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2016-08-26 21:58:25
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off.
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Do most white girls really fuck black guys or Is that just a meme ?
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girls
Would you find it funny/cute if when a guy friend you're pretty close with is traveling in your country, and when he visits you he brought your dog some dog treats from his country?
last time I visited her i got her the perfect gift (a stuffed captain america plush doll, she loved it). But I'm really out of ideas for this trip.. I'm going to buy her some American candies that they don't sell in europe, but i also thought it would be kind of funny if I bought some American dog treats, because she really loves her dog.
i know that all sounds kind of cringe worthy, but I just want to see her smile.
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>>17500129
I am a guy but it is not cringy for me, it is pretty cool and considerate.
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>Be me
>friend A asks me to get a day off for MTG draft
>we have adult jobs so getting a day off is a commitment
>allah.ackbar we both get the day off
>fast forward two weeks, friend B, whom I spend equal amount of time with seperately, demands I clear my schedule to come out with him
>"But B, I had plans with A from weeks ago."
>"ANON, MY BIRTHDAY IS TODAY EVERY YEAR"
>before he takes off angrily I tell him I'll treat him to the place around the corner two days later, but he doesn't respond, fuming.
>I know for a fact his schedule allows for it, but that's not the point.
>I'mtheasshole.jpeg
>I'm smoking a bowl and going to draft
>I think I'll order chinese
Pic unrelated
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>>17500028
>Be me
I wish you retards would stop starting stories like that.
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B is for bitch for caring about birthdays. It's not a goddamned holiday.
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>>17500052
This. You made earlier plans. It's not personal
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>fail some CC courses because of attendance bullshit
>be NEET for some time, get trade certificates
>parent complains about me being jobless, not driving, etc.
>hoards the documents I need to apply to jobs, refuses to help me learn to drive, threw tantrums before over papers she stole and lost
>asks me to show her what courses I need to take for the next semester, flips out and rants about my failure when I do
>continued this in a cycle until half the classes I needed to take were filled
>constantly threatens to kick my ass if I ask extended family or friends for help
I understand why she wouldn't want to help me, but shes preventing me from helping myself now. Should I just move out and try to wing it at this point? The trade that I'm certified for pays about $15/hour.
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Yes she's an anchor
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>>17499997
Should I try the driving thing before or after I leave?
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>>17500077
Driving is crucial so id say before
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i love how all of my so called "friends" are never there to listen when im down. but im always there for them when they are. i guess im just unimportant...
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Do you want actual advice or do you just want to complain?
Keep that shit for your blog or Facebook
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They're not friends in that case, but what do they usually do when you try to get some support from them?
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they kind of just brush it off or ignore me
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Every other day I can't sleep.
It's been this way for a month. One night sleeping, one night awake.
Melatonin, nyquil, fucking seroquel, tea, weed, alcohol..
Nothing works. I exhaust myself out during the day, I don't know why I can't sleep.
I went to lay down at 4AM this morning, I did nothing but stay awake and lay there trying to will myself asleep until it was 2PM.
I wanted to punch something. I just want to fucking sleep.
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>I did nothing but stay awake and lay there trying to will myself asleep
been here before I was on medication for lepsy
I would guess you're lying there not able to quiet your mind and stuck in a loop of never letting yourself just drift off to sleep
if your mind is going at 1000mph you're not going to be able to sleep, gotta start super early getting ready and trying to calm your mind down
no tv, no interbutt, fuck it even no books sometimes which sucks, but you've got to start just letting yourself relax instead of trying to relax
which is difficult I was in hospital recently for not being able to sleep then seizures next day
it's no joke and it ain't easy good luck to you OP
also stay away from the drugs shit just makes it worse over time
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>>17500012
Yeah, I don't get it.
My heart will just race for no fucking reason and I will sweat on my pillow even though it's freezing in my house.
It's hell.
I only tried drugs to aid in the sleep, and they did fuck all.
Thanks for the advice.
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>>17499953
I have that too, but i just pop a zopiclone and sleep through the night
Can anyone tell me what this is? I've had it for years now, since I was in high school. I've never been able to tell if it's some sort of balding or just part of my hairline. I'm in college now, can't really tell if it's gotten worse over the years but any info would be appreciated.
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>>17499947
A lot of people have widow's peaks, yours is just a bit of an inverted widow's peak. Nothing to worry about mate, that's not where male pattern balding starts.
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>>17499947
Balding is a part of your hairline.
Like are you worried you're diseased?
If you are balding, theres nothing you can really do, so what are you asking advice for?
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>>17499958
I guess I'm wondering why my hairline looks like this. I'm not aware of what to call this.
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I can only get shit done when I'm angry. What the fuck is this? When I get angry about something I'm suddenly full of energy and can do things like cleaning up my apartment in one go with the sheer power of my rage.
Otherwise I'm the laziest bastard ever and sadly I don't get angry often. Would it even be healthy or is being angry very stressful for the body?
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You work better under pressure, simply as that
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>>17499941
That's not the same thing bruh. I don't actually work better under pressure. I don't really care about deadlines that much and if I have someone breathing down on my neck while I do something, I freeze and can't do shit.
It's only when I get very angry about something, anything. Not frustrated or annoyed, that's somehow worse for productivity, but ANGRY.
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Anger is stressful for your body, yes. It would be stressful for most people that you might interact with, too.
What kinds of things do you get angry about?
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I'm really struggling with handling emotion in general, in particular, anger and negative feeling about myself. I've struggled with depression and anxiety for a long time and I'm trying to improve myself.
I have spent a long time repairing my life. I dropped out of uni after having a mental breakdown and I've spent 2 years unemployed. I'm finally starting to do stuff I used to again and I'm getting better.
I play a lot of online games and the success or failure I have in them basically dictates my entire mood. When I start to lose, my body temperature gets very hot and I really have to focus on not losing my shit with people. If I get trashed all day, I literally consider suicide and spiral into an extremely negative mood where I focus on all of my flaws and everything I hate about myself. Today I lost 7 games of dota in a row and I spent the entire evening thinking about writing a suicide note, how I'd kill myself, how much I wish I was dead, whatever.
It sounds really stupid and trivial. I constantly remind myself how it's just a game and I can't control some of the factors as to why I lose. I accept all the responsibility for what mistakes I made and I don't take it out on my fellow players.
If I have a good day and do well, I feel great for most of the day. Unfortunately that doesn't happen very often because I suck.
I'm trying to improve myself and let go of stress and negative emotion, but this is one aspect of myself I can't seem to fix. I'm too competitive and reminding myself it's a game and shit doesn't matter to me.
I know it sounds like the stupidest shit but this really means a lot to me. I've always had dreams of going pro and that will never happen if I don't fix this.
Am I bi-polar? I seem to suffer such extremes of emotion, from elation to absolute fury where it's taking all of my energy not to break my fists smashing the wall. I jump from chill to 10/10 mad in minutes.
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Stop playing video games, they're for children.
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>>17499920
videogames are pretty much the only thing I am alive for at the moment which is pathetic considering how unhappy they often make me
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>>17499927
Well stop it, that's a stupid waste of time.
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I'm not sure if this girl I just met is into me. She laughs at everything I say but Im not sure if that means she is into me or trying to get rid of me. She also actively talks to me and doesnt give me the cold shoulder deal but she might just be very friendly and social. Should I ask her out soon or is she not interested? We are both college freshmen and we talked for a good 30-40 minutes after meeting our professor.
Also any body language advice would be appreciated.
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>>17499890
For body language you better visit your local library and check books out on the subject.
You can only find out if you ask her out.
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>>17499890
That's at least the 3rd i have seen this today.
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>>17499918
>3rd body language thread today
I'm sorry I dont go on this website all day so I wouldn't know.
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How can I tell if I'm genuinely on the autism spectrum? I may be able to see a doctor soon, for a diagnosis, but it's worrying me in the meantime
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>>17499885
Look up the stats of what percent of people are autists in your country .
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>>17499885
Asperger's here, tell me your symptoms.
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>>17499885
You may simply have different opinions anon
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How to get an ex back after fucking up? 2016-08-26 21:09:25 Post No.17499864
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How to get an ex back after fucking up?
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Since i've broke up with my ex 9 months ago (and hurt his feelings doing so) i acted clingy and needy( i would text him once/twice a month) and overall annoying to the point where he is just making fun of me. I think he doesnt take me serious anymore but still cares enought to actually talk to me on occasions like we used to (though he keeps on a distance). How would I make him take me serious again?
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>>17499864
There should be a sticky on /adv/ that says one thing and one thing only
YOU DONT GET BACK WITH EXES UNLESS YOU HAVE KIDS TOGETHER
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>ex broke up with me because I'm clingy
>how can I cling to him hard enough that he'll take me back????
Lol good luck, OP
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>>17499875
I'd add: don't stick your dick in crazy and no, you shouldn't kill yourself.
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I need some help...
I'll make a long story slightly shorter, basically I'm in a relationship that I don't want to be in. The person I'm in a relationship with barely talks to me anyway. I don't dislike them, I just don't feel comfortable in a relationship with them. How do I let them go without them hating me or making them sad?
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>>17499858
Do you have any idea what would be the reason why this person barely talks to you?
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>>17499872
They told me its because they have been caught up (and I have too) but they also don't go on Skype a lot either. We don't really have common interests either.
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>without them hating me or making them sad?
why do you care so much about this if you barely talk anyway?
sounds like there wasn't much of a relationship to start with. Just break it off short and simple. It's like a bandaid; the faster you do it the less pain for everyone involved
it'll probably go better than expected
I was talking to one of the girls on my dorm floor and she said that she had been raped before. I asked innocently how it happened and she said she had too much to drink and some guy took advantage of her. When I asked if she was blacked out drunk she said it doesnt matter. Then I told her it does matter because its the difference between regretting decisions she made while under the an influence she willingly put herself under, and being completely taken advantage of while not cognizant.
We werent alone, but in the common area on a different floor and a different girl accused me of "victim shaming." When I said that telling a person they were acting irresponsibly isnt victim shaming (I hadnt accused her of this yet and was trying to get more info to see if that was the case), the girl started crying and now theres this huge fuss about it in my dorm. College just started and Im already fucked.
How do I fix this.
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>>17499841
If someone tells you something personal like "I was raped" and the first place you mentally go to is trying to see if it was their fault you're being an jackass. You're not a police officer probing for intel, you're just some random dumb ass cunt she was trying to talk to. If someone gets robbed because they walked home late at night and your first response is to shit on them for being out late you're not going to get a positive response from the person you're interviewing either.
Either apologize, do nothing and hope they forget, or continue role playing as autistic Judge Judy.
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>>17499874
If someone tells you something happened to them do you not inquire about the circumstances it happened under. You seem awfully irrational so its hard for me to take your advice.
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Apologize or deal with the potential fallout I guess. I'd have the same gut instinct as you to ask questions, but the fact is you don't know who she is. I've seen people lie just to punish those they perceive as "problematic", and it's just not worth that risk.
How practical is it for me to be majoring in literature and minoring in history if my only end goal is to become a professor?
Seems like a cozy job, it's fun to me, and it gives me plenty of time to relax and often travel/play music/ make art.
What do you guys think about the future of literature and English professors? I go to Yale if that matters.
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>>17499803
You go to Yale, so I don't think money is an issue for you (you either get a full-ride just for going or have a rich as fuck family), but I don't see too much wrong with your plan. My only suggestion would be to consider an education degree so you can still teach if the whole Doctorate thing doesn't work out.
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>>17499803
You will find yourself having a very hard time. Lit and History professors are a dime a dozen.
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>>17500111
is this really true?
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Need someone to talk to? 2016-08-26 20:44:06 Post No.17499800
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Need someone to talk to?
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Good morning/afternoon/evening/night /adv/. Have you ever just needed someone to talk to? Someone to listen? Like you're not necessarily looking for advice, you just need an ear?
This thread can be different than the get-it-off-your-chest thread, in which you can get it off your chest, but replies are greatly encouraged. Since we all know that you want to be heard.
Based on how this goes it can become a regular thread just like the others, if you guys enjoy it that much.
I'm here to listen, I always make time for you.
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>>17499800
I'm beginning to worry I don't understand genuine love, or least that I haven't experienced it since I was a kid. What's it like?
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>>17499936
I'm kinda the wrong person to ask what love feels like, but I'll try my best. It is equally the most painful and the most uplifting, happy feeling ever. Sometimes it just feels like a soft warmth welling deep inside you. Sometimes it feels like you want to jump or scream with happiness and share that with your partner. The point is, love can feel like many different things.
Don't worry if you don't understand, it can be very complicated. You're just human after all
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I feel uncomfortable asking other guys to hang out and I don't know why. I feel like I immediately judge other guys as incompatible for a friendship, but then a few weeks later I always end up regretting it