Hi adv,
I am in serious doubts and would appreciate some of your wisdom.
I recently met online a girl that looks cute and conversations went very well, really clicked.
We decided to meet, and it was then i noticed that she is somewhat overweight. She is aware of it and brought it up in conversation saying it is due to a period of recovering from injury (was a dancer) and depression. she has good proportions and was athletic before. She mentions several time how she started working out again recently.
I dunno what to do here, she might be just saying it. I am athletic myself, and it would bug me to date an overweight person.
Has anyone ever had a success in this kind of thing? How did it work out?
>>17501814
Are you looking for a girlfriend or arm candy? Do you want someone whose company you enjoy or just someone to show off to your friends?
>>17501822
Why are you implying that those things are mutually exclusive?
>>17501822
He may want someone to do.athletic activities with, and who won't have ongoing health problem.
Anyone else here worry that you have a creepy presence about you?
I swear, whether I'm at a club, bar, or on the bus, I always find someone women staring me and giving me these wide-eyed, almost scared looks on their faces. It's always the same: minding my own business, see what looks like somebody staring in my direction, turn to look and verify, and they dart away the second our eyes meet. Often with these shocked, owl-like expressions.
Makes me worry that no matter how much I try to keep to myself, my presence alone scares people. I just don't... ;_;
>>17501753
>at a club
*looks at you disgusted*
>>17501764
Seriously, this. Why even bother looking?
I often worry that I have a creepy presence, but when I ask, people tell me I have a calming presence. this seems to be true even when I'm anxious as fuck. but they do also say that I can be intimidating.
oddly enough, one of my biggest crushes told me once that he had trouble meeting girls because they thought he was creepy. but I never found him creepy at all. he was actually really nice.
the ones I find creepy are the ones who reek of stunted emotional development and bitterness.
I went down on a prostitute. First time seeing one. How retarded am I? She was attractive and clean looking so I just assumed it would be okay. 2 hours later and I want to shoot myself. I guess the only advice I need is how soon do I get tested. Has anyone ever done something this stupid?
Her pussy was fucking phenomenal.
>>17501734
Two to four weeks, you should probably be sage and get tested in three
>>17501734
You can get tested to ease your mind but think about it
Do you think Uber drivers can drive with a broken car?
Her pussy is her product, if it has STDs then she cant earn the money
Unless you fucked some hoodrat cokefiend then you probably got HEP C , HPV, AIDS, and woke up missing around 23 gems
Unless you notice any signs you shouldn't do anything desu. Std.stigma is a bitch and you'll have to suffer alone and with depression if you do have something. It's better to remain ignorant about it because people suck and you don't need that stress in your life.
how do you cope with this
I did nothing wrong at all
my most educated guess as to why she isn't interested anymore is because she's older by two months thus being a grade ahead.
how my dudes? how do you cope with this?
>>17501709
By graduating highschool
>>17501723
Keksimus maximus
>>17501709
Cut all contact
I am becoming a shadow of myself.. I met the most amazing dude 3years ago and we fell deeply in love. I, being a fucked up individual, believed that something would ruin what we had or somehow it would be taken away so I ended up fucking up myself. I was just awful. Mentally and emotionally abusive really. I ended things because I couldn't stand being that person and he just kept taking it because he had never loved before. A few months later I got into a car accident (nothing serious) that really gave the proverbial kick in the ass needed to change my fucked up ways. So I went back to my love in hopes of repairing the damage and ultimately becoming one once more. However he was changed, more sore than before and just a totally selfish and short tempered individual. I knew that this was sparked by me so I was parient and understanding. I then got pregnant (accidental and against abortion) my emotions got harder to manage so I had a few slip ups. Nothing mean and fucked up like I had been before but he would react very very strongly to anything I would say. We decided (well I brought it up) that he was just too angry with me and that we should be apart. I then went through the rest (7months) of my pregnancy alone. We messaged a little just for him to have a basic idea of what was going on with baby. I had my boy 7weeks ago now and when that happened things sort of changed for us. His intense anger faded. He was there for the birth and the 4days I spent in hospital. I have been to his place twice (3 with this weekend) for 5 days each time. Things are much better but I cannot share my feelings because his reactions are still overly dramatic. I want to continue being patient and understanding but I feel like I am dying a little inside. I know that I wronged him so I need to take it but to what extent and for how long. When I was effed up I was aware and shared but could not stop myself. He is not aware and he is just defensive if I talk to him about it.
>>17501703
The way you started every sentence with "I" made me feel exhausted 1/3 on the way through because it was making me nauseous
I want so badly to be right for him but I am no longer sure that he is right for me.. I am still madly in love with him.. his touch his smell..
>>17501715
How else should it be expressed.
Things were going good, I was making good progress, then she messaged me this. Part of me wants to tell her off. The other part of me wants to ignore it. Why did she message me??!
>>17501692
Girls do this to feel less guilty about being soulless monsters that crush people's dreams on an emotional whim
>>17501695
What should I do it haunts me. She was finally out of my mind. I feel horrible again
>>17501698
Just block her, don't give her the satisfaction of knowing you once again acknowledged her existence
Girls like that are parasitic
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KV2ssT8lzj8
This solves all of your problem.
>>17501687
That thing cant call me a good boy after pegging me then kiss me on the cheek
>>17501690
Hnngh.
>>17501724
Don't tug at my heartstrings!
Okay you can just make sure you cuddle me too
I find that it is very pleasurable to urinate as a man. Do the men of this board experience nearly the same level of ecstasy that I feel on a daily basis when spraying? What about the women?
>>17501648
lol i was just thinking about this today. however its not a daily thing, its mostly when its been held in for too long, which lately is often. idk whats up with my bladder, i think its mostly just getting overloaded but i piss all the fucking time.
>>17501654
this is a grill posting
>>17501648
physically it feels very similar to orgasm, just with less associated pleasure. Still really good though. Same goes for taking a massive shit.
Trying to buy a computer around $350, This is one of the computers I had in mind but i have no idea if this computer would be considered "good" in gaming and working sense
lol
that won't play any games
sorry
>>17501599
No that sucks. Build from here to see what you can do in your price ranger
http://www.logicalincrements.com/
>>17501599
Why is it really bad? I honestly just want to be able to play most games on decent graphics
>>17501606
Thanks but I can't build computers for the life of me
Hey /adv/
I'm a sexually submissive guy and I have trouble hiding my submissive nature from women. It seems like some guys are so naturally masculine. I have spent a long time developing the ability to be a leader/dominant, but it seems like my natural personality still betrays a lot of elements of submissiveness.
Grills don't like submissiveness, so what do I do? Am i destined to a life of NEETness?
OP here.
I realize I said I was a NEET, but that's not actually accurate--I have a decent job (~50k/year). I just used the term NEET to describe being a loser with no fuckbuddies, rather than literally my employment situation.
>Grills don't like submissiveness
Ha. Some of them do, but they're hard to find.
>How do I hide my submissive nature from women?
Don't. Find someone who you can be comfortable with.
>>17501568
So long as you hide your personality form those you have a relationship with, then you are doomed to be unsatisfied.
/adv/ i dunno what to do. I fucked up.
I went to a frat party last night/a couple hours ago, and got insanely fucked up. i didnt need to get this drunk but i let myself get taken advantage of. I saw a hot frat boy, figured why not and we fucked. I had been fighting with my ex all day and i sent him a picture on snapchat with the dudes dick in my mouth. I wasnt thinking, it was completely random, and after i had finished fucking the guy, i crashed in his bed, and woke up and i immeditaely sobered up when i realized what i did.
Sure enough he saved the picture, i waited to see what he did and finally i tried texting him but i think he went to sleep. Hes petty enough to send this picture out. He knows my friends. He's fucking scum. Hell, he knows my MOTHER on facebook. What can i do? Hes not responding to my texts. Im so scared right now.
You fucked up...
slut
>Send boyfriend a picture with a dick in your mouth
>"he's scum"
Lol. Good thing the degenerates of the world clump together.
>>17501527
Well you could go the whole nine yards and get him with rape if you genuinely feel you were. However, more lightly you can contact your school about cyber harassment which his distribution of pictures would fall under.
I'm going to college next week and I want to get more self confidence. Please be honest with this. Also, if you guys can give me some words of wisdom to help boost my self confidence that would be highly appreciated. I'm really shy and its cost me at parties, because I'm too shy to make moves or even talk to people. I don't think this thread will give me that confidence but I just want to know where I stand. I'm hoping playing college baseball and being more outgoing in college will get me farther than I ever did in high school. Thanks
>>17501496
grow your hair out
you look normal
good luck
>>17501496
You look perfectly fine and normal OP. No need to stress over it. People are drunk at parties, so never be afraid to join in on the conversations. They most likely won't remember the details afterwards anyway.
>>17501496
You're really cute desu.
So while I'm job searching and regretting my degree choice I've devided to learn coding since it's always been an interest and I'm around computers a lot anyways.
I took an Intro C++ class aimed at CS majors and it went well. That was my second year of uni so I've forgotten a lot of the specifics but the overall ideas have stuck.
Anyways, I want to get into App development since it seems interesting given how phones have exploded and I'm wondering how I'm doing.
I'm learning through Sololearn and codecadamy. I'm taking the Java courses (almost done) and am wondering if I should just jump right in to eclipse or android studio after this.
Would also appreciate any general beginner tips.
Bump before bed
i like IntelliJ IDEA, and i think android studio is based on it.
>>17501485
if you have got a mac then id really look into some swift. its a muchmore developer friendly environment, but you need a dev license which costs about $100.
if youre feeling more adventurous id check out some React Native instead. you write the app in javascript mixed with swift or java if you need device specific features, then simply compile the code and it farts put two fully functional apps.
Escort questions thread
Is there any possibility of getting to rawdog one if you show proof of a same day std test that proves that your clean? They are all on the pill or the sub dermal implant or whatever to stop pregnancy so only thing they are worried about is disease
If your really nice and cool with them, aren't fat or old, will they give you better treatment and maybe even some discounts if you become a regular?
Is it true that if an escort refuses to kiss you on the lips shes a cop and you need to get the fuck out immediately?
>>17501461
You are a true stupid ass motherfucker if you actually want to have unprotected sex with a hooker/prostitute/escort. Have fun with the STDs
>>17501476
Odds of diseases with one that charges 100 bucks for half an hour are actually lower than a random girl from a party or club because of how paranoid prostitutes are about std's
>>17501481
That may be true, but the escorts who do this didn't get that way by rawdogging. They are unlikely to make an exception for you.
Hi /adv/
I'm 18 and I had an abortion 4 months ago. I've never felt worse about anything in my entire life. Every day brings an onslaught of guilt, depression, sadness, wondering what could have been, and deep, deep grief.
I don't necessarily regret it because at the time, I was with my boyfriend who didn't treat me very well at all (who I very recently broke up with). He lied to me about him being sterile, promised me there was 0 chance of getting pregnant, repeatedly pressured me into having unprotected sex, took advantage of my vulnerability (I've been seriously depressed and lonely for a long time now, which I think is why I was with him in the first place), even got mad at me for falling asleep in the car on the way back from the clinic because "then he didn't have anyone to talk to while he drove".
He was not a good person, and if I'd had kept the baby, he would've been in my life forever. But that doesn't prevent me from just feeling so utterly heartbroken by the decision I made. It just made me slip even deeper into sadness. I don't really know what I'm expecting from you guys, but right now I feel so alone-- no friends, no more boyfriend, no child-- and I guess I just needed to tell someone to get it off my back. Living with something like this is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
>>17501442
My only advice before every Tom, Dick, and Jane comes in to berate and judge you is the following: dump your boyfriend; seek therapy (It really does help); seek forgiveness. I'm not sure how to explain that last one, but in certain religious tradition there are ways to atone for the things we have done for which we feel shame. I'm not saying to palm whatever it is off on some religious plane, but rather there might be some healing in it for you depending upon what you seek. I wish I could offer some sort of advice to take away your agony or that I could offer some sort of consolation to ease your hurt.
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sorry that you were deceived. I'm sorry that you were used and hurt by someone you trusted. You will heal. You're not alone. If that's any consolation...many, many girls and women have had abortions. Many of them didn't want to or were forced to. Perhaps look into a support group of women who meet that have survived a shitty boyfriend/husband and have had an abortion that they regret.
Good luck, OP.
Well at least you avoided what might have been a life-ruining relationship. You're also setting up a future child to succeed, even if the fetus had to go at the expense of that. But hey, the morality of it, setting aside money or love or duty, that's between you and your God, and you're not going to come to terms with it by people telling you how you're supposed to feel.
>>17501442
I'm sorry those type of guys don't deserve people like you.
I say fuck him your better off without him(your bf) as for the abortion everyone has the right to choose there own paths in life and weather this was the right one is not for me to decide.
You sound like a like a cool person good luck with life