I feel kind of anxious about christmas. I'm 22 and I've gotten used to always spending christmas with my family, but this year it's different.
My mother is going to place A with her new partner, my sister is spending her holidays with her boyfriend, my grandparents want to spend christmas by themselves (understandable, we spend christmas with them pretty much every year), my aunt said we could spend christmas together, but if I want to do something else then she'll go spend it with her boyfriend and his parents.
That's where the problem comes in. I'd gladly spend christmas alone, to me it's just a day as the others. It's not the day that makes it special, it's the people. So I kind of want my aunt to spend christmas with her boyfriend, but then I should tell her "Yeah go with him, I'll just do whatever" and knowing my family that's not acceptable.
I don't want to be a restriction for them, but I don't know how to tell that to them because I don't think they'd like the idea of me spending christmas alone in my home (even though I'm completely fine with that)
Wat do
>>17848622
are you a guy or a girl
>>17848629
not sure why it would matter but I'm male yes
>>>/soc/
maybe you can hook up with someone for a pityfuck
So I was at college campus with my friends and we were having a bit of an off-time, so we started talking about memes and stuff. I told them I knew the most memes out of everyone there, and we all began this little challenge to see how many memes we could recite.
I started by saying "IMMA FIRE MAH LASER" and such, and they went "wow much meme very funny" and so on, and eventually one of the guys in our group, a black guy, said "I'M A REAL N***A", to which I replied "You're a real n***a FOR ME". I wasn't aware that they didn't know the Bane meme, and before I had time to explain myself, everyone was looking at me weird. Then I realized I had just done cultural appropriation by using the N-word in front of a black person. Now all my friends think I'm a racist and they're pretty much not talking to me anymore.
I wanna save my social life, how can I do it?
>talking about memes
>cant say nigga
wat
Stop using "cultural appropriation" in actual conversation. Makes you look as stupid as people who say "literally".
>>17848535
lol XD
>>17848535
sorry pal
saying the N word in front of SJWs is fatal
find some real friends like conservatives :)
I am running the risk of my andriod phone being confiscated because I spam posted the script of the Bee Movie on someone's facebook. What's the best way to ensure they can't access any of my files.
>>17848534
Who's threatening to confiscate?
>>17848534
Firstly no one anywhere has the ability to confiscate anything from you. If somone tries to take your phone simply do not hand it over it your property. Secondly, stop fucking around on Facebook.
>>17848552
u = idiot
op just accept the fact you are fucked
and give the police your phone
unlocked
they can break into it anyway & you will get leniency if you cooperate
being a stay at home mom,
pro's:
>time to look after yourself so you stay in shape and are mentally balanced which helps a lot in raising sane kids
>time to do more than just the bare minimum when it comes to chores, which will give the whole family a home instead of just a place to be
>time and nerves to actually raise your kids and teach them values and manners
>clearly separatet jobs. the husband isn't expected to come home and take out the trash or cook dinner. he has done his part of the deal and can now recover for the next day (it would be fair to make sure the mom has some free recovering time too, for example, when everyone is at school. but then there's now nagging about who does bedtime and such)
>time to maintain the families social circle (pay a visit to the grandma in the hospital or fetch something from the drugstore for the mother in law that has a fever).
>time to help your kids in their free time (housework, drive them to training and so on)
con's:
>you won't be able to get as far, careerwise, as peers that stayed in the workforce (neglectable in my eyes since you can still do reasonably well, because most people are lazy af anyways.)
>only one income
>you are dependant on your husband
>you might get looked down upon by working moms
am i missing something important?
Fuck me I want to be a housewife and cook and clean for my husband. Thats the dream.
>>17848554
My uncle's wife went schizophrenic after a few years of doing just that.
>>17848554
What if the husband wants to cook? I love cooking and I'm really good at it. I'm sure I'd be better than my wife.
But then again, I don't make enough to support a stay at home mom right now... maybe in a few years.
>*first word problem trigger warning*
>be a late bloomer
>dated a girl for 3 years in college. She was the only attractive girl that showed interest in me so I was like lol ok
>have nothing in common besides wanting to bang each other
>break up after 3 years
>devastated
>discover tinder
>go on a banging spree of multiple other girls
>catch feels for one quirky girl from my hometown harder than my ex
>drive her away
>double devastated
>go on another banging spree
>don't like a single person
>attractive girl wants to date me now
>can't connect to her at all because of double devastation
>leading her on while banging 4 other girls because I'm lonely and my friends and family live on the other side of the country
I feel unfulfilled in my emotional life and I the only thing keeping me going is my desire to have my parents see me become successful. I don't know what I actually want for myself in life, if anything at all. And having friends and women just come and go by in my life is emotionally exhausting. I'm not in control of my life anymore, I'm a slave to my dick, and not a day goes by where I don't wish I was a 12 year old playing final fantasy and living a life surrounded by friends and family
How do I do life right at this point? I'm 24.
>pic related
Get a hobby and allow yourself to be passionate about it
bro, I can relate
>24
>late bloomer
>had two serious relationships
>one was online when I was 15-17 with my WoW girlfriend
>then went on a tinder bang fuck fest for a few years
>then my my ex and dated her for about 3 years
And after that relationship with her, I've been really put off from relationships altogether.
Like, I hit up one girl for a FWB scenario, but haven't even jumped on it since I skipped out on her last week. I've been working on myself, mostly playing old Final Fantasy games, reconnecting with friends, and trying to improve my life on it's own, without the relation of anyone else to be a benefit to it.
To stop having such an unhealthy sexual life comes to mind.
Uninstall Tinder comes next.
I'm currently writing an application in english and my new Word app keeps saying I should use more concise language.
E.g. it always wants me to correct "take a look at" into "look at". As a non native speaker, I'm a bit confused - is "look at" really more precise in any given situation? Is "take a look at" always bulky and too much?
Also, is there something like a style guide on how to write good english texts? I feel I'm fluent, but often times I have no grasp about when to use what phrase/ whether to make a statement one or two sentences/ what synonym to best use etc. stuff like that.
I thought this would come naturally to me, but I feel it doesn't.
"Chicago Manual of Style", if you like. And don't follow anything when it comes to sentence structure from a word program unless it was a typo. Those programs are rarely accurate.
I guess "look at" does some more formal for an application. Its direct and quick, but in dialogue its fine to say "take a look" or "check this out".
I'm in the US and in school we take English studies which mostly covers literature and writing.
You probably are good at english
you could always run those questionable sentences through Hemingway if they seem wordy
if you're writing a job application, there's some wiggle room on skill lists where you don't need to make complete sentences
I'm pissed as fuck with one of my co-workers.
>Work in team environment
>One of co-workers is getting married
>Happy for her
>We know each other but aren't too close
>Not invited to the wedding, but that's okay since I wouldn't have wanted to go
>Decide to get her a card and a $5 gift card anyway as a wedding gift since I'm considerate (I was the only one on our team to get her a gift who wasn't at the wedding)
>Ask different coworker to give it to her at wedding
>Week goes by, hear no acknowledgment of gift
>She came back from honeymoon today
>Ask her if she received my gift
>She called it a slap in the face due to its small amount
Do I have the right to be upset right now? I went it of my way to get her a gift that I didn't need to. Are all women this damn degenerate?
Fucking excuse me you entitled cunt? Give me my fucking gift card back and I'll give it to someone who will fucking appreciate it. Hope your tits sag as far as your saggy leaky gash Barbra.
Yeah, you do. Couples expecting money as a gift is already trashy as fuck. Tell her to fuck off as you were just being nice even though you weren't invited to the wedding.
Why would you give someone a 5 dollar gift card for a wedding. I do think that was out of the ordinary but since u weren't invited who is she to complain?
Best way to induce a miscarriage?
Mercury poisoning has an excellent success rate the Chinese have been doing it for thousands of years
>>17848379
https://exhentai.org/g/953034/04a9927105/
Lots of very informal ways right in this
Eliminate the host.
Long distance boyfriend said we are using condoms from now on when I visit because hes sick of stressing about getting me pregnant when I'm not living in the same town.
I'm on the pill atm, havent had a pregnancy scare yet, genuinely not worried about it because I take my pill religiously.
I'm visiting him for newyears and I feel really sad that he wont bang me w/o a condom like we have every other time.
Latex irritates me, almost like a burn/rash.
Is it normal to randomly want to use a condom?
He said to keep taking the pill as well, so I'm hoping he'll stick it in without one.
Also, no he isnt cheating, trust me.
>Is it normal to randomly want to use a condom?
Not unless you think you caught something and want to hide it
>Also, no he isnt cheating, trust me
If that's true then why does he want condoms if your on the pill and have never had a pregnancy scare? What changed if not that?
>>17848333
Well, technically normal is using one all the time.
As a guy i can see his point , he doesn't want to put the both of you in a lifelong (or 2 month long) issue.
Try using a different kind of condom, instead of latex try lambskin.
>>17848333
He just might be genuinely worried about getting you pregnant, yes. The condom is atm the only way a guy can ensure that the risk is minimal, as he has nothing but your word what you're taking the pills on a schedule. Give him his peace of mind.
Or other option is that he has a reason to believe either he or you could carry an std and using condom is a precaution.
Also, look for non-latex condoms. They tend to be a tad expensive, but worth it if they save you from the itching. Latex allergy is a thing.
My friends complain about work all the time, both online and offline. It comes to the point where that is all they talk about. How do I deal with this?
get a job of your own and tell them how hard it is and to stop whining.
>>17848317
Maybe talk to someone else or tell your frind to quit the job if all he does is complain about it
>>17848323
I've been working for 6 years. I just don't bitch about it because I have responsibility and respect.
How would you fix a bitter virgin from r9k and make him a Chad?
I'm 27 BTW and KV.
>>17848297
First you have to become used to the fact that 'Chad' as you understand him doesn't exist.
Second, you must stop going on /r9k/. It's poison for your mind.
>hate self because KHV
>KHV because hate self
As much as it pains me to say this, but you can only give up at this point.
How to not be insecure
it's okay to be insecure, the key is to pretend you aren't
>>17848232
Short answer? Build confidence and self-esteem in ares you can control and stop fretting over things you can't change or control.
What is making you insecure?
>>17848239
I posted this before and got no answer so I decided to change the wording maybe I could get something
"What is being insecure?
I do not like some of my physical characteristics and if one is to remind me of how unattractive they are I half of the time feel a sad warmth and comfort in me and the other half I feel nothing. I am I considered insecure? How should I take such comments?"
I have a bit of a problem. So this girl I'm talking to is a natural submissive, and she told me she just wants to be man-handled. Like completely dominated.
That's my fantasy, I want to be a dom so bad, but I was never really super confident in bed so I've never done it before.
So last night we were getting into it, and halfway through, she stops and says "I can't do this." I ask her what's wrong and she just tells me that it sucks because she's not sexually attracted to me.
I ask her to elaborate and she tells me that she /wants/ to have sex with me, but she's used to someone more confident and experienced . She can't bring herself to enjoy it, I guess.
So naturally that makes me feel like shit, and I wanted to end it right there but she suggested that we work on it. That we can build up my experience and confidence. Because "I have the potential to be great". She even said that if I wanted to fuck other girls I could, just don't tell her about it. Anything to not make us stop talking.
It's been a while for me, about 8 months. I'm rusty, so I essentially have to re-learn/learn what she wants.
So how do I become more confident in bed/learn how to please a submissive like her?
>>17848176
If a new girlfriend tells you she doesn't find you attractive. Why are you with her?
That's such a bitchy thing to say/do in a Jew relationship.
Just dump her
>>17848366
Well the thing about this chick is that she's really indecisive and says the wrong things, in the wrong way.
She would text me things like "I wanna bang you" and then pull this hot and cold shit when we're together.
She assured me that she wanted to work on this, and that we could fix this. I told her that sexual attraction is natural and not something you work on. She said that in her case, she must be mentally attracted to someone before sexually, but I think that's bullshit.
I feel like I'm making the wrong decision. I'm not sure. I really like this chick, and it fucking sucks this came up because I'm not sure how to deal with it.
dated a girl like that. she probably has borderline. do yourself a favor and move on. if not go rough on her, if its not ur thing u will never be compatible. she wants to get hit and dominated and sex will either be really rapy or forced
There's this guy who runs a local sundries where my mom buys suplies for her cafe. He's a family friend and I've know him since I was kid. He's a single dad with an 8 year old son. His wife passed away 3 years ago in an accident. He's a great guy and I think I may have fallen for him. He hasn't been in a relationship since his wife died. He still treats me like a kid even though I'm already 20. How can I get him to see me as a woman? How can I become part of his life? We're not that far apart in age, He's still 32.
>>17848170
you're still a kid. he already had a kid with a woman and brought it up. in terms of life experience he differs not much from your parents. if you really want to settle for him than you should be ready to be placed behind the kid. you will be nothing more than an affair and his kid will most-likely dislike you.
If you want him to see you as a woman why don't you ask him out for a subtle date?
>>17848170
Focus on getting to know with his kid first. What was his wife like. What qualities did she have that you may have in common?
>>17848170
Unless he's a complete scumbag he won't get involved with you. If you're attractive you might be able to seduce him into being fuck buddies but he'll definitely want to keep it a secret
A girl I have been having a long distance relationship with for 2 years has cheated on me with online men in the past and hurt herself a lot. I feel too guilty to leave but also suffocated everytime she texts me. Recently she has started being really disrespectful and even made a ''list'' of things she would do when I left (includes deep cutting, being with old men sexually and killing herself).
Everytime she cut or went to upload herself naked online she would send me the aftermath and the men's responses. Now I don't even know what she is doing behind my back even though she always promises she is super loyal etc. I have had to help her, delete her porn blogs and pics on Tumblr and confront all the pedophile men she would engage with. (She was 15 and now we are both 18).
I don't know how to do it but I really need to be free from her influence. Should I?
Guilt and missing her are a huge part of why I can't but I also feel very much abused and used. Met her once irl only. She regularly gets psycho episodes and no matter how much I tell her she is hurting me, it never works anymore.
>>17848168
>long distance relationship
stop reading her text or anything from her. what you don't know you don't know
Do I really have the right to do that? What if I'm the wrong one? I hate being such a forgiving cuck honestly ://
>>17848192
Literally block her and move on. Fucking hell dude get OUT.