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Are you venting or do you have a question?

I'm guessing:
- How to break up
- Should I break up
- How to make things better

>>17575715
Yes, all of those. I'm absolutely miserable, more so than when I was alone.

>>17575719
The short answer is to leave. You will both end up worse the longer it goes on.

cont.

My situation: I’m currently 18 years old and attending a local university, and frankly I’m not cut out for it or any kind of career in academia or skilled industry( engineering, economics etc.). I’ve considered trades or the U.S. military (and still am considering these options) I would pass the basic tests right now but I am training for the next year using programs made up by legionnaire’s and I hope to do well enough to earn a spot when I apply. While I am trying to focus on training so that I make it, it’s not the absolute end of the world if I’m rejected as I am considering other options in trades and the American military.

>>17575674
Join the US military and if you are sufficiently determined you might make it into the specops world. If not, you can retire in twenty years with a nice package. Staying a few more for the pay bumps is enough you may never need to work after retirement. I'm living that dream right now.

US forces are far more likely to see combat than the FFL.

Best for career is Air Force, then Navy, Marines, and Army.

Most of your time in any military is spent at peace. Choose accordingly.

If you want to network, a US military career generates lots of DoD, contractor and other contacts. That gets you hired elsewhere afterwards.

Make every choice based on "career" even if you only figure doing one hitch.

>>17575671
Why not join your own nations military?

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>>17575664

So, my idea is that of dumping her.
Rationale:
>why am I wasting her time?

The only reason keeping me from doing this is she is often depressed so maybe I might wait a couple of weeks before dropping the bomb.

But what keeps me from acting is another issue:
>Do I have a replacement?
No. Fuck no. I am looking around, but fewer girls want to date me than in August... I feel my fitness is suffering a low -- and maybe not because of her. I am just tired I think. Almost exhausted.

Only alternative so far is to go back to my ex, who is not even a true ex, but just a romantic interest of which I cannot tell if I am the eternal lover (we make out even when she's in a relationship) or the eternal cuck (in the end, I have never had a relationship with her). And I really love her, but there are no rational hopes to make it.

So here I am, pondering the best way not to hurt myself and not to hurt others as well.

[end]

>>17575664
>>17575666

Break up. It's obviously not gonna last the long haul and you're already exhausted by her, so you might as well rip the band-aid off now

>>17575666
you got-danged idjet
Sex isn't a reason to stay in a relationship, and knowing that you don't have tail waiting isn't a reason either.
Go much longer and she might figure our you're gonna leave her then mysteriously becomes pregnant.

Being single is fine.

>>17575639

what do you mean average the two grades?

I would look into talking with someone about your situation and asking if there's some way you can just retake the failed courses as if it were the first time.

>>17575697
This person has the right idea, any halfway decent college will have some sort of students assistants available to talk to you and help you find a solution.

But here's something else: while I was at university, courses and grades seemed like the most important thing in the world. I got good grades overall and have two degrees.

Yet now I'm in middle management in a job that has absolutely nothing to do with the degrees that I got. Like, nothing at all. So I wouldn't sweat it too much either way.

>>17575708
Same thing here. I crashed and burned my first year if college. I did somewhat better the second year, then got the psychological counseling I needed and did much better the last two years. Then I ended up in a good paying union job. So go figure. The student counselor or whatever who guides you in your school career should be able to arrange something so you can retake the courses you flunked out on and get better grades. Good luck anon.

I had that same shirt in 1993.

>>17575597
Anyone who is super left or right is a sheep. So she is an ignorant sheep.

>>17575603
90s vintage band shirts are cool to wear at the moment.

Be direct about the way you feel and see where it goes from there.

>>17575592
This is something some guys do in order to get women to like them more and maintain power in the relationship.

There's this study that was conducted where researchers had 3 groups of puppies: group 1 they always treated well, group 2 they always yelled at, group 3 they randomly alternated. Group 3 showed the researchers the most affection.

This is coming from a guy who hasn't had more than a first date in over a year so maybe I need to start playing mindgames.

>>17576752

Those poor group 2 puppies :'( how did they behave?

>>17575573
Whoops, I forgot to mention how she stormed off after saying what she said and hasn't talked to me in more than a week.

>>17575578
>hasn't talked to me in more than a week.
Sounds to me like it's already over, ultimatum or no. For some people wanking it to 2d is a real deal breaker.

Stick with the cartoons, mate. Bitches come and go, 2d is forever.

>>17575573
Is there a part of this that you're not telling us? Was the porn she found of degenerate character (loli, furry, guro, futa etc.)?
Also if you'd pick your porn collection over a real life partner, then you're addicted, anon.

>>17575568
I'm apparently fairly attractive but unless I really know you I have no confidence and I'm pretty boring and safe with conversation topics.

That wasn't advice but at least we can be lonely opposites together.

Work out what the women want and offer it them.

Just don't tell them you have it.

>>17575568
poor froggo
lots of people think her and the black kid are an item, but I think they just vibe better than her and froggo.

As to your question, getting physically fit helps. Also you can build up confidence and thick skin from constant failure. When one fails, try the next. The chicks who reject you will likely never remember you, even if you're super hot.

Be yourself. You sound overly critical of yourself. You can't force the issue. It's gona play out like it plays out.

That being said, be proud of yourself, treat yourself with respect, and be dignified. To quote Max Ehrmann: You're a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here.

>>17575543
Exercise.
Really, the biggest mistake women make in relationship is letting themselves go. Keep yourself fit. Look after yourself. A healthy and beautiful partner is an attractive partner. Don't worry about pleasing other people in your life. Focus instead on improving yourself, and being the best version of yourself every day. Everything else will go fine.

>>17575543
a few things
A) he might actually love his previous girlfriends more. That's not a bad thing. You're not his wife yet. strong love comes with time and connection
B) being irresistible to your man isn't really going to solve any of your issues. It just means that if you do end up breaking up, it'll be super messy because he's gonna have to build himself up to it since he's gotten addicted (and besides, you can't really control whether he finds you irresistible)
C) How long have you been together? If it's anything less than a year, you're going to ruin it by trying to push it into something it's not.

No flour (pasta, bread, tortillas), no manufactured (white, fructose, sucrose) sugar, no rice. You'll be amazed what that cuts out.

Don't eat it if it comes in a package. Leaves you with fresh fruits, vegetables, and protein. You can eat canned beans, but don't be buying baked beans or something preserved in sugar.

Drink lots of water, and if you eat as described above, I wouldn't worry about counting calories or fats.

>no rice
>no bread
but i ate that when i was dieting and i did loose weight.

>>17575483
Fucking exercise you lazy faggot
yes, diet is important, and so is exercising

Not OP, but speaking of fevers, how can I get rid of the mass of pimples that came with the cold that I'm just getting over?

>>17575479
Get the maximum amount of rest and hope for the best. There's no quick fix to ditching any kind of illness. Just hope that your symptoms are manageable tomorrow.

This is something you probably hear frequently but drinking peer water and cleaning your face every single day has worked. Im a girl and I usually break out in my time of the month, so I tend to stay away from anything greesy

>>17575404
When you do it in public.

>>17575408
or if something talks back

>>17575408
this or not really...? talking to yourself in sense that it helps you in someways, I read somewhere online I don't know if it's true or not, it says it helps you?

Constantly read books. Travel, traveling keeps your mind open.

>>17575394
Reading books is not enough,
may be playing real game cards or trivia questions could help?
reading articles that you are interested in, reflecting on the purpose or whatever have you, on those articles...
I think I'm not intelligent or knowledgeable as others, I try, by try I mean, not hard enough, somewhat try...I have horrible grammar--as you can see. I might be average or simple--who knows, I might be or not, just keep trying--don't try to memorize everything, try to understand it? there's another way to say what I'm trying to tell you, I just can't think of it right now...sorry
good luck, OP and stuff!

>>17575394
The trick is to surround yourself with people dumber than you.

>>17575393
epicnpc.com (buy social media accounts from this site)
poloniex.com (make money trading 10-20% every day starting with just 30 dollars)
e-bay.com (sell a lot of useless junk, get lucky for the refund to not bite you back in the ass)
Don't have children until you secure yourself 2 million dollars.

>>17575412
Just had my first Aug 22, thanks btw

>>17575393
ebay or amazon if you have junk laying arround
garage sales
do choirs for other your friends
invest into your hobby.

>>17575382
2 things
1) find the underlying emotional reason you've suddenly been enjoying traps/lolis. Hint, the fact that it's both lolis AND traps suggests that the root is related to a deep rooted anger or displeasure at adult women that is most likely misplaced. Probably something to the effect of wanting to feel dominating and you end up feeling like women are out of your league, or that you can't live up to some expectation.
2) find stuff with great sexy dialogue. Doesn't even have to be real porn, just dirty talking. If you like traps and lolis, odds are you like high pitched girly voices, regardless of who they're being emitted from.

>>17575420
>you end up feeling like women are out of your league, or that you can't live up to some expectation.
this is true, however i don't think of it much

but a lot of what you said is spot on

>>17575420
Point 2 is very good, listening to sexual recordings is very arousing, especially if you close your eyes and allow you mind to form the scene.