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I originally posted this in /fit/, but they tend to be bad at replying to emotional based threads. I'd really appreciate some advice anywhere I can get it.

We all know lifting and general exercise usually working wonders for depression.

What I'm getting at is anxiety. I'm asking for myself because it's gotten so bad lately that I can't even finish a workout. I feel that pounding in my chest, and obsession with my pulse, then I get outta there.

What can I do for this shit since lifting is making it worse? I know it's common for it taking a good while for one's heart to calm down after lifting heavy in particular, and that's another part of how just the idea of the gym has been making me nervous is because the things causing the anxiety follow me after I leave the gym for hours.

What the fuck do I do? I don't even have depression, but this anxiety is fucking ruining my life. It feels like getting cucked by your own existence.

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Hi /adv/
I made a thread earlier here, where I established that I tend to date fuckboys and get hurt from it, because they like to get intimate and immediately vanish. I am sick of it.
A really sweet Chinese guy who is a freshman at my university has started talking to me. Do Chinese guys have a better dating culture? How do I tell if he just wants some action?

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Hey /adv/, any men here who are or have been married to Japanese women? I've been dating a Japanese girl for about two years since I met her in college in the US. I'm white. Thinking about asking her to marry me soon. However one of my buddies who lived in Japan before has warned me that Japanese women are known for doing a 180 after they get married and acting like controlling bitches who will deny you sex forever after they get married. My girlfriend has shown no signs of doing this but I have to wonder as I looked it up and I see others saying the same thing.

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My partner wants to make one of my biggest fantasies come true, and that is to have sex with an unconscious but willing person. What would be the best way to render my partner unconscious but unharmed long term?
Does such a thing exist?
Also, I think I am using the wrong term; I don't necessarily mean unconscious, but like... checked out and unable to remember or fight back.

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Hi /adv/, I could use your help

I'm a 21 year old male. What is this on my legs? I got it last year too except it was also on my thighs last year and much more "angry". Doctors gave me antifungal creams, steroid creams, and even yeast infection pills but it stayed more or less the same from around late October to sometime in June.

It is rarely itchy.

Both spots are basically the back of my knee. I never got this before last year.
<----- Left leg

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So im in calc1, and a guy I know sent me that picture asking for help saying he already tried #1 and #3 and they are both incorrect. The problem looks easy enough to me, find the second derivative then substitute in the values for any remaining x and y values. First derivative is 2x(dx/dx) + 2y(dy/dx)=0, second is 2(dx^2/dx^2)+2(d^2y/dx^2)=0 simplify it and you get 2(d^2y/dx^2)=-2 then d^2y/dx^2=-1. For all values of x the second derivative should be -1 but thats not an answer, either the question is wrong or I am misunderstanding basic calculus, if anyone could clarify it would be great as this is really fucking with me

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Interview advice?

I have probably my 10th in person interview for a real job coming up. I always do great in the phone interview, i have some notes in front of me and such. My cover letters IMO are well written and thought out. I just always fuck up the in person interview.

>I overthink the intentions of the questions
>get nervous that I'm talking too long or not enough
>whether I should show that I'm cool or a polished professional
>better to be honest or a lie to a "do you know how to ___" question
>what questions should I be asking
>should I be taking notes or is it disrespectful not to look eye to eye

Do you guy have any tips?
Anyone with HR or hiring experience would be greatly appreciated.

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So I failed my final. I had >95% on every assignment and midterm (of which there were fucking 3) and come the final I couldnt think of how to do 3 of the problems. At all. Closer to 5 since she's probably not going to give me any credit for my sort-of-an-answer-but-not-really. So at best I'm looking at 70% if everything else is perfect, more realistically starting at 50%.
It was worth 30% of my grade.
I don't know what happened. I study like crazy and always keep up on everything, but I just blanked. I couldn't think of anything.

If I fail this class it's going to set me back an entire year and I only came back to fast-track a degree in 2. Anything longer and I'm going to graduate at 27 with less than a year of experience in the relevant field, which basically means "You are Grade A fucked at finding a decent job"

How do I stop feeling like such shit over this

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Is it possible to let go of your number one desire, from birth and still be happy? truly happy and not be trapped in nihilism or denial? I've fallen in love recently, which isn't the first time, but the only time it made sense. They were everything i've ever wanted in perfect context. I've never told them the way i felt and now it's too late. It was a whole year, but in that year I experienced more emotion than my entire life. Now i stray away from music, faces and thoughts in fear that i may be reminded of them again. I've been in love before to the point where it even changed my prospective on life, but this was so much more than that. It felt more pleasant then getting high off dope just to look in their eyes and know i was what they were focused on. Now that they're no longer gonna be in my life, i've realized that everything i did and had ever dreamed about was for them. I only wish to know from someone older whose lived the same as me, is it possible to let go of your dreams and still be happy? I need to know so i can move on from this or at least come to terms that my life will always be in a perpetual state of shit. I know there's no real objective answer and it's all subjective, but at least i'll know someone else did it. & please spare me the " you'll get over it with time" because this is more than that. I'm being very literal and truly want to know from a serious prospective.

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How do I stop feeling bad because I dont have a gf?

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I spent all my teen years fawning over a guy in a hugely successful band. Cut to the dawn of twitter, I tweeted him a few times, he DM'd me, and we began chatting on the regular. I kept it a total secret that I was aware of how famous he was, and that I had spent about 5 years of my life thinking about him every second. He had a girlfriend at the time, and the press was commenting on how bad their relationship seemed (she was always shouting at him in public)

Life happened, his band blew up HUGE again (they'd died down a bit) and he basically left twitter, as he detests all his 11 year old fan girls (lol.) We fell out of touch. I never stopped thinking about him though. about 5 years after that, he is married with babies, and I am also married with no kids. His band is playing our city, and I beg my husband to buy me a meet and greet pass. My husband knew I was obsessed with this band and had a crush on this guy, but that was it. I go to the M+G alone (husband didn't want to spend too much). As soon as I walk into the M+G area, "my" guy recognises me and shouts my name. 5 years had passed, we'd never even met, and he knew me immediately. He hugged me, I flirted with him a little (to the awkwardness of his band mates), got a photo taken and left.

Immediately after leaving (literally within 1 minute) he sends me a private message on Twitter, asking me to get back in touch with him, and that we should chat up. He even gives me his private email (something he had never done before.)

While waiting for the concert, my husband sees a notification pop up... from him. He is immediately confused "Why is that extremely famous guy personally messaging you?" I explain everything to him. He started crying. We talked it out, and returned back to normal, under the condition I never emailed "him."

Secretly that night I emailed him. I felt so dirty, but it everything said was innocent. We emailed back and forth a few times, but then... he stopped replying. CONT

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Hi guys. I want to last longer in bed. I know there are a lot of people who claim at least last 10 minutes. But me... i just don't understand how to do it. Everytime i'm fucking a woman i try to stay away from the non return spot, but it is too fucking difficult and i end up cumming pretty fast. I hate it. what the heck do i do?
I've tried fapping before but it makes sex less enjoyable.

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Despite me having a bf and jerking off to gay porn, alot of the time i feel like im not gay. i feel like is hould stay in the closet/just not tell people (thats too late) and i hate myself for dating a guy.

Anyone else have feelings similar to this? Any suggestions?

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Is there any reason an adult male shouldn't freeze their sperm and get a vasectomy? No pregnancy scares, no gf would ever worry about hormone stuff, and it wouldn't close the door on children.

It just occurred to me today that this was an option, and I'm wondering about talking to my doctor about it after next term. I'm a nineteen year old male and still a khv, so this would very much be a preemptive measure, but I can't see any real disadvantage to it, and plenty to gain. From a quick search it looks like the cost of keeping it frozen is only $2-3K a decade, and I can afford the procedure itself.

Is this a good idea? Thoughts?

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Is it wrong to look at other girls and fantasize about cheating on my gf? I love her more than anything, and her finding out about me cheating on her would destroy her and I couldnt take that guilt. But ya know, it still turns me on knowing i could cheat with another girl. It probably doesnt help that i havent jacked off in months and we dont do anything sexual. What do yall think about cheating?