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Your age?

Could be wisdom tooth

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get a penis surgeray

>>18035616
im 19.
I've checked the other side, there's nothing there, also its been there for a year now but its bothering me now

Just get a job and be a working stiff.

>>18035622
You mean keep getting dead end jobs right?

Why are you cool with being passionless? Did something happen (or not happen) to you? One day your mind might be completely destroyed, and your consciousness will disappear. Do you want to be like, "Yeah man, that was alright. The Doritos and Mountain Dew were pretty decent - not to mention the occasional head"?

Only read the subject line, but it's because you want to be a special snowflake

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>>18035610
Learn to read pleb
>I have not told this to everyone because it sounds like I'm a pretentious hipster but I really couldn't give a shit. I just want to enjoy things.

>>18035599
>>18035636
>I really don't give a shit.

But you do, or you wouldn't be asking. Your tastes are your own, why do you give a fuck while stating you don't?

Under the tongue as long as possible until u feel it literally dissolve. Aim for one hour under ur tongue. Do it in the morning also cause u wont be able to sleep at night on acid.

Where do you get acid from?

>>18035865
second

Weed just makes me sit down and eat, and alcohol just makes me wake up on top of my bed fully dressed with my monitor still on.

Not being interested in the overly-subjective bullshit is probably a good part of your personality. Try not to conflate that with being stoic and awkward.

>>18035614
What's wrong with stoic, and how not to be awkward?

>>18035630
stoic is an okay default, but it's not good to be stuck in and pretend you chose it

that girl wanted you to be playful obviously. I don't know if you've had a sexual relationship or any strong attachment recently, but it is an inherent playful thing (a healthy one is, anyway)

>how to not be awkward
Everyone is a little bit awkward, and people who are smooth all the time are either a.) very gifted, or b.) totally faking.

But you don't want to be super awkward, right? That can usually be fixed with experience and personal development (not in those goddamend self-help books, I mean in reality)

>>18035518

kinda. instead of thinking of this as a game to win, think of what will actually get everyone wehat they want. you have several people coming over, are you saying legit none of them can host? do their roommates happen to have house dates too?

ultimately its valentines day and he just wants a nice date. worse case scenario, just go out fwith friends

Inviting one person over is a lot different to inviting a bunch of people over. Asking before inviting a group is polite, but I don't think it's necessary if you're asking over one person.

And if you tell her to cancel her plans, you're just going to look like you're butthurt because she has a date and you don't.

There's no clear right or wrong here, whether you want to moralize it or are just trying to figure out how to navigate the relationship with this person. Interpersonal situations are complicated, and you're the one most qualified to make this decision, being one of the parties involved and not some anon on 4chan.

>on the news
It's because you don't know these people. The more distant someone is, the harder it is to feel empathy for them

>>18035485

There's probably a variety of reasons but only you know what's in your head

>>18035491
Is right. Not knowing them is definitely a major factor. Add to that tge number of false reports and self inflicted situation. (I.e. girl gets drunk with frat boys, regrets next day etc)
With sjws constantly crying wolf, we're all a little desensitized

Maybe read first-hand accounts from rape victims, read up on the whole "rape culture" thing, learn more about how society's views of sexuality/purity/etc can fuck up a person and make them vulnerable to rape trauma.

There are so many facets as to why it is horrifying. Some are general to loss of agency and such in common with victims of violence. Others are specific to the sexual nature. Yet others are specific to the gender politics involved for the victim depending on their culture and sex.

Anyway, I know that's super vauge but I feel like I could write a fucking book on the specifics so making a post outlining them is hard.

I can tell you my personal rape story if you'd like, but it's obviously a limited view.

>>18035457
Damn I miss working with girls

Holy fuck just don't.
Not even because he's married. Whatever. If he's into you too his marriage is on the rocks anyway.

But don't be fucking stupid. I've fallen for older men. Especially when I was quite young and all the guys my age were busy being macho and couldn't hold a fucking conversation. But once the initial relief of dating someone who really challenged me wore off, the differences in our life stages was too much. I was still interested in things he had grown out of. I didn't relate well to his priorities either. The typically generational differences in our takes on society started to emerge. We didn't have any shared childhood experiences to relate to each other with. Our senses of humor turned out to be pretty different. I eventually realized he didn't quite respect me as an equal, more because of age than anything else since he was really supportive of/impressed with my career path.

Maybe your guy is perfect, I don't know.

But do you really want to be in a relationship you can't really talk to friends and family about? If it's something you cant' gush about it's probably not something you should be doing in the long run.

>>18035474
What about...sex without adjectives in secret? I'd be fine with that too.

I know I know, get another guy for that...but, this is the thing isn't it? I don't want somebody else. I want him.

>>18035386
Clearly there's some measure of incompatibility that's preventing you from having any kind of mutually pleasant relationship.

I suggest moving on and forgetting about her.

How desperate are you?

>>18035386
no find someone else

>>18035345
call them.

>>18035351
Would I not be paying like £10 in call charges.

>>18035345
>call the bank
>say a brown person stole your debit card
>get new debit card
>make a PSN account and write down the fucking login info
>smoke some weed

>>18035333
No. That sounds both fairly accurate and like an average price. I definitely wouldn't want to spend $4k on a fucking xB though, even something not almost a decade old.

>>18035333
How did the engine seize?

>>18035374
>>18035374
Driving it home from work at 6AM. Oil light (whihc to be fair i have never even seen before) comes on. On the highway so decide to check it when I get home. 5 miles later, engine stops.

Mechanic says oil filter is MISSING, but that it wasnt destroyed or broken (threading is intact). Shop i took it to have the oil changed 3-4 months ago says there's no way it could have left "loose or not put on correctly" and been unnoticed or anything for fucking 4 months. Both of my parking spaces (home and work) show no pools of oil. There was also no signs of any change or issue until the moment that it happened (and the light came on)

The mechanic, the dealership, and my mechanic friends are very confused.

Each situations has its particularities, but generally I'd advise you to wait until she initiates contact. You don't want to come off as needy.

>>18035294
>Each situations has its particularities
Should I write more details about the situation? What exactly do you mean?

>>18035301
You provided enough details, I just meant there's not really a 100% safe route of action to take. At best, make a decision and hope for the best, and learn from any mistakes you may make.

Good luck.

I did go through that stage, and I think many people go through such a breaking point. When you're able to mature and get past it, and actually fucking ADMIT and FORGIVE, you'll open up the gates to an amazing relationship.

i'm currently in a similar situation, bad summer of miscommunication and shit like that, i'm equally as frustrated and bummed out as you are.

i don't know the answer. i'm trying to better myself and be more patient with her. the problem is she is very abrasive and stubborn, and i'm somewhat irrational, we're both going through shit in our lives, but no matter how bad the argument is we always end up forgiving eachother.

i don't know man, sorry if i don't have the answer but, just know you're not alone in this battle

>>18035246
You go through patches like that in a LTR, I've been through several in the 13 years I've been with my husband. The key is communication, you have got to be able to talk to each other about your grievances.

Eh, that doesn't sound terribly worrying to me. Same boat, been cheated on and my gf has a ton of guy friends. She's been up front about the fact that she went out with two of them before, and I get along with them. I trust her.

Note that you're saying that because something happened to YOU, you're worried about HER. You're right that it's a boundary; it's understandable to be leery of your girlfriend and other guys, and she should probably know it's a sore spot from you. But a relationship is about trust. If you think something's really going on, then you get out. And likewise, it might be prudent if you're feeling that trust to tell her that it's something that makes you insecure. Not necessarily to dissuade her from talking to him (that's pretty controlling), but to let her know she should be wary of that for your sake. It might be kind of sensitive for both of you, but it's something you should communicate.

Has she done anything in particular that worried you, other than speaking to him in the first place?

>>18035241

Some people can have friends of the opposite sex.

The only time I'd start to worry is if they hang out outside of work exclusively, (such as going to the movies together and only them two)

>>18035289
She knows it's a sore spot for me. I've told her it's cool they could talk and I told her I just have this insecurity because I've been cheated on before (she's been cheated on before as well) I've told her I'd never had a gf before that had many guy friends or talked with them alot for that matter. She's always been upfront with me so for that reason I trust her. We are both after something serious as well. She's hasn't done anything in particular but one time my gf and I and one of her female coworkers from work hung out she put my gf on blast after we were leaving a movie theatre, she said jokingly that the guy doesn't do his work because he's always talking to his gf or with my gf. She said he'd just disappear and he'd find him talking either with his gf my gf or the two of them. This upset me. My gf knew it would upset me when she heard her say that. After we left we had an argument which we patched up that same night. I think she said something about touch as well. She said he doesn't touch her but she touches him like smacks him. This upset me as well but I didn't tell her. Wish I did. It eats me up sometimes

Maybe. How old are you?

I'm sort of opposite. In amazing relationship but more or less friendless. Which is actually alright. It's like I do everything with my best friend.

Discovering adult friendships, by and large, aren't the awesome shit friendships can be when you're younger. I used to think it was fucking wild my parents had "friends" they called 3-4 times a year but still acted like they cared about and did favors for. But that happens. It's great when you can have close friendships in adulthood, but honestly having a great relationship is going to effect your life more. So...whatever.

Don't overthink what you want right now unless it's making you act fucking stupid.

I couldn't possibly tell you I think it's weird, since the only people I ever care about or talk to aside from "hi" or "bye" are my girlfriend and my parents, but I'm not really a "common case". I go to uni and know how to be social, I just don't give a fuck about anyone, and I've found myself at my happiest by being this way. To each their own, I guess.

Good luck.

Nah, I'm kinda the same. I mean I do like the friends I have, but it's really hard to stay close with people you rarely see. And that's what being an adult does, all your friends are all around the country, even the world, and since basically everyone is dating you're just not going to be that close. Don't have a girlfriend but wish I did, I too was at my happiest back when I did and she was my best friend and the only one I really did stuff with. Easier to put all your social energy into one person rather than divide to ten. Being introverted is like that.