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So i've had a resting asshole face for pretty much as long as I can remember and have no fucking idea how to change it.
Yesterday at work I was talking to a grill that commented on it and she said that I always looked pissed off so she had never bothered to try and talk to me before. It was only the fact that she was in my office and I joked around with her about being hungover that we really got talking.
Has anyone else had this issue, how do I come back from this?
>inb4 smile more I can't maintain that shit without looking like a tool
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Be yourself but try to be positive around people. No need to grin. Put on a mask. Many people fake positivity.
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All the friggin time dude, i remember last year, i was walking to class, when this girl said randomly "you should smile more" , meh i have a rbf but cant change it for the life of me
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Ive always had the opposite, ppl used to call me sunnyboy.
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First World Problems Abound 2016-09-16 20:44:18 Post No.17575295
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When I was 18 I thought to myself - "When I've got my own house, a good car & decent job, I'll know I've made it. That's when I'll be happy." I'm now 24, and have achieved the lot, even have a fuck buddy. So there - life goals achieved. I live in England by the way, I feel that's a detail that needs to be in there for some reason.
Everything achieved...yet I'm still miserable and constantly have this heavy, underlying and unending depression. I feel angry at myself for feeling this way - surely I should just snap out of this? I even resent talking so self-centrally. Relatively speaking I'm leading a very privileged life for someone of my age, although I have worked for it. I live on my own, though that is how I have always preferred it and don't feel inherently lonely. I see a girl every week and that's slowly developing into a relationship.
Although I don't necessarily feel lonely, I feel mentally isolated from the world, am intensely cynical of everything and everyone and find myself reducing people and practices to primitive motives. A lot less makes me laugh than it used to. Over the last two years I've felt a strong pull towards right-wing "red-pilled" politics and invest far too much time looking into and feeling disdain for how blind left-wingers are to reality. I've started too think far too primitively and politically. People I used to think were funny now just piss me off because all I see is how blue-pilled their thinking is. I have severe anxiety and get disproportionately stressed-out at things that happen at work. I procrastinate like hell. Even from things that aren't necessarily considered chores. I'll procrastinate better than the best. It ruins my weekends. I don't feel happy about who I am and don't know what principles I believe in. I don't know what principles I should live my life by and I don't feel like I've developed a personal identity. I know this is all so trivial but I'd really appreciate any advice. Is this an existential crisis?
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>>17575295
You ran out of challenges. Your previous one was to achieve what you got now, but after you achieve it then what then? Gotta look for something new and exciting to your your blood pumping and give you thrills. Maybe an exciting new hobby? Traveling to exotic places? Or just jump right off a plane and straight into skydiving? Think about it, it's like video games. Once you beat them there isn't much left to do but in reality there are many paths you could take.
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>>17575295
The brain likes to believe that, if a certain goal is achieved, you will feel eternally accomplished.
That's not the case, but it's a good mechanism to get you to be productive.
You need to always have a goal and always be growing as a person, or you will stagnate and feel like shit.
There's a reproductive aspect to this aswell; people who feel comfortable with their lives and are not constantly struggling to grow or improve or accomplish something have a reduced chance at procreation.
When I find the source for this again, I'll come back and post it.
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>>17575295
> Is this an existential crisis?
Yes welcome to your twenties. Im right there with you.
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How do I look more approachable? 2016-09-16 20:41:48 Post No.17575285
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How do I look more approachable?
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Recently people have started telling me I look sad/depressed/angry all the time.
I think this has been a thing for a long time now, but it has only started coming up after I changed jobs. Multiple people I work with have told me I look upset and ask me what's wrong.
How can I change this? I've tried smiling more, but it feels and looks so forced.
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>>17575285
Maybe you just have bitchy resting face and people think you angry or whatever.
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>>17575303
Is there any way to change that? I have shit social skills as it is, I don't need an extra barrier keeping people from wanting to talk to me before they find out how much of an idiot I am.
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Force yourself to be cognizant of the fact that you need to:
1.) Maintain eye contact
2.) Smile
3.) Over exaggerate all of your natural responses
Force yourself to do that.
Always.
Repeat this for 6 months-2 years.
it will become habit and you won't even notice it.
In high school anyone who knew me or talked to me thought I was super sweet, but anyone who didn't thought I was that super serious and intense as fuck kid that was unapproachable (and I've heard other people confirm this)
I remember I once unintentionally scared the crap out of an underclassmen because one day she just randomly walked up to me, got up the courage to ask me out to a dance, and being caught completely offgaurd my response was a very bemused, "Uhh.. Sorry... Do I know you?" and she instantly had a certain look in her eyes and fled away. That one made me feel kind of bad because I did not at all intend to hurt her feelings, I just had absolutely no idea who she was.
Last year of high school and through college I decided to change.
Even now I guess I still have a slight unapproachable air to me , but I'm now also seen as the type of person that can approach just about anyone anywhere, start a conversation, and is instantly seen as polite and incredibly friendly.
And that's also other people's assessments of me, not my own.
You can change anything you want to, just takes effort and willpower.
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Are some people more prone to attract bug bites than others. I can step out on my porch for a mere 5 seconds and come back in to minutes later find an itchy bug bite somewhere on my skin. It happens every single time I go outside. Are some people more tasty to bugs than others?
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>>17575246
Yeah diet and even clothes can affect it a lot. Bananas and low carb diets are said to attract mosquitos and dryer sheets repel them.
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>>17575246
Stop drinking beer ffs
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>>17575246
You must be delicious, take it as a compliment
Hi adv,
I'm a white female that has been experimenting sexually more and getting more adventurous.
I recently met/befriended someone african american and long story short, we had sex.
I also met another african american guy and have had sex with him too.
Since those two guys aren't really in the picture anymore, I'm obviously looking for a new partner.
I'm not sure if I am gravitating towards african american guys on tinder because they remind me of the first guy (who I got to know pretty well), or if I now have a special interest in black guys.
I guess my question is...how true is "once you go black you never go back?" My most recent experiences have been with black guys, and it's my choice who's next.
Especially interested in other femanon's opinions.
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>>17575239
Kek this is bait, but it's "once you go black, you're not allowed back"
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>>17575239
Thanks for making this thread, I was gonna make one asking what do you call these type of women? Date black guys, listen to the trashest rap music, and act like princesses even though they're hoes. Slut is too vague of a word.
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>>17575239
Did you like the guy because he was black, or did you just like him?
Did him being black change anything about sex as you know it? It may be possible you're trying to regain what you had with the first guy, it's also possible you are trying to associate a good experience with a certain trait in order to make sense of why it was good. However, this often leads to illogical conclusions.
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Teach me how to talk with females please, face to face im this shy little shit that can´t make eye contact and i get nervous and because of that i can´t maintain a proper conversation, and in text im too scared to sound like a retard, what do?
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shameless self bump
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>>17575223
Stop being a bitch.
Are you afraid the girl you're talking to is going to kill you or something?
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>>17575328
im afraid if il become the laughing stock
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Severe Depression, Cannot Function Any Longer...
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>Cannot sleep, eat, relax, enjoy the things I used to enjoy, work, sit still, or really do anything.
>All I want to do is pace or sit anxiously waiting to die, since I don't have the guts to commit to it.
>My life is no where, I cannot get a job, when I do find one I cannot seem to even bring myself to apply or want to work.
>All I think about is death, my own death, and how nothing matters.
>Only thing that is keeping me alive is drawing and art, which I don't think i am even good at, or don't even really do anymore because of this crippling depression.
>Mother can't help, she is poor, homeless and stressed out, father can do nothing to help, he is on welfare after he got jailed for doing some illegal stuff in the military and he doesn't really care.
>Family doesn't care, they see my family as the black sheep of the family.
>Tried looking around local area for free therapy or cheap therapy, little to no resources, all the secretaries or phone assistants were bitches, uninterested, dismissive, uncaring and insensitive.
>Tried looking up free online depression chats, video chats, etc. Nothing but weird ass half-assed websites and people who weren't qualified, or told me to refer to a therapist.
>Have bills, but can't pay them with no resources or a job, since I cannot even leave my room to even eat anymore.
>I don't know what to do anymore, do I just buy a gun and shoot myself?
>Was planning on finishing my Bachelors in Graphic Design, have my Associate in Fine Arts atm, but I can't even get to the college to finish the last steps to apply. Or, how would I even pay for it. I just, cannot function or think anymore straight, it's like I get a thought, or some small ounce of motivation, and it slumps out of my consciousness like a dab of butter rolling off a knife into nothingness.
Could use some help or advice, I'll give out more details if needed, I just really need some help.
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How long does this lasts ?
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>>17575176
Usually weeks, sometimes and recently it's been becoming longer towards months, last year I repressed it by working my butt off working a semi-truck job, but it left me with little sleep and even in a worse situation now where I can't even function.
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>>17575166
I also have deep depression. Let me help you but first
>All I want to do is pace or sit anxiously waiting to die, since I don't have the guts to commit to it.
Same to me,but don't get the guts to do it.death is not the solution. You need to live and make the life that you want
>Only thing that is keeping me alive is drawing and art, which I don't think i am even good at, or don't even really do anymore because of this crippling depression.
I know that feeling,but try to start drawing even if you don't have the mood to do it. Then you may enjoy it again.
>Mother can't help, she is poor, homeless and stressed out
Can't you get her to your home/room?
>I don't know what to do anymore, do I just buy a gun and shoot myself?
NO
Instead of buying a weapon..use these money to visit a psychologist just once,so he can give you the right anti-depression medicines.
I also get these pills and I was going well,I saw a huge improvement but then I had a car accident and I went back to the depression again so then I got for a month double dose of pills,then went back to the normal therapy and now I am much better. Explain to your doctor that you don't have money for going there again and again. And you need to know that when you get those pills,when you feel better don't stop them,because you will go back to the depression. For me it needed 1 year of pills to be completely healed
You will really find yourself with a therapy
Playing some online study thing in class and you get to choose a name. I chose to use the Chinese name that we got to pick in my Chinese class just for shits and giggles. Its Da Long. Teacher asks me what that means. Say its my chinese name from chinese class and tell her it means "Big Dragon". She says "Oh" and looks like she's surprised and thinking real hard. My question is.
Does she think I just told my teacher I have a big dick?
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>>17575128
Yes
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OP Here. Is it possible that I saved my autism by saying "Oh no not like that" after I said it? Or now does she think I have a small dick?
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>>17575189
U prolly do got a small dick
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Listen to my story then answer my question please.
My mother is old and in poor health. Physically and mentally. I would not call her a hoarder but she acquires things that she doesn't need. For example, she has taken on a lot of pets. There are currently a mixture of 16 animals (cats & dogs) in her home.
She is unable to put the animals on any kind of routine. Food is available but intake is not monitored. And litter boxes don't get changed as much as they should. Any logical thinking person could see that she is unable to take care of these animals as well as they should be taken care of. Some of the dogs poop/pee in the house. This is an almost daily occurrence. Any logical thinking person can also see that living in that kind of environment is not healthy for humans or animals. Their poop cycles can also be seen as "destroying the house" because its causing the flooring to become stained and warp in places.
She wont get rid of these animals because they're her "babies". So I thought I could get law enforcement to help me "remove" these animals. I looked up local laws and they stated that no resident of that township is to have more than 4 total animals. That doing so was punishable by fines. Long story short... The police came, saw the situation, and did nothing about it. Not even ticket her for violating the city laws.
This really pissed me off! It was my intention to have my mother ticketed until she was in compliance. The thought here was that my mother could then see that it's not just her family telling her what she was doing was wrong, but that an authoritative non-biased third party also was telling her she was doing something wrong.
Had this happened I could have worked with her and organized a way to get homes for these animals. Now when she dies she'll become one of those stories where "an old lady is found half eaten by her pets when her estranged son shows up after not hearing from her for two weeks". And then all those dogs will be taken to
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If she really thinks of them as "her babies" maybe you could convince her to give them up using the angle that they are living horrible lives and the best way to take care of them would be to find better homes for them.
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>>17575124
And then all these dogs will be taken to shelters and be euthanized. They're old and sickly right now. I can't imagine them getting adopted out real quick.
I know my mother is to blame for this situation. But I also believe the police are to blame for this as well. Their job is to enforce the laws and this was a clearly written law in their books. I believe had they enforced it then my mother would just have the max 4 animals she's allowed.
>Does this sound like a situation where I could rightfully sue the city and win?
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>>17575130
I've tried. I've mentioned exactly that as I rolled up a throw rug that was so laden with piss it dripped as I carried it out of the house.
I don't know if its major denial or some other poorly executed coping mechanism but her response was something like "we'll the rug which you just took out is gone so its better now."
My fling has now developed intense feelings for me, despite us establishing it was a fling before we started our sexual relationship. Damn, I've fucked up badly. We started doing couple-y stuff, holding hands in public and shit. I'm moving town for uni tomorrow. Yesterday evening I went to her house to say goodbye.She cried, lay there frozen in bed, vomited repeatedly (bringing up food her brother prepared for her), and cut her wrists. She was hyperventilating and shaking.
The thing is, I think I love her. I made a huge mistake. Being a desperate virgin made me think I could do anything in the name of sex, but the attachment she's formed is breaking my heart. She is so beautiful, and she doesn't even have the self-esteem to realise it. She's skipping school and staying in bed all day, driving her single mother to the ground. She called me
to let me know she's on suicide watch. She did not tell me this in a manipulative way, just a matter of fact way.
I need help, guys. Please no meme answers to do with "sticking your dick in crazy". She doesn't realise how much she's capable of. I just can't trust myself to have a long distance relationship.
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>>17575095
How old are you both?
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>>17575123
I'm 18, she's 17.
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>She did not tell me this in a manipulative way, just a matter of fact way.
The whole point of successful manipulation is that you don't realize you're being manipulated OP. The wrist cutting was a ploy, not her actually intending to kill herself--this is why women's suicide attempt rate is much higher than men's, but the success rate for men is higher.
Going to uni is the perfect opportunity to cut things off. Trust me, she's not worth it. I guarantee both of you will forget about the whole thing by Thanksgiving.
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I'm 21 and recently I've had to deal with a quite embarassing problem. For the last 2/3 years I used to shave every three days, my skin would get irritated a bit (i have sensitive skin and multiple alergies) but the next morning Id be fine. I used an electric razor. However I had some problems with ingrown hairs and it was sugested by a pro that I should switch to a regular razor (3 blades) i've been using those ever since, the first 3 months go ok, then this starts happening all the time... its much worse than before, i used to have confidence in my looks (nice hair, fit, piercings and tats), now it's almost all gone cause my face looks like the moon... any sugestions? Should i go back to the electric razor? Buy a good, normal one?
I do wash my face with a tea tree oil soap and hot water every night and before shaving, use special shaving cream and after shave, take care while doing it (i almost never get cut) and im on acne supressors yet it seems to be no use... what do i do /adv?
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>>17575094
Stop shaving
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>>17575109
Not that big of a fan of beards, doesn't grow evenly also even if i wanted I have a part time job while studying where they aren't allowed. Thanks for the suggestion but that wont do it.
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>>17575119
What job is that, that they don't allow you to have beard?
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if a woman picks a fight with a man but the man knocks her out, whos at fault?
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/r9k/ for creating this cuck world by feeding their leftover power to women with their stupid meme magic
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>>17575055
equality.
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>>17575055
Both of them are at fault.
The woman is at fault for instigating the fight.
The man is at fault for not showing restraint after winning the fight.
Both should be punished, the woman more because she started it.
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Somebody help me please. There are no therapists here where i live. It is killing me. I am crying. i might kill myself.
I dont know when or how but all my life i cannot remember any thing more then 2 week before. Like i know only highlights of my memories like third person or reading someones diary i cannot remember my past emotions.
Like this day 2 year before my family left for vication for 2 weeks i was home alone i didnt miss them a single moment like A SINGLE moment it was like i never lived with them total strangers... i love my parents, my family a lot. I only have one friend. All my friends before i just forget them my school friends, my college friends,... all of them. This friend is left because i think he lives close and we meet couple of times a week.
I have always fell like a different person i cant recognize or remeber how i was in school or college. My sister says my life exists is phases...
It doesnt bother me because i have learnt to live like this but a year go i met a girl we fell in love with each other fast she was my every thing i could die for her any moment and she the same for me. I proposed her we got engaged. We were going to marry next may but 2 months ago she was kidnaped police here sucks. I have completly forgotten her and it is killing me. I cannot feel any thing thiking of her. Her pitchers, her voice mails, her videos, our engagment photos our text conversantion. i canot remember any thing... : ( it is like she never existed. Trust me i know it is not the numbness you feel after loss because i had that for a week or two.i feel guilty and hatered for my self. PLEASE SOMBODY HELP ME.
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Even typing all this it feels like i am talking about some stranger and not the love of my life ;_;
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>>17575022
Let me help you but first
How old are you?
Where do you live?
Do your parents know about your problem?
Do they help you?
I guess you should go to a neurologist so he can send you to do some tests,like mri and other things
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>>17575096
I am 23
Pakistan
No i canot just say that i forget them
Brain tests label you psyco or autist here
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So here is the deal /adv/, i was adopted at birth. My mom was unable to have children, so they got me. It has always sort of bugged me that my dad's bloodline will die with him. To everyone's surprise however, turns out my dad had a daughter. She has been trying to get contact with me, and we have been chatting it up. But truth be told, i have a strong desire to try and get with her in order to carry on my dad's bloodline. Assuming i could make her fall for me, would this be wrong?
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What makes you think your dad wants his fake son fucking his daughter? That would probably be the worst way to carry on the bloodline.
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>>17574994
Perhaps you ought to ask her first ... just saying. She can carry on his bloodline with any guy. Your dad might be really freaked out, too.
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nah. just do it
Met a woman who was really cool, but she's married. She and her husband are apparently experimenting with an open relationship. There is a VERY slight chance that our paths would cross work-wise, as in her company deals with my company like once every 2 or three years, but we're in entirely different divisions and whatnot. She seems generally apprehensive about the prospect of her open marriage becoming public knowledge.
Personally, I'm open-minded about the whole thing, but does anyone here have any experience with this that might suggest this is wholly a bad idea? What are the rules with this kind of dynamic?
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>>17574957
Anyone?
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no one, because there's nothing bad about it if you only want sex. Well, not for you. It can backfire horribly for her, it can ruin her relationship or her reputation or whatever. You're not really risking anything, except maybe some broken feelings if you get too attached.
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>>17575090
If her husband wants it, cum in her and wipe your dick on her face. It's is easy as that. I'm assuming she's white? That's the proper way to treat a white bitch. Like the practice girls they are.