Hey /adv/, physics major here (who's gonna fail heat and waves).
I've been looking into what I can do with a physics degree and my future seems bleak. It seems where all the money and jobs (I mainly care about the job aspect) are in engineering. I've also been looking for online resources to teach myself engineering skills so as to broaden my job opportunities.
This is going to be the end of my first semester, third year, so its too late to change anything...
I just wanted some advice on what I should do and on what to read on.
Why are you only now looking into what you could do with your tens-of-thousands of dollars investment? Especially if you "mainly care about the job aspect"?
My only advice (and it's completely serious) is that you should consider suicide
If you don't have the engineering degree, you're not going to be hired as a full engineer right off the bat unless you have the right connections.
You're probably going to start as a junior engineer, or something below that, which is a totally possible path with just about any degree.
Try to worry about your current studies, if you're not doing well at something, you don't need to veer off track to pursue some side stuff. Get through what you're going through and make yourself look the best you can. Figure out any kind of projects you can contribute to, and have your name as a part of, as that's going to be your ticket into employers thinking you have talent.
Employers train what they regard as talent. You'll work under regular engineers, senior engineers, and they'll teach you how to apply the skills you know to the job. You won't get the same pay as them for the first few years until you're a learned asset, but you didn't make a critical error or anything. Employers know that sometimes people just chose the wrong piece of paper to pursue.
>>17849208
Learn Chinese. I just graduated in biochemistry and the only full-time jobs that responded to my applications were in China. I'm hoping to go there soon, fuck being NEET.
Okay there's this guy I've been talking to and we live an hour apart from each other. He's nice and all but recently he keeps sending me snaps to come cuddle with him, which is cute and all but we haven't met in person before. I think the thought of it is nice but it's a little off putting the way it's blatantly brought up. I'm not quite sure what to say I guess?
>>17849200
He wants to fuck you
My advice is that you should learn to better formulate your questions so that others can provide you with relevant advice.
As it stands your question is more of statement and there's no answer to it. What you should say depends on how you feel, which you didn't really make clear. Either say you want to fuck him or that he should slow down until you've met in person. I hope this helps but I have no idea if it will because you're not quite sure how to post questions I guess?
>>17849254
Reeeeeee
Hello /adv/.
After a series of unfortunate events in my life I decided to commit suicide by hanging.
Can you please provide me with advice how to properly do it with minimal pain and without leaving a big mess to clean up for the rest of the family?
Having the air chocked out of you is pretty painful and your body will most likely act because basic survival instincts.
Best thing to do is take a lot of numbing drugs to minimize pain, and make sure you take a shit and piss before you die, cause all thats gonna come out when you start turning blue.
>>17849210
Is it possible to break your neck from a long drop to avoid the pain?
>>17849233
Sure that's literally how public execution by hanging was meant to work.
This story could be long. But I’ll try to keep it short.
Basically I spent way too much time with this one chick. I was planning to make a move and when I finally said to myself “Ok, she is worth the try”, she hits me with a “I’m going to try to make it work with my ex”.
I once fell from a 2 story building, broke my leg and my arm and even cracked my skull. Her words gave so much more pain than that… I’m still shaking.
I panicked, I stupidly tough to myself “Well If she is telling me, it is another way of saying, make your move fast, I’m almost out of the market”. Now I realize that she told me that because I was so deep in the friend zone that the light of common sense was no longer shining upon me.
So I told her and in the most romantic way ever she said no.
She said I was the most important person in her life, I’m what every woman wants, I’m basically Jesus for her and that indeed she loves me, but just not like I love her. (AKA She won’t take my dick).
And here it is, where the internet comes in. This is new ground for me, usually when getting rejected the girl does everything in her power to get away from me. But she… She wants me close, she wants me to be her friend.
Truth is, I don’t want to lose her either, besides the fact that I want her to have my babies she is the best friend I’ve had in a long long time.
It’s been a couple of weeks, we haven’t talked. I told her I’ll call her eventually, but seriously I don’t know what to do.
My natural reaction is to cut every fucking connection with her and continue living my life, basically, not calling her ever again. But deep inside me I still want to believe that if we go back to be best buds again, eventually she’ll love me back (I know… Like that is ever going to happen).
So any advice? I want her to be my girlfriend, but if there is a way to convince her to be my fuckbuddy, hey, nothing wrong with that either.
And… Go.
>>17849125
You're either delusional or a really good troll
I expect a lot of replies either way
I know that. Not a troll just a very sad dude.
Opinions!!!!
she won't be your gf
if you can handle seeing her with another dude you can be her friend, if not cut contact
if you had a chubby/borderline gf, would you prefer her staying that weight or lose it and risk having saggy boobs and stretchmarks?
*chubby/borderline FAT
>>17849119
I used to be fat so I'd prefer her to lose the weight. If she isn't that chubby she should be fine. Tell her to lift weights and that little muscle she puts on will fill in any potential loose areas.
I'd want her to lose weight.
is a six inch cock too small
>>17849104
For most girls to want yea
For most girls to deal with no it's aight
>>17849121
What about when combined with 6 inch girth?
My cock looks so small when I jerk off but my ex could barely take it
>>17849121
well that fucking sucks
Sometimes I feel like I am so close to a boiling point and want nothing more than to punch a wall until I break my hand-I feel like I have so much pent-up anger... how do I ''let go'' of it?
How do I stay calm in situations instead of getting enraged?
>>17849090
do internet search for "anger management"
start clicking & reading
what gets you to that point?
>>17849102
pretty much anything, a snide remark, an act, I don't feel it coming until the point when I want to close myself into a padded room and do whatever to let my anger out
I still miss her
I've got a new GF and she's... nice?
She's pretty, she always wants sex, she'll put up with absolutely anything and still love me and care for me and do anything for me.
But she's not her.
And i fucking hate myself for that.
It honestly just takes time. Try to separate yourself from the memory of "her"; don't go to places the two of you went together, watch and listen to new stuff, and spend time with yourself as well as your friends and new girlfriend.
Also, of course your new GF isn't "her". She's her own different person. Enjoy her for her differences.
why was the ex gf so special?
how long ago did you break up? you probably just need time
>>17849113
She was my first 'real' girlfriend.
I was a hippy freelove kind of guy, and was stupendously lucky to meet a few girls (and a guy at one point) that actually understood that.
Then i met her, she was hot as fuck, unbeleivably mental and good in bed, and we just clicked from day one. She got really upset when i told her i had slept with someone else after we first fucked - even though i told her that was what i did, and she said it was okay.
So i thought, why not? and agreed and did the whole monogamy thing.
Of course she was cheating and sleeping with everyone the whole time - i found out and confronted her - she said she was sorry (actually lied about doing it until i came out and proved that i knew without a doubt) and i beleived her and let it slide because i had fallen hard.
Next three years went like that, me being 100% devoted to her and she threw it in my face over and over, which i let slide, and each time i fell deeper and deeper into it.
Yeah i know i was a beta fuck, and i should've ended it, or at least not pretended and put up with the whole closed relationship thing.
But i just told myself - this time it's okay - and just put it out of my mind. And it was perfect and she was everything i wanted, as long as i kept that stuff out my mind.
I had a lot of other issues at the time, i'm probably a bit along the spectrum.
To be honest i think i just jumped at the new girl to try get that feeling back. I can't say exactly why, but it's just not fufilling in the same way.
Sorry i'm rambling a bit guys, i've just never really said this shit to anyone and i just want to get it off my chest.
It was maybe 2 years ago we broke up - but it was over and had gone very dark and fucked up for a while before then.
I'm in a bit of a dilemma /a/
My cute, older, but probably fujoshit cousin picked up my phone and accidentally unlocked it while I had pic related open as a page.
I don't know if she saw, what do I do?
>>17849003
>Not putting a proper lock in your phone.
Unless she knows what "nee" means she probably thinks you're into weird cartoon porn.
It doesnt matter if she saw it or not. Best course of action is to act cool.
Who gives a fuck if she saw your degenerate porn? Its not like she will tell your family that you fap to chinese drawn siscon
>>17849005
Also hope she didnt read the fine print
GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
Boyfriend doesn't want me to do Xanax.
I don't do it often it's been like 2 months since I last did it.no addiction problems. I just want to do it on Saturday to sleep my day away. Don't judge it's my only day off and I enjoy . wasting it all on sleep. No regrets.
My question is
> should my boyfriend have a right to tell me to not to Xanax.I feel it's kind of controlling.
It could be weed or Adderall and he wouldn't care. So no he's not against drugs just Xanax..
Should I take a girl being "touchy" with me as flirty?
Long story short, I'm in a female dominated grad program, and this girl is always really touchy with me
PARANOID GIRL, let's compare our paranoia:
Are you /g/eek?
Do you have a tinfoil hat?
Do you put true info on the botnet (Google, Facebook, MS, etc.)?
Do you encrypt your phone and computer?
Would a smartphone be a one-in-all solution to all of my daily needs, or could I have some use of a laptop occasionally?
>40 hours/week at work, a lot of downtime where i'm free to listen to music or watch an episode or two of some show
>don't really have any hobbies, just listen to music, watch a series, exercise/lift, sometimes i draw/sketch, and i'm not really interested in seeing people
>eat at some point, shower, go to bed, repeat
I'm currently looking into getting a new job, so being able to work on my CV is required. I know there's Word for Android, but I'm worried that I can't do a good looking CV through it.
Actually what can a laptop do that my smartphone (old-ass Galaxy Note 4) can't? Aside from having a bigger screen to work/watch on, it seems to be a hassle to carry it around?
Well pretty much everything you mentioned is possible but would completely fucking blow a far as ease of use on the phone. Also phones generally go into a pocket and will silently be irradiating your gonads making you sterile and giving you prostate cancer. You will become addicted to it too because of the how convenient it will be to pull it out of your pocket. tl;dr just use your fucking laptop and dont waste your money on stupid plastic bullshit like everyone else.
You can do most things on a cellphone, but it's a heck of a lot easier and faster on a computer of some sort. If all you need a laptop for is to write a CV, then why not use public library computers or something?
> it seems to be a hassle to carry it around
You don't HAVE to carry it around
>>17849001
Whoa what. Has that actually ever happened, with sterility and cancer and shit?
I already have the phone though, I just don't use it for everything right now because I sit by my PC all day after work. Thing is, I want to quit sitting at my PC all day and experience living again instead.
>>17849041
Oh, good point about a public computer. Just gotta set up a Dropbox (or something better) again then.
>You don't HAVE to carry it around
I guess it could just be standing there on a desk all day instead. Hmm..
Me and a girl were dating for a few months. She did some pretty hurtful things and broke it off (I think she was expecting me to try to make it work) but I left it as it is and immediately went no-contact.
How long until someone realizes you aren't going to call them?
>If anything I just want an apology so I can stop being so mad at her
I want to give you advice on this, but at the same time I don't.
Live life man.
>>17848981
how often did you 2 call each other before this ?
otherwise i'm guessing she will clue in after 1 week or so
>>17848989
What?
>>17848990
She would eat lunch with me for about 10-15 minutes but that's about it (we're both college students), other wise we'd hang out once a week or every other week.
I have 3 years of experience in SAP functional consulting but now I'm thinking of shifting to data analytics considering the opportunities in that area. But this would mean that I must start my career from scratch and learn everything by myself. Any suggestions if I should continue with sap and move into sap analytics (but I'll be restricted to only one vendor)
>>17848977
Interesting OP we study many different modules of SAP in school (BBA in Management Information Systems). As I'm still in school and a year from graduating my advice may not be worth much. I say go for it if its what you want to do. I don't blame you for wanting to get away from SAP.
Got any advice you'd like to share for those with similar paths as you?
>>17848977
maybe check some job boards to see what kinds of jobs are posted ?
do a search & see how many job listings returned for SAP vs analytics ?
and why change anyway ? bored ? not enough $$ ?
maybe learn analytics on your own time, keeping current job and transfer or get some new tasks ?
and why now ? why not stay with SAP another few years and then change?
>nail a job interview after 2 grueling years of being neet
>they want to drug test me
>slightly panicked about the amount of weed I smoke
Yes I know I should have waited. Considering having a friend donate their pee for this noble cause, but we're still figuring out the tactics.
Any help on figuring that out would be helpful.
But also, what's the worst thing that could happen? I just don't get the job, right? Would it "black ball" me from future job search attempts?
>>17848975
Buy vial, like a smaller thinner graduated cylinder.
Day before drug test, have clean friend piss into it.
Tape it to the inside of your leg, where your underwear covers it.
Use it when you have to fill up the cup.
Drink a lot of water, and I mean a lot, like at least 1 gallon a day.
Good luck.
>>17849052
>pissing clear
>having an asshole tech flag it
Yeah no. OP just either get a friend's piss or get some synthetic. Make sure to keep it warm, around 98 degrees F. It's crucial the urine be warm. Usually less than like 93 or 95 will draw red flags, over 100 the same.
Background:
I have an abusive father that i finally cut contact with. My mom got cancer. Its a tough time, but on top of that, i discovered im almost alone. It makes me really depressed.
Im usually very positive and high energy, always with people around me, friends and family alike.
I can make contact very easily. When I'm at the gym or just outside whatever. With guys and girls. I tried dating and can easily attract women. But im religious and have experienced that i would need a religious wife to be happy. So ill be patient untill i find her. And im not rushed to find her also.
The thing is that I cannot find a real friend or bro.
Whenever i start contact with a guy, this leads to laughs, phone exchange, hangouts, game etc. But it doesnt go more then that.
When we chilled a couple of times and i start talking about deep shit, like what problems im facing and how i try dealing with it. Or showing interest in their deeper feelings.
I get the feeling they get annoyed. They close up or change th e subject. They only want to chill and be shallow, not support each other like real friends/bros.
Now i am struggling for two months with the aforementioned difficulties im facing and not one of the people around me ask me anything.
I realised that i was the one organising the chill evenings with the friends. None of them contact me now that i dont take the initiative... Even my family cousins who i used to chill and have deep talks with, dont talk to me.
I feel like all of my years were fake because they only had contact when i served it on a platter: arranged everything and they probably had nothing better to do.
A gf is nice, but i feel mostly lonely because i have no real bonds with people except for my mom and one uncle.
I keep relapsing because i feel like shit. i even spend 1000's on escorts to feel fucking cuddles.
I don't even need a gf, i can have patience to find a good one to be my wife. But i can't go through without real bros..
How to deal with this?
Buuump
>>17848968
the best way to make a true friend is to have a common goal and experience.
When you look at military men, they're deeply loyal and close to their platoons. Not just because they went through bootcamp together, but they shared the battle experience and probably had the same struggles in life: death of a fellow soldier, regret for killing someone, joy of winning a battle, etc.
If you want a real friend, try creating a goal for yourself and attach yourself to people with that shared goal. The true friends will be the friends who work with you to achieve both your goals together. Through this, youll be able to get to those deep conversations, because you already have history together.
Your mistake OP is that you're the initiator, every time. If you keep initiating "chill evenings," you wont be able to tell who is a true friend as they have no opportunity to show you whether they want to hang out with you. To them, you're just the hookup for a good time every once in a while.
Try climbing or martial arts, OP. I did Taekwondo for 16 years and some of the friends I made are still with me, even if they didn't like my decision to stop practicing Taekwondo
>>17849361
Yeah youre right!
Thanks for clarifying the obvious. Its good to hear it clear.
Im going to try connect with people with common goals, and let them take initiative also.