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Say, "I have the most common fetish."

>Not this guy's fetish.

Don't confess it or say "I have a _________ fetish", that makes it sound a lot weirder and more taboo than it needs to be. Once you've already got a girlfriend casually compliment her feet on occasion, tell her you think they're sexy (or cute if you want to be even more tame at first) while giving her a foot rub. She's not going to think it's a big deal if you don't. Occasionally escalate things from there and maybe have a more serious talk about what kinds of things you'd like to do involving them at some point.

>>17497131
I mean, I guess it could work. I don't think most girls are familiar with how common certain fetishes are, though.

>>17497151
This seems pretty solid. I just wish there wasn't such a fucked up stigma associated with footfaggotry. I straight up can't help what turns me on. :^\

Dude just get the fuck over it and her

All u should do is say "sorry to hear that, get better." and leave it be and be about your business, you don't owe her anything really. Invest your time in someone who actually cares about you or wants to not waste your time, she's an ex for a reason.

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>saying no to your ex
You did good.

>>17497105
cont. I live in tokyo and figured I could probably progress something like that to a dating thing. what do you think? Is that what tinder is for? ive never tried it...

>>17497105

In my day you could post a free ad in Metropolis for a language exchange partner. If I were you I'd mention that you'd prefer a dude as a partner because it's easy to pick up girlisms, which are many in Japanese, if you only talk to girls. And anyway people assume all gaijin dudes are really looking to hook up and not really serious about learning the language if they are looking for female language exchange partners, so nobody will answer your ad.

Unfortunately the drinking age is 20 there so you can't do the best thing which is simply become a regular at your local bar.

>>17497299
wow, thanks for the tips, but where is a good place to ask in tge first place?

Break it into smaller chunks. Repaeat smaller chunks over and over. Maybe even write it down while verbalizing.

>>17497130
I do this and it helps, the thing is its just too long and I end up with too many chunks anyway

>>17497103
Mind palace.
>recall interior of building you're familiar with, i.e. your house
>create physical manifestations of the things in your lecture and "place" them around your house
>as you recite your lecture, imagine yourself walking through your house and looking at each of these items
>make sure you always take the same route through your house and everything's always in the same location
This was the technique Greek orators used. Look up "method of loci"

Oh, I'm now feeling a bit OK now.

Feeling connected and stuff

Cool

Somtimes you just need to wait a bit and ride it out. Dont jump to conclusions based solely on you overthinking stuff

>>17497066
first, id stop being a whiny bitch, then id develop a taste in music, sell my tv and buy some dank headphones.

Suck it up. Life can do much, much worse.

>>17497066
Nah

I hear blind people develop super power level hearing, I would use that and my superior intellect to stop the weakness in my enemies speech and then slay them with my.
Literally life on easy mode

>>17497039
Every cunt says that shit. Unless she has some legitimate dirt on you dump the whore.

>>17497045
She's actually done it in her past relationships though. I'm not sure what to do.

>>17497039

You don't "get over" problems. You solve them.

You got yourself into this shit show and now you have to get yourself out. Stow the pity party and do what you have to do to rid yourself of this woman.

If someone wants to kill themself then they have every right to imo.

Trying to keep saying someone alive because you'll miss them even though every single day of their life is absolute hell and they've given up is the real selfishness.

I'm 28 years old. I'm not really depressed or anything but I don't know if I want to keep on going myself. I don't want to spend my life till I'm 65 working 8 hours or more a day. I've seen what it did with my family and I don't really want to put up with it.

Some might say I just need to find something I'll love to do, but that would most likely require a degree which will put me in debt for god knows how long and even then I won't know for sure if it will do the trick.

I might be considered weak for it but I really don't care. I just want to spend my time hanging out with friends, doing fun activities, etc, and since life just doesn't work that way I'm not sure what's really keeping me here.

I'm seeing a councilor about this and even he can't really answer this question.

>>17497031
I agree that people should have the right to commit suicide.
Unfortunately, in many countries, it is still a crime: this is incredibly unjust because of the extent to which it places the state in control of a person's life. The justification for this (that the state has an interest in not allowing citizens to kill themselves) implies that the state owns citizens' lives, and that killing oneself essentially takes something away from it.

As for the moral part: i obviously don't think it's acceptable to commit suicide when you have a wife and kids who depend on you, except in extreme circumstances (eg terminal cancer, permanent disability, etc).

We can't just live for ourselves. We have to think about the well-being of others, and balance it with our own. If "someone will be sad" or "someone will miss you", that's not a good enough reason not to do it. But if someone depends on you for their health or safety, and they may otherwise die (eg if you're the only doctor in a remote village), it's better to wait until later, until you can discharge your obligations fully (eg train someone to replace you).

>>17497108
>Some might say I just need to find something I'll love to do, but that would most likely require a degree which will put me in debt for god knows how long and even then I won't know for sure if it will do the trick.
Hold on a sec there: if there's a possibility that it might lead to a better life, why don't you take the opportunity?
What do you have to lose? A job that you might not hate is much better than a job that you definitely hate.

I have no idea how reputable they are, but you're going to need some barebones social skills to handle applying for a job and interacting with coworkers. If you can't handle real life college how are you going to handle getting a job?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kWjOhH7L-EE

>>17497005
I do have social skills don't get me wrong. And I can interact with others for the job's sake. Reason I sucked at school was because I never really realized how important it truly was until now.

>>17496976
I think is funnier to, at first, take everything as a genuine problem and try to rationalize on your own standards, what do you think a person in the OP's position should do.
It works as a meditation medium and helps you to know yourself just a little bit.
Also it prepares you when you face similar situations in your life, at least start considering a possibility that something like other's problem may apply to you at some point.

>>17496993
I guess if you look at it from that angle, what's "real" or "fake" doesn't really matter, it's just what's more believable as what would occur in the world.

>>17496976
yup. its like watching someone with splinter complain wile you yourself are hiding a broken arm. Somehow help with that splinter make your arm hurt less.

Femanon here. I don't know if I can help you, but I'm here.

>>17496973
Online dating.
Get involved with a hobby besides staying indoors watching anime and playing video games.
get into club activities that force you to interact with other people and by default meeting more grils.

>>17497010

online dating has been shitty for me. Okcupid is like 90 percent white women who have kids. My city is fucked.

I should try and find a more.. open hobby? Again though, this city is pure fucking turbo cancer when it comes to things like "hobbies" and "clubs". Nothing ever really goes on except crime.

>>17496962
Continue analysis or ask a third party if she is single(disregard shyness and embarrassment). If she is single make your move fast.

Ask her if she's single. Then, if she says "yes" ask her out. It's really that simple.

>I don't want to risk the embarrassment
Stop being a faggot.

That girl is so beautiful

>>17496954
IF you are getting a tattoo just for the sake of getting a tattoo then don't.

>>17496960
I'm not that is why I need a good design that will flow and be elegant

>>17496954
>The ultimate goal is a full sleeve of video game related stuff

Don't do it. You'll thank me few years later. This is coming from a guy who knows someone with Naruto tattooed on their arm.

I would inform him of the consequences of his actions and let him be. like you said people are gonna do what they are gonna do all you can do is offer insight.

F

Whats the commitment op? A radio station appearance or is he gonna have to play music? These kind of details matter.

>>17496929
It might be that he's shy, the guy you're describing sounds like me, physically people expect me to have no issues with girls but the mentality of being an introvert just devastates me.

You could try asking him yourself, but I guess this depends on culture, where you live etc

>>17496929
Sometimes what women think is subtle is extremely obscure to guys and over our heads.

Say exactly what you want/mean and i guarantee things will go well.

>>17496929
Let's all love Lain.