Hey /adv/. Long story short, I was in an abusive relationship

>I'm completely over my ex

I humbly submit that this might not be true.

OP, 3 years of emotional abuse is fucking horrible and, first of all, congrats on getting out of it. For sure you should look into therapy. If getting a call from a number you don't recognise gives you a panic attack and nightmares, that's a pretty strong indication that you have some shit to work through, and therapy can help you enormously with that. Just like you aren't expected to men a broken bone without the help of a doctor, you also shouldn't expect yourself to fully recover from serious emotional trauma like this by yourself.

>>18133866
It's just difficult because therapy is so expensive, ugh. I just want to move on though.

Talk with your boyfriend, he'll understand. He can try calling that number back to see who it is without giving away who you are, or answer it next time? Maybe look into PTSD (flash-backs) or OCD (invasive thoughts) self-help if therapy is out of budget.

>>18133998
I'll talk with my boyfriend, thank you anon. And yeah, I've been diagnosed with OCD for years. Lol

bump, how do I get rid of nightmares?

>>18133998
>Have your boyfriend call the number

Oh yeah that's a great idea, if it's your ex I'm sure he will have choice words for him that could not possibly result in serious repercussions!

>>18133852
Ex here

You can't get rid of me

I will follow you till we part from this world

Just accept my embrace and I'll forgive you for your past transgressions

Pick up, or it won't be phone calls anymore :)

>>18133852
just change your fucking phone number? its a minute long phone call to your service provider

ffs some people have real problems

>>18134547
Fuck off, that shit isn't funny.

>>18134551
I haven't had a call for a month or so, that isn't the issue anymore. (Plus he didn't only try to contact me via phone, it was everything.) It's the nightmares I'm having issues with now.

>>18134567
;)

>>18134547
>>18134567
>>18134569
Alright, now I feel bad, just been shit posting
good luck with killing him or whatever you plan on doing

>>18133852
First of all, don't feel guilty. You're undergoing a kind of PTSD, a natural and legitimate response to a bad experience.

The simplest thing to do is buy an answering machine and use it to screen your calls. Have your boyfriend record the neutral message "We can't answer the phone right now, Please leave a message" When you're at home and the phone rings, let the machine answer it. You can hear the person leaving the message, and if you know them you pick up, interrupt the recording, and talk with them.

A lot of people do that just so they can decide which of their friends they want to talk with right then.