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Ok so basically I met this girl on OKcupid the other week. We messaged a lot and she suggested we transfer to FB messenger to continue the messaging. She was really keen to meet and we did and it went pretty well, no awkard silences or anything but she's been pretty distant over the past few days. (Hasn't been very responsive to messages).

Any suggestions of what to do? It just seems really unfair that she was so interested in me and now she's ghosting me.

Oh, and by the way the pic is not our actual conversation just an exaggerated example.

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One month in the new semester I hate 3/4 of my classes but have no way out.

First is math I was put in the wrong math class and the teacher screwed me over on a test because I only had 10 minutes to take it, didnt get to take it like everyone else, and got a horrible grade because I have to rush. Already struggling in this class because its word problems instead of equations and algebra which I am actually good at.

Im stuck in a late start online course and I hate online course. I didnt realize I would be in a lecture hall for a science course and I couldnt afford this stupid clicker thing which actually costs you points if you dont use it 50 times during the class. I hate lecture halls, clickers and it was all very distracting. I need a smaller class size. I know I sound whiny as fuck but I have aspergers and need things to be a certain way its very hard for me to adapt to change. The upcoming class is interesting but I know I wont learn anything from it because its online but I had to add a 4th class to dodge a $975 fee for going from full time to quarter time.

Then there is a fiction writing course but it annoys the fuck out of me because its split into 2 different classes. One is a workshop with one professor and the other is a lecture. The workshop is a big group of 30 students packed into a small room, which is very uncomfortable. The lecture is even worse because its in a different room with about 50-60 students. I hate it the room is so cramped and the desks are very uncomfortable. They are the type of desks where the table is connected to the chair so if you move the chair you move the table. A piece of the desk pokes my stomach and I just cant focus to take notes in class because of it.

The final class is great because of the teacher who I love but the content is boring to me. I need it for my major.

So if I drop I am forever screwed financially at the school because I would owe money and be on financial aid probation. But I'm just miserable.

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All my life my mom keeps buying me things I don't want, and then gets insulted and guilt trips me when I say I don't want them. I've tried talking to her many times about this and I'm always polite when I'm trying something down. I constantly acknowledge that I know she's trying to be kind and that I know she's doing it out of the goodness of her heart, but it's just getting ridiculous. Usually it's an item I don't want and don't have room for. If I kept everything she ever gave me, I'd be a fucking embarrassment walking around in clothes my mom thinks are cute, eating food I don't like and living in a room full of things I think are off-putting and difficult to live around. Sometimes she goes far outside of her expenses to give me something I don't want, and now in addition to creating a situation where I can only hurt her, she's now wasting money for no reason.

I'm tired of hurting her every single time this happens, and I'm tired of having to remind her of how I feel about this, only for her to explode at me and go back to guilt tripping me and telling me that I should be thankful for everything I get. This used to just be done with her money, but we've lately been pooling funds, so it's like she's wasting my money some of the time, but I can't bring this up because she just says that she provides so much of her money to me for blah blah blah you get the idea.

I currently live with her, and even though the easiest answer to my question would be something like: "just move out and live by your own rules", I can't do this since both my mother and I are ill, and we need to take care of each other. How the hell do I resolve this?

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How do I get rid of bags under my eyes?

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I'm so fucking tilted /adv/. I've lost 19kgs yet my face is still fat and ugly as fuck. I have another 12kgs to lose and I'm hoping if there's still hope for my face? Pic related, it's me.

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Why do girls like getting their hair pulled? Is it something only super hot chads can pull off without looking like a retard?

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I have a dream to leave California for better pastures. I haven't fully realized what to do yet, as there are so many places to consider moving towards, and yet I never traveled in my life except only to Los Angeles.

I need to leave so I can start anew and be the man I want to be: Happy, stronger, and mentally relieved.

I got a job earlier last year, and now I'm making goals to do the best at the job.

In short, I have 2 questions:

1: What places in the USA are considered comfier than the rest? What pros and cons are there to be at say, Washington, Texas, Oregon, Nevada, and Ohio? To a lesser extent, Colorado and Missisipi?

2: Should I be damn good at my job (not yet, but I'm getting there), when should I expect a raise?

This is also my first job, working in a kitchen in a non-exempt position, full-time, and given a chance for benefits.

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21 yr old m, attracted to older women 30+
Where do older women generally congregate?
Where can I find one that's dtf?

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My girlfriend has/had a crush on her colleague. She's been texting with him for months, and fell in love with him half a year ago but only told me about it now. He's also into her and tries to convince her to end our relationship. She says she loves me (we've been together for 5 years now) but also has strong feelings for him. What should I do?

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I'm in my third year studying software engineering and I will probably get kicked out of college tomorrow and I'm freaking the fuck out. I have a test tomorrow and while I'm studying, I didn't set aside enough time for this and now I realize it, I'm still fucking studying but I'm also freaking out and shaking and can't focus because I'm scared as fuck.

What do I do if they kick me out? I can't function in the real world, I don't know how to do taxes, I don't know how fucking insurance works, I never had a proper job and I'm fucking scared. Don't even know how to write a resume when I have nothing to fucking put on it. Not to mention that I'll disappoint my parents and what will my friends think holy shit. I'm seriously considering suicide at this point.

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Might be a little all over the place, I apologize.

My girlfriend dumped me not too long ago. We live together. We weren't dating when we moved in, but one thing led to another. She's now seeing someone else, and that knowledge is slowly killing me. That she could have so easily moved on, etc.

A few years ago, I was in therapy for MDD and GAD, and a piece of advice the doc gave me was that the best way to get over someone is to start seeing someone else, which isn't an option for me.

About a year ago, I got fired from my job, and lost my health insurance. My mom flew in to visit because she was worried that I'd have to deal with the loss of work and the loss of psychiatric help at the same time, and she left me part of a bottle of lorazepam, "In case I needed it."

The pain of having to deal with this breakup, and seeing at her home, seeing her get ready to leave with another man, weighed pretty badly on me. So I took some lorazepam, and now I'm actually feeling pretty good. A little dizzy, a little sleepy, and still perfectly aware of every negative feeling I'm carrying, but I can't feel the weight of it anymore. I know they're there, but they don't hurt so much anymore.

I would really love to keep up this feeling or lack of feelings, but I wasn't left a whole lot of lorazepam.

So what's the best course of action to make all the hurting stop once it runs out?

Someone will inevitably suggest suicide, but don't you worry, anon, I got you. Suicide has a permanent spot as "Plan C" at any given moment.

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>delete all your porn, bro. You'll thank me later

well I finally did it

>all dat free HDD space

any success stories?

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Hello friends.

I come here not to ask for advice, but to give it. Only recently have I started to let go of the hatred in my heart and acknowledge my sins. I say to all of you, that there is redemption for any wrong you've done. But in seeking redemption, you must suffer the same amount of pain you have dealt. I am not a religious man, although I believe in the seven deadly sins, and that we can redeem our actions, and I see misguided souls here often.

If you cannot suffer the pain you have inflicted, then you must treat the wounds of your victims. If you have hurt someone in the past, and genuinely feel that you have wronged them, tell them this. Some will accept an apology, some will not. If you have tried to make amends with the person and they refuse, and the conclusion is you've done all you genuinely can, then your sin upon that person will be lifted off your heart and soul. Pain we inflict on others will cause us damage too. If you have hurt someone in spite, they will be hurt yes, but the negativity you enforced will cling to you and drag you down. You must right your wrongs, drop your hate, and then the battle of morality will cease in you.

Tl;dr: if you fucked up try to make it right, because if you don't the actions you inflict will also inflict you.

If you'd like to discuss the pain you've inflicted or sins you've committed, I'm willing to give an outside perspective, as someone that has learned the error of his ways and is on the road to recovery.

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Im fucking freaking out right now, getting laid for the first time in a few days and its fucking stressful seeing as im late at 19 years old compared to friends

what the fuck am I into, dont want to come off as a sperg. I just want to be prepared and shit because I dont know what to expect

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I have an appointment with my shrink on valentines day. Would it be autistic or creepy to give her flowers?