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talking to/asking out women is so much easier irl desu

online dating should be reserved for if you're stuck in an area where it's literally impossible to meet women or something

OP, you can't be picky. its just the way life is. if you want to say online dating is shit, go for it, but to then say you refuse to it irl because of the inconveniences of not having a universally good time of it is like a fat chick complaining shes oppressed for having access to tons of food.

heres some advice

>dont just hit on a woman

its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.

give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.

doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.

>>17577788


>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.

dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in

so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.

they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.

if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.

you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.

it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.

>>17577755
Never. Let the bitches come your way!

>>17577755
If you've gotten to 5 dates then it's not gonna happen; usually kiss by 3rd date, house visit by the 4th, bumping uglies by the 5th.

>>17577761
sure, if you're a firm believer in the 80/20 rule

>>17577763
OP said ask out, not put out.

>>17577728
Ask at a high point in the conversation, when you know you're both laughing. I fucking hate doing it over text because you don't actually know when the 'high points' are - there are a lot of ways to interpret one text message.

In this case, get her number and call her. Have a friendly tone to your voice, let her hear you're the type of guy she would actually want to meet up with.

and P.S: if you find yourself in this situation again, ask yourself "would you want to go out to the woods with words on a screen?"

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Ask her to go somewhere public not the woods you sperglord... Or for a walk in a public park if you must go that route... Ask sooner rather than later... The trick is to ask before you have time time to drop the spaghetti.

>>17577737
Dude I'm way too autistic to talk to her over the phone. I can cope with talking to people face to face but for some reason over the phone I'm a nervous wreck.

>>17577744
Okay perhaps the woods isn't a great idea we need to get to know each other more before that I suppose. Where else could I ask to meet her that doesn't sound super boring and normie?

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>>17577683
kiss kiss- Chris Brown

And I don't think he seems gay in any other way except he and his best friend act like Gayish kind of and I kinda think his best friend is gay/in love with him bc he doesn't like me before he met me, like is jealous of my bf spending time w me, calls him all the time even when we're together, messages me one time and asked me if I knew where he was bc he wasn't answering him back.. Like just weird stuff like that that's not normal between guys typically

Nah dont worry its normal. I love squeezing, sucking and what not nipples, and I love playing with good tits in general but im not gay like not even a tiny bit.

and about his best friend, from what you described you're over reacting. you said its his BEST friend, we all have 1 or two, and they're best because you chill out A LOT together.

you do sound kind of insecure tho no offense.

You need to eat a high fat, high protein diet and also work out at the same time so you don't get fat but make gains. Don't just eat a ton of junk food and think you'll not just look like a blob.

>>17577682
That's what I have done, though, in the past when trying to gain proper weight. It just doesn't work. It feels like I'm literally full of shit all the time and doing nothing but shitting 24/7. Honestly, pretty disgusting and makes me wonder how anyone heavier than I am can live with the constant shitting. I don't like to shit more than once every few days.

There are certain conditions that prevent you from gaining weight, although most people who experience it aren't eating the right things. Contrary to the popular belief it's not always as simple as calories in - calories out because your body won't be able to process everything you eat if it's not healthy or is lacking some nutrients. You need a good balance of micro and macronutrients. Look into it a little and figure out if you're getting your needed vitamins, proteins etc (the /fit/ stiucky has some info on this). If yo are consuming everything you need and are unable to gain weight you need to go to a doctor. Shitting all day every day probably means something is off. I consume about 3k calories a day and I only take a not-so-impressive dumb a day.

Also, unless you work out a little you will become skinnyfat, even if you do manage to gain weight. As in most of the weight you'll gain is going to be in gut and chest and almost all of it is going to be fat.

No other options? Loans suck....

>>17577654
I've borrowed from my mom before and she's not giving me another cent.

>>17577648
if you got laid off then start collecting unemployment, this is why it exists

you were laid off and not fired because of something you did, right?

>>17577591
There isn't a technical definition about this.
In my head, making love is about intimacy and fucking is about physical pleasure.

>>17577595
How do i steer towards the later? The situation is that i can have intmate and loving sex just fine. But it kind of lacks the intensity and urgency of "fucking"

Making love is intimate and personal, a connection with someone you care about. Fucking is masturbating using another person.

>>17577575
They're proly just weird like that, as if its their own little inside joke.

If its all fun and games, no complaints, fuck off.

love you to

>>17577575
Holy fuck, your friends probably stuck in a domestic violent relationship, next time she does this in front of you yell "Unhand him you fiend" and proceed to knock the bitch out.

>>17577522
Take your boss aside and tell him you're giving him "your two-weeks". He might pry you for why, but you aren't obligated to tell him.

>>17577608
Should I get it in writing, or is it mostly just something you say?

>>17577614

Write a letter of resignation. Keep a copy. Maybe even have them sign it (depending on the job). Years down the road you don't want an employer calling for a reference only to have HR inform them you were fired or something, due to a petty manager (I've been there).

Also, give two weeks notice, and work your final two weeks to the best of your ability. Don't just start calling in sick.

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>>17577478
>is Sucide the best thing to do

Yeah.
Life isn't worth living anyways, and with the state of the world being what it is, it is likely that shit is gonna just get worse.
The only real argument against suicide is the pain it would cause in one's family, which is why I haven't killed myself yet.
If you ain't got a family, or don't care about them, just do it m8.

Sweet release of death is what I personally long for.

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first, give life an honest try.

try to find work.

try school.

try to learn everyday stuff like driving and cooking.

try to make new friends.

try asking a girl out.

try.

It's hard, I know. Failure is something you have to learn to live with. But at least try. Because there WILL be victories, even if they are small. And even if in the end things don't work out exactly as you'd hoped, you will not regret having tried.

Are you aware that there's more to life than having a partner? You didn't say anything except shallow physical characteristics.

Concentrate on a career and hobbies. Once you have regular sex you'll realize it's not fulfilling anything but a basic need.

>>17577438
I'm talking very entertaining, non gross certified good channels

>>17577438
>>17577460
Alternatehistoryhub. content is enjoyable and informative.

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>>17577463
Thanks m8 he's pretty interesting. I'm subbed

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Bump. Surely I'm not the only one..

>>17577398
I used to have a job at a Pizza Hut. It was alright. Wasn't very fulfilling and the pay was shit but it was a job. Some older woman works there. She is a driver. She was really weird and touchy with me. Made me very uncomfortable. It was strange for me because I am not a very attractive guy. I quit the job because she wouldn't stop. When you fantasize, you would think that type of stuff would be hot, but it just ended up feeling very weird and unwarranted. Gave me perspective on relationships and things like that. Honestly, I am just quitting woman at this point and just focusing on myself.

I don't have advice for you, OP, but I've had a couple of undesired come-ons and they're really shitty. Especially if the girl starts to call you a faggot or something because she expects all dudes to want to fuck all the time.

I had some girl basically lock me in her car one time insisting that we were going to fool around and that I was going to take her on a date. My friend called to find out directions to the party and she basically pinned me down while I was on the phone, and started to lick and bite my nipples. As soon as I hung up, I had to get forceful with her, pin her to the side, unlock her car door, and get out. Like, that situation would have been really scary if I was physically outmatched or something.

Anyways, I got out of the car, went into the party, told everyone she was a psycho cunt, and told her to her face never to fucking speak to me again. It ruined my chances with a girl I'd been into for months because she thought I was being mean. Oh well.

Wow chill the fuck out, OP. Now if you routinely sent her messages like "would you like to meet up in half an hour I'm in the area" and she'd ignore them, I'd understand.

What she's doing is not waiting on you hand and feet in terms of online shit. That's not the same.
>hurr but why can she do other shit but not come running to me
Because she feels like doing that more (or hasn't though of a cute response yet) and because you're her boyfriend and she presumably fucks you and dotes on you she trusts that you won't think she hates you if she takes an hour to respond to a snapchat.

It's also possible that the amount of constant reassurance/attention you want from her is off putting and she is trying not to create the expectation that she will go along with that. But that's impossible to tell from the information you gave, that can very much just be someone who's comfortable responding to non-urgent messages from their SO they speak to/see all the time when they feel like it.

>>17577382
Congratulations on missing the point completely, I just wanted to say first of all to go fuck yourself because I anticipated fucking morons like you coming here. Let me spell it out.

The issue isn't that she's not always on her phone or isn't always responding to me, she could take 3h and I wouldn't mind as long as she was actually doing other shit, but when I have PROOF through actions and notifications that come TO ME that she's ON HER PHONE at that exact moment and just not responding to me, it sours the mood. It's that simple.

>>17577387
Yesss, let the hate flow through you my young Jedi.

shameless self bump

Another one

Another one

You're overreacting. While you're kinks are kinda outside of the norm everybody has a couple kinks outside the norm.

Besides fetishes have been known as a coping mechanism from their environment. Most of the evidence is anecdotal but, there are tons of "evidence" supporting this.

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>>17577350
You're right. But still, I'm starting to feel paranoid about these fetishes because more and more people are becoming aware of the existence such kinks.

I have a friend who jokes about vore and it makes me very uncomfortable because I have to pretend I don't like it in order to hide the truth.

>>17577329
What are your fetishes? I have pretty dumb fetishes too