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>>18134761
>the only time I feel happy and not stressed is at work.
that's nice so you like your job.
Can you tell more about why you feel stressed and unhappy?
For an example my issue for stress was my sleep so it helped getting into a routine where I sleep better

>>18134775
Its not so much that I like my job, though it is a good job, its more so that I don't have time to think about life because I'm occupied.

I'm stressed because I'm trying to go back to university and I have very little self belief. I'm also not sure what to study but if I want to build a career I need to go back. I've pretty much given up on my social life.

On top of that I have a lot of issues with my father. He doesn't think I should go back to uni.

>>18134795
Where are you from? how old are you?
For me it helps a lot to talk about it so my problems and stress doesn't go crazy in my head. exercise is also very good against bad mental health. Sometimes doctors prescribes exercise against depression, anxiety and mild ptsd

>>18134654

i feel ya. my dad kinda just ditched us for a year growing up so i was never particularly fond of him.

one time he got a call from school saying that i was being bullied, and when i got home he yelled at me for it.

>>18134654
Had the same situation with my mother. She was demanding and comparing me with other kids who is richer than I did, saying why can't i smart like them? while i got limited access or freedom to be just like the rich kids. Not to mention she often shit about my dad while he's away

I'm now studying abroad and never talked to her again. I only talk when it's really necessary. she's rather docile now.

I think to some point, we just need to let go those who just gives us bad influence. I'm still trying to forgive and let go, but sometimes the anger and hatred still there.

If you have talked and discuss about your parents mistakes and why you can't stand them (and they still not listening) live alone is the best option, OP.

I hope all the best for you OP, be strong.

>>18134659
Not OP. I'm sorry to hear that.

How are you doing right now?

>>18134630
>through my mattress
U wot m8

>>18134631
what did he mean by this?

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That gif

Find places you think are cool or fun that might be cool to work. a musuem. a library. ask if they have jobs. ask if they have volunteer opportunities or internships or fellowships etc. Ask, ask, ask, ask.

Keep asking. Most will say no. Some will say yes.

Craigslist. You can meet at a library. Post flyers at colleges. Most colleges charge a little fee for stamps that say you paid to post there, but it would be worth it because a ton of people getting an education, especially a higher education, obviously need help in math.

If you're a math wizard, y not take up tutoring kids in math p/t. Parents would kill to have a math tutor for kids math.

DO NOT BITE CLITORIS

You can suckle it and run your tongue around it but do not bite it with your teeth.

>>18134627
I've been told that by multiple women so I'm good on that. I'm not gonna be too bad but I want it to go as smooth as possible

General tips:

-Squeeze the outer and inner labia (the entire package, really.) around the base of the clitoris. Use approximately medium force on the squeeze. If your girl isn't a total amateur, she will instinctually start flexing the tiny muscles in her clit, creating a jerk off effect. (It's a proto penis after all.)
-Push down with you thumb on her clitoral hood. (Basically her foreskin.) Rub it left and right, in a circle, etc. while overall stretching it towards her mons pubis. (If you get off on pulling back your dick's foreskin, this is basically the 1:1 female version of that. Most girls who masturbate will enjoy this.)
-While doing one of these, make a motion with your mouth that's similar to when you're biting into a fresh apple, but WITHOUT using your teeth, obviously. Apply this shape of your mouth to the entirety of her vag, from the slit to the clit. Move your jaw up and down and put a little sucking into it.
-If you just want to suck the clit, remember that the G-spot is a spongy textured spot on the roof of her vaginal canal, about... idunno... 1 or 2 inches deep or something. Just reach in with a finger and rub that spongy bit while you suck/lick the clit.

Overall, try to imagine how the vagina correlates to a penis and work off of that. You don't get much out of some one just applying pressure to the tip of your dick, right? Well the clit is the same. It's more about rubbing her own pussy around the clit, stretching the clitoral hood, etc.

>>18134612
4. What kind of days off are you looking at each month? Like weekends? 1 Day off? Always working as long as you are there? How much free/down time? What do you do/allowed to do? Internet? Weights? Socializing off base? A friend of mine got a track car built on base, so he claims, and participated in races. From what I've heard, this is bullshit and not allowed. But then again, he did show me pictures of his car. Another friend became incredibly depressed and tried to kill himself. They moved him off base afterwards but he kept serving out his remaining 2 years. He feels better now that he is out, but feels he accomplished something at the same time.

5. What can I REALLY expect for my first couple of weeks, first couple of months, and first year? I'd like to learn some sort of technical skill that will make me big money once my serving is over. Right now, I'm great with a camera. Won awards, etc.

6. Do I go right to Iraq? Friend of mine said he wanted to go to Germany or something and they just sent him to Iraq.

7. Money, how much can I expect to make while serving 2-4 years? How much can I get afterwards even if I’m no longer serving? My friend who almost killed himself makes something like $1800 a month now that he is no longer in service. But, he is in a medical field of work, and I’m not sure if this is part of a reserve program or if he is officially out. Money isn’t a huge issue, but I will most likely have to pay child support while I’m in so it is a little bit of a concern. Especially since I want to put my kids in a better school while I’m in service.

>>18134613
8. And lastly, are there any questions I should be asking that I'm not?

Feel free to ask me questions I can respond to in order to help provide me a better answer.

>>18134617
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>>18134612
Also, was just told joining the Airforce is better. So please consider each of my questions to apply to both the Airforce and the Army.

>>18134557

id do it, but mostly because im a massive slut, and if someones way above my league than hell yeah, as long as my basic rules about safety are still in play.

>>18134557
>He's a massive slut
Is he a girl(male)?

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>>18134557

>I don't want to feel used like a fleshlight

0/10

Real boring, OP.

>>18134537
there's less pressure because they're taken

once you add potential and sexual tension it gets more difficult

Perhaps because you know you can be a complete doofus around them and they'll still talk to you? It's also possible that you already know what their interests are and what kind of person they are so you don't have to go through that awkward stage of getting to know them.

I'm friends with a lot of my BF's friends and they joke around with me like anyone else but they can't seem to land a girl of their own. I've tried helping them with their girls of interest but they still mess it up somehow.

Pretending that the girl is a friend's GF sounds simple enough but then you probably won't cross the line enough to show the girl that you're actually interested though.

>>18134537
dud from personal expierence
let things flow , i was a beta fuck
until a got this girl , she was crazy we talked about everithing and did everithing expierence will give you confidence and youl learn how to
or somethimes its just not yer thing

>>18134520
>College work
View it as a challenge, just like vidya. It will take some tries but once you got through the first time and won what you set as your goal you will want to keep going. Also start with small steps and just sit your ass down and start no matter how annoyed you are by doing so.
>cleaning
Again get out of your comfort zone, make yourself feel really bad if you don't

>>18134520
Don't wanna be that guy, but what about building a relationship with God?

>>18134570
Not shitposting. But does this shit really work?

>>18134469

are you willing to give up alcohol and drugs?

>>18134471
Well the root of my issues is having 0 self control, which gets heightened by my use of alcohol and drugs. saying i am willing to quit and actually quitting is obviously 2 completely different things

drugs have definitely turn me to destructive behaviour like this and acting on urges

>>18134491

missing the point numb nuts.

if you drink a lot tonight, purposely do something bad, then wake up in the morning crying and admitting you have a problem, and then explaining you've done other things in the past , your girlfriend will look at you with sympathy and not think that your problem is that you're a cheater, just that you have an addiction.

she will be more inclined to stay by your side while you quit the substance abuse.

however if you waiver on this, or go back to drinking casually she will get fed up and leave you even if you don't cheat or do anything wrong, she will feel betrayed in ways she might not even be bale to word.

so it really comes down to this, whats more important, booze or your girlfriend?

frankly i only drink once in a great while, usually only one beer, and id still choose beer, but i dont like dating in general so....

>>18134435
Your other thread is still literally on the first page

>>18134441
eh?

Hey OP I am a child free femon as well only I am 25 and in Canada.

It is extremely hard in Canada to get the surgery done in your 20s even if you already have kids they wont do. Your best bet is to research online reddit is gay but they have a google doc up on the childfree board that lists all the doctors that may consider in different parts of the world I suggest go checking that out. For me personally none of them would even consider me until I am atleast 28 and I have disabilities too so lol.
The regret rate is only %20 but doctors morals are high and want everyone to pop out babies.

IP address

>>18134442

but I didn't even post a picture.

could have been a mod?

>>18134470

not likely. if you'd discussed anything about your personal life before than someone could recognize your writing and remember the rest.

for instance if im on one board and mention that im a nudist someone once chimed in saying 'wait, arent you that guy from /x/ who works for a psychic?'

and i am, they just happen to know both details about me and some overlapping information that connectsit. more common on this site than you think

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Can relate m8. Nothing in life makes me happy anymore either (with the exception of memez of course). I have no friends anymore because of it and my family never talks to me

I suggest you spend a few days alone innawoods lel

>>18134486

Sorry. Can't help you there, though you sound younger. Maybe something will click.

>>18134429
How is it when you're alone? Introverts often tend to feel good when they're alone and bad when there are other people around

My question to you is why does it matter?

>>18134446
I guess you're right

>>18134492
Hope that didn't come off rude or anything, my point was just that if you're confident in your role in society, but have a specific fascination that isn't causing any evil, then it doesn't really matter. It's your life bro, don't let us tell you what to do with it

>>18134414

>I engage in such activities its usually out of obligation to make sure my partner is satisfied.

sounds like you are a woman in a man's body... sorry bud

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>>18134425
Im not gay though, and Im definitely not trans.

I just dont really enjoy sex for my own benefit. So in the middle of it I often lose focus and by extension lose my edge.

>>18134437

>I just really dont enjoy sex for my own benefit

then dont have sex. problem solved