Seriously how the fuck do you get over someone you were severely in love with.
Other girls are into me and I can't feel fucking anything for anyone but her.
Everything about it still hurts constantly.
Seriously, I just don't know how I can live like this. Fuck me its miserable.
>>17579071
You get busy. clean, do chores, work out.
Anytime you start feeling down about her. Resist the urge to blob and throw your mind into something to keep it busy. And no. games and tv don't really work.
I would suggest therapy. It severely helped me.
I broke up with my first 3 years ago, yet the pain is still there. You just learn to live with it overtime. I recently broke up with another girl that I had been dating for 1.5 years. I found her really boring.
I went to see a therapist and he explained that she was nothing like my first and that I should date someone that gave me the attention like my first.
So, my suggestion is to wait. Try to distract yourself with a hobby. Read, take a class, meet new people. Meditation helped me.
When your ready, try to date once more. No one likes to feel lonely.
>>17579071
you think about the things you loved beside her and focus on those, because those still exist and are still loveable without her.
if your answer to that is 'I ONLY LOVED HER' then you now know its time to focus on making a great life.
if ur answer is 'IM TRYING BUT I STILL THINK OF HER' well duh, there is no instant cure, its something you work through and will hopefully channel into your other projects.
no need to date others for now if a gir lasks just say sorry you're still getting over a break up
My husband completely flipped on me in the wee hours of the morning because I was snoring. I've never snored much if at all much, except if I am ill. Which I am, I have a fall allergy sinus infection and am in the process of getting insurance (I just turned 26 and I'm a US citizen) so until Monday I can't get to a doctor.
He woke me up to scream at me that I was snoring then stormed out of the room and slept on the couch. He has today and the next three days off from work. For about 2 years now he hasn't really slept fully through the night. But neither have I. He gets fucking enraged if his bladder wakes him up, then can't fall sleep for 2 hours because he is so mad.
He is perfect the rest of any day, and is not aggressive nor mean to me. But the past couple of days he has been overwhelmingly moody, more than I am when I PMS. The beginning of the day is a nightmare, and I cherish days where I have to wake up before he does for work. But that angers him too, when my alarm goes off to go to work.
Does he have a severe sleep disorder? Is it even worse than he let's on? (if we go to bed at 12 and wake up at 10 even then he only gets about 5 hours of sleep. He constantly wakes up.) I wonder if he had a bladder disorder because one morning he went to pee 5 times between 7:30 and 9 am.
What is wrong? Is it a sleep issue or do I annoy him too much since we've been together so long?
You married an angry douchebag. Congratulations
>>17579036
>What is wrong?
you should both go to a doc , maybe therapists too.
>>17579050
I think so. We have been married for almost 6 years, this month actually will be 6. For 4 years prior we never had this issue. But last year we moved across country for both our careers.
Maybe it is a sleep disorder impacting them this bad
>>17579044
As I said before, it had only been the mornings of the past year or so. We have been married for 6 years, dating for 10,kiving together for 7. He is perfect and not snappy in every other scenario and time.
What's there to do on a Saturday night when by yourself?
My friends work on weekends and I got a whole weekend of nothing to do.
What's a good solo activity for a Saturday night?
Suicide.
>>17579022
local areas tend to have local events. keep an eye out and go to meetup.com and if you cant find anything, try creating a facebook page called 'fun things in XX' wehre you ask people to post events that are going on in your area.
jerk off
So my girlfriend broke up with me Monday out of nowhere. I knew something was off the Friday before, but I didn't know what was coming. She had been watching Gilmore Girls with her mom a lot (her mom never liked her with me) and then Monday she did it. She told me all kinds of things about not being compatible, we want different things, and she sees me only as a friend now. Then she kissed me and told me she loves me- then left. She completely quit talking to me, and I felt some things needed to be said on my part. I messaged her Wednesday telling her how I felt about it all and that I still loved her. She told me she couldn't talk to me and then didn't talk to me until last night when she said this.
"Hey. I need to tell you some things all at once so I'm just going to say them now. I promised I'd talk before the weekend and I was a little upset and hurt that yiu messaged me two days after. I promised we would talk and I needed more time in between that. I really hope you aren't shooting down any other relationships because of me. The longer I've been by myself the more it feels like the thing I needed. I really don't want to loose you as a friend, but we can't talk so soon and as much as we did before because I don't want to end up back in a relationship. I'm not ready. I do miss you, but I miss you as a friend. I'll always appreciate what you brought into my life but that part of my life is over. I'm ready to go a while by myself. I think I want to stay single through (and hopefully a little while after) high school. Please don't forget that I'm your friend, always."
At this point I just didn't reply. I feel so betrayed; like she acts like it was only her invested in this relationship. She since then sent me more.
"Do you still want to talk?
Or is there something you need to say?
You're silence answers my question.
Thanks for reading it, at least. I understand if you don't want to talk now, or soon, because it's best. I'll talk to you whenever.
Night"
>>17579008
Womens are autistic bro, listen some vaporwave and u will be fine in some days
It just feels like i've been used for the past 2 years
>>17579008
Oh you're pretty young it seems, OP don't expect much from girls 18-24ish, they're in their "testing the waters phase". She wants to see what's out there and that's cool guy, don't take it personal. She did you and her a favor, don't get too serious until you get some experience under your belt.
I've been on 4chan for many years now, and not once have I read about someone similar to me. Every time I read about someone who has problems, it is always about things that I can't relate to. I don't understand why anyone would want to do drugs. Even alcohol. It seems that most people who are depressed on here are just going through a breakup or not finding any partner at all, or because they are broke or a NEET.
I've always had trouble keeping up with a conversation, because I usually space out if they speak more than a few sentences continuously. It's not only the keeping up part, but I also have trouble understanding their intent. I am always confused because I think about everything in an ambiguous way. It can be a simple question, but I will ask a question to confirm if I got the question right before answering.
Well, I'm lonely. I have only had a few friends when I was younger, but for the past years I've had zero "real life" friends. To be honest, nothing changed when the number gradually turned from 1 to 0. I have always felt lonely. The reason for that is I've always been the person who just doesn't fit in. I don't want to drink alcohol, smoke weed or go party. That's not the reason I don't fit in though. I'm just different. I've never been the goto friend to anyone.
There are many people (online) who tell me to see a psychologist, but I can't see how that will change anything. My view of life is way too engraved in my mind. Hmm, I kinda do want to end it. It's odd that just a few days ago, I was on the rarely scheduled Feeling Good week. Oh, and I've noticed that the night from Saturday to Sunday is usually when I am at my worst.
Personally, I think I'm depressed because of some OCD and anxiety. I've done a lot of suicidal ideation, but I have a couple of friends online who I believe need me for at least a few more years before I'm going through with it.
I know this is a long post, but I feel very alone. I don't think I can connect to anyone. Even if someone answers, telling me how they are literally me, I don't think I could connect to them. Even my few online friends... I talk to them in a group, but I don't feel I belong there. They are very close to being like me, but the small differences there are, make it feel like I'm an outsider looking in. These situations don't happen that often, but they make me feel very lonely.
There is more to say, but I'll leave it at this. I don't believe this will be read by many anyway.
Don't know what to say dude, there doesn't seem to be a light at the end of the tunnel.
In regards to no drink and drugs and partying, you're basically a square, especially these days. People like us used to have our geeky niches and video games to retreat to but all that has become popular.
>>17579064
I just wish I had someone, at least one person, to relate to.
My boyfriend doesn't want to have children. I am 26, he is 31. Is there any point trying to start a family with someone who is not keen on this idea?
>>17578995
That is not going to work, is it?
Nope. That's what we call in the business a 'relationship killer'. Should have had that conversation earlier though
>>17578995
Having children with someone who doesn't want them is not going to end well.
Before people start screaming "MODS MODS MODS" im 15, anyways i've been using 4chan for maybe a year or so and after a year i kind of feel ashamed or just like i shouldn't be on here. I feel like i have to be associated with the meme spouting kids on here, even though im pretty mature most of the time when im on here. I know im too young to even use this website but its pretty cool (but i get tired of using some boards for a whole) and i can socialize with people which i dont really do in real life. Im kind of dumb and make myself look stupid on here sometimes (thats probably why i almost post never because im nervous about looking stupid which im probably doing now). How should i survive on here if im only 15? Or should i just stop using this? I really just wanna make friends with people because i have none and most of my real life friends abandoned me and hate my guts now. Also if i should get off where do you suggest i could go to make friends online?
My advice, leave now and never come back.
I also lost my friends around your age, and I also turned to the internet to fill the void. Now many years later I'm totally fucked in terms of social life. I'm basically addicted to the internet now.
Get out and try to make new friends. You might be lonely for a few months in the mean time, but believe me you do not want to become an internet addicted neckbeard.
>>17578994
He can live a healthy lifestyle and still use 4chan. Take the aged /diy/ grandpas. Regardless, the rules state you must be 18 and older to use the site. OP, leave.
I wouldn't recommend it. Even if you don't take it seriously, the antisemitism, racism, misgnomy, disgruntled anger seeps in regardless and will make you a more bitter and upset person.
Broke up with my first long term girlfriend. Reason is that she wanted to talk to other guys because she's young and doesn't wanted to be tied down but still wanted to date me.
I suggested an open relationship to see if she was actually serious as a test and she said she was down for it. The girl that I thought I knew so well after all these years just wants to meet new guys for "experience"
Holy fuck what a twist. I cut it off and we haven't spoke since but it's weird being away from someone you've known for so many years. How do I get rid of this? How do I cope?
Quick bump
>>17578978
never ask 'how do i cope'?
you cope by living. its life. people break up. there are little rituals you can do to make yourself better but its a literal matter of 'getting over it' on your own terms.
she probably was honest about what was goign on but its mor ecomplex than that. its not as simple as the way she presents it which is essentially
>oh im totally in love with you and all that jazz, but i neeed to experience this before its too late.
she probably wasnt in love with you, not anymore. or she was but not in the burning passionate way. she wanted something new. she wanted to move on. you werent the one, and there came a point where just growing together wasn't what she wanted.
>>17578978
Just give it time, it will suck for a while. It sounds like you two wanted different things so it's good that you two broke up.
Nice album btw
Fix me (looks wise).
ie how do you think I could get more attractive?
I'll try do the same for you ;)
longer hair
maybe grow like a goatee or something (not a neckbeard)
Larping is only the start of your problems
>>17578974
>back in the day
>>17578975
Was a one time thing i swear :3
Hey guys, just have some questions so I don't possibly die here.
I took 3mg of Xanax between 11am-4pm.
Is it safe to take opiates later in the night? Like 10pm? 11pm?
B
Whete are you from, i cant relate the time
americanaddictioncenters.org/prescription-drugs/dangers-of-mixing/#Why Is It Dangerous to Combine Valium or Xanax and Oxycodone or Vicodin?
Hey adv genuine advice needed
I did nofap for like a month because I was starting college and wanted to change. And bam! Im feeling that im changing a lot and little more confident than i used to. I still struggle to make decent conversation with girls but im learning from failures(like 2 times) and time to time black woman on bus tell me im cute (probably decreased acne due to nofap)
So should I fap this one night i totally feel like it and think it would be very pleasing but Im afraid it would change me back to loser i was
>>17578911
No. Keep at it anon it will be worth it.
>>17578911
>black woman on bus tell me im cute
Why wasn't that lady in the back?
How can I date a girl like this?
I am fairly wealthy, and I dont care if I have to move to russia or go to mail order bride site.
I just want to date a hot girl, way out of my league and live with her.
Where should I go, Ukraine, Phillippines, China?
>>17578897
You know you're desperate when... What a sad world
Is that what passes as hot theses days?
>>17578897
Are those trannies?
My family had a big, violent fight a couple months ago.
I thought I would be living as a bum in the bay area but we somehow patched things up. But I'm not completely OK, it seems.
I'm asking because I want to know if I need to go to therapy for PTSD or just hop on xanax, or SOMEthing. It seems like I can't be alone in the family house anymore, even with my doors closed. I'm always hypervigilant, listening to every footstep, bump, anything that happens in our house. God forbid someone raises their voice - my body completely freezes up, my mind goes blank. I also cant sleep deeply anymore. It feels like I wake up like a motorcycle going 0-120 in 5 seconds.
Maybe therapy, maybe meds, but for sure I'm getting the feeling that I have to move out, but I think if I leave, I'll never come back. Ever. I want to address this and stop being so damn gunshy.
bump..
last try
Then leave. If you don't feel safe then get out of there asap
Has anyone dealt with long term relationship itch?
After we got engaged our sex life has collapsed. We work full time and got to school full time so we have very little time together.
We've had a few rough patches where she chatting with some guy constantly and ignored my concerns so I started chatting up another girl. But we both cut contact and moved forward.
The problem is we're both still too busy to properly care for our relationship but we don't want to give up or let go.
I don't want to see her with someone else but I still think about this other girl - a lot lately. I have an itch because our sex life is so bad right now and we've only been with each other so when we have a rough patch I want to reconnect with this girl who seems more compatible.
We've been together going on 10yrs - highschool sweethearts, v card exchange - you get the idea. I really cherish our bond but it's fading and I don't want to marry her just because of inertia.
I think the answer is obvious: Break up and move on. Listen to your heart if that other chick is really nice. As long as it makes you happy thats all that matters.
>>17578866
Actually, why dont you have this exact conversation with her instead of with us?
>>17578866
This line of thinking is retarded.
You're retarded.
>>17578858
You fucking piece of shit make some time. If you and your hoe have time to hang around other leeches and have sex then you have time to talk and go out on dates and keep the flame alive.
If you dont then MAKE time. Use up your sick days or some shit then go out on a trip with her.
Jesus.
So, I am asking for a few opinions. I work for a valet company, and I am also an accounting student (you will need this info to understand)
I didn't work today, because I have not been paid in 5 weeks, and I thought the companies practices were a little shady when i confronted him about pay.)
Reasons:
> Owner said their accountant handles pay. (we have about 20-40 employees, no need for payroll help I think)
> When I confronted him, he told me not to question the worth of their accountant, he did more than just payroll, and he also is their lawyer.
I only mentioned that I was an accounting student and I have done an internship. I also mentioned to him that I think that even if he does do payroll, they are overpaying him, because to do outsource payroll for a small business is not necessary.
Furthermore, he has always been late on checks, my coworker has seen the owner himself using chase quickpay infront of him. And lastly there are times when I don't get a reply from him or lies about pay.
>Inb4 You should quit.
>5 weeks
Kek where the fuck do you live
>>17578830
I have a full ride + scholarships that pay for my rent. I use the money I get from my job for misc items. such as alcohol.
>Also I had a little too many drinks tonight, so I apologize for my spelling and word choice ahead of time.
Your company sucks.
But you already knew that.
>I didn't work today, because I have not been paid in 5 weeks
This is unprofessional. You should notify them before you take such an action - even if they are in the wrong.
>I also mentioned to him that I think that even if he does do payroll, they are overpaying him, because to do outsource payroll for a small business is not necessary.
Never, EVER, badmouth someone else. This is true in a personal setting, and doubly so in a professional one. You live and die by your connections. Always speak favourably of the people you work with. If can't literally think of anything positive to say, just shut up.
>Furthermore, he has always been late on checks, my coworker has seen the owner himself using chase quickpay infront of him.
Also, avoid gossiping like hell. Getting paid is your concern - this isn't
>And lastly there are times when I don't get a reply from him or lies about pay.
Just tell him you don't work for free. Give advance notice of this. You bet he will reply (or fire you)