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I cheated on my girlfriend. She doesn't know.

What do I do?

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Any stimulating activities to prevent oneself from falling asleep? I have been on other 4chan boards and posting there keeps me awake easily, anything else?

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Every weekend I sit in my apartment all alone and watch TV. I'm sick of living. I lay and think about my ex girlfriend all night and all day. I miss her but she's off fucking her ex and not even missing me. Not even messaging me once when for years I kept us together and listened to her telling me about her feelings and how I wasn't a good enough boyfriend because I sometimes did things that didn't involve her, every couple months or so

I walk around in circles and talk to myself, I think about suicide every waking moment but I know I will always be too much of a pussy to do it. My only respite is escapism through TV shows and movies. I have nothing. I hate everything.

Do I have depression, will medication fix this, what do I do. I want out

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Hi /adv/!

27, male, /fit/
I lived over a 1/4 of a century and it is time to change something fundamentally. I want adv to one specific topic.

story:
>got mobbed frequently in school over several years
>i think this is the root of my "dilemma"
>became a metal nerd, with long hair who was grinding Diablo 2 like fuck
>living the r9k-dream
>after school, job with lowend payment
>still nerd gamer
>wants more money
>stops working to achieve the right degree to join university
>still nerd gamer
>joins university
>still gamer, started /fit/, always smash myself with alkohol while partying
>while at university, become sick fuark /fit/zen, stopped gaming in the end and got a decent haircut
>got my MEng
>now i am seeking employment, but soon i will get a decent job, but i'm currently broke

So what is missing? Yeah, never had gf, sex, neither had much contact to girls.
VCard is still on me.

Had in the meantime 3 horrible experiences in bed with girls, who lit dropped me, cuz i didn't know what i was doing.
Flirting and kissing somehow works for me, but in bed my autism wins.
So whats the best way to get some sex experiences without humiliating myself?
Hookers are currently not possible, due to financial situation.

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I like to subscribe to the idea that everyone is a piece of a whole, that people are part of the eternal living universe which is observing itself. When you die, your body and your consciousness decays into fundamental elements which are put back into the cycle and re-used into other forms of life. Essentially, if an eternal, Abrahamic God does exist, then he is everyone

Of course, I have no evidence for any of this and can't prove any of it, so my belief is just as valid as people who believe in Jesus or people in Rome that believed in the pantheon of Gods

To anyone else who subscribes to this belief though, how do you come to terms with the fact that really shitty, evil people exist? It's really hard to imagine that your consciousness is part of the same whole as the Sandy Hook kid shooter. But the reality is that he did exist, and did all that horrible stuff out of his own will. Just trying to empathize with something like that, it leads you to dark places.

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I don't want to flirt or buy shit for women because that automatically puts me in a lower position than them- I have to make the moves, flirt the right way, put myself out there, and I *might* get a bone thrown at me. The way I see it, if a girl isn't obviously into me and makes a move (it's happened before) then I really want nothing to do with her to feed her already massive woman-ego. The whole notion of women being the gatekeepers just turns me off.

Am i missing something.

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I only find my gf beautiful.

Is it weird ? I found all the other girls ugly and never masturbate or fuck anyone excepty gf

And it make me feels different and really weird.

Pic realated, fcking ulgy to me. For my friends shes great.

What do you think about it ?

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anyone got some positive vibes?

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My boyfriend blew off our plans this morning without telling me, idk how to handle this..

So we had plans for this morning, we didn't have an exact confirmed time but we talked about 12. And he said he really wanted to hangout earlier and was trying to get me to hangout earlier but we agreed around 12. So I was I text him around then and he didn't answer me back until 4pm.

I asked him why and what happened? And he didn't answer me. I don't know what to do, I feel pretty shitty. I know we didn't have definite plans for 12 but the fact that he didn't answer my texts or phone call for fours hours really upsets me because I got all ready and rushed and stuff to hopefully see him, then he just disappeared. And he hasn't told me why yet.

And idk what to do. Like wahr his excuse is going to be, if I should pretend like I'm busy now tonight and not see him? I just don't know how to handle this and I feel kinda ddisrespexted and worried about why he didn't answer me.. Like if he blew me off to go hang with friends or sowmrhing, it's just really messed up desu , I wouldn't have been mad if he just told me befor instead of just disappearing ...

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Asking out a girl I like tomorrow. Can I get a pep talk?

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Where can I take up coding, learn it and functions very well, for as little or no money as possible

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so i have this annoying little sister that wakes me up all the fucking time, how do I deal with her?

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ITT: Social cues you never realized existed until recently
>When someone at work or school asks if you "need anything from the cafeteria", they are not offering to get something for you but inviting you to come with them

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I was on a date. It was going alright. We were going back to my house to be lazy with some fast food and TV. I figured this was an opportunity to cuddle or something. She passed a sign marking the highway where her father was killed in an accident.

She was holding back tears, and decided to go home. She said she'd drop me off at home. When the car stopped, I took a minute or two (literally) to ask her what was wrong and ask if she was sure about leaving. Then she told me about her father, and had me text her mom some shit about me being a friend and how she'd be home soon? Yuck.

I felt pretty dissed, but I can't imagine how it feels to a.) love your parents and b.) lose one in an accident (especially if she was in the car...). So I texted her, "I hope you feel better soon." Hopefully she was up there being comforted by family, or something like that.

I sensed that she flipped a switch on me, that she really started resenting me for inviting her, like it was my fault we passed the highway marker. She said a few things hinting at that. I texted her, "Sorry that happened. I didn't remember...I hope we're still cool."

Then she replied, "I don't know if we're cool. I'm feeling better now, but what bothers me is that I feel like I needed to fight you to leave." What? I literally took a minute or two to ask what was going on and if she was sure. Last I checked, that was not any sort of crime.

I got pissed off and said, "I don't see what happened as anybody's fault, but that's just my take." When she didn't reply I said, "Fine, if that's how it is."

Obviously it's really horrible to have a flashback like that, but I'm not ready to accept any sort of blame for it. I don't see how I should have known which highway he died on, nor how keeping someone in the car a literal minute two is a God damned sin.

So she hasn't broken contact yet, but I assume we're not going to talk and all plans are canceled. I don't think anyone wins here. Things were going well too.

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All of my friends in my social group all are very active on social media, talking to lots of people on facebook at once, same for my girlfriend.

I am in one group chat with my guy mates (They are part of many) and basically just use facebook to talk to my girlfriend who currently lives a few hours away.

I study for my final year in college, lift and see my gf... If me and her don't work out what do I do? I feel like those around me view me as an outcast simply because of how inactive I am on social media. Me and the gf argue a lot and I feel very isolated, is this just a phase after high school?

Any one else feel like this?