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>>18134070

>do you use facebook

No.

>describe your self in your own words

weird, but awesome.

>would you describe yourself to be depressed

no. as for anxiety, only the normal amounts given situations.

>mood disorders

no

>therapist

used to when i was in middle school, only a few sessions, i had rage.

>1) Do you utilize a Facebook account?
No.
>1) Describe yourself in your own words.
A complete failure.
>2) Would you describe yourself, in general, to be depressed and/or have anxiety?
Probably.
>3) Have you been diagnosed with any mood disorders - ie, depression, anxiety, ASPD, etc.
No.
>4) Have you ever or do you currently see a therapist?
No.

>>18134070

this study is so far from scientific that you should even try. studies cant be done to "spite" people. thats fucking stupid. why do you want to spite your proffy?

>>18134049

unfortunately race based gatherings are frowned upon, so its hard to really advise someone on how to find someone of a specific race. the only thing you can do is talk to japanese men wherever they might be.

i assume you are american. if you live on the coast, particularly the west coast, you are more likely to meet men of japanese descent. not so much on the east coast, and ESPECIALLY not in middle america. cities will of course have more of them, but colleges anywhere will have more as well.

every time i go to an anime meet up a solid amount of them tend to be japanese so there is that.

>>18134056
Don't live in America

>>18134077

where?

>>18134030

maybe its time to be the main character in your own story instead of the satellite character in the story of a girl you never met.


sadness is an addiction you know. it makes us feel like our lives have meaning, that were special because of how tragic we can feel, even more so if nothing is technically wrong iwth our live,s it makes us feel like we are especially special, born wrong, unable to find happiness like normal people.

Were there any warning signs before this happened? Was everything OK the night before? And this may sound dumb, but are you sure you're blocked? Like does it tell you or is she not responding?

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>>18134030

Wanna hear something crazy?

She's not your girlfriend. You're not in a relationship. She's just some girl on the internet you cling to to save you from your problems.

Nothing. You're doing everything right.

>>18133997
You're taking real courses

>>18133997
You're learning work ethic. When it comes down to the line, you're gonna Br the one with time management skills and will get the job done. Your friends may be able to coast along now, but when its time to put in the hard work, they will fuck up

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>>18133989

>Do girls care if you have little to no social life?

Absolutely. Yes.

Firstly, nothing is more tiresome than being someone's one and only source of human interaction. Its sad. Its like hanging out with a fart.

Secondly, its basic animal dynamics. Have you ever been at the buffet and noticed that like a tray of gross looking deviled eggs is untouched and no one is eating it? What are the chances you're going to go over there and dig in, pretty low huh? I need to know that you, as a human being, are acceptable to other human beings. Its important. I'm not about to take the chance that you're so socially inept that you start doing magic tricks and trying to speak to people in elvish the first time I take you to meet my friends.

Thirdly, its a red flag very early in relationships. The fact that you have no friends could either mean you're terribly socially awkward or you've murdered them all and you have all of their thigh meat curing on hooks in your bathroom. Either option doesn't really get vaginas moist if you catch my drift.

>What should I do?

Get some friends, weirdo.

No generalisation can be made for ''girls''. Some girls will mind, some won't.

>>18133989
I'm personally highly intimidated by people with lots of friends, but I only represent one of 3.5 billion women

If you're really skinny you can stop having periods because your body doesn't have enough energy reserves to raise a child. You see this a lot in gymnasts who have a really low body fat %. My girlfriend is like this and she only gets her period once every 4 months

Hysterectomy. Not easy to convince a doctor/surgeon to perform such a surgery bc they will try to show empathy with you and try to tell you that you are too young to know whether or not you want to have children.

>>18133986
>is there some way to irreversibly fuck up my body and hormonal cycles because of an inconvenience every woman has?

take ap calculus in high school. You can retake in college if you don't feel confident enough. Calculus in college is paced and taught very differently from calc in HS - taking it in HS will help you immensely when you study math in college.

>>18133972
This.

take it in HS and do the course on Khan academy and you should be set, i think khan academy's courses are better than learning in school

>>18133903
You have tunnel vision. Watch this video. Look at it as a necessary evil. I don't believe you are a man until you get your heart absolutely shattered. You'll think this shit is silly one day. Watch this video, it's tough love but it's the truth you need to hear. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yhmidWJXc54

Before anyone says it, yes I lift and am pretty fit, almost have a 500lb deadlift.

I just think I have an ugly face. No, not gonna post it here.

My ex always said she thought I was super hot. But she was also the first to admit that she really cares more about personality than anything.

I've had friends tell me she wasn't out of my league and I just have self esteem issues. But it's hard not to just assume they are being nice.

>>18133913
Women don't give a fuck about lifting. They care about how you act, your social status, looks, whether you are funny and how well you make their pussy feel. If you fuck her the best she's ever been fucked and make her pussy twitch and spine tingle it gets into her head and she bonds more with you can thinks she is deeper in love with you. 85% of the time if a girl leaves you she found dick she liked better, or wasn't satisfied with yours. It's the redpill truth.

>>18133892
Unless you are asexual you are going to be attracted to women's bodies your whole life. It's like looking at a plate of food and wanting to eat it up. Don't fight it, but don't be amoral, a cheater, or a porn addict. Love and fuck one woman at a time, or hell sleep around if that's your thing but don't play a hoe. Life is short, bust as many nuts as you can if you want. I tried that no fap shit and I quit it all and it's not worth feeling "clean". You shouldn't feel ashamed. But I never went back to porn. Not going to lie and say women's bodies don't turn me on because they do. Part of being a man and human.

Hormonal treatments given by your doctor

>>18133902
>Not going to lie and say women's bodies don't turn me on because they do. Part of being a man

racist

>>18133884
Ha. Don't expect to gain any wealth once you've landed a gf. Bitches cost money, yo. Do what you gotta do. Whether that's getting your dick wet or saving any disposable income to invest in your future.

>>18133884
OP are you seriously pissed off that you're just now discovering that self-improvement is hard?

If you're doing all of this shit just because you think it'll eventually lead to having your dick sucked, no, it is absolutely not worth it.

If, however, you recognise that it will lead you to becoming a more self-satisfied, confident, educated, healthy, autonomous person, then it is 100% worth it. AND, as a fucking BONUS, you will become more sexually attractive.

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>>18133884

>tfw no one told me that getting a gf is basically a full time job

It is if you're a fucking weeb. I have not the slightest clue how interacting with and attracting women can swallow your entire day.

>This takes up basically all my time. Is it even worth it

Seems to me like you're spending all your time trying to polish a turd; thinking that a bunch of decorations and adornments are going to be an adequate substitute for an actual personality.

Watch your plan backfire when a hipster in homemade pants and 12$ in his bank account swoops in and steals your girlfriend because he has authentic confidence, not just a random collection of premeditated status symbols and dating memes.

Doesn't matter how many high end parts you build yourself with, you'll still be a robot.

>>18133882
Only you know what went wrong. If you think something is wrong then it is, if you think there isn't then there isn't. On the bright side you are employed. Ever tried living as a NEET? Pro-tip don't fucking do it, sucks ass. It'll be alright man.

>>18133891
NEET life aint so bad, the only hard thing is dealing with the fact that you feel like a constant disappointment whenever you open your mouth. Other then that the free time is pretty neat. heh. neat.

>>18133882
The only thing wrong with this situation is that we live in a society that considers people failures if they don't do a particular kind of job - specifically, the kind of job that requires a degree.

Life is certainly easier if you have that kind of money, but it's such fucking bullshit that we're told that honest work like selling food to people who need to fucking eat means you've failed.

Minimum wage laws were enacted to make sure that anyone working full-time would be able to live autonomously, if modestly, and even support a small family. It was based on the idea that all work is dignified, not just management or law or medicine. Now, minimum wage barely even lets you pay rent. And we're so caught up in the idea that a person's worth is so tied to their income that SELLING FOOD TO PEOPLE WHO NEED TO FUCKING EAT is considered a loser job, because it pays poorly.

You're fine, OP. Our culture is fucked.

>>18133865
>How do I feel correctly, again?
No such thing.

What you're describing sounds pretty common & normal. Especially if you're young (say, under 25) or have recently gone through a shift in your life circumstances.

Have some you time. Give yourself time to feel the emotions and as you feel them step back and analyze them. You don't have to understand why you feel certain emotions, just capture the moment. Reflect. You will organize them and hopefully grow from the experience

>>18133875
I don't think it's normal.

I feel a desire to succeed in college but I don't care enough to study.
I feel an interest in the things I learn but I don't care enough to research them.
I like the company of my friends but I don't care enough to hang out with them.
I like my parents but I don't care enough to show it, which makes me wonder if I even love them to begin with.
I feel angry and disappointed at myself but I don't care enough to change my life.
I feel love for a girl but I don't care enough to pursue a relationship, nor do I think I'd care if I got rejected, which makes me wonder if I even love her to begin with.
I like certain media franchises but I don't care enough to watch/read them.
I find the idea of suicide pleasing but I don't care enough to do it.
I find my life on paper perfectly fine but I don't care enough to be happy about it.

How do I start caring again?

I wouldn't say I'm unhappy. I'm bored.

>I'm completely over my ex

I humbly submit that this might not be true.

OP, 3 years of emotional abuse is fucking horrible and, first of all, congrats on getting out of it. For sure you should look into therapy. If getting a call from a number you don't recognise gives you a panic attack and nightmares, that's a pretty strong indication that you have some shit to work through, and therapy can help you enormously with that. Just like you aren't expected to men a broken bone without the help of a doctor, you also shouldn't expect yourself to fully recover from serious emotional trauma like this by yourself.

>>18133866
It's just difficult because therapy is so expensive, ugh. I just want to move on though.

Talk with your boyfriend, he'll understand. He can try calling that number back to see who it is without giving away who you are, or answer it next time? Maybe look into PTSD (flash-backs) or OCD (invasive thoughts) self-help if therapy is out of budget.

>>18133829
Confidence is not binary. It waxes & wanes with time, depending on what specific thing you're trying to do, and the people you're with.

In what circumstances do you want to be confident? What are your current thoughts & feelings about those circumstances?

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>>18133829

>Tell me about yourself and how you got to that point.

All through high school I was overweight and tall and awkward and I wasn't really confident at all. I thought I was some kind of freakish anomaly but it wasn't until I graduated and became an adult did I realize that every person I've ever met has some discernible insecurity.

>Were you always like that or did you have to fight for it?

I always had the capacity to be confident because ever since a child I just didn't care. I had nerdy hobbies and an obsession with music and I ate lunch alone in the band room at school but I didn't really care because I loved it so much. Popularity didn't phase me, but women was always a point of stress for me. Something in my childhood kind of programmed me to equate getting female attention with self-worth.

Again, it wasn't until I graduated and hit my mid twenties did I finally come to terms with myself, get comfortable in my own skin and accept my shortcomings. I'm still kind of overweight and awkward but I have no problem interacting with women. I'm sure a lot of them think I'm a tubby hunk of shit but I don't really care anymore. The ones that are interested come to me and the ones that aren't don't.

Also, my dedication to music in my younger years panned out. I now tour as a fairly successful electronic musician and being a performer and learning how to entertain on stage did wonders for my confidence and ability to do what I love and be who I am without shame. Now its the girls that are nervous to talk to me and although I'll never really understand that part it is flattering and amusing.

My advice is to find something you love and dedicate yourself to it. Passionate people are magnetic people.

>>18133829
I'm confident that I'm unconfident.

You're a coalburner

I had sex with a black girl. What does it mean?

>>18133822
How did it went?