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How do I deal with it? problem is that I do not want to come across as a belligerent tool or a macho sexist guy. But they just don't stop.

1- I work under two women. First lady works till 4 and is pretty coo. At 5 clocks in a total psycho cunt. She used to dress up all nice and get in my face, but I was not interested in her so i was polite and dealt with it professionally.

Then she started asking me weird questions. When i answer those questions, she either accuses me of being a liar, or accuses me of not knowing the answer. I reduced our interaction and now I have someone else sign me out everyday (timecard). Problem is that she still works there and gets in my space. Do I just keep ignoring her?

2- There is this chick in my class. She is muslim but white and does not wear those religious clothing stuff most do. She constantly asks me questions (Just like the annoying woman above) and then argues about it. Now she waits for me outside class and likes to walk with me. Problem is that she is quite weird, she goes off on these long rants about rich people being devoid of morals, and how Trump needs to be taken care of.

I am a liberal myself but I just dislike people with strong opinions like her. She makes me look bad in public. I don't want to associate with her publicly or lead her on.

Last time she kept making our conversation sexual and I just laughed about it, but it was uncomfortable. Problem is that once I ignore her, she too will blow up like the woman above and harass me. The list of these women keeps growing. I don't know what the fuck to do about these girls.

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How do you make friends and talk with people you don't know? I have plenty of great friends, but I don't know how to make new ones at this point.

How do I find common ground? How do I find things to talk about? How do I respond when I have no idea what to say and just smile at them silently? It seems like a lot of people don't take me seriously and just think of me as a quiet guy. I'm into philosophy, politics, literature, offensive humour and vidya.

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I have had a real bad case of unrequited love for like 5 years now. Recently I tried asking her out again and she has blown me off 5 times in a row now. She said she would like to go and then she gives me a excuse.

Anyway, how do I move on? I am so stuck on this woman its not even funny. 5 years. I have not dated any other woman and I am 24 now.

She as also the first woman I ever asked out. I really don't get many opportunities to ask women out. This girl also never texts me first. EVER. Which makes me think she secretly hates me.

How the fuck do I move on and forget about her? I tried deleting her number from my phone but I know it by heart so its still in my brain. I tried forgetting her and then one day I just broke down in tears and texted her just to start small talk with her.

God FUCKING DAMMIT you guys. I feel like women NEVER get caught up with dudes like this. Why do men suffer so much more than women when it comes to unrequited love? I think its because women have so many options usually that getting caught up on one dude usually isn't worth it.

Help me you guys. I am actually stuck.

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So Ive been seeing my gf for around 8 months. Im happy, she seems happy.

The other day after a night out I saw her texting a guy. I kept quiet about it to give her the benefit of doubt but on the way back to where we were staying she kept falling behind, using her phone. She was sending me flirty messages, nothing that would take as long as it took her though so i cracked and asked, "who are you talking to?" To which she replied "just you".

At this point I nearly lost it, I kept my cool until we got back when I asked her why she lied to me about it. I saw his name and asked who it was. So apparently its an ex who treated her like shit who wants to meet up before moving country. She told me she wasnt speaking to him, only reading the messages and then deleting them.

I got the whole, "why dont you believe me?" Line. I felt bad, then I thought better of it and asked why she doesnt explain her current situation to the guy if she doesnt want this attention.

Am I acting like an asshole? I cant hide how angry I am and ever since shes been super nice about it.

On the other side of things, is this a red-flag? Is her dishonesty a sign of worse qualities?

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I can't take any form of transportation that I can't control. I've gotten a lot better, I can take short car rides (under 10 minutes) and I'll usually be ok. Anything over 50 I get nervous. I can't take most of the university buses because I'm worried they'll crash. I can't take a train because I'm worried it will crash. I've disappointed my girlfriend because I gave her train tickets to have a day in the city with her but my anxiety is too bad right now to go with her.

I just had an appointment with the doctor at my university's health center moved to a campus that was farther away. I missed the appointment because I couldn't get on the fucking bus to get there (about 10 minute drive but it goes straight on the highway to the furthest possible campus). I felt like I was having palpitations because I was going to force myself on the bus. I couldn't do it.

How can I stop letting my fear of losing control/dying ruin my life? I've been in a car accident before but I was driving (someone T boned me). I'm so disappointed in myself and upset that I set up an appointment for counseling on monday.

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I just recieved a 54/100 on my cell biology test. What the hell. I go to all of the additonal instruction sessions and read the book 3 times a week. How in the fuck do I get smart with this shit? On the same day I took an adolecent psychogy exam and got an A. Fuck.

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Just had a family dinner last night and everyone was acting so weird to me last night. It was as if they didn't know how to treat me and would ignore me or pretend I'm not there?

I've been pretty down these last few years and I think they're afraid I'm never gonna talk to them again if I get my life back together.

It kinda fell apart for me and I stopped talking to everyone and I became a hermit. I've only now just started to get my life back on track and I never realised how much i hurt other people. My life was a freakin mess and they're only worried about themselves?

I think I've definetly changed for the better. I've got more depth to me and I feel more real. I used to really over exaggerate and I'd make people feel sorry for me when my fillings would go down.

I guess it was my way of dealing with things and finding a way to feel better about myself right at that moment.

Can anyone offer some insight into what is going on? I feel like my brain is rewiring itself and people don't want to look at their roots. They just want things to keep you in a box and have you the same

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>bf has lost all interest in sex
>never initiates anything
>constantly says he feels "off" or "antsy" when there's a chance to have sex
>wasn't a problem but I've had months of this now
>no real reason, work is fine, home life is fine
>still affectionate and cuddly
>driving me absolutely mad because there's no way of working round it

What on earth do I do? I've tried to be understanding, I accept that sometimes people feel a bit off, but he doesn't seem to struggle in any other area of his life, just the sex. We've never had this issue and our sex life has always been amazing.

The worst thing is that he sets up us not having sex each night, to the point where I'm just waiting for the excuse.

Halp.

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Found cp on fb's computer. Don't know what to do. If I go to the police it will ruin his life. He's 25

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What's dating a weeb girl like?

Caught this weeb girl checking me out. She's average looking and acted a little awkward. She also had a "Yandere" jacket on.

Is it worth it?

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Or, in other words, how do I stop wanting what I want.

As it stands, I'm nearing 32. I've been a NEET for two years, not the proudest part of my life, followed by university education in a poorly chosen major and switching to one that actually had some potential. With the education over, I managed to land a tolerable entry-level job, get a bit higher... and that's where the troubles began.

I was too late. I hit a dead end. Many times now, I've been passed over when it came to advancement explicitly because of my age-to-experience ratio compared to others. I managed to deal for some time, but ultimately came to a simple realization.

I can't keep going like this.
At some point, I lost the ability to see my future as anything but a continuation of the mounting frustrations. I don't even want much out of my career. I'm not after a six figure salary or some bullshit like that - but I am after something I could be proud of. I can understand why people younger than me are the better choice on a logical level, but that doesn't help at all. More and more, the reasonable part is drowned out by the autistic screeching from the back of my brain, the part that demands more from life regardless of reality and calls the system unfair.

Well, I know it's not, not really. But unless I find a way to somehow be at peace with the fact I'll always be less than I'd be if I didn't fuck about and waste several years of my life, less than people who had more sense when they were 19 than I did even at 23, I'll go fucking crazy. It got to the point where it's self-perpetuating, because the stress is fucking with my job performance and making any advancement even less likely.

How do I get rid of ambition?

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Asking for thoughts on the situation

Me and my family recently found out that my grandfather has cancer. Lung cancer and kidney cancer. The doctors told us that he has a month to live at best. Nothing we can do to save him. He isn't even that old by today's standards - 70. Without the cancer he could easily live another 20 years.

Today they took him home from the hospital. It's already decided. He is going to stay at home until he dies.
Problem is, no one has told him that he has cancer. He doesn't know.
He thinks that he is going to get better, that he just has to take medicine for his kidneys.

No one is telling him. All our family members have been contacted and told that he is as good as dead.
No one in our family or even the doctors seem to have a problem with this. Only my sister's boyfriend agrees with me that we should tell him about his cancer.
Now he is just coughing with the occasional blood, but soon it's going to get worse. I think this is highly unethical and dumb. We should have told him as soon as we found out.

What would you do?

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Please help! I really need some great advice right now as of today I accidentally got my wife fired from her job.

My wife was working a part time job at the local holiday inn for around a year now. It's just her way of having alittle extra spending money as she works her way through college. The problem started though soon after she scored this part time job. She started getting blamed by the hotel manager for things that made no sense. This continued everyday for months now and it has taken alot out of her mentally, she started not sleeping at night because it bothered her she couldn't do anything right in the hotel managers eyes. The manager would often wait until the next day she worked to yell at her about something that was wrong the day before. So she started taking pictures of the work she did, that way when the manager would blame she would have evidence that the blame was not justified. The first time she did this to prove her innocents the following week she was completely taking off the schedule all but one day. Now I never really wanted her to work there ever since she started to stress out about all this from the beginning. I finally talked her into putting her two weeks in and getting out of there which she did do.

Now the problem arises that I was highly upset at this manager for causing my wife so much crying and stress. So I took to Google reviews and left a pretty judgemental comment on the hotel manager. It was up for about 3 days untill I guess someone at the hotel saw it and told the manager. The manager fires my wife and gives her a cease and desist order and told her to sign it. I've read alitte on these orders and it sound like a warning letter on sueing someone for slander. So now I am terrible scared that this terrible manager is going to sue us into complete poverty. I have already deleted the comment off Google but should we really sign this cease and desist order? I really need some advice please.

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I asked out a friend last week and got rejected. Now she's been trying get really close to me friend wise. I feel like I've been friendzoned harder now.

How do I tell her I still have feelings for her and need my space without sounding weird?

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My gf and I have sex way less often now. She says she's just too tired everyday, but we both know it's her self confidence issues. I always wait patiently for months, but it always bothers me that she doesn't lust for me. More so it bothers me that she uses the excuse that she's too tired when in reality I have always done 90% of the work.

I don't want to straight out tell her that she doesn't do shit in the bedroom and its a bad excuse. We do talk about the issue, but the solution is always the same and temporary. I guess I don't get it, how are women different that they need to feel confident to fuck, as a guy no matter my self confidence im okay with sex.