plane can also be late and in that case i dont think we will be able to come in time. Also what is like driving with underground at 3 am? How much do you think it will cost us for whole transportation?
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Bump, so it wont die