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Hello.
>22
>Been dating a girl
>She is 24, and has moved here to the states with her family, from Australia
>We've been going out for 8 months and things are quite serious between us, both of us want to go long term
>Family wants to meet the girl I've been dating
>I've met her family, and they fucking love me, but she hasn't met mine
Yeah, thing is my family is judgmental as all fuck, and she is covered in tattoos from head to toe, except for her tits/ass/crotch area. They would literally never stop giving me shit about her. Now she is wondering why I haven't introduced her to my family as well, because we're deciding what to do about Christmas.
I dated a girl when I was 18, who had ONE tattoo on her whole body and it was on her shoulder, and my family got super fucking preachy to me about it. So now that I'm dating a girl that has probably more than 25 tattoos, with thousands and thousands of dollars worth of work done, I'm sort of afraid.
Its not like her or her family are low class, they are actually astronomically rich, but my family will definitely think less of my GF for having tattoos.
How do I handle this situation?
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You send her to the fucking oven
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>>17846871
Seems good.
thanks for the suggestion
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>>17846866
You tell them to fuck right off.
OK, so don't literally say "fuck off" - that will just goad them further. What you essentially have to do is to make it as obvious as day that the disparaging comment they just made about your girl is among the most insignificant comments in the universe, right up there with "Boy, how's that weather?" and commentary on gas prices.
That is the main difference in being a fully developed adult in a committed relationship when it comes to family. Your family is important to you and you'll take their thoughts into consideration but at the end of the day it is YOUR relationship and YOUR life. You're independent now and what they say has not one iota of impact in your life decisions in the end.
If they persist, treat them like children - literally. Just smile, nod, laugh like they're just being outlandishly silly (which they are).
The one thing you need to keep in mind for long term relationships:
This other person might be your spouse one day. When that happens, that is your new family unit. FUCK your parents and FUCK hers (figuratively). Your wife and your kids are your new nuclear family unit - it's you against the world. You and your wife need to have each other's back against anyone else - and that includes the parents and the in-laws. If you don't do that, then marriage gets exponentially more difficult.
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I suffer ever day from mental disorders, the only thing that helped was my girlfriend, but I couldn't risk hurting her, so I ended our relationship in a way that really fucked her up. I didn't do it on purpose, i never wanted to hurt her. I apologized and she said we are still friends, but we haven't talked in weeks.
I see her having fun and moving on on social media. I want to be with her again so badly. My mental state got better. But being without her is taking a toll on me. How do I live with hurting her? Can I fix things and how? And I feel like shit all the time, I'm really really tempted to end my life.
What do I do? And how do I Cary on now that I pushed away my hope?
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I can explain in further detail if needed.
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That depends on what you did to hurt her.
The best thing you could probably do is just talk to her. Explain to her that what you did was an irrational decision based around problems you were dealing with and that you're willing to fix things and get back with her.
If things don't turn out how you want them, then oh well. You're just going to have to move on.
It's not worth killing yourself over.
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>>17846932
I just don't think she wants anything to do with me, and if I try to talk to her there's I big chance she is just gonna shut me down and I don't want to put her in an uncomfortable position.
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This is really embarrassing 2016-12-12 04:47:01 Post No.17846850
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This is really embarrassing
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But how do I know if I'm lactose intolerant?
I recently turned 27, and lately i'm feeling really...gassy. I'm constantly farting and it's incredibly embarrassing because at my workplace I can't just open a window whenever I feel like it. I mean, otherwise I have no problems with my digestion. I'm Eastern European, is it possible that i'm lactose intolerant?
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Possibly, but there are a ton of other things that cause gas - bananas, nuts, beans, etc.
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>>17846850
What's your diet like?
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>>17846868
Mainly breads and pastry, also lots of dairy - chocolate milk, cheese, puddings and some meat.
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I'm about to graduate hs this year (I'm 18) and I haven't really been happy lately. I've been finding myself thinking nihilistically a lot and many of the hobbies that I used to enjoy like video games or learning about programming have disappeared because I lost interest in gaming and realized that programming is not for me. I don't really know what else to do and other than hanging out with friends school is just really boring. On top of that, I haven't had a solid relationship in a while and I don't know how to meet girls outside of school. Any general advice would be really helpful.
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So why did you lose in interest in programming?
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>>17846845
It's like when you're a kid and you were obsessed with hot wheels or marbles or Pokemon or some shit and then you get bored. What did you do back then? Just stop playing with shit for the rest of your life, nah. You started playing halo or skateboarding or learning about guns sum shit
So you gotta just try some new shit you find faintest of interest in and play with it for a week. Rinse and repeat till you find your new shit
A lot comes with age. At 16 I played Dark souls like crack, at 18 video games bored me the fuck out. I was bored for a bit just listening to music or some other shit to past the time until I stumbled across gambling websites. I got obsessed with poker so now I do that shit and make some money with it
Tl;dr try something new for a week
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>>17846860
I lost interest because I took a class and realized I wasn't good at it and I didn't enjoy it
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I'm trying to remember how to do division by hand but for this one no matter what I keep getting 3.2 instead of 3.125 where am I fucking up? Can anyone do it by hand correctly and show me?
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Pretty easy if you represent them as fractions, 5/2 divided by 4/5, which is the same a multiplying by the reciprocal, 5/2 x 5/4, which is 25/8
Also, wtf are you in 4th grade?
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>>17846933
No not in 4th grade I just don't remember how to do this stuff cause I never use it
Could you write it on paper with the whole process on it for me
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>>17846939
Common core, ladies and gentlemen!
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Curious to know if femanons like Big muscular Guys? Like muscular but still a nerd.
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2/10 because I know people are going to reply to this.
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Mmm
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if a reply to this post gets dubs, OP dies in his sleep tonight.
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what are you views on pedophilia?
>i'm a pedo, ask me anything.
wanting some constructive conversations
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covering the basics
>was arrested and charged years ago, for over 5k images (10 sec. of vid. is a classed as 1 image)
>aggravated and basic possession
>took 1.5yrs to get through the system to get final verdict
>sentenced to 5yrs prison got suspended due to history of working with psychs trying to get help
>was also very cooperative, answered all questions honestly and in detail
>pleaded guilty the moment they knocked on the door
>got caught on TOR (yes 90% of sites are ran by FBI or likewise organisation)
>preffered age is 5-13
>i am very interested to hear all manner of opinions and will answer questions
>i do not want to fuck children, however if others want to, its there choice
>i'm ITT for discussion, not for pizza
>inb4 kys
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>>17846817
We're you blocking JavaScript on Tor?
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>>17846842
yes mate, i was doing everything by the book.
i even had a 'dedicated' computer with java on it.
only used it for tor.
I'm just such a... lazy, undriven, unmotivated person. I have been my whole life. I've never been at my best in school, I've never really striven for excellence, I haven't really taught myself any cool skills or hobbies. I'm just a lazy, boring person who does nothing but sit around and waste time.
I almost failed this semester of college, and I need to make a change, fast. But this how I've always been, my whole life. I don't know what's causing this or how to make a change.
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>>17846810
Throw away everything thats giving you an excuse not to focus.
Orrrrr...could be you're just not ready right now. Go work a shitty 9 to 5 for a few years and pay for school out of your own pocket. You'll value your education a whole lot more once it's your hard earned cash on the line
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>>17846924
I'm already pay for school through student loans
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>>17846810
What is your major?
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I sniff cups before using them, no bait
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Ever since I was little and could do things for myself I have always sniffed the cup I've gotten from the cupboard before I use it.
I think this is because the household I grew up in was filthy and my mother would wash dishes in dirty water after washing dog bowls and such, causing the dishes to smell and still be dirty.
The cloth she would use you could smell from a distance, she would bleach them and reuse the same chucks. I dont know if bleached reused cloths are normal but I always hated that she did that.
I didnt realize this was a problem or honestly that I did it, until my boyfriends mother pointed it out when I visited them.
How do you unlearn something you've done subconsciously for over 10 years?
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I used to turn the cup down to look inside it to see if it was clean until someone put water in a bunch of cups in the cupboard. Now I just drink bottled water like a normal person.
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>>17846805
you dont. so what someone pointed out some tiny insignificant detail, why do you have to deprogram it? i get its not important to who you are, but when you go out of your way to get rid of these things that are, as you say, second nature, you're only stressing yourself.
maybe im biased cuz i do teh same thing. i thought everyone did. it seems like a natural instinct, sniff something before you put it in your goddamn mouth
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>>17846821
I'm sorry you live somewhere where tap water is undrinkable
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I feel terrible. Awful.
Recently weaned myself off lithium and it feels sooo bad
I just want to feel better.
What drugs do I buy to feel better?
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>>17846799
Exercise, a healthy diet, and lots of sleep OP
End the cycle NOW or you never will. Stop putting it off.
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>>17846802
To tired to exercise from my hypersomnia, I try every day though.
Too poor to eat well, too sad to eat actually. Whenever I buy food it just spoils and I sleep off the hunger.
Sleep, now that I can do. Its all I do.
Sleep. Songwriting. Sleep. Songwriting.
Over and over
Its all i am
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>>17846835
Songwriting, that's awesome OP. Keep up great artistic hobbies like that
But do you have a job? Mountain men in the wilderness of modern society can't forego chopping firewood and hunting in order to whittle.
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how do you deal with the fact that we are sexually programmed to be dominant males over submissive females, killing all posibilities of equality in a relationship
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What the fuck are you talking about? It takes a great deal of equality from both parties to recognize each others strengths and weaknesses (dominant, submissive) and use those traits to make the relationship better instead of abusing it. It can go either way man.
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It's the "I didn't pay attention in 7th grade" -thread again.
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>>17846775
>equality
Get rid of that notion. Either take control and be happy or become her bitch and her wageslave.
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Due to my low GPA I wouldn't be able to get into a decent university. Now some people in /pol/ have told me that going to the military is a good choice for me, they told me that if I spend 3 years no university will refuse the GI bill money and I can get a degree and be debt free.
What do you guys think? Is /pol/ right?
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Btw I have a 48 foot penis.
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>>17846757
I mean if you can handle it you can set yourself up nicely in the military. There's pros and cons of course. If you have nothing else going on for you it can be a great head start. Try to find some field career wise in the military that you could see yourself doing in the civilian world. That experience plus being a vet puts you ahead of most people in said field.
Also, never take advice from /pol/.
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>>17846757
>/pol/
no. As far as I know, it's even in doubt now if the GI Bill benefits will be given out. Which branch gives you a 3 year contract? But that's not important - do you want to go to the military just as a way to college? Why do you want to go to university?
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Depressed Over "Helping My Parents"
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>30 years old, unmarried man
>Employed in very well paying management level corporate job, actually sending half of my wage to help my family at home
>Usually live alone in a big city
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>Regularly coming to hometown to check on my Mennonite parents and 10 years old little brother
>Father is a teacher, mother volunteering in many church services
>When going home, that means helping with the chores, helping my father checking his student's tests and works, helping my mom working on whatever church activities she's get her hands on, and helping my little brother doing his shit of homeworks
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>When I started to complaining about the works at home, who actually both far more boring and felt useless than my work at the office, my parents just told me that I should feel joy doing the good works.
>Started lessening the frequency of my homecoming, from practically every week going down to once a month, claiming busy office works.
>Actually enjoyed my office works far more than the boring, soul crushing works at home.
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>Parents started to accuse me being worldly, ungrateful workaholic and told me that I should quit my job and start with "healthier and more fulfilling" job back in my hometown.
>Yesterday, I end up finally fed up and erupted when my mom asked me to help making some sunday school props after my father asked me to help him check his students homeworks. Told them that I'm literally fed up with all their shits I'm doing at home for free, and factory management is literally easier and less soul crushing than helping with their chores.
>My parents not speaking with me ever again after this outburst
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Help...
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you could always just kill yourself
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>>17846709
Just calm down and try to reason with them.
In hindsight, instead of lying about not wanting to help them with stuff, you could have been more open about it, e.g. telling them you enjoy helping them, but have a life of your own so you can only do it 1-2 times a month.
Tbh it does sound like they're asking too much of you. Half of your paycheck and a ton of your time off work is definitely too much. Again, what I would do is just try to negotiate something more reasonable while keeping a decent relationship with them.
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I do love my family, but sometimes I entertaining the fact that I could just GTFO from home as I make about $200000 per year, but deep down in my heart I just can't live without them too.
I actually used to put the blame on the very intrusive Church teachings, but that would bring another sore points in my relationship with my parents.
I have put in for time off over New Years, I am a casual worker.
I've put in from the 27th December- 8th Jan as I'm going to see my boyfriend who lives away and also has time off from his job.
I put my time off form in for this early August.
On the form it says 'Manager will advise if not available'.
I have just booked my flights as Management haven't spoken to me about NOT having it off, I know I probably should have asked if I had the time off but I'm a little bitch and didnt want to talk to my asshole boss.
Legally they can't make me work, I gave them months in advance, I could have been a real cunt and asked for 4 weeks over xmas and newyears like another coworker did.
Am I a terrible person? I feel like I've given well advance notice about having that time off.
Just a bit worried that work will turn around and tell me I have to work when I've paid $460aud for tickets (I put it off to 'last minute' incase my boss approached me saying I couldnt have it)
-Also now my coworkers are realizing 'oh fuck I want new years off' and have started putting their time off in for it also, 2 roster weeks before the date. Do you think my work would honer the people who put in for it in advance over people who have decided now they want it?
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If they say you have to work tell them to fuck off.
Go about your business as usual and you'll be fine.
Go see your boyfriend and enjoy yourself, don't let anything back home bother you just spend time with him.
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>>17846766
Wow, that actually made me feel alot better. Thanks man
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How do I "vet" friends better?
Shit, how do I make quality friends at all?
Rant: Every friend I've ever made I feel like I'm always doing what they want to do, and they never want to return the favor of what I want to do. I try and set up vacations all the time, and I understand they may not have the money for it, that's fine, I'm pretty well off and I'm willing to jump through some hoops to help them pay their way, but I understand they may not even be able to scrounge up the money to pay for food on the vaca or whatnot. But then the next month they'll invite me to some concert festival that they've been talking about for the past year, and I'll go, and have a good time, but concert festivals aren't really my thing, but I put up with it because I know they just want a friend to be with them and I can deal with it. Then I'll say "hey the festival was fun! Since we have this camping equipment from the festival, lets use it go camping or something!" and they'll say "nah I don't like camping".. okay, well shit I understand camping isn't for everyone. How about we go to NYC? I have a few friends with apartments that'll let us cra-- "nah man I don't really have the money for NYC" alright then, well how about we take the 2 hour drive to Ocean fucking City, I'll rent us a hotel, stock our entire fridge with booze and food, buy us a bunch of weed, invite a bunch of girls over and we'll have a grand ol... "Nah man I'm busy" I didn't even say when yet bro stop making fucking excuses. And then the next fucking year its back to "hey anon we're all going to tommorowland in belgium!! Do you want to go!?"
God damnit, I can't be this fucking bad at planning
/end rant TL;DR: My friends refuse to do anything I want to do.
So basically here's what I need advice on: How do I vet my friends? I recently moved so I have 0 friends. I'm starting from a fresh palate. I want to make friends who are willing to travel mostly.
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I'll come to get fucked up with you and some girls wtf man
Find friends that share your interests more, talk about traveling a bit
Usually guys get friends through work school or hobbies
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You need to stop being such a weed and grow a backbone
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>>17846703
How do I talk about traveling more? I feel like when I bring it up I sound like a rich douchebag. I've been to Tanzania to climb mt. kili, I've been to Italy, I go to Colorado and Utah all the time to go skiing, I've been to Alaska, I'll be in Japan in March for a week by myself just fucking around, hope I can meet some cool people in the hostels.
how do I talk about cool shit without coming off as one of those "look at all the cool stuff I do!!" guys?