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>>18036679
Curiously same situation as me OP except my gf, without me even saying anything, said I could go out and fuck around on the condition I don't date or get emotionally attached. I'm confused by it of course and thought it was some trick for her to be able to do it too but she doesn't have much interest in sex and is incredibly in love with me.

How many partners have you had? How many has your gf had?

You go to another area/state and pay a few whores? I mean that's the only way I can think of getting away with it.

>>18036660

go camping for a month first, see if you can actually stand it.

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I don't recommend going that extreme.

I live on 12 acres in the mountains 20 minutes from the freeway but it's as remote as I'll ever need. I see the same people pretty much every day and it's comfy.

playing with hair, smiling, laughing at things you say that aren't that funny, open body, feet pointed towards you, eye contact, bashful, "good energy", you getting a boner

>>18036656
ok well that shit is obvious but like in the moment i just think "hur she is being friendly don't be a desperate r9k autist"

then i always realize it later

i think its crippling low self esteem

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Tbh, it's best to try to not focus on these signs. You'll become too focused on them and become anxious. You'll ask "Does she like me???" after every glance, laugh, etc. You'll constantly second guess yourself. Just advance with obvious signs and pull away when she seems uncomfortable. Don't overthink it

Just be confident. assume she already likes you and roll with it

dependent tax laws are pretty clear. who provides for you more?

sounds like your "guardian" is more likely to be able to claim you.

what does your older sibling do that your guardian doesnt? in terms of providing for you (food shelter clothes etc) chances are your older brother doesnt do any of those things and it wouldnt be right.

you could get but fucked by the IRS, all because you want to stick it to your guardian and let your brother save like 3k?

>>18036638
Thing is, my guardian doesn't live with me at the moment and my brother feeds me.

>>18036647
Depends who you spent time with more. If you lived in the dependent situation with either of them for at least 6 months of the calendar year, then you may be claimed as a dependent by that person.

Don't give up.
Say something like "You guess? That's not very convincing..."

>>18036595

depends. if its not YOU who is the problem give her a hug, a kiss on the cheek and let her know you're there for her.

if you ARE the problem and you know why, talk about the issue, not 'are you okay?

>>18036595
>I guess
Jesus Christ she may as well be saying "I'm fucking hurt, help me"

Depends on the person I guess.

For me, love occurs gradually. I only experienced it once.

First I had a crush on her, we clicked so well, we got together, and over the years I grew more and more attached to her. I felt like she was the one, the person I'd be willing to grow old and die with.

Thinking about growing old with a girl I simply have a crush on makes me lose my mind. But if I love her, it's my dream.

thinking about them literally all the time

Depends do you already have a significant other?

>>18036497

ask her to hang out.

>>18036497
>we see each other after a quiz today, I say hi and we talk a little about the quiz before splitting

that's all you need. did she seem comfortable talking to you? did her departure seem a bit sudden?

do you get to class early? get there early and see if she'll approach you. if she doesn't then approach her and gauge how things are looking. if things are good/she approaches you then continue talking and sit next to her in class.

class starts wrapping up, leave class with her, continue chatting.

do this once or twice more and ask her out to something small like coffee.

>>18036523
>comfortable
Yeah, but we only talked for like a minute since we splitted after leaving the building
>class early
I don't though, rip. And I sit with one of my friends too, wouldn't want to abandon her.
>>18036506
Just straight up?

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>>18036409
I'd be more worried about your lack of thought in forming coherent sentences.

>>18036409
this woman is a goddamn snake and you should stay away

>>18036416
I'm on my phone and tired, I'm sorry professor

>>18036275
what?

did you agree to hang out on saturday? then contact him tomorrow and ask if you're still on for today

how does him buying you and then bringing you coffee make you think something went wrong

yeah he's probably angry/confused by what he interprets as mixed signals.

>actually buying you coffee and delivering it to you

It's not your fault he's a dumb fag

>>18036287
Not about the getting coffee thing, it's about me paying him back. He said No and wasn't happy when I tried to give him the money. My friend told me that I made him confused.
>>18036292
This. Pretty much. I gave him a mixed signal. But honestly I didn't want to make him think that there's something on about us. At least not at the moment

>"friend" decided to post a video of me doing sexual acts

what sexual acts
that can drastically change what the law would do

>>18036269
Stripping and masturbation

>>18036266
Surely the website that usually distributes random sloot's nudes will be able to help you with your lost nudes

>>18036260
if she's flirting with you, sending you inappropriate pictures, and seriously entertaining the idea of being with you while with a dude then she's a cheating whore. you could still pursue her but when the cheating whore turns out to be a cheating whore then don't come crying.

people like attention. flirting is fun. sexual tension is fun. some people cross the line into cheating (physical or emotional) but most won't. most are just looking to pass the time with that cute guy/girl from work/school/etc.

keep talking to her if you'd like. when you get curious enough then sit her down and talk to her, let her know you're into her and ask if she's attracted to you.

>>18036306
I don't know for sure though. Whenever I see her with her bf she looks happy. Of course I'm not near them so she may be just putting up an act for him.

I don't understand why she would leave him for me though. I'm not ugly but by no means the best looking guy around. Unathletic too, the only sport I play is golf.

Maybe she isn't so vapid and can see people for who they are instead of just appearance.

>>18036356
Shes just feeding into the attention. If it doesnt feel platonic, it's not.

>>18036220

it can be. emotions have some basic guidelines but its not a matter of BROCOLLI GOOD, CHOCOLATE BAD.

emotional / psychological well being is more like a pond that you can swim to certain parts of. some parts are deep but warm, others are shallow but cold, and everyone wnats to be somewhere different.

>>18036220
>>18036230

feeling like you're dying inside isn't necessarilly related to giving yourself emotional support, cuz i mean, if oyu had emotional support, even from yourself, you wouldn't feel like you're dying, now would you?

it sounds like you're just cutting yourself off rom others, claiming its because you can take careof yourself, than proceeding to /not/ take care of yourself.

>>18036220
close friends and family can be relied upon for short periods of time. significant others (outside of marriage but even then...) as well but i would argue to a lesser degree and for shorter periods. becoming a burden on anyone else, impacting their ability to progress in life means you're on a short leash regardless of how strong of a relationship you have.

assuming you're a guy, the reality is that you're all you've got in the end. we all have our challenges. professional help in the form of therapy and such essentially boils down to "get over it." that's not a criticism, shit happens and you need to be able to work through it so you can continue with your life in a positive fashion.

there's no prize at the end for getting through an especially difficult life. don't make it any harder on yourself.

Can't quite undertand the reason why he's staying over your home tomorrow..

>>18036219

We planned on it last week

>Tonight my boyfriend broke me into absolute pieces

whats the context? what did he do?

Like all addictions, if you want to quit you can try cold turkey, or wean off slowly.

Cut back consumption 50mg a week or something. Take it slow, but don't break.

>>18036198
Cut back slowly. Caffeine is addictive. Try replacing it with other caffeine sources that don't have as much in it. Chocolate, some sodas, tea.

Fuck weaning, just quit cold turkey. You'll feel like shit for like 2 days and then be fine.

Been there done that a few times. Night shifts. Just stop and drink like green tea once a day.