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>>17847271
Oldfag former Mormon here. Raised Mormon. Left the church when I was 18. Came back a little I was 35.

It is comfy, I won't lie. But don't throw away your objectivity as you get further into it. There are people you'll encounter that I hope will make you feel genuinely cared for. But there is some crack pot shit in the faith. So explore it from the perspective of learning more about your own views as they relate to spirituality.

>>17847271
>mormons
>free from degeneracy
you are over-romanticizing a religion you don't even believe in.
>life will not change if you become mormon
>society will not change if you become mormon
>jumping ship for a religion who's kool-aid you haven't drank is a rookie mistake

>>17847271
Mormons have some pretty good core values
7 Habits of Highly successful People which is like one of the most sold self help books of all time is just a rewriting of Mormon shit

I would say going into their society is a bit extreme but learning from them and taking it into the rest of the world is dope

>>17847258
Start watching or listening to uplifting things late at night. No more Norwegian speed black metal. If you like weeaboo shit, try watching or rewatching azumanga daioh

I used to be like you. I'd be scared of literally anything that implied death or mass extinction. I was sleepless for most of 2012 and the years leading up to it. I'd be checking scientific website almost hourly to see if anything scary was happening. Over time that fear went away, though. I can't pinpoint exactly why, but some of the things I remember doing were I kept myself busy when I started having those thoughts (did homework, went to the gym, made some food, anything that occupied my time), when sleeping I would turn on a the TV and set a sleep timer so I could fall asleep with something other than fear in my mind, I also started taking Phenibut to help calm me down and get me to go to sleep. I only recommend phenibut if it's really severe, it did wonders for me.

>>17847258
>>17847300
he should stop watching nibiru bullshit and alex jones

problems fixed

>>17847246
Do you live at home, you angry Lil faggot?

>>17847256
what do you mean live at home? if you mean my dorm, then yes. If you mean with my parents, then no.

>>17847246
What's the point of the hate?
Do you enjoy hating everyone or do you wish you didn't?

>>17847142
Now that youre out of the relationship, what exactly did you see that made you know she was crazy?

They like you

>>17847154
Extremely obsessive about whether I give every spare second of my time to her

Claims that she's open and accepting of aspects of who I am, but when it comes down to it she isn't supportive and is in fact a complete bitch

Threatened to kill me if I left her for another girl

Sometimes when angry she'd blow up and go into full "If you lay one finger on me I'll fucking kill you, don't even try it" mode when there was no indication I was going to lay a finger on her and she's the one screaming at me trying to hit me

>>17847139
That's great that you found something you enjoy! I'm sure everyone on YouTube has received the same sort of comments from time to time. Just ignore them and focus on the fact that you are helping people.

>plz no bully

Son, you're in the wrong end of the intenet for that.

Also, keep making your vids.

Ignore and blockem if it bother ya that much.

You're stronger than that anon

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So the situation is I'm in State A right now. I live in State B though. I came to State A to get away from State B because I hate living in that fucking house with that prick, not to mention I don't get along with anybody on his side of family. Except like 2 (?). I have 2 friends here. In state B I have family I love, and many friends. I honestly feel like I have issues because of my father as well, I'm sort of against self diagnosing though because I feel like a dick saying I might have a mental illness or other problem people REALLY have that I don't. (Or maybe I just have a low self esteem and I'm the problem idk.)

Anyways.. I'm a highschool graduate and and over the age of 18 wit ready to go to college, and I can possibly live with my family in State A(happens to be favorite state and I LOVE my family here, even see my aunt and uncle here as real parents, even loving them more desu lol.
The houses here are like.. 3 homes in one though. Owner of all 3 is my family though, and we get along very well so. If I ever wanted to live here I'd ask them.


Which brings me to the fact that my family knows the situation and is urging me to tell the owners my (family I mentioned ) of house im staying at, my situation and ask if I can stay there. My family here is telling me it's super unlikely the owners will say no, the room im staying in is vacant 24/7 and a im no bothersome at all, and loved by them. Problem is I'm fucking scared it'll backfire and I know my dad will flip the fuck out on me when I'm home, smear me, probably hit me, break my shit, maybe kick me out too.

Should I just stop being an insecure pansy and tell the owners ( family ) my situation and why I would like to stay? My cousins did say if it backfires not to worry they have my back... but idk

Tldr: stay miserable and depressed at home,
Or get out of comfort zone for once and risk massive backfire from a problem and possibly the best decision of my life or the worst

>>17847124
Dear OP,

Take the advice you've been given and ask. It's very clear that home with the folks is poisonous.

>>17847134
>Or get out of comfort zone for once and risk massive backfire from a problem and possibly the best decision of my life or the worst

This is hot
Go for this one

She says constantly how filthy the house is, how shes about to go clean it, but then spends the next 4 hours on the computer watching tv shows.
I have tried to clean, she gets up me because I'm making her feel like shes incapable of cleaning/ making her feel guilty because the house is dirty. I just dont want to be walking literally animal faeces through the house. There is literally shit on the floor and she will get up me if I clean it because I 'do it half assed' and shes apparently about to clean it.
The times that I have been able to vacuum and mop without her getting up me, my father will tell me I'm doing it wrong and to redo it. My father doesnt do housework because he goes to work. My mother cooks for him and brings him drinks when he asks. He can be sitting across the room from her and ask for a drink and she will make him one.

I try to do the dishes, she gets up me because I'm not doing them right or shes about to do it and makes me stop. If I don't she screams at me until I walk away.
She washes dishes with dirty smelly chucks cloths, she washes dog dishes with dog food in it before she washes our eating plates and stuff, which is spreading so many germs.
When the cloths get so dirty I go to throw them out and she loses her shit, she then bleaches them to reuse.
I have thrown out so many and replaced them with clean ones I have bought because it is gut churning to think about.

The inside of the fridge has filth on it, the pantry cupboard has filth where food sits, the place where we keep cups and plates and shit have filth on it. Everything is filthy and I can't do fucking anything about it without getting screamed at.

She has chickens, if I feed them I am taking it away from her and making her feel useless, if I dont feed them I never help with them.

My boyfriend came up earlier in the year to spend some time with me and he was the one who pointed out how filthy the house was. It opened my eyes and its like I was seeing my home properly for the first time in years. There is so much filth and grime and dust literally everywhere and I dont know how I didnt see it before. There are rooms of just junk in them, she says I have 5 rooms full of stuff but I have my room and the spare bedroom closet for my things.

She smokes, I have bought her a vape (yeah I know) and she was using it for a while and it was going really good. Shes stopped using it and now smokes more.
She goes to the supermarket literally every day to buy more food. My father did the math and 'apparently' she spends $700 a week on food. I genuinely do not know how, because they don't eat that much food and I'm not eating it. There is only the 3 of us. She uses the excuse that she needs to get food as a way to get a packet of cigarettes, she smokes at least 1 packet (40 cigs) a day.

>>17847099
Dear op.

Given your word choice. You're not based in the US, I imagine.

Your mom needs help, that's for sure. As a nurse, however, she has a skill set and can easily work a more administrative position like care or case management for chronic care patients.

Also, get the fuck out asap. You'll be better off for it.

>>17847097
First date with my friends is not my idea of fun

See Star Wars with friends and take date another time

I hated the last one though so maybe just stay home and jerk off

>>17847097

see the movie with your friends.

take the girl to a movie she is more likely to enjoy.

if your response is
>nah shes super into star wars

then take her after you see it with friends.

Id do the date, if you really like her
There will always be another time to hang with your friends
But dates dont come as often

>>17847080
please help out adv

>>17847080

if girls were a homogenous entity that all fell for the same tricks, you'd already know them.

>>17847080
Details required

Is building a PC a good place to start? playing with circuits? Would buying raspberry pie be dumb? What are the best tech sites and channels?

>>17847031
Build a PC. A REAL PC. Not some recipe you found online or some LTT shillbox. Learn what you need to consider, start shopping, and plan your build. Also, circuit fuckery is a good idea. Raspberry pi is nope.

>>17847031
I'm sure there's something else you could do. Can't you just deal drugs like your cousin?

>>17847030
Yea don't do that LOL

>>17847056
Wait don't do what lol

>>17847030

>girl friendzones me
>finally bangs me when i visit
>should i try to marry her?

no

>>17847029
What do you want from us

>>17847029
Mgtow, young faggot. Start learning

>>17847029
You're paying for a womans intercontinental flights and u haven't seen her in a year? Dude wtf get refund and stop talking to this harpy

>>17847023
Western and Eastern Europe are pretty different fucking places. The latter got a history with Ottomans and "turk" can be used as insult in Russian. (Although it's ironic given how much Russian tourists like Turkey) Besides, Eastern Europe is generally socially backwards these days due religion. Obviously you can get unlucky and meet the rare village idiots in Finland too but generally speaking it's unlikely.

So yeah, it's safe and it's very unlikely that you'll get dirty looks. Not sure about making friends too, Finns generally got the reputation of being spergy and reserved, no matter how white you are.

>>17847071
not op but for me they do look like xenophobic people even if western.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=SMFJdJJM3x4

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>>17847023

>I'm kind of brown-looking
it's okay, they have showers there

just don't forget to bring your ibrik. these kaffirs all use toilet paper. absolutely haram.

Flight attendants and pilots obviously fly for free, since it's their job. An airport janitor doesn't get those privileges, if that's what you're asking.

>>17846920
A warehouse guy and a baggage handler told me today that they fly free.

I work in the airport bakery, so I'm not an airport employee and don't fly free.

>>17846891
I hear working for the airport is a good-ass joj. You should do it.

>>17846879
It's only a weekend.

I know it's hard anon, but just go and try to have fun. Socially and work wise you should be better off.

>>17846879
Going and regretting is better than staying and regretting because at least you're not left thinking what could have been

where are you from and where in so cal are you going
I'm in LA

Not sure exactly where yet. The thing is, I don't get along with anyone in my office. I know I won't be enjoying it.